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Dr. Phil: Parents Divided over Disowning Their Son [August 21, 2014]

Jun 06, 2021
well

parents

I want you to ask yourself this question is there anything your child can do that will leave you saying that's it I'm done he's dead to me I'm

disowning

you cutting all ties saying goodbye forever it could happen well for tim and karen that question has become a reality, they are actually completely

divided

on whether to leave and close the door for good on

their

only son, adam, but it wasn't always like that, sadly, tim and karen were unable to conceive a child.

their

own son, but they were overjoyed when they adopted adam at birth, beginning a family life that could only be described as perfect, now all that happiness has been ripped away because they say their son has turned into a monster, in fact, just six days.
dr phil parents divided over disowning their son august 21 2014
He had to bail you out of jail due to a felony arrest just so he could be here today. Threats of violence with knives and guns. the last six years of their lives have been nothing short of a nightmare check out my son adam he is self destructing before my very eyes adam was the sweet loving kid who went off to college and became a monster grab a knife from the kitchen shows for me, if you come near me, mom, I'll use it when he gets mad, he goes completely crazy, we've had to call the police on three separate occasions, I wasn't sure if this is drug related, but when this kid leaves this kid goes from zero to sixty and he rushed he has hit studs in all the doors we have upstairs it is so scary banging hitting knives on the wall breaking the bedroom door when it flies out of the handle he is telling us verbally let's go I'm going to take this house apart make mom all of you be at peace you're a lousy mother he kissed my ass he got right in my face and challenged me he's waiting to go punch what he needs ah Now it's getting his ass kicked.
dr phil parents divided over disowning their son august 21 2014

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He's a bully. It's completely out of control. I think anger takes over and he can't control his emotions. He has attempted suicide on three separate occasions. He will threaten us. I will end this family now. Obviously my question is why would someone do that, but why does he do it because. Out of all of Adam's violent and abusive behavior, he has been banned from his

parents

' house, but his destructive behavior has continued; however, adam hasn't lived with us for three years after adam did drugs his violent behavior and we duis don't say anymore in the last three years that adam has lived and probably got kicked out of about seven living situations by the administrators of the property call me and say they want him out he rages he fights told me he has a gun oct 14th 6 am i get a phone call from kristen adams' girlfriend we're in the er adam's nose is broken it's never the adam's house just last weekend adam got in more trouble adam calls me and says hi mom i'm driving home we say no and tim freaks out adam is yelling furious ng yelling you're horrible this is gonna destroy you im taking the bike and tim texts adam and says you have 15 minutes to get out of the house or we are going to call the police he stole my motorcycle it was gone when we got here.
dr phil parents divided over disowning their son august 21 2014
Tim immediately says that I'm going to get a restraining order. The fear was so overwhelming. We insure the house. We change the locks. That's when I reached out to Dr. Phil. him wishing i never adopted his child i don't care what happens to him he is no longer a part of my life why should i keep calling and talking to this kid when all he does is turn around and destroy me? There's no respect there's a many times now when I look at adam and I don't even see my son there it's not like he died in high school and whoever this other person is is not my son I'm not interested in anything he that kid has to say when we go to the show when he goes on stage i don't care what he says i don't care i believe a word out of his mouth i don't trust him he is out of control and creates chaos wherever he goes i regret the day we went to santa cruz and we adopted adam if karen and i had gone through the hospital and gone to the animal protection society and picked up a couple of stray dogs we would have been much better off elsewhere karen believes with all her heart that there is something wrong with adam she refuses to give up her son i cant fix adam i took my son in for medical evaluations.
dr phil parents divided over disowning their son august 21 2014
I have a psychiatrist who says that he is bipolar and then another psychiatrist who says that he is not. I dont know. I changed it to four rehab centers. tim wants to erase adam from our lives and i can't do that i'm adam's mom i can't force a relationship between adam and tim i parted ways with that a long time ago because it's harmful for everyone what i want for adam is to have peace At the end of the day I always will Forgive Adam because I love him I can't rule him out but if I have to get him out of this environment I know I have to it's ok I'm glad to meet you they're done.
I'm done yeah three years ago I'm done yeah yeah when you said I wish I'd never adopted him most of the audience just backed off they're like oh my gosh that's Olivia you could say no this leave me tell you i know i was like i was a police officer for 30 years i have dealt with a lot of issues and when i look at this kid to myself he was when i was going to college we lost him now i focus on my wife because you said with quite frankly you said that you would come to the show but that I will not come to fix my relationship with him I will come to help her let go help her let go that is what you are here for no I don't want some to happen eh no without him because you wouldn't believe it he's going to turn on let him out he's a handler you say he's an animal that belongs in a cage absolutely the only thing on my mind right now is talking about you my son adam because i want to say i'm not a doctor but i know enough that this kid needs be in a controlled environment Hey he can't be in an apartment or somewhere wandering around it doesn't work your husband says about your son quote I don't care if he's sleeping behind the gas station yes it's ok yes how do you feel ok no one no one wants their son to sleep behind a gas station i want to state clearly that i am a mother first you don't want that for your son ever but i will tell you that last week before i wrote your show adam called my husband and i yelled in anger that we wouldn't get him a flight home.
He didn't want to drive. eight hours ago to go back to san diego and i said emphatically no at all at that point i realized there is nothing more i can do for this child my this young adult i have to replace the child with a young adult because he is 24 and tim and i have often talked about m i am thinking of adam the pictures of him as a young man you see and i have to think of him as an adult who is capable of making his own decisions do you care about this connection here yes yes i absolutely guarantee this no matter what let this asshole do nothing is going to come between the two of us that will never happen let's take a break and then it's going to come out our twitter is blowing up right now npr mommy says stop calling this kid whether you like it or not he's your son in the healed heart says dad you can't give him up that's not an option now he needs you more than ever and d.h taylormade says never give up on your son adopt him or not he is your son he will always get the help he needs to give him the help to what he needs, we've given him everything this kid needs in the last six years, well obviously not because he hasn't helped, I mean there's something he needs that you don't have, he needs to hit rock bottom somewhere. online needs the UN safety net removed find out where he can go wow i have a problem i need to move on with my life that's dr tim's analysis dr

phil

's may be different i don't know i haven't met him yet might agree with you the next adam is here and he puts a lot of blame on him for his plummet.
Guess what about his parents? We'll talk about that when we get back. I don't think Adam was suicidal. He said that he took 30 pills and it actually turned out to be like maybe. eight of them and he told me he just wanted to say sorry and bye dad well he didn't go anywhere he's fine im trying to kill myself but it's not really a complete manipulation adam admits he's angry and hostile and He's just not the best person to be around, he just says it's true, he attributes all his problems from past substance abuse to multiple arrests to being byproducts of how he's been raised.
I think my parents are very responsible for many of them being protected. from my small, wealthy, no-responsibility community. In addition to going to school, I was seen by several doctors who told me from the beginning that I had problems at the time. My parents thought there was something mentally wrong with me. I was bipolar. I had an anxiety problem. It was introduced to me for the first time. adderall and xanax my drugs of choice for psychiatrists and doctors and illegally i have used marijuana and cocaine methamphetamine heroin my parents had a total influence on me becoming addicted to drugs and alcohol i stole drugs not only to support my habit but also to fill the void If you don't have parents in your life I can lose my temper very quickly I pulled a knife at my dad because I couldn't get his attention otherwise I was just that sad kid who got violent because when I spoke calmly to my parents, I didn't it worked i have a very addictive personality but right now i am addicted to drugs no i have so much anger towards my parents i have never in my life heard of a father willingly turning his back on his son well adam, you just came out and you threw something at your mom, yeah what did you throw at her? um xanax, it's an anti-anxiety drug and i don't need that to face you, just sell it, that's how you do it. i've been clean and sober for eight days and i don't need anything to mask my emotions right now why did you throw it at your mom when you left because there's so much anger and frustration? your mother, I'm just asking you why, what did you achieve by doing that? to draw attention that I don't need pills to sit and talk.
Do you think it is appropriate behaviour? Probably not because it seemed like a tantrum. for me, you pulled a knife at your mom and dad and said that that was because otherwise they wouldn't listen to you if I talk like that it doesn't mean that you're just when you've talked to me like that and the whole thing clean and sober and everything that you want the relationship to build no more than eight days ago you came home for two days you sat in the jacuzzi you smoked drugs that's true that's building the relationship with me and then we go to tahoe you come home and then i come home You threaten us with making our lives miserable and on Sunday and stealing my motorcycle that's building a relationship you have to be kidding seriously this is this is what you throw away she buys it I don't want to show me something and get a relationship back okay maybe it sounds like a bit hard that i have to cut ties with you because frankly i'm not going this way and my job here is not for you today is for mom to join me and if you want to choose to live that life adam then you know something knock out yourself and go live it just leave us alone with it thats the bottom line if you want to sell drugs and want to be a you dont want to do anything right in society or i dont really dont care what you do as long as you keep us out of that style of life which is my point now you want to honestly with all the rehabs and all the mental health and all this other crap you've been through all of this to me is just a waste of time and you want to turn around and say i'm ready to accept something of help, but you know something, I'm not going to believe that because I don't trust you, so let your actions prove that you want to go to another rehab, which I think is a waste of time, prove me wrong, do it. something positive in your life and prove me wrong you want to build a relationship show me you're clean and sober and you're not acting like a fool and we and we and we're done with this whole nightmare with your mom and the manipulation caught my attention but we're not talking a week from now we're not even talking a month I'm talking maybe even a year that can't have any problems for at least a year and show me that you're man enough and have the courage to stand up and be a man and take care of yourself until that happens.
You're not, you're not invited into my life, I don't even want to think about you, it's that clear to you, leave mom alone, calling her work, bullying her, come get me, so if you want to talk to me and do it, tell me, I'm wrong, Adam, tell everyone audience here and everyone else tell them i'm wrong i know how to do an interview but you're the first i go to if i need help tell me. how do you feel about what he said i'm angry angry and sad too we broke up and he broke up three years ago i saw it on the video you took knives and stabbed holes in the walls true yes in the past yes you drilled the walls too true, i was told all the upstairs doors in his house have been replaced because of the holes you rip out bedroom closet doors throw pictures and break furniture and anything that belonged to tim says you have destroyed you have had two duis one in Christmas Eve you have consumed cocaine heroin prescription pills marijuana andalcohol yes but i guess all i can say is you haven't been kicked out of seven apartments recently your mom says he always threatens violence with guns and knives oh yeah you got busted five days ago so you're out on bail right now huh? did you send the invoice?
I had no choice, why didn't you have a choice? you were going to be in a controlled environment where you can't manipulate anyone and if that's county jail for you then that's county jail the only reason you're sitting here is because I agreed to come on this show to help mom to get to the point. where she's not going to be torn apart every time she makes a phone call or makes another of her bad judgment calls if i were a father i don't think i would ever turn around or say i'm done with my son daughter always good, don't prove me wrong and change your life and be someone who doesn't commit crimes and bully and destroy your mother every time you have a problem.
So can I ask something? Yeah, when did I get 30 days of clean sober sobriety for the first time in my life? Who came? and she visited me mom did the right thing yeah i didn't and you know why i've been saying that all through the show maybe it's a little harsh for people who don't live in that situation but i don't trust that 30 days it's nothing to me what do you want to hear from your parents from your dad what do you want to hear I'd like to hear that you love me but I know that I love you I know that's not true I do it's just a hard way that we're going to have to go a long way to try it you might not understand that right now maybe at some point in your life and i hope it happens for you yeah i will always love you i just cant have you anywhere around us i mean you said you should have been through the hospital, yeah, you know how it makes me feel, adam. alright, well, you know something and sometimes there maybe a little bit of shock to some of these things that I'm going to tell you because I'm angry and people say a lot of things when they're angry, but you know something if I only knew the hell, you put us through the last six years yeah maybe that would have been the best choice so you take it just because you take it all back because you erased it all you want to start all over again and show me you know we can get through this we are so far from it right now like i like i said my concern isn't for you right now because i don't believe anything or trust you i'm done you've emptied all the gas tanks i would have any emotion towards you except for that.
I'm trying to protect Mom and you can sit here and shake your head all you want. I still love you. give him the test and we'll tell you the results when we get back I'm worried about what this kid is capable of Let's be honest, a lot of kids kill their parents, I'm more afraid that Adam will show up and cause trouble in this house and I'm with people I've put in jail for the last 30 years, well that was Tim. that he fears that his adult son, Adam, could badly hurt or worse kill his mother during one of her out-of-control tantrums and maybe that's not so far-fetched since Adam has pulled a knife on his parents in the past , the police even told his mom that last year they had to arrest adam for threatening someone with a gun six days ago they arrested him for a felony and set him on ten thousand dollar bail his parents just paid it so he come here so we could talk about this now tim was very worried that once adam was released he would leave town so we agreed to be there the moment he was released and i guess tim's intuition was correct because adam he said he had plans to go straight to mexico check out what i was charged with felony possession with intent t to sell xanax and now things turn real ten thousand dollar bail and two felony counts i lost m is friends i lost my family i lost my education i lost everything i was so relieved when karen got the phone call and we usually get the phone calls when he is in jail and this is the only time she said he was arrested in san diego and i i felt completely safe i felt my wife was safe you cant come here and that night i really slept like a baby i feel its horrible i ate twice in two days and could potentially now spend up to a year in this horrible facility i would have gone right after i got out from jail probably to Mexico and then who knows my family doesn't trust me right now. i don't even trust myself when i was calling my mom from jail her words were your dad broke up with you i broke up three years ago giving him what he wants it never ends you are a threat your dad says you are a threat to your mom you are a threat to your mother if me Do you mean you're going to hurt her?
No, I've read some of the text messages you sent him just a few days ago. One of them said: wait for next weekend. tell dad the bike and car will be gone i'll go straight to your work there's no more arguing so you said i'm about to lose it at your house you better think twice before putting me in a situation like this you said no you call me I'm leaving here I knew this would happen your idea family so you said if you can't book me a flight this is going to be scary I'm not going to be hostile anymore I just had it with you where is the one from me so you said that I already went out with your bike to get gas and I already changed the license plates.
You've made this worse, so I'll do what I have to do. I'll be in Mexico faster than your office leaves and none of that is true. I left your bike I didn't. You can explain to them when you arrived. home how the house looked the house was clean the house is clean i mean the house was clean he vacuumed the living room the bike was in the garage your keys are in the house i never took the keys you hit his s keys, yes, did you get it back? you're not going to tell me where the key is well your keys are under the door which door i pass in the main house well now we have to get home fast to get the bike you know ok this is not live ok ok so no one going to win are you there to get to jesus adam um do you think your father has justification to be frustrated with you more than justification yes yes you think his reaction is a bit over the top yes yes no you think you would do that to one of your kids never huh and most of the audience think they would never do that to their kids um so you're a bit of a minority here uh ok if you think their position is too harsh raise your hand yeah that's a lot of people um if you think it's justified, Raise your hand, that's too many people. ok around 50 50. adam insists he is clean and sober so we drug tested him we sent it to a lab to get the results can i see a list of all the prescription drugs this young man has had so i have adderall percocet vicodin? visceral and klonopin and it was negative for everything but marijuana, it was also negative for xanax, uh, which is why he got arrested for supposedly trying to sell, so what's going on with all these drugs?
Where are they? Most of them I took. the ones i didn't take are there and the rest were taken away by the police you've been prescribed a lot of meds throughout your life yeah because you've been diagnosed with bipolar and add adhd and a variety of other things don't you think you should find out why you you are behaving so erratically. I would love to know because despite your attitude, go through this thought process with me, Dr. Tim, people do things for a reason. true i agree so if someone dy is doing something that is not generating the results they want or someone else wants something is going on in there that distorts their reasoning correct true true so in that sense you have to be saying where is the why and that may not be your job but it has to be someone's job you have to realize like you're saying I'm done I'm done with him it's over I'm not going that way anymore if I wonder why I can make a list I can go find and make a list say well he has done this he lied there he stole this yes i see that he threatened my wife under a list i can make a list why are you like this what is your list for him i am done with this because he is he is I've had an enormous amount of help throughout this period where I'm sitting until he wants to do something to change his life and we've had professional people deal with him to try to make him understand what they want.
Let's go on this correct path, I don't know how to do that, it's fine, but that doesn't happen to me and stop, let me tell you if I have a child and I have two I have one his age and one a little older if I have a child who walks Lost in the dark I'm going to look for it at the most I'm going to look for it until I'm not going to look for it for a week I'm not going to look for it for a month I'm not going to look for it for a year I'm not going to look for it for six years I'm going to look for it until find it you don't stop looking you look until it doesn't mean you have to chin up it doesn't mean you can't take precautions it doesn't mean you don't protect yourself and your wife, but it does mean you search until you find them and i would like my kids to know that if you ever get lost in the dark, i will search for you until you find them or one of us dies i hope my kids know that whatever happens now that doesn't mean i will let them have access to my house I'll let them steal my cars vandalize my house whatever e those things but i would look at UN until i found them i am open that you said you came here to convince her to join you in resigning him and i said ok because i want you to come here so i can talk to you and tell you that this is out of your head this is a problem that is bigger than fatherhood yes but i tell you what i see here uh i trust him no but i think this is a quality human being you know he is the old saying god doesn't make crap and he did this this guy here and he's a decent human being and he's worth unraveling whatever it is that's got him in a ball are you interested in this conversation yeah yeah i mean yes it's possible that it's going on something with you that you don't?
I don't understand, you know it's okay, it has to be okay, we need to take a break, then we're going to talk to someone who says they lived in constant fear that Adam would break and was afraid that he was capable of anything. I'm talking. about his ex-girlfriend let's add her to the conversation about will brought me and adam we dated for about a year and two months adam has a problem with anger and doesn't know how to control it and will act accordingly if something doesn't go his way in the relationship it was very stressful because adam was so quick to anger, anything could set him off, he would yell in my face, throw things, slam doors, adam would call me and tell me to fall off, i was worried that adam would hurt me because i have never seen someone act that way.
Long before I poked my finger in a door once and it was really bad I thought I had to go to the hospital I'm done with Adam I feel like it's a time passing moment it's ok Christian will join us you were in a relationship with adam for how long a little over a year you say you feel he is a time bomb what do you mean i felt like i was constantly walking on eggshells with him i always had to think about what i would like say before I said it because anything could trigger it and when you Say it scares you how can he get right in my face this close to my face when he yells at me and I'm afraid he's really going to take action and punch me or something that has never hit me but that's really scary when he's slamming the door screaming at the top of his lungs hitting my room anywhere in my room throwing things it's just like a big tantrum I'm really e scared can i have something i was a victim of domestic violence this last time on paper i pushed you i pushed him away from me and what happened then i mean you filed a police report i did against him and i did it against you , so I did not wait, I see this, what are we? looking at you you did it or you didn't i didn't have the well legitimately please keep the records uh so this was filed by you and that's not mine it's not him but i filed a police report against him this monday monday monday he wanted one restraining order i was scared for my life the way i was acting g yeah amazing it should be she you don't have any other things in your pocket i mean let's make it all right i want i can't help if i don't know what it is all that's ok let's drink a short break so we'll come back in a bit basically what I'm focused on here is this why question because let me tell you something when someone does something that's not giving them what they want and they keep doing it over and over again . about something is seriously out of control I mean something is not in balance just in the rationality of life ok I mean when he's yelling and yelling and threatening and I'm going to break this and he's smashing stuff you see for outside is anger i always look past the anger to see what is behind it and i guarantee if in those moments of anger and chaos you could just unscrew the lid on your head and look in it would do two things it would scare you to death and break your heart let me tell youhow do i approach a situation like this i look at what is currently going on i mean you know we want a snapshot of history but you know you can stop a movie at any time just frame and make a lot of judgments about that movie but if you don't see it all In context, it's hard to tell what the movie is about and I know right now. this freeze frame of your behavior has gotten you into what i call self exacerbation its a worsening situation you know you made a bad decision and it leads to oh well now i have a lie to cover that up well i took this medication now i have to take this and then i have to take that one now i have burned this bridge so i have to come here and try something dramatic and it's just automatically exacerbating it's just getting worse i don't know what's going on with you but i know you're not making the decisions i want to do in your life i know you are eight days sober so i think you need help with drugs and alcohol and i guarantee something is going on with you neurologically i asked dr charles sophie to join us today he is a specialist internist in medicine and psychiatrist and dr sophie i will ask you to assess what happens to the brain if you don't have addiction or adhd and you are prescribed ritalin for example it can wake up a lot of things inside your brain ebro because you're changing chemistries and balances and you'll have outrageous responses you'll have rebound you'll have rage you'll have all that kind of stuff but for you I also mean genetically don't you know I don't know I think so where were your birth parents from a mental health perspective.
I want to introduce you to another person I asked to come here. This is Ben Levinson. Ben is the Co-Founder and CEO of Origins Recovery Center. I have never seen a better fit than a dual diagnosis. correct dual diagnosis that is exactly correct Dr. what I see is coming to be in the middle of a multidisciplinary team that treats much more than just addiction at this point you have to be selfish for your own benefit and willing to take care of yourself or and I'm doing this I'm offering you your parents aren't going to pay for this this is a gift from us to you if you'll take it and really realize what's going on here it makes sense for you to do it sounds great let's get this started right away, I mean, right away and we'll call you all at the right time when we need you, in the meantime this is between us, okay, okay, yeah, and we'll be there for that, adam, yeah, do your part, we will. absolutely our actions speak louder than words absolutely yes robin ha This is a really exciting announcement about a global movement you can join to help make this holiday season truly special for people in need ahead of the holidays.
Phil said he had an exciting announcement to share about how you at home could make this holiday season unforgettable for people in need, well it starts today and it's called Giving Tuesday, it comes right after Black Friday and Cyber ​​Monday, Tuesday Giving is the start of a global movement that encourages everyone to talk to their families, friends, neighbors and colleagues about the importance of giving. honored to be an ambassador for giving join tuesday jackman bill and melinda gates and big brothers big sisters of america among other highly influential people and organizations as a longtime advocate for women and children i recently launched my new foundation when georgia smiled the robin mcgraw revelation foundation helping to make a difference for people experiencing domestic violence by creating programs as well as bringing global attention to this widespread epidemic so in the spirit of giving tuesday i would like to ask you everyone to join me in helping end the silence on domestic violence by pledging to break the silence by signing up. vowing to no longer sit silently when it comes to domestic violence and to stand up for those who need help, but in addition to joining the movement, it is also imperative that you spread this important message through social media, from Twitter to Facebook and Instagram so we can to get everyone you know to pledge to break the silence, so visit www.dotwin georgiasmild.org to become a silence breaker and learn more about what you can do to give back on Giving Tuesday.
You can also visit www.givingtuesday .org for more information too and don't forget it's not about giving money it's about giving from your heart giving something to others so you can give back to your community so think about that . and i just want to say thank you and goodbye, well parents i want you to ask yourself this question, is there anything your child can do that will leave you saying that's it, i'm done, you're dead to me, am i

disowning

you? cutting all ties saying goodbye forever could be good for tim and karen that question has become a reality they are actually completely torn on whether to leave and close the door on their only son adam forever but it wasn't always that way sadly tim and karen were unable to conceive a child of their own but were overjoyed when they adopted adam at birth starting a family life that could only be described as perfect now all that happiness has been ripped away because they say their son has turned into a monster, in fact, just six days ago they had to get him out of jail due to a felony arrest just so they could be here today threats of violence with knives and guns a drive-by shooting and countless trips to hospitals and jails karen and tim say the last six years of their lives have been nothing short of a nightmare check out my son adam is self destructing before my very eyes s adam was the sweet caring kid who went off to college and became a monster grabs a kitchen knife and shows it to me like you come up to me mom i'll use it when he's upset he totally freaks out , we've had to call the police on 3 separate occasions, I wasn't sure if this is drug related, but when this guy leaves, this guy goes from zero to sixty, that's how fast he's put holes in all the doors what we have upstairs it's so scary he punches punches kicks knives in the wall he busts out the bedroom door as it flies off the handle he's verbally telling us to get out im going to tear this house apart your mom all of you you suck mother kissed my ass he got up in my face and challenged me he's waiting to go punch what he needs now is his ass kicked he's a bully is what's completely out of control i think anger takes over him and he's not can control their emotions he has tried to take his own life on three separate occasions he will threaten us to end this family ok now obviously my question is why would anyone do that but because of all of adam's violent and abusive behavior he has been banned from his parents' house, but his destructive behavior has continued; however, adam has not lived with us for three years after adam took drugs, the violent behavior of him and the duis. we say no more for the last three years adam has lived and probably been kicked out of about seven living situations the property managers call me and say they want him out he rages he fights told me he has a gun phone call from kristen adams' girlfriend we're in the ER adam's nose is broken it's never adam's fault last weekend adam got himself into more trouble adam calls me and says hi mom im driving home sa and no and tim freaks out adam is furious yelling yelling you're horrible this is i'm going to destroy you i'm going to take the bike and tim texts adam and says you have 15 minutes to get out of the house or we'll call the police on me he stole the motorcycle he was gone when we got here tim immediately says im going to get a restraining order the fear was so overwhelming we secured the house we changed the locks and thats when i contacted dr

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ok the chaos the adam's parents saying he has created over the years has left him wishing he had never adopted his son i don't care what happens to him he is no longer a part of my life why should i keep calling and talking to this boy when all he does is turn around? and tear me apart there is no respect there are many times now where i look at adam and i don't even see my son there it's like i died in high school and whoever this other person is is not my son i'm not interested in anything that kid have to say when we go to the show when he leaves t stage i don't care what he says i don't believe a word from his mouth i don't trust him he is out of control and creates chaos wherever he goes i regret the day we went to santa cruz and we adopted adam if karen and i had gone through the hospital and gone to the humane society and picked up a couple of stray dogs we would have been much better off on the other hand karen believes with all her heart that there is something wrong with adam she refuses to give up your son i cant fix adam i have taken my son to medical evaluations i have a psychiatrist who says he is bipolar and then i have another psychiatrist who says he is not i dont know i have moved him in four rehab centers ilitation i've done everything i can i'm holding on to a hot nail tim wants to erase adam from our lives and i can't do it i'm adam's mom i can't force a relationship between adam and tim i parted ways with it myself a long time ago because it's harmful to everyone what i want for adam is to have peace at the end of the day i will always forgive adam because i love him i can't rule him out but if i have to get him out of this environment i know i have to it's ok i'm glad. to meet y'all you're done you're done yeah three years ago I'm done yeah yeah when you said I wish I never adopted it most of the audience just backed off they're like oh my gosh that's it you're Olivia you.
I could say no, let me tell you, you know he was like he was a police officer for 30 years. I've dealt with a lot of problems and when I look at this kid to myself, he was when he was going to college. I lost my focus now it's going to my wife because you told us quite frankly you said he was coming to the show but I'm not coming to fix my relationship with him I'm here to help her let go to help her let go, that's what you're here for, you don't want someone to come , uh, no, without him why wouldn't you believe it, he's going to lie, let him out, he's a manipulator. you say he is an animal that belongs in a cage absolutely the only thing on my mind right now tell me my son adam because i want to say i am not a doctor but i know enough that this boy needs to be in a controlled environment which cannot be in an apartment or somewhere hanging around it's not working your husband says about your son quote i don't care if he's sleeping behind the gas station yes it's ok yes how do you feel ok no one no one wants their son to sleep behind a gas station i mean clearly that i'm a mother first um you don't want that for your son ever um but i'll tell you last week before i wrote your show that um adam called my husband and i yelled furious that we wouldn't get him a flight home i didn't want to drive eight hours back to go back to san diego and i emphatically said absolutely no at that moment i realized there was nothing more i could do for this child my young adult i have to i have to replace Sending the child to a young adult because he is 24 years old and I and I have often talked about me thinking about Adam the pictures of him as a young man that you see and I have to think of him as an adult who is capable of making his own decisions do you care about this connection here yes yes I absolutely guarantee it No matter what this asshole does nothing will come between the two of us that will never happen we are going to take a break and then he is going out.
Whether the child likes it or not, he is your son with a healed heart, says dad, you can't give him up, that's not an option, now he needs you more.

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