The Loose Women Emotionally Open Up About Coping With The Loss Of Their Loved Ones | Loose Women

uh yesterday the queen carried out her first major public duty since her husband prince philip died this was her 67th

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ing of state parliament and four decades before her husband was at her side but this time not only Prince Philip was absent, but also his chair. very moving symbol I thought about her

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and that made me feel and she's amazing, but it made me a little sad just to see her again, it was almost, you know, it's like her funeral, she was sitting alone, which we're so used to. See it, aren't we next to her? um and it made me think about, you know, going back to work or duty or whatever you have to do in your life, um after a bereavement, you know when you're grieving and I think everyone is very different and when my sister died, I actually needed to get back to work, I mean, I'm looking forward to it, but I needed it because I needed that structure in my life, I needed something to get me up in the morning and also that I could write. to turn off the pain a little bit and cry in the shower and then go right, come on, pull yourself together, work now, so it's like you knew I needed that to get away from the pain, actually, and it's interesting that the reaction of the people don't be.

It's also good to see, you know, she's fine, she's going to cry and you know, especially a show like this because we laugh a lot, right? So it's strange that the first time you do something where you want to laugh you either have to laugh or you have to look like you're having fun because there's almost a sense of guilt about whether she should enjoy my life again. I think this is too soon. I think there's definitely that because, like he said especially. On this show I remember when I lost Bernie and I was here when I lost my mom and stuff like that and like you, there was a big part of me that I needed to get back, but you feel guilty because you sit here and go, I mean, I know we we're laughing, but I still miss my sister a lot or I still miss my mom a lot, you know and you feel guilty about maybe the way people judge you, you know there was a friend of ours for years. that he was a well-known comedian and you know that the day he died his wife came on stage that night.

I mean, how hard that must be because he's a comedian and you know there's a lot of people around, I don't think. You should do that, I don't know, everyone grieves differently and you have to handle it, it really is, yeah, well, I think what Colleen said is true, I mean, when my sister died, I knew it was coming, obviously, It's something horrible. anything to stop a death, you know, from cancer, it's so prolonged it's agony to watch and, you know, it has this inevitability to it, so when my sister died I understand why that comedian came on stage because I was doing a show one-man at the At that time and the next night I went on stage, I don't think I was very good, but I needed to do it to get away because I think there are also different types of pain because I was expecting my sister's death, yes.

I was very shaken, but when a close friend of mine, Jonathan, died without warning, a young man in his forties, he had been my coach for 10 years, he was much more than just a coach, as he was a close personal friend and also his wife was. he left my house and went home and ran out and dropped dead from an undiagnosed heart condition. Well, actually I was so heartbroken that I could barely talk to his wife because I didn't know what to say, but there is an element. "There's a shock involved in that shock and feeling like there's nothing you can say, okay and what do you say, Frankie, you know, I know when I went back to work people were very nice and sometimes that's hard, yeah, because when you know it and we." We are a very close team here and people feel like they have to say something, but then they don't want to bother you and it's hard to know what the titles say, I think because you know how you know with people.

The people closest to you, you know, if you give them a hug, that's going to make them angry and they might not necessarily want to cry, but everyone wants to be nice, right? So it's hard to know what to say. Umm, I went straight back. going to work when my grandmother passed away and she was the first person I lost in my life and I was very close to her and when I look back now I don't think I took it in properly how it happened, I went I went to the funeral and I went back to work and there was many others, how would you do them?

He must have been about 19, I think, and I'm just dealing with it now, kind of starting. I did a random podcast with um. grief uh therapist and after talking to her I realized that I had a lot of issues related to death and grief and stuff and she started working with me on that and it all goes back to my grandmother because I'm really just dealing with that now and That was a long time ago, so this shows you that I think we often think, oh, you know, when someone loses someone, we give them a few weeks, we're there for them and then we all move on and that person is still was. there with that cool they say you know oh don't come back too soon or don't bottle up your pain but sometimes yeah, that's specifically yeah some people want to talk and other people say you know what I'm just putting the lid on Today, yeah, and I think people when you came back to work said you know she was back to work there were people who carved and I completely understood why you came back and it was one of the few routines you had.

You could reintroduce it back into your life and go on with a little bit of your normal life, yeah, that's what it was and I thought, well, what else can I do to sit at home and cry all day? Because that's what I felt like doing, yeah, because that's the fear, it's the same with Bernie, do you think if I don't get up I'm not going to get up, no, so I have to stay here, so you have to move on yeah yeah listen to any of you who If you are grieving for anything we send you our love and don't forget we always have help lines.

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