3 habits that kill your confidence | Shadé Zahrai | TEDxMonashUniversity

A charity to support young immigrants in difficulty, something he was really passionate about and has remained 100% committed to. He has helped thousands of young people find their passion and change their lives. By identifying a clear cause and agreeing with it, he escaped the abyss of stagnation in the place. If you find

your

self stuck in this intellectual hole, take the time to think about why he does what he does. What is the big picture? How can you take a broader view and attribute meaning? Who do you serve? How do you make a difference? Ask

your

self this fundamental question: "This thing I'm doing, this goal I'm working toward, for what?" Then, when faced with inevitable barriers and disagreements, remember that meaning.

Finally, the obsession with destiny. When you become aware of this unhealthy behavior that leads you to doubt, remember the indisputable fact that it is none of your business. Your worth is not at all a reflection of your achievements, and you will not find lasting satisfaction in the vicious cycle of the joy of achievement. Instead, set limits for yourself. If you're obsessed with a destination, you're likely disciplined, so channel that discipline into committing to taking breaks. We prioritize what we organize to schedule meaningful breaks: meditate, activate your higher self, be truly present with family, experience rejuvenating exercise, and most importantly, think about the legacy you want to leave behind, as well as your need to assert yourself.

Finally, if you find yourself feeling small when comparing your current reality to someone else's, change your inner monologue to say, “I'm happy for this person. What can I learn from your journey? All of these obstacles are fueled by doubt, and when we don't regain control of these

habits

, they

kill

our

confidence

in who we are and the value we represent. Remember, your 12 month old wasn't born with doubts. Self-doubt has been built into your journey, which means you can eliminate it by creating newer, healthier

habits

and harnessing the power of neuroplasticity to reprogram your mind. As Will Durant wrote: "We are what we repeatedly do." Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit." So commit to increasing your self-awareness.

Pay attention to the warning signs of those habits that are destroying your

confidence

and take inspiring steps to elevate yourself and stay away from the three intellectual wells. Only then will you be able to tap into the beauty of the true self that lies within you.