The Top 10 Effects of a Sexless Relationship on Men

Hi, I'm Dr. Nazanin Moali, a licensed clinical psychologist and host of the Sexology podcast. In our video today we are going to talk about the top 10

effects

of having a

sexless

relationship

on a man. A

sexless

relationship

can affect people of all genders, but we got this question from our long-time listeners who wanted this video, so we decided to make a whole video talking about the impact of sexless relationships on men, maybe you'll find You may be asking what an asexual relationship is. A sexless relationship is when a couple has sex. Unfortunately, less than 10 times per calendar year, it is more common than most people realize.

Recent statistics show that about 19 percent of couples in the United States are in same-sex relationships. The people we're talking about in this video, we're not talking about situational asexual people. relationship sometimes our spouse spouse has health problems sometimes we are going through things that for a short period of time sex is not a priority for us if you have communicated with your partner there is nothing wrong with there being people who sex is not part of the relationship which is something that has been communicated from the first day they identify as asexual and for them a relationship and sex are not together, but for most people they start from this place of passion , they start with the desire to have sex with their partner all the time and then little by little the frequency of sex becomes less and less and then maybe after a few years these people find themselves in a sexless relationship, which is a tragedy in a way because sex is an important part of a healthy relationship and there is nothing wrong with it. with wanting to have sex with your spouse, so let's talk about the top 10 patterns I see among my clients that I've worked with over the years.

I've supported over thousands of men in asexual relationships and I'm going to share with you some of the common patterns I've seen. The number one challenge I see for men who are in a sexless relationship is this resentment toward their partner, it's not even about the sex anymore, it's not even about I want to have sex anymore, they feel like their partner is hiding sex from them. they feel like their partner knows how much they crave intimacy and they do it on purpose because they don't care about them number two they feel trapped work with so many men that they love their family they love the life they created with their uh with their spouse and they don't want to end it. their relationship but they feel trapped because they didn't get married to be celibate but now they found out that their spouse doesn't want to have sex with them and so they don't have a choice to stay in the marriage and feel miserable or leave the marriage and make a decision that such It may affect your entire family from a financial, emotional and psychological point of view.

The third challenge I see is this low. self-esteem   when our spouse or partner rejects us they feel that we are not worthy of love we feel undesirable  they feel that maybe something is wrong with me that my partner no longer wants to stack up to have sex with me sometimes we discover that maybe our partner engages in experiences in lonely, he just doesn't want to have sex with us and that can make us feel bad about ourselves and when our self-esteem drops, it affects the quality of the relationship we have at work, it affects our relationship. another relationship and can even lead to financial losses.

It is a very interesting study that showed that people who have more frequent satisfying sexual experiences earn more. The fourth challenge is this type of life in this high-stress environment. Couples find themselves in this cycle of sexual avoidance. The fact that one couple starts the relationship and the other refuses to have sex, they live in this environment that, at times, can be toxic because people do everything possible to avoid their partner and that can affect the quality of the relationship. connection that couples have. Also having the number five together is being in a reference relationship as a result of this sexual avoidance.

Sometimes we are just tired of being rejected or maybe we want to be with our partner but we don't want it to be physically like your partner doesn't have. sex we crave contact, but both couples tend to avoid physical contact because they don't love the other person and we have the idea that they want to have sex, so they tend to avoid any type of physical contact which again in turn, It can help someone experience health problems when we are not satisfied in our relationship. It can lead to all kinds of mental health problems, including depression.

It can cause physical health problems. We know that regular ejaculation in men prevents prostate cancer. and again, having a satisfying relationship can be good for our psychological well-being. Another common challenge for people is that when they pair up, they break up. One of the complaints I sometimes receive from some of my clients is that my partner is always working. at work 24/7 and when we talk about this type of similar desire to work more with your spouse with your partner we realize that consciously or unconsciously they are dedicating their life to work because they want to suppress their sexuality Because they don't know what to do with their desire, their partner doesn't want to have sex with them and they just don't want to deal with it emotionally and something to keep in mind is that for many men, physical contact is the way they express their love.

Sometimes I hear from my female clients that I want to connect emotionally with my partner to be sexually open, but many of my male clients need to have that physical connection because that is part of the way they express love. Another challenge that is unfortunately very common is that when you refuse to have sex with your partner when the relationship is sexless, you open the door to a fairground. I'm not saying that having an affair is okay, I'm not saying it's justified, but I have seen time and time again in my practice that people tell me that I forgot about that part of me, so when the other person, the other woman showed up, how much they care about me, how much they want me, I couldn't resist because I forgot how wonderful it was to be desired and it can lead to a kind of separation of couples that could create.

It can lead to all kinds of emotional pain for everyone involved. Another common challenge is that I receive a call from my partner and they say that my partner has a porn addiction. I found out that they watch porn all the time on their computer and please fix it, but when we talk about the pattern in the relationship, we found out that these individuals like it. Having sex, sex is not part of the relationship, so of course your partner finds an alternative way to explore his sexuality and satisfy his sexual need, and porn could be one of those, so if you don't want your couple consumes pornography compulsively.

So having a healthy sexual plan can help keep your relationship on the right track. Another challenge is divorce and separation. You'd be surprised how many people I've seen in my practice because they come to me and feel defeated, but they are. planning their exit strategy they are thinking about when would be a good time for me to leave this marriage so I can minimize the damage to my children I can minimize the financial complications of a divorce and they don't talk about this with their partner because they are so focused on getting out of this relationship, so it is important to know that having sex is a healthy part of the relationship and if you have not communicated to your partner for some reason that you are taking a break, it can lead to an unbalanced, unhealthy relationship, if If you find yourself in that dynamic, I have a good solution for you.

A few years ago, a colleague of mine and I recorded this half-hour podcast episode and talked step-by-step through what you need to do with your spouse to end this sexless cycle, so if you're interested, be sure to listen to this episode. You can listen to it alone, listen to it alone or you can listen to it with your partner. Leave what you think in the comment. and I hope you find the sexual connection you deserve and thank you very much for watching our video.