Wayne Dyer's Top 10 Rules For Success

He was an American self-help author and motivational speaker. His first book, The Wrong Zone, is one of the best-selling books of all time, with more than 35 million copies sold worldwide. He spent most of his early life, until age 10, in an orphanage on the east side of Detroit after his father abandoned this family, he is Wayne Dyer and here are the top ten

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of him for

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. You can't give away what you don't have now. It sounds ridiculous, okay, but it's more than meets the requirements. hey how do you hear this you can't give away what you don't have people who aren't good at giving away love can't give away love because they don't have it to give away if I want to give you a dozen oranges I can't give you that dozen oranges unless I go out and pick up 12 oranges in somewhere, otherwise it's all empty rhetoric and the same is true for virtually everything in your life: you can't give love for others if you don't have love here to give if what you have here is contempt if what you have here is anger If you don't have it here it is fear then these are the things that you are going to give away in your In life, the second thing that the ego teaches us is that who I am is not only what I have, but who I am is what I do, what I achievement, and so we spend much of our lives believing that the way we become

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ful I happy and fulfilled, updated, whatever it is, based on what I achieved, what my resume looks like, how many promotions I get, That's why we send our children to school and ask them to learn to identify themselves in terms of how much they get and what they achieved, your grades become more important than what it is, what you are studying, what you have, the clothes you wear, the labels that you have, etc., and we become obsessed with this kind of absurdity and this is the false self at work that there is.

There are many ways to get the things we want for ourselves in our lives, but basically it all starts with how we choose to think the way you think. So, that's going to be seven little words that I think are perhaps the most important things that we can learn and master. In our lives there is this old proverb that I become what I think about all day and once you know that what you think is what expands, you start to be very careful about what you think, you don't allow your thoughts to focus In nothing. that you do not want or that you would not like to manifest or appear in your life have a mind open to everything and not attached to anything one of the central principles of my life is that no one knows enough to be pessimistic about anything and that each and every one of us when we close our minds to what is possible for us or what is possible for Humanity closes the genius that resides and lives in each and every one of us by having an open mind It does not necessarily mean finding fault in all things that others have taught you, means opening yourself to the potentiality and possibility that everything is possible, so you have a mind open to everything and attached to nothing.

It really means finding within ourselves the ability to get rid of a trait that I find so common in the contemporary world. Do you know that most people I know spend their lives looking for occasions to be offended? In reality, they are out there waiting to be offended. They can find some reason to feel offended and there is no shortage of reasons why they are everywhere the way this person dressed what the worst person said they turn on their TV they listen to the news they feel offended by this someone someone didn't wear? the language they didn't like, someone doesn't share the same customs with you and people all day long;

In fact, if you follow up tomorrow you will probably find a hundred reasons why you might be offended, but a mind open to everything and attached to nothing is a mind that says I never look for anything to be offended about and that regardless of what someone has What to say, my answer is that it is an interesting point of view. I had never considered it before when you change the way you look at things the things you look at change Albert Einstein once observed that the most fundamental and important decision you have to make in your life is this: do I live in a friendly or hostile universe, which is it?

Is it a universe full of hostility and anger and people who want to hate each other and people who want to kill each other? That is what you see, because when you see the world that way, that is exactly what you will create for yourself in your life. It comes from great scientific minds and the interesting thing is that this is not just a clever play on words that when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change, it's actually a very scientific thing and I'm going to show you. in a moment I would like you to imagine the following scene you are in your house you have the car keys in your hand the lights go out power outage you can't see anything you trip over in your living room and you drop your keys and look at You look around for a moment and realize you'll never find them in the dark, but you look outside and notice the street lights are on, so a light bulb goes off in your mind. hmm I'm not going to sit here in the dark and look for my keys when it's light outside.

I'm going out here under the streetlight. I'm going to look for my keys. Why are you laughing? This is this. It makes a lot of sense so you're here and you're fumbling and you're looking for your keys and you're looking and looking and your neighbor comes and says what happened, wait, well I dropped my keys, oh. I'll help you search and now we're both down here looking for our keys and looking finally he says excuse me, but where did you leave the keys? Well, I left it at the house, he said, you want to tell me that You dropped your keys in the house and you're looking for them out here and the streetlight doesn't make any sense and I said well, there's no point in fumbling around in the dark when there's light here now you laugh and think how silly that is, but isn't that exactly what we do when we have a problem, a difficulty, a struggle that is located within and we are looking for the solution outside, somewhere outside of ourselves?

It would be like going to the doctor and telling him tell him all your symptoms and the doctor says hey boy, you have a lot of symptoms and he starts writing prescriptions you need a prescription for this symptom you need a prescription for that symptom and finally he says there are four or five and you to go out and you say well I would like my recipes he said no I will not give this to your mother-in-law and I will give this to your neighbor and then I will give this to your daughter and I will give this to your father.

I mean, you are the one who has the struggles and the difficulties and is waiting for someone else to change or for something outside of yourself to improve so that your life works at This level that I call intention is something that you really have to take a hard look at. Is here. I used to say that before I had kids I had eight theories about how to raise kids and now I have eight kids and no theories, but one of the things I know about kids is that no one likes to be told what to do and it's not about just as kids, it's all of us one of my favorite songs is a song from when I was in high school.

Midland, a lot of land and the starry skies above, boy, you know it, don't lock me up, don't restrict me, don't put limits on me, don't tell me what I can do and what I can't. don't tell me how to be there don't tell me what to wear what to think don't tell me how or even how to do yoga don't tell me I don't want to be told this is the soul Always speaking, the soul constantly has the desire to expand and grow, and any thing or person that comes into your life and tries to do it, you will find yourself fighting against it and retreating, there are no justified resentments and this is a very difficult beginning for many. people to get, but one I firmly believe in.

I was once in a group of drug addicts and alcoholics and I was one of the people who was a sponsor and leader of this group and the sign on the wall said that there are no justified hard feelings. in this group and what I told that group that night was it doesn't matter what anyone tells you here it doesn't matter what kind of anger is directed at you no matter how much hate you may find showing up in your life there are no justified hard feelings which means that If you carry resentment inside of you for anything or anyone and I'm talking about the person you lent money to and they haven't paid you back, I'm talking about the person in your life who you feel was abusive in your life I mean the person who abandoned you and left you for someone else.

I'm talking about all the things that you have justified in your heart and in your life and that you have a right to be resentful about. and I am suggesting to you that those resentments will always end up hurting you and creating a feeling of despair in you. I have often said that you know you ever die from a snake bite a snake bite will never kill you you can't help but be invited once you are bitten you are bitten but it is the venom that continues to flow through your system after the bite that will end up destroying you in my mind as I think about this idea of ​​getting what you really want and being able to attract it. in your life what we have to look at are basically the obstacles that we have conditioned ourselves and notice that I say that we have conditioned ourselves because I have never believed that we have to put the responsibility on another person if conditioned is because you have allowed yourself become that and if we are conditioned to believe certain types of things and one of the things that we believe in and hold on to and live with is this whole idea that all the things that happen to me in my past are the ones that prevent me from doing what I would like to do today, so we hold on to these things and fill ourselves with guilt.

I am the middle child. I am the youngest son. I'm the oldest child, you know, I'm the only child, any of those are a great excuse, you know, if you're the youngest child, you can say, well, you know, never, how could I make decisions for myself and be a full person? functioning today when I always had someone telling me what to do my entire life how could I think for myself? If you are the oldest child, you can simply say to yourself, well, how can I be expected to think for myself? I always had to think for someone else, I always did it for someone else and that leaves the middle child, you know, the classic identity crisis, so for me my mother didn't even know my name, she always calls me by this name. or that one, so I don't know where I fit in to take care of everyone except the only child and of course the only child, well, your parents looked at you and said we won't do that again, you have to live with it. t Me then everyone with their birth order or their mother likes their sister better or we had enough but we didn't have enough or we had too much or we lived in the north we lived in the south I'm too tall I'm too short I have too much hair no I have enough hair it's falling out it's not falling out whatever it is we all have these excuses and I call all these things that we hold on to and use to keep us from getting to these higher places in our lives, awakening, I call it the awakening, and the awakening comes from a story I heard Alan Watts tell once, it was a very powerful story, he said your life is like a boat and it's heading down the river at about 40 knots and as it goes, somehow you are able to metaphorically stand at the stern of the back of the boat and look out over the water, now your life is going in this direction and you are standing here and you are looking down. into the water and you ask yourself these three questions the first question is what is the wake what is it what is this that you see and the answer the wake is the trail that is left behind that is what it is nothing more nothing less is the trail that is left behind second question to ask in this little metaphor what is driving the boat what is making this go in this direction the answer the present moment energy that is being generated by the engine and nothing more that is the only thing that is making the boat between this direction and In this little scene this means that it is the thoughts I have in the present moment and how I am using them that makes my life go in this direction and nothing else because the third question is the most important and powerful question and I have since asked it.

I hear, I've always thought about this whenever I have the tendency to look back and blame something. Is it possible that the wake propels the boat? Hana's trail left behind causes a ship to go in this direction. and of course the answer is no, it can't, it's just a trace that is left behind and in that trace there is an enormous amount of things that each of us has awake and we have a lot of things in it and One of the problems we have It's just that we have a tendency to look at the wake and everything in it to explain why my life isn't working out the way I'd like it to, so this was something that Portia Nelson, who I knew, passed away a few years ago, ago. 10 years old, I lived in Seattle and I was in a seminar and they asked them to write the autobiography of their life in five chapters, five versus five, so they just gave them like cards this size, they were actually smaller than this one, they were cards of three by five, so write chapter one of your life and just go to where you are today and I remember doing the same thing, but what she wrote was so brilliant that I asked her daughter if we could put it on public television, which which I did on the most recent show and we made a contribution to Porsha's work, so this is what she wrote onchapter five of his life, chapter one, he said I walked down the street there's a deep hole in the sidewalk I fall I'm lost I'm helpless it's not my fault and it takes forever to find a way out chapter 2 of my life I walk the same way street there is a deep hole in the sidewalk I pretend I don't see it I fall again I can't believe I'm in the same place it's not my fault it still takes me a long time to get out chapter three of my life I walk down the same street there's a hole deep on the sidewalk I see it there I keep falling it's a habit but my eyes are open I know where I am and it's my fault and I get out immediately chapter four of my life I walked down the same street there is a deep hole in the sidewalk I go around it Chapter five of me life I finally walked down another Street now great the next principle I call don't die with your music still in you and who better to quote it than Thoreau right here in Concord when he talked about some of us here a different drummer and we should march to the music we hear , but all of you, all watching everyone here in this beautiful parish, you all have some music playing and you all have a heroic mission there are no accidents in this universe we all appear here with a purpose there is an intelligence that is part of everything and everyone and all of us are connected to it and many of us are afraid to listen to that music and march towards it If you are out there I know you have a book that you wanted to put together I know that there is a composition that you wanted to compose I know that there is a song that you want to sing somewhere Maybe you want to raise horses in Montana Well, maybe you want to open an ice cream shop in Cape Cod Who knows what that might be Maybe you just want to travel and see the world Maybe you want to get into a relationship with someone but you've been afraid to do it, but you heart says it's the right thing to do We all feel something and in Leo Tolstoy's famous novel, The Death of Ivan Illich, he asks this question that would be terrifying to me, he says while he has this accountant from Moscow lying on his deathbed contemplating the horror of this question.

What if my whole life had changed? I have been wrong. I have known what my music is. It's playing right now as I stand here in front of you with these cameras and in this place and as I sit and write my books and tell the world what I know to be my truths. always completely on purpose and fulfilled and at no point will I come to the end of my life and say what if my whole life has been wrong, whoever you are, whatever that music is, however distant it may sound, however strange it may be. , however strange others may interpret it.

Don't come to the end of your life and know that you will leave and not play it yet. Don't die with your music still in you. Thanks so much for looking. I made this video because of Jason Haines' video. The man Jason Han asked me, so if there's a famous entrepreneur you want me to profile next, leave it in the comments below and I'll see what I can do. I'd also love to know which of Wayne's top 10. the

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