6 Things I Wish I'd Learned At 20 | Robin Sharma

I'm Robin Sharma, author of The 5am Club, and I'm absolutely delighted that you've taken the time to be here with me for this episode of Mastery Sessions. This episode is called Six Things I Wish I Had Learned When I Was 20 and I'm going to jump right into the first one. The first thing I

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I had

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when I was 20 is that you can play with toxic people or you can live globally, you can't do both, it's too easy to too well. People suffer from a lack of creativity and productivity because they are surrounded by negative energy, vampires, dream stealers, and naysayers, and what I have

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over the years is simply that this is one of the most powerful ways you can To live an uncommon aerial life, whether it is in terms of your productivity or poor performance or in terms of your prosperity or in terms of your happiness and sense of peace is to eliminate the people who steal your joy.

I'll say it again because I think it's very important for you to eliminate people. who steals your joy at the five in the morning club there is a model that has been absolutely transformative for people all over the planet and it is called joy like GPS there are three elements that will help you dramatically improve not only your success and your performance but also your levels of inner joy and one of those three

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that I teach in the book are people who steal your joy; In other words, you can make a list in your journal later today or right after this episode, in the first column on the left. side of the page who in my life is stealing or diminishing my joy and then in the right column write who are the people in my life who elevate my joy and then have the wisdom and courage to begin eliminating and releasing the people in your life who is bringing you down and then I always get this message or this question a lot very well and if it is my mother and if it is my best friend what I would simply tell you people come into our lives for reasons seasons or lives and one of The ways you can tell a victim in action is that they give their power to other people.

You have a lot more power than you may be wielding and awareness, and you have the power to let people go even if it's a family member or I could say it's going to be a selective association rather than talking to them every day. I will talk to them once a week or I will see them once a month or you will never be able to see them again. You may see them less frequently. be in the middle, but you have the power to do what feels right to you. The most important point is simply this.

The first thing I

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I had learned when I was 20 is that you can be surrounded by energy vampires or you can change the world. I can't do both. The second thing I wish I had learned when I was 20 is that everything that happens to you is for your growth. A bad day for the ego is a great day for the soul, so the ego might be saying, "Oh, that." It was terrible, it was a tragedy, it was a difficult encounter, it was a difficult time, that's just your ego chattering away and your ego is really the voice of your fear.

You want to become much more aware, not of your ego, but of your higher self. that primal genius, that native hero that lurks in your core beneath the layers of fear, doubt and disbelief, and the more you begin to know your braver, stronger, truer self, and the more you stand in your true power in front of to your false power, the more you 'You will realize everything that happens to you, whether it was a tragedy, a subtle adversity is for your growth, therefore, everything is fine, you know what it would offer you, just, this, don't be a grudge collector, is a term, maybe you've never heard of me before or I'm not a grudge collector.

What many people do is be positive. It's about being in the sun. Well, actually, that's not a real life if you want to be one. a legendary leader, you have to go through a lot of suffering, you have to be knocked down and then be willing to continue, you will be laughed at and ridiculed, you will face doubts Sometimes you will be exhausted, you will face all kinds of challenges if you want to reach Mount Everest and if you are listening to the ego and the dominant message of our culture, which is all that is needed. be happy and sunshine and puppies and roses and rainbows and butterflies then you will miss one of the key ideas I wish I had learned in my 20s, which is that everything that happens to you is good, everything that happens to you is for your growth, everything What happens for you is designed to help you burn your ego and develop more fluidity and intimacy with your authenticity. what do I want to say with that?

I truly believe that it is the moments of suffering that make you great. We all, as we move through life, have our seasons on Robben Island. and I encourage you in this episode to develop an appreciation not only of adversity but maybe even a love of tragedy and you might say at that moment Robin, you've gone too far and I would just say, imagine how brave you would be if you were detached. Of all the outcomes, whether it's a tragedy, whether it's a victory, you still feel joyful, powerful and peaceful, that's where the Legends play, that's the place you want to get to detachment, literally, you let go of everything, one of the

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that I also wish that and this is not one of the six, but I wish that when I was 20 I had learned the power of letting go, letting go of trivialities, letting go, you know, things that really aren't that big, but the Point number two is really this thing you want to do. remember that everything that happens to you is for your growth and if it is for your growth and if difficult things make you stronger, wiser, more relatable, more authentic, more loving, tougher, more creative, then that is good, why would you resist?

Why not become friends with him? The third thing I wish I had learned when I was 20. This will not surprise you. When you own your tomorrow, you will elevate your life. I wish when I was 20 someone had taught me that getting up early is an absolute GameChanger why, because if you learn to start your days right, your days will unfold gloriously consistently when you start your days before dawn, you will have a gigantic competitive advantage, There are no crowds, people are friendlier, people are more open, there is no traffic on the streets, you can In fact, I think one of the lines at the Five in the Morning Club is quiet, it's the new luxury .

When you start the day right, you have the time. I call it the hour of victory in the book. From 5 to 6 o'clock you get to execute the 20-20-20 formula that I teach in the 5 M Club so let me simply tell you that for now you have time to work on yourself you have time to work on your heart prepared to develop your mindset to exercise whether it's doing planks or running on a treadmill or maybe it's souls like, I don't know, but you can work on your heart, you have time to get up early to work on your soul or you can connect with your cause and connect with your mission. and detect your values ​​and become that brave hero and warrior so that when you go out into the world at 6 a.m. and you feel fundamentally different, you are full of true power, you are full of clarity about what you need to accomplish during the day you have this intimacy with who you really are so that you can stand strong in the turbulence that each day can bring you you have more energy you have more joy you are connected with this piece I mean the piece is really important for leadership exponential productivity when you are peaceful, focused, centered, versus diffuse and dispersed, there is a term called digital dementia, you know, many of us suffer from digital dementia because of all the devices and technology that we are not focused on or connected to so of course we are not going to Be and be the best we can be creative and productive so the third thing I wish I had learned when I was 20 is the value of wiring in the lifelong habit of facing the Sun.

I was in India on a book tour two months ago and I learned that many people came up to me and said: Robin, this is our philosophy . That is why the great sages, the great mystics, the great poets and the great thinkers rose before the Sun. That is why Mahatma Gandhi rose before the Sun. The sun is a moment of incredible peace in the air, there is a magic before dawn and what I was told in India on this book tour was that this is why people meditate at 5:00 a.m. m., because the mind has rested all night, so it is more Pure and available for new learning and growth, the heart is more open at 5:00 a.m. m. so you can do that deep heart work to release lower toxic emotions and optimize your gratitude, joy, inner majesty, so I wish I knew that at 20. now I learned it um when I was in my twenties, so you know, I don't know.

I lost for the most part, but I will share one thing with you: join the five a.m. club, get up before dawn, and execute the 20-20-20 formula. It's absolutely transformative Hi, I'm Robin Sharma and I really hope you're enjoying this episode of the Mastery Sessions. I am absolutely delighted that people all over the planet are getting such good results from what I am doing in Mastery sessions for a long time. We have been getting so many requests from advertisers to put their ads in Mastery sessions and I have resisted do it and yet what I wanted to do very quickly are two resources for you that I absolutely know will create some wonderful changes and elevations and results in your performance and in your personal life the first is my book the 5 a.m. club.

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Well, back to the episode and this brings me to the fourth thing I wish I had learned when I was 20, which is that there is a difference between being busy, being busy, and genuine productivity. Please don't confuse movement with doing real things, in fact the billionaires I coach and the titans of industry I advise all have one thing in common, they don't really work very hard, they are much more interested. in quality work than in the busy work in which we live. in a world where many people are running around they are busy they are busy they have too many meetings they are available on every phone call they are always checking their technology they never get lost they are always there they are masters of Yes versus wizards of no, so their lives They get very complicated, and yet the real superstars I've worked with are much less interested in complexity and much more interested in simplicity.

They do some things in their professional lives amazingly. Well, they make a great team, they structure a great lifestyle, so they have time to ride mountain bikes, they have time to see their family, they have time to read and they have time to go to museums and all those other things that they make you more creative. and more productive in business, so the fourth thing I learned and wish I had learned when I was 20 is: please don't confuse being busy with being productive. My encouragement is to be a purist versus a generalist. The fifth thing I wish for.

What I learned when I was 20 is that it doesn't matter what other people are doing, the only thing that matters is who you are becoming and how far you have traveled, so I understand that many of us haven't heard that. mindset I understand that in this world of ours, especially with social media, we suffer from an addiction to comparison, it makes me think of what Theodore Roosevelt once said, he said that comparison is the thief of joy. I'll say it again because it's such a valuable idea at least to me Tedric Teddy Roosevelt said that comparison is the thief of joy and true leadership is not about falls and true leadership is not about followers but leadership in other ways.

In other words, you can follow the crowd, do what everyone else does, think what the majority thinks. Operate the way everyone else operates or you can run your own race, trust your instincts, be authentic, speak with your own voice, pursue your own ambitions, and be your own woman or man, but you can't do both, and yes , when he doesn't follow the rules. crowd and when you don't care what others think and do you will be a weirdo, I would just offer you an idea to hopefully put a smile on yourface, which is that they all seem normal until you meet them.

And yes, the outside may call you a weirdo or eccentric, but what is more powerful than being true to yourself? Shakespeare said it well, he said to yourself, be true, and as I suggested, I wish I had known when I was 20. years, forget about what other people do and how they think, forget about how they live, you know, most people are full of exhaustion and most people are addicted to distraction and many people are exhausted and disappointed and many People have resigned themselves to the average, so why would you follow what most people do? In fact, I think a great formula for achieving world class is to look at what most people do and go in the opposite direction and the only thing that really matters is who.

Are you becoming and how far have you traveled as human beings, it is very easy to beat ourselves up because we are not at the top of our mountain, that is the world class journey and process, it is a lifelong pursuit and you want to take the time to Celebrate how far you've come. in terms of your personal growth in terms of your craft in terms of your impact on other people and in person and in terms of the lifestyle that you have created and the sixth and last thing I wish I had learned when I was 20 years old is that the person The sweetest person in the room wins, so one of the dominant beliefs in our society is that to be brave, courageous and successful, in many ways you need to work tirelessly, you need to push aggressively, you need to beat your chest.

I need to express courage and that if you are a lover of civility, punctuality, courtesy, sincere, you are a weakling and what I want to share with you is that I have worked with many of the most successful people on the planet and many of the largest companies, whether it is General Electric . o Starbucks o Microsoft o IBM organization of young presidents Oh IBM Watson, just continue Nike I want to offer you this the best of the best understand that when you take care of the relationship the money is taken care of only the best of the best understand that the business of business is really connect with other human beings and because of that, the most loving person and I really wish I knew this in my 20s, to be loving, open and concerned about other people and absolutely obsessed with helping other people by giving them extreme amounts of The value to them is not only the right thing to do, not only does it elevate your joy, not only does it boost your self-confidence and makes you feel good when your head hits the pillow every night, it's an incredible business strategy because then you develop these evangelists for your brand and these fanatic followers of their products because few things are as powerful as being in the presence of someone who really cares, especially right now, being in the presence of someone who really cares, so there's a city that I visit and When I visit there is this food court. and in the food court there is a place that makes this amazing Mediterranean chicken and I love the food when I go to this city and when I go to this food court it is healthy and absolutely delicious.

The only thing is this when the boss is there. They barely give you chicken and when the boss is there they barely give you salad and when the boss is there they barely give you hummus. What's my point? It doesn't come from being the most loving person in the room, the most generous person in the room. the room I think it comes from a place of scarcity without any judgment I'm not in a position to judge anyone I'm just informing I think it comes from scarcity and yet if it came from generosity and love and care and it just felt like me They said that people feel in hotels and taxis in India that the guest is God, that's what they say in India.

I learned that by talking to a taxi driver in India and also in several hotels in India, one in New Delhi, On the recent trip in February, someone who was helping me said. I told him: Where do you get all this about yourself? generous and I remembered that the client has many options where he can go and when you are generous people keep coming back. I think you would be even more successful, so thank you for being here with me for this mastery session. I hope it was like that. It is useful if you want to go much deeper into my philosophy and methodologies on advanced creativity, exponential performance, genuine leadership and if you really want to live a world-class life, not only with success but also with soul, then I highly encourage you. to read my book, the 5 a.m.

Club. m., currently one of the best-selling books on the planet, at the end of the book you also get a 66-day digital mentoring program. The details are at the end of the book and the book is just transforming people all over the planet, so why wouldn't you invest in it? I would also love to share with you when you invest in your copy, a portion of my royalties goes to helping children suffering from leprosy so that you don't just get your transformation and learn. how the best in the world start their days and live their days you are also helping a kid who really needs it so you can feel good about that and if you want to go even deeper and you want him to be your mentor because the All the great athletes have trainers for a reason you can't really do it alone.

You'll have a much harder time trying to figure out how the best in the world build great companies or how great artists do it or how the most successful ones do it. people think, feel, operate and live, you could spend a lifetime trying to figure it out, so if you want me to advise you and help you accelerate your success and help you create a world-class life and help you express your genius primordial and your native heroism, if that's of interest to you, I'd love to help you do it, head over to the circle of Legends com, the circle of Legends com, which is my monthly world-class online mentoring program and you'll check out all the details there and finally I really hope this episode was valuable to you.

If it's been valuable, I'd love for you to share it with three friends within the next 24 hours. The teacher learns more by sharing this episode with three. friends and talk about what you've learned, not only are you going to deepen and integrate the learning so that it becomes stickier for you, you're going to encourage your three friends to grow with you and wouldn't that be brilliant? So I wish you all the green light and thank you very much for being with me. I'm Robin Sharma. I hope you get great value from this mastery session if you want to receive powerful training videos, blog posts, learning tools and information about my two live. personal mastery academy events and my 4 day flagship experience the titan sonic go ahead and visit Robin Sharma Danka