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Bitter family saga as mothers discover sons were switched at birth | 60 Minutes Australia

Bitter family saga as mothers discover sons were switched at birth | 60 Minutes Australia
robbing Dawkins sandy Dawkins gavin clinton parker Meg's clinton parker for people still dealing with one unbelievable event pitt disastrous hate this extraordinary story began 23 years ago right here at the nigel hospital about an hour's drive from johannesburg on a hot summer's afternoon two women who

were

complete strangers gave

birth

to two boys they

were

the only babies delivered that day but then a nurse made the most appalling mistake the babies

were

given to the wrong mother
bitter family saga as mothers discover sons were switched at birth 60 minutes australia
they

were

switched

at

birth

the blunder meant Robin was raised by sandy Dawkins who was poor a single mum struggling to make ends meet living on the outskirts of Johannesburg do you ever stop and think if the swap had never happened how your life might have turned it many times hundreds you know there's so many questions but I'll never know I will never know Gavan meanwhile was raised by Meg's Clinton Parker in a relatively wealthy and secure environment in the South African town of
Pietermaritzburg in comparison to Robins he'd won the lottery saying I thank my lucky stars every day would be wrong but at the same time I was given a life which I've not lived and I'm still living and I don't regret anything the mix-up was

discover

ed when a paternity suit over Gavin led to a DNA test showing he wasn't makes his son he doesn't reject him I think he quite an object a child that you've been so close to for two years we first met the

mothers

16 years
ago when they spoke to Richard Carlton I mean didn't you where's my baby I mean you knew you'd given

birth

to something you see initially I think you protect the one you've got lived you know the first few days are shocked then the curiosity comes we'll hold on a second um it's not as easy as it we's my baby you know a check of hospital records showed Meg's s baby had gone home with sandy Dawkins and it was like somebody electrocuted me I went hysterical
immediately because I mean you get told at the time you've been looking over the last 20 months is not - he belongs to somebody else so the

mothers

were

confronted by the impossible choice between the little boys they loved or the babies they had given

birth

to they decided not to swap the boys back a heartbreaking decision that troubles them to this day should you have swapped the boys back as he look back in retrospect yes because in trying to avoid them getting hurt in trying to avoid a
lot of people getting hurt with actually I person if you have done a lot more damage it would have been easier to say MiG's he is Robin yeah I'll take Kevin there heartbreak would have been unbelievable but I think they would have been a lot less damage done at first the decision not to swap seemed to work the

mothers

approached each other as sisters in arms the boys happily naively accepting their lot in life we do things together we get up semester sometimes but at least three we know
each other by golly if you

were

n't sure I don't think we would have had a good time because we like brothers it's to each other it's not easy yeah I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy but by the time Robin was 15 when I first met him the grim realities of his meager life with Sandy

were

hitting home it's difficult if I've wanted anything I've had to walk to work towards it I've never just had it come towards me I'm not saying I've never had anything
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what I say goes I've given gets things easy the year was 2004 Gavin living Robins life was very comfortable with his lot did you ever want to go and live with Sandy no really I'm happy down here you're happy with the life that you accidently

were

given yeah do you feel sorry for Robin but Meg's felt her biological son was becoming a lost boy filing hopelessly at school isolated from his peers needing to be rescued from his life of disadvantage so you do see the day that you will
get your son back I have to see that day for that day is not there then test to be it's not negotiable you really do miss your boy don't you and so at the age of 15 encouraged by Meg's Robin made the life-changing decision moving across the country to live with Meg's and Gavin yes I mean I love Sandy I mean she's my mom for 15 years and sort of leaving your mom after 15 years is life not the easiest thing or decision you're gonna make she's been left with nothing yes
good nice huh answers one denies she's very happy with what she's achieved you know I mean she's ruined people's loss he's just not the way to look at it whose lives she's ruined man for starters I can understand it if it was me I'd be devastated but I'm not sending him back because she's so I'm not gonna be sorry because I won I'm damn glad I won but for mates victory would soon prove

bitter

sweet soon the Sun she fought for became the Sun she fought
with principally over Robins attitude to his new school Meg's at its worst what was it like under this roof with Robbie I know that my expectations are probably too high and having had the contact of them I understood that he had he knew what we expected from him and enhance that I expected too much too soon but I wasn't wanting it for me I wanted it for him when I'm constantly under pressure you're gonna turn me into dragon it's not who I am so it was like I was in a bottle
and the lid was closed do you think she was trying to cram in all those missing I think so definitely so for me to try and change in two three years to just should make or to to keep her happy like on a crowd and I thought I could do it but I can't and so when he was 18 Robin dropped out of school and hit the road winding up in the far north of South Africa in a town called Louis Ricard where he now works hand-building Safari reads okay mask of your gross sense of pride of course a long way
from your skateboard in Johannesburg hundred percent tinkering with that whilst Robin forged ahead creating a new life a new identity he broke the heart of his biological mother he left behind but when he lived failure then you wanted all the right things for the wrong rea

sons

but they just didn't fit into planes and when he left I just went doulica I just living for what the other big casualty was the boy's relationship Gavin was enraged by Robins behavior for me if you had someone that
bitter family saga as mothers discover sons were switched at birth 60 minutes australia
I care about it's a matter of I'll either kill you or you get the hell away from us so yeah why did you feel that you wanted to kill him it's the fact that he hurt makes I mean she will felt extremely betrayed and really hurt when he walked out he had given him a home for three to four years she was looking after I'm providing for him and he walked out just throwing everything back at us the complete breakdown of his relationship with Robin wasn't the only thing to contend
with Gavin was wrestling with where he fitted in so three years ago via Facebook he announced that he was gay it doesn't make you any difference I mean I still have left the same way I did before the only difference is now instead of hooking up with a goal I get with the guy so there's no difference really and yeah the world's perception sometimes does get in the way but at the same time I can still get up there and beat the crap out of you if you've got something to say if needs
to be sorry I'll take that as a warning that way I think I was more disappointed with how to fix me I'd rather didn't how to fix him now and I you know the whole grandchildren thing with him I mean I said well you know we can adopt I said no no no we did we try that little che the child thing it doesn't work for me which brings us to a delightful twist in this lifelong

saga

Robin is now a father he met and fell in love with Lisl and when she fell pregnant they married hello
darling James and she beautiful is your mama and your daddy how old's James and I'm Peter I'm Lisa how do you do Lisl good yeah I've known this man longer than you have and you bake the data and with new life has come a fresh perspective on the impossible decision made long long ago has it given you some understanding of what Meg's and Sandy went through there's definitely I if I have to find that he's not mine there's no wiser giving back I bet I would make a
decision of not getting to know the other child because I what I've got is good and keep it that way oh yeah well I wouldn't want Impe to know I would just keep it a secret and just leave it that way and that's the easy answer the problem is is he would he would still want to know about that other child he says not he would have no contact and if I'd done that we would he be now worse off should you have swapped the boys back no I got us I still think I got the best of both
worlds even with all the so you still regard yourself as a winner I don't think anyone wins nobody's won anything at the end of the day it's we both sitting with absolute chaos on our hands something that it's irreparable you can never fix it up just let you feel it has been an extraordinary journey one that has had its share of casualties Sandi takes no part in either of the boys lives robbing like the prodigal son has returned to Meg's his

family

with a son of his own sweet
baby James has helped mend the rift between two brothers I think he wants me and mother and son I think we've realized from it that there's nothing more important than

family

it doesn't matter about the differences firmly stick together they don't collect little issues get that big we should never have allowed it to get that big so this little man is what we could call the bridge between YouTube I guess we could yes a rickety bridge no no good no good fundation hello I'm Liz
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