People Learn This Too Late! - Escape Your Misery To Become Richer, Wiser, Happier | Tony Robbins

Tony Robbins welcome back to the show thanks for having me back bro very excited so you recently did a study with Stanford University showing that

your

date with the Destiny program is more effective in positively impacting depression than traditional medicines and things like that, why? It's so effective, what tactics are you giving

people

that are so transformative? I think it's 50 percent more positive emotion and 70 percent less negative emotion, which is pretty crazy. Actually, it's even better than Stanford. He approached me during Covid because you know I adapted. I want to try to help

people

and all of a sudden, you know, in stadiums for fifteen thousand people they wouldn't allow you to have 10p 100 people in the stadium, which is ridiculous, so I finally created

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giant that's 20 feet tall, 50 feet wide. wide and 25,000 square. foot studio and we started delivering to people all over the world, so some people had a date with Destiny two, who I think were clinically depressed and they came back without any of the symptoms and they were like, you know,

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is amazing .

It's six days, what data did you have about this? And I said, well, you know, I have millions and millions of testimonies and stories, but no one has studied it, so they said, listen, we think this could be amazing and they explained it to me. Now, if you look at the meta studies on depression, which is out of control from greed, it's obviously not as coveted as it was the closure and fear, and now the fear of people you know, a lot of people are afraid that we will go We will all die in 12 years, of course, not true in terms of the environment, but all this fear has put people in a place where there is no compelling future and that is one of the things we all need.

We can all face the difficult today if we have a compelling tomorrow, but they decided anyway that they said, look, you know, now the meta-studies show that in all treatments, both in combination therapy and drugs, only about 40 percent of people improve and of that 40, 60 do not improve. the average improvement is 50, so they're half as depressed as some people, 100 cures very few, although unfortunately and I say, well, that's not much better than the placebo and they said we agree three and I don't know if you . I've seen the cover of Newsweek talking about SSRIs, you know, they don't change with depression and we're still giving people these medications.

It's crazy because they don't have an alternative, so they came and formed a group and the most. The most successful thing they've done was what Johns Hopkins did two years ago where they gave people a month of psilocybin and cognitive therapy and of course psilocybin is not a legal drug, but the end result with the results was Incredible, 53 percent of people. a month

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r I had no symptoms of depression, nothing like it in the history of psychiatry or psychological approaches when they did our tests, the numbers were so radical that they sent them blindly to two other organizations to be absolutely sure it was accurate. 100 of the people not one person in the group still had depression 30 days

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r and 19 of the people were suicidal, none of them were suicidal, so in this appointment with Destiny that I just completed they did a study for 754 people, it would be the study Largest landmark ever made. done, but they really want to show people what can really be done and the answer to

your

question is: you know the way you experience life, you don't experience life, you experience life what you focus on and what you focus on.

What you focus on is based on beliefs and values, whatever you believe, you tend to see that you know, if I said to your audience right now, close your eyes before I close my eyes, look around the room and see everything that is brown, everything behind you around you, clothes, anything on the walls, books, anything and then he says close your eyes and tell me everything you saw that was read people usually smile you say much more brown they rap and I open their eyes and look for red and guess what they find a lot of red well, you get what you want So our beliefs, our values, our rules that determine whether we experience heaven or hell within us are all internal, so which is like we can't control the external world, we can influence it, we have complete control of this internal world, but most of us don't.

I don't know how, during those six days people change their beliefs. I don't tell them what to believe, they figure out what's limiting them, they change their values ​​to what's most consistent with where they're at, and instead of breaking away like you know, I want to. make everyone happy and be honest at the same time. I want to make a billion dollars and sleep until noon. These create internal conflicts. We help people resolve internal conflicts. They create a compelling future and are in control of their own lives. And you are right. One year. They later found a 71% reduction in negative emotions. 52 Improvements and positive emotions a year after doing this, so the long-term impact of this is what impresses them the most.

Talk to me about the causes of depression because I know I talk about it a lot myself. work when people ask you, you know, hey, I'm really struggling, what should I do? In fact, I would tell people that cognitive behavioral therapy if it's really stagnant, so look at some of the research on psilocybin that I'm dealing with, what is that really deep-rooted neurochemical? Paths that people can go down with depression and I've always been hesitant to downplay the cause of depression by saying oh, you just have to think better, have better beliefs, all that, but when I saw the results of the appointment with the research of Destiny, I realized.

I think maybe I'm making the problem harder than it really is. Is it really that deep-rooted depression is simply the way people think or is there something so real about trauma that is sending you into a neurochemical cascade that you can't get away with it in any way simpler or better than me answering that question the head of the NIV HD or however they pronounce it uh you know for 22 years I haven't had it in front of me I wish I had to give you the exact quote maybe I would give it to you, you can publish it later if you want, but he said: you know, in 22 years I spent whatever it was 20 billion dollars, it's one of the most interesting studies in the world and it didn't move, you know, one person came out of depression.

The bottom line is that biochemistry is part of it, but it is related to what we focus on and what we feel. I can change your biochemistry in the blink of an eye. Close your eyes and have yourself imagine one. thing I can interrupt you put produces fear close your eyes produces something else we can produce a parasympathetic effect a calming effect so you can't separate the mind and the body you know together and that's why my focus is both I think you know from going to events I First believe in physiology, but it's not just biochemical, it's the way you move, it's the way you breathe, it's the way you make gestures.

If I told you there's a depressed person behind curtain number one here and I'll give you a hundred thousand. Donate a dollar to your favorite charity if you can describe your position. Everyone knows where they stand. Where is your head down? Where are the slumped shoulders? Do they breathe fully or shallowly? That's right, are they speaking loudly or softly? I know this because we've all practiced this at some point and then got depressed, right, but if you take that same person I don't care what's going on with them and you put their shoulders back, I know this sounds absurd and you make them breathe. different and they speak at a different pace and move their biochemical changes that way, so you have to change the way the body is used, but you also have to create a compelling future.

This is the way I see it. I look to these five to thrive. let me give you a little picture in your head think of a triangle the first basis of three things the basis of how you use your body affects your depression or your arousal whether someone is depressed or excited they use their body differently they breathe differently they move differently Differently, they talk differently, so you can make a biochemical change just by changing the body quite radically in the way you move. Secondly, it's what you focus on that determines what you feel, so if you're supposed to meet your husband or wife at 7 p.m. for dinner and you arrive and they're not there boyfriend girlfriend whoever you feel good some people go I'm angry some people go I'm worried well it's only seven o'clock you know they'll say it's 7:30 and they haven't shown up they haven't called they haven't sent messages of text well now he's going to be very worried I'm very angry you know it's 8 30 11 cold you know I'm full a woman tells me true I didn't wait for the bastard, but my point is if you're angry or if you're worried, those are biochemical effects , but they're all based on what you focused on, if you were really angry, like they did again, you know they're probably joking. with another person if you imagine in your mind you are going to get angry but if you were worried you thought: what would happen if they were in a car accident and you would get a very different biochemical effect?

But people have habits of what they focus on and those habits also

become

your biochemical habits and therefore reinforce each other. It's not a one-way street, so you know I really believe that exercise is one of the most important elements that pushes someone beyond their normal comfort zones physiologically. While you are simultaneously working in your head creating something, then you need a strong physiology, you need a really clear focus because you are only experiencing what you focus on in the human brain, it is a generalization and dedistortion device that your conscious mind can only handle. that way. many things at once you are not thinking about your clothes touching your skin or you know the sound of your heartbeat until I mention it or let's say you know the sound of in your ear of being able to hear that heartbeat all those things I have to call your attention because your brain is erasing most of what's going on, so it's not consciously overwhelmed, so we pay attention to a small number of things, so if you're really happy, you're erasing all the things that might bother you . or make you worry, if you are really worried you are eliminating all the things that you could be grateful for or happy about, so we tend to generalize Our lives because we are cognitive misers, we don't want to think things through, so if you have a physiology strong, a strong focus, then the third part is the meaning, it is what creates emotion, like if someone says something and you say they are disrespecting me or they are challenging me or they are training me or they are loving me well, any word. you select those sensations in your body, your biochemistry

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s and then you know someone might say oh, you know, this happened to me because God is punishing me or this happened to me because God is challenging me or there are problems here because it's a gift from God or of someone.

Another thing he says has nothing to do with God, it's the fact that I've been a lazy bastard, right, whatever you do in your head, there's a biochemical effect, so there's the body, there's the focus and there's the language. , those three shape how you feel. moment by moment if you are excited right now using your body your focus and your language in a different way than if you are angry than if you are worried Etc but then what makes you use these three once you understand them is you You need what you know call a compelling future, you need something to move you forward and I feel really bad for today's generation, you know, the Gen Z Millennials, because many of them are now talking about not even having children because of the exaggeration of the problems .

We have always had problems. I remember we were going to run out of oil, where the ozone was going to be destroyed and then in the 1870s, the cover of Time magazine. We have always had these challenges and we have always

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ed to adapt. these challenges, whatever they are, but people today think that these problems are forever because we have had moments here that we have never had before, where we literally shut down the entire world and we had people trapped in their homes and that has an effect on people because they don't have a compelling future, so you have to develop a committed future and what ultimately allows you to do that is what's underneath this triangle, if there's a circle, think about a compelling future and there's the power of identity. .

Identity is who they are. Beyond the problem, there is something inside you that is bigger than anything that has ever happened to you or can happen to you, and tapping and finding that part of yourself is the way to give someone sustained strength to have a reason to do it. Compelling future something that they are looking for and it has to be a compelling future about something more than just getting by that is not compelling or surviving or doing well. You know that the secret of anyone who has been successful is that they found something that matters more to them thanthemselves, something that means to them that they want to serve more than themselves because, as human beings, if you get in your head, you're dead, almost all of us can find something to get angry about, that's the nature of the Mind. , the mind is constantly dissecting things separating comparing, but when you look back and look at someone's life and look at the totalitarian aspect of what am I here to serve?

What am I here to give? What am I being called to in life? Those are the people you know. They were in concentration camps and they survived, you know, if you read Man's Search for Meaning, Victor Frankel, one of my favorite people on earth, right, it's the whole piece where they had a will to live because they had a compelling future they said: I'm going to live so I can tell this story so it never happens again They suffered the most intense suffering but they overcame it because they had a compelling future Identity and compelling future are the fundamental things that shape people, so what I do is really helping people discover those things and I do it through immersion because one small step at a time is like trying to

learn

a foreign language that you know most people took. a language in high school and college and they can't speak it, but you know, if I said I wanted to learn Italian and you had the money and the time and I dropped you off in Rome and I said I'll see you in 90 days 90 days from now without teacher you will speak fluently because you are in this talking and breathing that is how we learn best not one word at a time or uh cat is cat cat cat cat right so I see that with my daughter and the same things with humans so I make a total immersion training and I and I have learned over the years that people want a great education but they want to be entertained first.

We are no longer an information society because the information is too correct. We're drowning in information, we're starving for wisdom, so what I've learned to do is how to get the attention of people who wouldn't sit through a three-hour movie for 10, 11, 12 hours a day, even at distance, you know? because we do all these shows now live and in person, we also do hybrids where people from all over the world participate and we do it 12 hours a day and they are crazy about entertainment, excitement juice, everything they want, they are getting. the best education and while they do it, while they are there I make them do the things that produce the change, so when they leave they have already made the change, they already have momentum and that type of e-cubing is what I call entertaining them, educating them and empowering them that process that I've refined over the last 45 years this is my I'm about to finish my 46th year doing this I started when I was three of course the right standard that's what I would have done I guessed yeah so it's okay , talk to there are people in my life that I love very much who I have told them a thousand times and they still haven't made that change.

Yes, how did you do it? In fact, at one point I heard you say. Look, I am actually a filtering mechanism. I am not worried about people who are not prepared to make that change. I want to find the people who are and give them the tools they need. I have understood it correctly. Do you do it? just accept that some people will never do it or it's just immersion or whatever is missing and you might be able to get even those people to make a dramatic change, yes if you can get them in it's the ultimate, no you already know everything.

What I'm saying is that I'm not running around, you know, imposing my point of view on everyone, right? When I was 20 years old, I would be poor, I would go to Denny's in the middle of the night if I helped anyone with this. two stories I see some poor guy at the counter say Hey, listen, I have these tools. I can help. I mean, that's how crazy I was, so I think you're probably referring to it as people raise their hands, I'm here, but uh, but people drag people all the time or throw people away who don't want to. be there and you know they're going to be there for 12 hours a day and I address it right away, but usually within 20 or 30 minutes people are so engaged that they're, they can't even believe it, they're enjoying it, it's not what they think it is.

They think it's going to be, I don't know what they think it's going to be like, sitting in a room, someone just talking to you and that's it. It's not what it is, this is an experience, but yeah, they need to have experiences. A belief is a poor substitute for an experience, so you can say something to someone and they can nod and understand it cognitively. That's very different from the visceral experience of getting it. in your body where it starts to happen automatically and just think about the learning process or even mastery, you know you are a person like me, we are always looking to master different things, how do you master things well?

The first step is cognitive. understand well, you understand how it works and stuff, and four dollars will get you a Starbucks, because you know understanding doesn't do anything, but you have to do it as a first step and most people, oh, I know. I know because they understand. If you're not doing it, you're not owning it, you're not experiencing it, then the second step is enough repetition of what you understand with enough emotion and we produce emotion using music and movement and everything else and asking questions and having people remember in processes with eyes closed because you know, if I ask you where you were on 9/11, almost everyone on Earth can tell you, even if they're not Americans, where they were and first heard about the towers falling, who was around and what .

They saw it, but if I ask you where you are in 811, no one can tell you unless something really special happens that day because information without emotion is barely retained, so when you tell your friends you're not going to do squats, they I'm not going to do that even if they understand or go, that's interesting, there is no emotional change because people only change in an altered state, you know, most people you know think, you know, hypnosis is something that people do it to them, most people do it. Living in a hypnotized state, you know that if you look at someone you are driving your car and then something catches your attention, you concentrate on that for a while and then you also become holy, who has been driving this car for a few minutes, what?

TRUE? you're in a trance or you go to a hotel and someone pushes the elevator and it's already on and they press the button. If I could get five dollars for every time this happened, they would be entranced. For most people we are simply performing automatic movements. About 48% of what they do, science says every day is automated, so they're not really thinking clearly, they're not open to what's really possible, so what we're doing is breaking that down. doing something with so much immersion and then the third step is doing it quickly and then getting into your body, so that's like being confident, tying your shoes like you know I can get up and do twelve fifteen thousand fifty thousand, you know in these days. we have a million people who attended my last five-day seminar, a million people, over a million people, so it's like the size of the audience is getting bigger and bigger and I've developed skills more and more strong to do so, but it is also increasing.

It gets into people's bodies because, like tying your shoes, you've done it so many times that you don't have to think about it, it happens just fine. I've done so many covers of things over 45 years that you know it's like when I go. Just so you know, I have challenged anyone to face. I have 50 answers and they are already in my body. I don't have to think it through and try to figure it out while they're away while I'm wasting my time. can simply deliver the result, but that is what makes the master something and that is why you need immersion and it also requires hunger yes, but hunger can be awakened someone may not be hungry I have no interest but then they see something that really excites or they go through a pretty painful time or they find an environment where they see what is possible and that's what happens in our environments.

Well, let me tell you an idea. Parents often ask me who they are, their children are simply having difficulties. I don't know what to do and I always give you this is the backup reality, if it is absolutely necessary to make a change in your child's behavior, I will tell you what will work, it probably won't, but I am convinced. It will work whenever you may have to kidnap them, you will take them to a remote location and put them in a group of people in the company of a group of people that they respect and earn their respect.

They will have to change their behaviors to what you want them to do, assuming you want them to do something that is really good for them. Stop doing drugs, stop wasting time living in fear and put them in that group. They will have to conform to the core values ​​of that group that, as you know, brought them together for that reason, they have positive and uplifting core values, but the key mechanism for me is to gain acceptance from these people. They are worthy of respect, they will have to conform, but I think they have to want their respect, do you think there is some of that or mass?

Can people do this in isolation? Well, of course, people can do it in isolation. People do it all the time. isolation, your strategy is a really good strategy and, you know, I have five children and five grandchildren, my second youngest child, I had an experience where when he was 16 he got trapped, you know, he went to school at Lay Rose in Switzerland and incredible school he wanted to go so badly I had the contacts that I thought man, if I could have done this I had gone to school his roommate was the son of the king of Oman who was 16 or 15 years old in reality they were 15 in the time when he already had 14 cars, all kinds of Ferraris, everyone can imagine a different Rolex or, you know, a fifty thousand dollar watch every day, so my son, who I told, will work hard over the summer to help pay for this, that's how it is.

By going to work, my son adapted to that environment and, unbeknownst to me, the woman in my life at the time gave him a credit card and at the age of 15 he spent over a hundred thousand dollars competing with kings and queens . and I started doing drugs, you know, light drugs or you know smoking marijuana, etc., marijuana, uh, I gained over a hundred pounds and I, when I first went to see him in Switzerland, they didn't come for the first three months, they're very strict. I want the kids to adjust and he gained like 25 pounds and I pulled the counselor aside and said listen, this is not right and he says no, these are the initial transitions, we see this all the time he's going to play rugby, he's going to lose weight. much more.

The next year and a half he gained over 100 pounds so I took him out of school, brought him back to the United States and sure enough in a very short time I had to do an intervention and because one of his friends told me what was really going on with him and then I made the intervention, he is not my blood son, so he said, you know, I'm going to call my real father, who you know was a good man who gave you knowledge of his physical sperm, but he had not been present most of his life.

I've been, you know, I've been raising Josh at that point since he was five years old. A really painful situation, but if you're a parent, you have to do what it takes, so I knew. what he needed was what you described, he needed an environment where he had to earn everything because unfortunately his mother and I were divided, she was giving everything so he had no sense of inner pride, it's like when people talk about self esteem . I hate the term, it's overused, but self-esteem doesn't come from what other people tell you. Someone can tell you your whole life that you are beautiful, you are strong or smart and you can't trust yourself or not think, so someone can tell you.

You're a piece of shit and you go, I'll show you and a part of you grows as a result, so it has nothing to do with people who tell us that self-esteem is earned by yourself, it comes from doing something that is incredibly difficult and No one else knows, you know and that's why you have self-esteem, so he didn't have any of that. The truth is that achieving your professional goals is not easy. You have to be willing to go the extra mile to stand out and achieve it. Hard things are better than no one, but there are 10 steps I want to walk you through that will increase your efficiency 100 times so you can exceed your goals and spend more time in your day.

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Who are you that are wasting away and put in an environment where you are out in the wild and can't survive without taking on the challenges and people around you? That's another modeling device like that, so I'm a big believer in immersion where someone has to grow where it's not a should grow it's a have to grow there's no choice because you know, when I work with people, which I basically do , if you look at me, it's asking questions, I do different things, but basically I put the walls on the side behind them they go in and in and there's only one way forward and they magically move in that direction, that's my job so I know how to do it in many different ways that don't require me to remove someone for you.

I know a year and put them aside, but I just want to point out that in some cases with drug use and things of that nature, your approach would be a very good approach, it's not necessary, you could take someone for a few days and set them aside . in a new environment and have them completely reconfigure how they are because remember that everything is conditioned, so the habits that you have, the way you think, the way you feel, the way you perceive life, is conditioning any pattern condition can be changed with new conditioning and it is not like that.

It won't take that long if you know what you're doing, you know they did research at UC Irvine years ago and I don't support this research, but this is what they did: they took a monkey and cut off four of its fingers and then they just manually bend its finger ten a thousand times, so if you do this right now, if people at home say yes they say your finger right, how did you do it? I know I thought it through when they took the tape off the monkey's finger, guess what? he does this for no good reason he is conditioned imagine that every time you bend your finger you are putting a connecting thread between the neurons the nerve cells in the brain it is not elegant just think about the nerve cells do it again two threads ten thousand times right connected, some people are on their way to work every day and they get off at the same entrance ramp, but one day they are talking on the phone and they don't need to go down that exit ramp and they get off through it. automatically true, they are like a monkey, they have been trained, but what UC Irvine discovered is that they could interrupt this pattern and they could create a new pattern and it didn't take ten thousand containers to do it if they stimulated the pleasure center of the brain, if They stand in the center of pleasure, Wally bent his finger and they got like a hundred connecting threads, so two dozen of these produce what they used to get from ten thousand, so I use that principle and what I do is why the people enjoy it so much.

To a large extent, it's not a pain-driven experience, it's a pleasure-driven experience because listen, your brain will avoid pain any way it can, it will move toward pleasure, well, if I can get you to link pleasure with what you need to do to make it not like that. It takes willpower, it's like willpower never lasts. I have a lot of willpower. I know you have it too, but there is a limit to willpower. There is no limit to when you link pleasure with something, how far your body, mind and soul will push towards it, so it really is changing what you link pain and pleasure with it, that creates lasting change, so tell me about trauma.

I have seen people in your own seminars who have gone through things so traumatic that it is almost hard to believe that one human could put another human through. something like that, but they do it, how does someone do it like that who is going to have a very deep-rooted sense of their own identity, that it is broken in some fundamental way, that there is no path beyond that identity and that is creating what I I call it a frame of reference, so it's the distortion that you were talking about before, we distort things, we're creating that distorted funhouse mirror that they're seeing their world through, how do you do it?

Because I know someone who's been through something like this when they hear all this, it just sounds. too easy, it's too easy, you're making it sound so simple, yeah, what's the process to get over that trauma? Well, first, people engage in their trauma, people engage in their pain, if you want to know, the biggest drug on the planet is not cocaine. It's not heroin, uh, it's not marijuana, it's not, you know, some prescription medication, the biggest drug you know on the planet is problems because we all have a deep fear and the deepest fears we have are two, one is that we are not enough. not smart enough, young enough, rich enough, pretty enough, funny enough, something enough and if we're not enough, it excavates the deepest fear we have, which is we won't be loved and love is oxygen. of the soul, so you know, a baby is if they are not loved physically kinesthetically, they develop what is called failure to thrive syndrome, that's how desperate our nervous system is for love, so when human beings think, "God mine, if I fail at this, it will seem like I'm not enough and I won.

He is not worthy of love, they tend to find a reason why that is or it is not his fault, it is something they did to me. I have ADHD. I was born with it. I was raped. I was whatever and they might even tell the truth. Someone may have actually been raped, it's a horrible situation, but other people have been raped and they got over it and are on the other side, this person hasn't because it becomes their reason for not being where they want to be in their life. life, so the bottom line is that one mother can lose her daughter or son to a drunk driver and spend the rest of her life suffering, and another creates crazy mothers against drunk drivers and does something about it and feels a feeling of freedom and sense of serving that child in a sense of higher purpose and what they are doing, so it's not the problem, it's not the trauma, it's finding what they value more than the problem and everyone has a place where there is something he values ​​more than trauma.

Some people accumulate trauma because they realize that I have been so traumatized by the loss of this child that my other child feels completely unloved and they realize that I am losing that love. I'm losing that son if I don't fix myself right. I need a higher level of what is called Leverage Leverage is what makes change a must, not a must, as long as it is a must. You'll have your story and your story could be a real story and you'll tell your story and you'll share your story with yourself or other people or both and you're stuck, the trauma is you know it's not a bruise, it's not a tattoo, right, and Hebrews can be cured, but not unless you are dedicated to curing it and what many people remember.

When I was diagnosed with a brain tumor, I saw this happen so many times that I didn't tell anyone. I didn't tell my spouse at the time the first day that he was trying to process it because I didn't want to. People started treating me differently and the only person who knew for the first few days was my assistant because I had talked to the doctor, so before I could tell my spouse at the time, all of a sudden, you know? Everyone treated me like I was indestructible. I taught people to do that because I want to help everyone so there was no no it's like I do whatever it takes so it was inhumane at that moment and all of a sudden my assistant started. saying you know we shouldn't book that now and we shouldn't do this now and I started getting love and attention and connection for having this problem.

I was like whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa I won't do it, I won't do it. go down that slippery slope, but that takes a very conscious mind to do and luckily for me, I've had the opportunity to deal with millions of people, so I see these patterns all the time, but most people their problem It's their drug, it's the drug against the fear that I'm not enough and I won't be loved even if they leave No, it's me, I'm so broke What you're really saying is calm me, love me, they want that connection. through their problem, so you have to decide that there is something you value more than your problem when you decide that you can make it happen, but most people won't do it unless they get an environment where they see that happen and then do it. know. our environments, you know, I have one of my nights, a date with Destiny is called, you know, suicide night and it's not to be funny, it's just in any room with several thousand people, in my case, five or ten thousand people You know, there's always at least a dozen people who are suicidal and I wouldn't have been doing it for 40 years and you know it doesn't matter who it is.

I did one over Zoom last year to give you an idea, which is a little scary. because when I'm in my presence I know they're not going anywhere I can handle it but it's Zoom they could just close the computer and then what the hell happens if they freak out in the middle I have a partner in this process Chloe Madonna Who do you know? Every five years, psychiatrists and psychologists from around the world get together and choose the top 10 people who represent their field and for the last 30 years she has been in the top ten, so she has made movies of all my work and now therapists introduce you to continuing education. uh credits to continue getting certified by studying them, so we're training people to do this so it doesn't just happen at my seminars or my appointments with Destiny.

I guess this comes back to the triangle, but what are you looking for? They first have to understand the story that they're telling themselves to help them relax, like when you try to dig into that, what are you looking to tap into, tighten the walls and get them moving in one direction? I'm listening. for something that they value more than what they're paying for or I'm trying to do research to find where it is, but first I'm trying to figure out do you think we all have a life story, right? Some people's lives are a warning to others. life is an example if your life is a warning it can still become an example if you are alive right you have that choice that is the best story of all time the comeback story so what I am looking for is which one It is your story and history.

It is driven by number one what is your desire if you go to the movies read a book in the first few minutes the main character you will find out what is his desire is to merge with God is to find a great relationship and have children is to free yourself from being enslaved or whatever That is, there is a driving desire and then as soon as you have a desire, there is a problem because otherwise you would have your desire and the problem usually is that the peace of character within you is missing. You're selfish, you don't give enough, you're not creative enough, you don't trust something enough and then as you go through the story of a person's life, what happens is they come up with a plan and you always know the plan. phrase you know if you want to make God laugh tell him your plans the truth you know that's how if the plan doesn't work you end up having battles and the battles are invariably with external enemies with intimate enemies like who can hurt you the most the person you don't know or the person you know You love that it seems to betray you and then there is the enemy within, the conflicts within yourself and as you fight those battles, if you continue to grow, you get to a point where you have ideas, you see what the real truth is that I am no one else. , it's me, this is what needs to change and if you see that and act on it, jump through the opening so to speak, then life will never be the same again or life will be happily ever after as it says in every story is true because you have made a change in the core values, beliefs and emotions that drive your life, so I look at it that way.

I'm looking to see what your story is and you wantchange your life, change your story. Are they playing in the pawn position? Are they in the position of the king? Are they making a cutting gesture? Correct? Are they the martyrs? Do you know what role they are playing? What is the story they are telling themselves and then me? Look for something they value more, for example, the woman who was going to take her own life and has already given up all of her things. Within seconds of talking to her, he mentioned something about her father who just died and so I asked him. a little about her father both her father and mother had just died she had gone through sexual abuse and her brothers and sisters didn't want to talk about it and as a result they distanced themselves from her and that's why she felt like she didn't have friends know anything suffer financially and suffer a lot of physical pain, so all these things happen once people say, guess what it would be easier to die than live, which is not true, but if you believe that, you try to take your life, so, how I researched her. father, he grew up in the depression and he was extraordinary and I could see the respect and love for his father, so when I asked him to tell me these stories and I said, well, how did he do that during that time when he had no money and people were jumping off buildings and I and I went deeper and deeper and it's like he just valued this and he learned from his father and you know, he never forgot certain fundamental lessons and I was like, oh, I.he said it's interesting and I said it and what main lessons did you learn from your father and gradually I started to find where the resources were why she's not going to commit suicide why what is the influence that I can use to make her change and then you I can see this emotional transformation happen. for about 45 minutes until it was so incredibly emotional and complete at the end like no, I'm never going to take my life, I can't take my life, I'm not going to take my life and she starts to piece things together really quickly I want, I want insist on that, so what you were discovering is that through her father she could see significant values ​​that she already resonated with and then it was about getting her to transpose those values ​​of You're putting them on your dad, but you can value those same things in yourself, now you have the opportunity to live up to those values ​​that will help you change your story and your sense of identity and that will give you the meaning and the purpose to bring out that is the intellectual description, the emotional description , yes, and that it would not have moved here, although that is the mechanics, what moves it is I can't disappoint my father.

I'm in the worst moment. I can't disappoint my father. what I led her to do well and then build a compelling future what she can build what she can do what she has the ability to make real what she has achieved how to harness the resources she eliminated within herself and reactivate them so that she feels live again within it, although all the other things you described are the structural intellectual impact of what really happens, but that is not what changes someone, it all comes from emotion, we are emotional creatures, we all study as if you were talking about it using your brain.

You are such a smart person, I love you so much and you analyze everything, but your damn brain is not going to do what it's going to do, that's enough emotion, what movement is power, emotion is what starts wars, it's what ends the wars, the emotions that catch you. Married emotions are where children come from. Divorce is where the emotions come from everything you can imagine of a major change in humanity, from the most extreme of war to the gentlest of love. Everything comes from human emotions, so it is the mixture of emotions. Know what you want and have the right fuel to get you there and you have it if the fuel doesn't burn.

You're just bored, you're not going anywhere if the fuel is total trauma and I'm overwhelmed, you just explode and you're not going anywhere. There is a delicate balance and I have learned over the years how to help people find that balance. What's happening? Here is my friend Tom Bilyu. I have a great question to ask you: how would you rate your level of personal discipline on a scale of one? to ten, if your answer is less than 10, I have something interesting for you and let me tell you right now that discipline, by its very nature, means forcing yourself to do difficult things that are stressful, boring, which is what kills most of people or possibly Scary or even painful, now here's the thing: achieving big goals and pushing yourself to reach your potential requires you to do those challenging and stressful things and persevere with them even when it gets boring and it will get boring to develop your levels of Personal discipline is not easy. but let me tell you it is worth it, in fact I will tell you that you will never achieve anything significant unless you develop the discipline correctly.

I just published the Impact Theory University class called How to Build a Armored Discipline that Teaches You the Process. To develop yourself in this area so that you can strive to do the difficult things that greatness will require of you, right click on the link on the screen, register for this class right now and get to work. I'll see you inside this. Impact Theory University workshop and tell my friends to be legendary, peace, okay, this is really interesting and you may have pointed out what I struggled with the most, what I find compelling is certainly being able to intellectually understand what it is.

This is happening because I have used that to change my own life. That's what works for me. Do you feel like I would ask you to consider anything? Please, what you just said is absolutely true. I know you very well. You know how much I want. I respect you and I love you personally and what you achieve in life is extraordinary what your community achieves is extraordinary but there is an emotional inflection that made you use those things in those moments it was not just those understandings if the emotion made you find the answers brother and so you have a very intelligent mind, you found the answers, you were able to use it, but there are turning moments that made you do it, there is a reason why you left your company after building it for a billion dollars, it was not intellectual, there are emotions, So, but you have developed your mind so much that it is as if your right arm, your biceps, is very strong, your left arm not so much and I invite you to consider that your left arm is the most powerful and you have used it in key. moments, but it's also very protective to use the mind because we're all afraid of feeling too much, so the more I can understand it, I put it here, I can analyze it, I don't have to be in it, but the truth is where you're going to use your impact. or your real impact from The theory where the real impact is is when there is enough emotion that leads you to apply the things that you understand intellectually well or to find the answer that you didn't even know. you have the answers, you found the answers intellectually because the emotion drove you, so it's really about studying what creates that emotion, what makes the difference in anyone's life, that's where it all begins and ends, it's with the emotion and yet our society is about here, you know, Chinese medicine. it's about the right heart which is considered the right center in America we think it's the brain yeah you know when you're born you know your heart starts beating that's how we know you're alive and there's no brain yet I mean that literally It's the initial new sense of intelligence, so you know for thousands of years even poets have talked about the power of the heart, well the heart has tremendous power and there is a biochemical connection between the brain and the heart that I know you know. and you are learning.

How to use it is where you create more lasting change when you understand it all. I was good when I learned how to move people. I became excellent at what I was doing. Yeah, that feels like a really important statement and now I'm going to do it. Give you a little more information about some of what irritates me. The reason people who engage in self-help fall into snake oil salesman territory is that some people are very good at orchestrating emotions, but they don't really know how to create lasting change in people. And so it is, and a lot of people get caught up in that part, well, that's just looking like it gets inflated, they're inflated and then it drops, it's gone, yeah, so that's my big fear, not necessarily with myself.

I'm pretty good at doing what's useful to me in terms of moving me toward fulfillment just to put a very short limit on it, yes, but what do you think? In fact, I'll ask it another way, how have you avoided it? fall into the realm of because so many people who imitate you only exist in the realm of making people feel something emotional but you don't do that, so you figure this out, okay, I'm going to do this thing about not letting your dad down, but One year later and I'm getting back into the studio now, one year later, people still have this lasting impact, so how and where are you translating it?

Okay, we're not going to let your dad down and this is how we're going to do it because it's not enough, that's what provides the leverage right now, we have to condition your nervous system to feel a different way in these contexts in this moment where you feel overwhelmed, that's why I use emotion with Precision, it's more. like a laser, it's not a pump, you know, people watch a seminar with me and they see 10,000 or 20,000 people in the stadium jumping. You all know it's not about jumping, it's about using this scientifically to change the biochemistry in that room.

You know, the study they did at Stanford, they followed me for three years and they put me on this 85,000 Vice that measures everything, heart rate variability, everything you can imagine, and then every hour they came and took my saliva and a little bit of blood for Look how my biochemistry was changing, it was so radical because we found out that I jumped a thousand times on an average day on stage a thousand times and I weighed 200 185 pounds, so every time you go down it's four times your body weight when you hit. Imagine a million pounds multiplied by a thousand jumps, you know, a million pounds of pressure basically goes to my body in just one day, um, my lactic acid, if you're talking to someone and you're running and there comes a point where you already you can not speak. because your lactic acid was four, well I'm 18, I'm still talking, but the craziest thing they discovered was they started measuring my hearing too and it's crazy, it seems, I know you know about mirror neurons, right?

You can look at someone and then you start to experience in your body what they are doing well. I bring an audience from all over the world, including people at home, right now that we do these things digitally, we'll have 25,000 people in case I could have ten thousand people in front of me, another, you know, fifteen thousand at home in 100 countries and they went out and they did the same tests and they literally reflect my biochemistry and there is something that they found when studying guys like Tom Brady and They studied the Stanley Cup champions from Tampa Bay, a lightning bolt, etc., when they come to a stressful point, they call it championship biochemistry.

There is a place where your testosterone increases, so you have this incredible boost that also makes you retain. Whatever you're thinking, because with testosterone you remember it well because it creates a biochemical change, but also cortisol, which is the stress hormone, falls through the floor, which is why Tom Brady has one minute left and he does these incredible comebacks he is on. this Zone, well, that's where I am and I bring people biochemically into the zone and then I deliberately take them out to produce a little more fear. Take it out, you know, I'm building muscles with them and you literally see that it sounds like music for what it is.

It's happening there and every person they tested goes through this biochemical change, so a year later they not only had the influence, oh, I'm doing this for my mom, or new values ​​or new beliefs, they add the biochemistry that is connected them. that gives them strength under stress and that's why they are doing well a year later once I did a follow up there and I couldn't believe it how could 11 months later this is still improving well with new beliefs and new values ​​that you are getting better? your life, but also because it was connected with so much emotion, you have also had a biochemical change, so the combination answers your original questions.

I said you can't separate the mind from the body. I do both when someone just pumps people up. above, you know, copy what I do in terms of the surface, they don't know what they're doing in the deep part and some people do the D part, but frankly, they don't understand everyone because they don't produce the emotional part. It changes so that people intellectually understand why they are in a bad state and they can explain it to you, but nothing changes, it is the combination of both that produces a real and lasting transformation, okay, tell me about specific values, is there a set generic values ​​that everyone should have? living your life against, is it all super exclusive to the individual and how do we create and make those values ​​stick?

It's a big question when I was like 35 years old. For about a year I asked him everywhere I went. Taxi Driver what is the mostimportant to you in life, what else is most important and that's how you find out what people value most, and I was looking for that ideal set of values, if we could all do that, that shows that you know my level of development at 35, right? Thinking that we all have a set of values ​​at different stages of life, we need to value different things, there are different lessons, there are predictable things that happen from 0 to 21, they are not identical for everyone, but there are certain things where you are accumulating knowledge and skills.

Do you know if you are lucky? If someone is taking care of you, most people have someone taking care of you for at least a period of that time. You go from 22 to 42. Now you are trying out what you were taught, all the things you learned. You're taught to believe and then you find out that relationships are a little more complex than you thought when you get into a deep, intimate relationship and then you find out I'm not invincible, so from 22 to 42, if you work at it, you're the one. soldier of society and you're learning and you're growing and you're testing and now you're developing Who are you 43-63 approximately you know segments of 20 years some people you know I went to work when I was 11 years old, right, so I didn't start at 21.

But you get the idea of ​​the general phases of life, but 4363 that is your period of power if you worked hard in the first two seasons, if you planted in the spring and took care of things during the summer and it continued to grow, then comes autumn for you, that is the time of the greatest harvest in terms of business success in terms of life in terms of wisdom in terms of understanding and improvements in your relationships and you stop judging yourself so madly, hopefully, and then from 64 to 84 to 104 to the oldest living humans you know 120That's a different period.

That's a period where if you've done well in the beginning, you get to be the Elder of the tribe and you get to be in a place where you can Mentor people and you want to do it, and it's not about you. Not anymore because you live enough life to know that's an empty promise. You know there are many feelings you can have about yourself. You know you buy things, music, drugs, sex or whatever. You begin to realize that life has a higher and deeper meaning. purpose and it's about more than me, life is not about me, it's about us and when that starts to happen to people, if they're healthy, if they took care of themselves in those first three stages, it's the most satisfying time in life, research shows.

It's more satisfying if you're healthy, so it's kind of a race track of life and an absorbing sense of things, and then each of us goes to those stages and we have different life experiences, but we're also placed in a different place in history. so now we are in winter, it is not difficult to understand this if I asked you, you know if you were born in 1910 and you know what life is like when you come of age at 21, well that's when you know 1929, when the Values ​​plummeted and people were jumping off buildings, so these people who saw the end of World War I when they were kids and we're the heroes and they saw all this new technology, radio, televisions and automobiles, they thought they were going to have fun. and just when they arrived.

All hell broke loose between 21 and 42 because once the Depression ended, we entered World War II, but that particular generational placement doubles every 80 years, that's where the Millennials are right now and some Gen Z , that Generation, by the way, was not. respected, they were called Flappers, they were irresponsible, but when the environment changed, they grew up and became known as the Greatest Generation, but think about how they came home and had this time of peaceful prosperity in the late '40s, '50s. until Kennedy was shot in '63, those are unique. That is a kind of spring, it is easy to grow, then there is the hot summer where there are struggles between generations and values ​​within the country, and that is thinking about the 60s and 70s and then the 80s, 90s and 2000s, very different than the '60s and '70s, so we are now. in winter winter just means it doesn't mean that every day is bad, it just means that the general theme is fear, the general theme is limitation and people will get tired of it just like they got tired of the 80s and 90s of go go. go and it's all about me, get rich and it's all about me, now those times are over, winter is running out, we're halfway through, if you study history, no one knows exactly what the 20 year segments are.

I'm giving you our generalizations, but we probably still have some war to deal with, that's what usually happens, there is economic war and then there is war that is seen on a world stage and then we see what is happening now in Russia, what's happening in China, it could be a different kind of war, it could be a war, you know, turning off the electricity, it could be a cyber war, but we're going to go through difficult times, but on the other side it's spring, so the beauty is that you know, some winters. they are long some are short some are difficult some are easy but you never skip winter you don't go from autumn and harvest directly to spring but when you go through winter and you become strong Now the new spring comes if you do well in winter if you take Take care of yourself and become strong, that is my goal, to help people right now.

My goal is how to help people right now. That's why, by the way, I'm doing these challenges that I'm doing now, because ever since greed happened, people are stuck. At home I asked myself how I can help a large number of people and I don't want money to get in the way. I don't want it to get in the way, so I do a five-day challenge of about two, usually sometimes three hours. I tell them an hour and a half two a day but I want to give more, I don't charge anything for it and in the last three years we have had a million people participate in each of these things and it's free I'm just showing people what to do with your body what to do with your mind what to do with your emotions what to do with your relationship what to do with your business because winter is scary for most people with a career or business, you know, you see all the layoffs that happen in the technology sector Business, you see the challenges that we have all gone through since covid and now there are new challenges coming with inflation, all this, so what are you going to do?

Well, some people will hope it's not a strategy. Some will give up. Others. They're going to be updated and that's my skill set. I'm made for winter, that's why I'm doing this challenge. I'm doing this new challenge that I'm coming here in January or January 24-28. There is no Cobra but it is not something free, it is completely free. All people have to do is go to unshakable.com and sign up. If you want to bring a friend or family member, you can do so from home. look participate and have the experience and every day we are going to address these things so that you become more unbreakable.

What I mean by unwavering is that it's not that nothing bothers you, it's just that when everyone else is going crazy, you have perspective. you know how to take advantage of the situation you have a plan you know what to do because financially these times are the best times in the world to make money you know the depression more people became millionaires in the depression at any time in history you know John F Kennedy father Joe Kennedy you know That he had three million dollars in 1929, you had 62 million dollars, the equivalent of three billion dollars three years later, because when things go wrong, people give up and get scared, and opportunity appears.

For those who keep their heads straight. whether it's your relationship or your body or your finances, I've spent my entire life collecting the best strategies and tools, so any of your listeners can join me, just come join me from January 4th to January 28th, but you have to register , so just go become unshakable.com sign up for free and I'll see you then we'll dive into this stuff so it's not an intellectual discussion, we'll actually do it, no, I love that and obviously you're everything. What you have posted has had a great impact on my life.

I want to get back to the values ​​around depression and changing where you are in your life, so I have a thesis that I think may play into why you're focused on making people unbreakable what it's all about. My thesis is this: satisfaction is the ultimate game of life satisfaction has a recipe and that recipe is that you need to do really difficult things because evolution demands it quite frankly, so I have to do really difficult things in order to progress , something that I have stolen directly from you. Progress is a fundamental pillar of human happiness.

I think it's very true, so you are working very hard to obtain a skill set which is the feeling of progress that allows you to serve not only yourself but also other people and if you do that then you enter a very virtuous circle. of gaining Mastery in something so you are improving in something that allows you to serve others. people, you get feedback from them, so you've made my life better, which then makes you want to work harder, gives you meaning and purpose, so when I think about values ​​from that perspective, I think about things that need to be aligned with the The reality of that formula I will say is a gift or a curse depending on how you look at evolution and it is simply what is necessary to survive long enough to have children who have children, that is the first social creature anyway, that is the formula and when I think of unbreakable I think of it in light of the fact that nature demands that you work hard at something that you earn it that it has been difficult for you to persevere and overcome that what you are pushing for and Persevere is meant to allow you to transform potential into a real, usable skill set, that's progress so you can serve, is that for you or is there something I'm missing?

No, it absolutely lands in the simplest way that I always describe it, is that there are two. skills you must master to have life on your terms to have an extraordinary life to be extraordinary Life is life on your terms it's not my life it's what it is for you for some people that's what you know a big white crime and three children for some people, it's building a big business for some people, it's being an author, there are so many different things, poetry, music, so everyone has to find what they really love, but the skills you have to master to have life in your terms are a the science of achievement that's what you're describing how I take what I imagine and make it a reality and those are strategies and they are proven solid strategies there are certain rules of the game if you want to be healthy and you want a lot of energy each one is biochemically slightly different but there are certain rules if you violate them you will have little energy and illnesses if you align with them you have enormous energy and strength the same in Finance anyone can grow financially but most of us do not learn the basic fundamentals and that is why they lose the strategy, so that's driven by strategy and I spend a good part of my life teaching that to people, but then the second part is what creates lasting satisfaction and lasting satisfaction, like you said.

I always say that progress equals happiness if we are not progressing, we are not happy, but it is not necessary to progress at every moment to notice it, that is another wild card, that is my lifestyle and yours, right, our style of life Life is the formula you described, but the truly definitive formula besides progress. It is gratitude because you can progress and then I always have to progress in every moment to be happy, so we need to grow. What you said is true, fundamentally, everything in the world grows or dies, everything the Universe contributes to or eventually eliminates.

I know by nature, so those are not my laws, those are the laws of nature, however, happiness only requires that you be grateful if you have a billion dollars and three beautiful children who love you and a beautiful husband or wife , but it does not matter. what you have if you are not grateful if you live in an emotional home a habitual rhythm of worry or frustration your life is called worry and frustration so you can be making progress and still be worried and frustrated so it's not exactly what you said you also have to develop a new decision that says: I am going to live a different life.

I have a vision for my life spiritually and that spiritual vision is: I am going to live in a beautiful state no matter what happens. It doesn't mean I'm never going to get angry, frustrated or angry, it just means I have a 90 second rule: I will get out of it as quickly as possible and figure it out from a beautiful place so that I am adding value to the people around me and myself. myself, so my own biochemistry benefits from that and that doesn't mean you're always making progress. I love progress. I believe that progress equals happiness, but it is not the only secret so you can really train your brain to appreciate because in the midst of anything that makes you angry, frustrated, afraid or worried, you are erasingall the things that you might be grateful for, you can appreciate that they are absolutely real and that's the problem with the mind, you know, I want your listeners or viewers to really think about this you don't experience life you experience life that you focus on that It's all if you focus on what's wrong what's wrong is always available shows what's right and that's why our focus produces our meanings and emotions that produce the actions of our life, so it really starts with the patterns of your focus.

Do you tend to focus on what you have or what you lack? The majority of achievers who seek to progress. I have dealt with millions of people. them over the years, as you all know, I'm one, they're right, most of the Achievers in progress is really important, they say, oh, he has to have the next thing and what's really wonderful, but it's just a way of doing things and So it's like saying to yourself wait a second I'm going to regret this progress or not I'm going to find the good in this I'm going to find the good in this and what that does is it produces a different fuel for live your life off of that fuel, it's easy to progress, you know, I used to tell myself that I was really angry, my brain becomes very sharp and fast and calculates that the answer is well, that's true, but when I'm really in a great state My brain is quick and fast and I enjoy it and the people around me enjoy it, so it's also about deciding how you're going to be, not just what you're going to do, and I think the combination of that is what determines the quality of life people are actually looking for shows now, what if people understand that they live that way for months out of the year and no matter what happens they back off?

I get asked that a lot. You know, I'm going backwards. I get stuck. I keep coming back here. there's an idea that they're missing a key emotion, a value, what they need to address to make sure they're not constantly going backwards. Well, I'll give you a formula if you want to know what makes people happy. at the most basic level when your living conditions match your plan when your living conditions are what you expect, not your ultimate dream, but when you meet your basic expectations you are happy if your living conditions are better than you expected you are in the moon if your living conditions do not match your plan your expectations your pain if your light conditions do not match your plan and you think I cannot change it, there is something wrong with me or it is a permanent problem or it is generalized or it is personal you know that you enter into a learned helplessness then you will suffer and then nothing is permanent, not even the body is permanent, certainly there is no problem, it is permanent.

Your soul might be the only thing that could be permanent. So it really helps people understand that when living conditions change, your model has to change with it. If you're not happy, neither are you. you have to change your life or change your plan, your expectations usually requires a combination of those two, very often what you say people slip is that their living conditions changed and then what they were doing was not enough to make them feel as I wanted. feel and then they settled into an old coping style, went back to smoking, drinking, eating, yelling at people or whatever the pattern was, but that's because they didn't continue to grow and that's why it's not static.

What I teach people with me is that not only is it okay, you are going to make these changes and your values, it is like you have to look at the conditions of your life, you will change, you are going to make that happen as you reach the different stages of life you will have. to make those decisions and people, not everyone wants their life to be better, but no one wants to change, so we have to continue changing as living conditions change, we have to update our model, our values, our beliefs, our rules about how to play. the game and we have to update our behaviors to adapt to the environment.

If you don't, you're in trouble. There are many people during Covet that were the most horrible experience. There are many people learning how to use Covet. It's not like coveting them, using them, they grew their businesses, expanded their minds, changed their emotions, did things they would never have done, other people gained 20 pounds, so it's all a matter of whether you adapt to the conditions of life and learn to Learn because this is not a one-time thing. Oh, I did this. I went and trained for a weekend. Now I'm very excited. How long will it last? You're going to have to continue using it and have a daily practice, otherwise, of course, you come back and that's what's missing the most.

I teach people daily practices that they can take what they've learned and make it ongoing in their lives instead of wow. I had this great weekend. I was going to ask if discipline is part of that. I know you start every day with a cold plunge, which I did for 13 months, is deeply unpleasant. How much of what you teach people to do is discipline? Well, discipline. You know you have to discipline your disappointment to begin with, right, because everyone is going to be disappointed, you are going to let it destroy you, you are going to let it drive you well, so yes, there is a certain amount of discipline, but it is less discipline than change the Association, the fact that you quit in 13 months I can tell you why you did it you didn't focus on how you felt when you got out of the water you focused on what it was like to get in because when you get out of the water it feels like a billion dollars in, There's never a day I expect to get in that damn water, but I don't negotiate with myself and I'll be fine when I'm ready, oh, one, two, three or in five minutes, no, I say it.

Come on, come on now you can call that discipline, what it really is is just a habit, so I have trained my will that says when I say come on, come on and then I focus on what it feels like to get out of the water, which is amazing. you feel so alive you focused more on what it was like to go in that's why you stopped I'm not saying you shouldn't have stopped because it may not be the right thing for you there are a million ways to do whatever it is you're going to do with yourself, this is just a simple way.

I happen to like it because I focus on the feeling afterwards, if I focused on the feeling before I wouldn't do it and by the way I love it more, that's true for most things. by the way, God takes care of that, like I've never seen a mother go through a horrible birth and then you know, six weeks later, she wants to have another baby, right, she's still suffering, that's the power of God in the mind human for our species that we can obtain. Beyond any pain we've been through, if there's anything we want to serve more than ourselves, facts, I cherish every moment we spend together, where can people rise to the challenge and spend more time with you?

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