Trauma heilen: Die 5 Prinzipien der Traumaheilung // Wienke Ursula Schulenburg

I would like to encourage you to find a very personal miracle behind your wound and perhaps the five principles of dream healing will help you. One in three girls and every five to seven boys lives in Germany. Sexual violence. These are the official figures from the EU Commission. It was a summer afternoon. I had had a really nice day and now I was five years old lying in my bed. The pink curtain fluttered gently in front of the half-open window and a blackbird outside sang its night song, but not me. I really don't understand anything about this special atmosphere.

I freeze in shock, I lie down on my bed and start looking at the ceiling because the horror had visited me once again, the horror that had no name, the horror that came and desecrated my little one. My body and soul were torn apart and left nothing but a heap of fragments, the horror of which I have no words to find and no one except me seemed to notice or want to notice that night the burden on my shoulders and the pressure on my shoulders. The heart had become so big that I felt that I could not bear it anymore and I knew that I would close myself to that world and just before the door of my soul was closed, the song of the little blackbird reached my ears from outside.

I paused and knew in that moment that this little bird was singing here just for me and I also knew what he was telling me. I wanted to say wait because life is beautiful and I held on and you know I want it so bad, I want it. I could tell you a lot right now at this moment, hey, what I experienced is a sad and tragic individual destiny, but I can't, because that's not the case, because one in three girls and every five to seven boys in Germany experience sexual violence from one way or another. and if later here I asked the well-known question of which of you has done it and it would be possible to raise your hand bravely, without feeling of shame and without fear of stigmatization.

Yes, then almost a third of the women present would do it. that and about 16 percent of men and if I want to be very brave then let's go one step further and present eyes that for every affected person and every victim there is at least one perpetrator My name is Winkler Schulenburg and I decided it 25 years ago. He makes it a mission to make up my misery and be an ambassador and lend my voice to all those who want theirs to be lost or yet to be found again. I tell my story on behalf of the stories of so many.

I am an author, I have a life coach YouTube Channel, alternative practitioner and director of the Institute for Conscious Living and I am here today to talk to you about the five principles of

trauma

healing. Do you know what

trauma

means? It's really exciting. from the Greek and means something like wound and wounds and injuries, we have all experienced them in one way or another and the five principles of trauma healing can help you accept and heal your own bond, no matter how big or small. I have brought you a thinking aid or memory aid, an accessory that you can have with you at home right now.

You carry your hand and use all five fingers. I would like to introduce you to the five principles of trauma healing, let's begin. Principle number one began, thumbs up, say yes to what hurt you to heal it and by saying yes I don't mean I like it. By saying yes I mean accepting and accepting. There is an ancient law of life, a spiritual law. that says what we resist and what we run from, that remains or that always reaches us, but what we accept, what we turn to, what maybe even be able to embrace, yes, that can change and that enters into healing and me.

I would like to tell you a little story from my life at that time I was in my early 20s and in fact I had survived a childhood and youth experience of sexualized violence in my family and now I received all the help imaginable from doctors. psychologists, alternative practitioners and that day I was on my way to a psychiatrist because I wanted to know how to think so easily in a case like mine, but now I sat in front of this psychiatrist, it was a woman, and I spoke for three quarters of an hour with pointless certainty nor eat one atrocity after another and now they were waiting for her comments.

The psychiatrist had long ago put down her pen and only listened to me in shock and after a short infinity she said a single sentence she said three things for Mrs. Schulenburg: sweep everything under the carpet, go abroad and be happy. I followed tips 2 and 3. I did the opposite of tip 1. I pulled everything out from under this big rug and looked at it. what hurt you to close it Healing principle number two the index finger the index finger again wonderfully self explanatory what we do with the index finger exactly we point out things put a finger on the wound confront your fear so you can close it free yourself and what What gave me the most ice is that it was actually aggression and violence and I knew that if I didn't face it it would catch up with me again and again throughout my life, so I looked for a framework and a safe framework in which that was possible and I discovered martial arts for myself.

That's how it is in martial arts. Maybe some of you know that there are different fighting distances. Yeah, for example, there are the third stunts that you're still relatively into. away from your opponent and then you keep moving until you reach At some point you are in the so-called clean and small state until your training partner or the opponent so close that you have his gasp right in your ear and you don't know it's the sweat on my shirt here mine or the person in front of me and believe me That can only be a support, but then it goes further.

You may fall to the ground or be hurt. They are thrown and suddenly someone is sitting directly on your stomach or on your face or between your legs and this is rape. It was very difficult for me and I can still hear my coach's voice in me saying Ursula, that's not what's happening. In your head right now it's just another ranged fight. I admit it's heavy metal. And it's certainly not the path for everyone, it was my path and it was something that worked for me. The question you may ask yourself now is, hey, what is it?

It scares me so much and what do I want to face on my own terms in your own way and at my own pace, face your fear to free yourself? Principle Number Three: The Middle Finger So between us, it's somehow quite fun to hold the middle finger. Finger directly to the camera, of course, for training purposes only. The middle finger is clearly the one that means off. It means setting boundaries because setting boundaries had to be done over and over again on the path to healing, especially with people who have a problem. With this, you suddenly find your voice again, you have confidence in yourself, you take up space and you also set limits for yourself.

But you are also always faced with voices from your inner voices of skeptics and saboteurs. Dare to use the middle finger. Be kind now. We are reaching the fourth principle. We're getting to the ring finger and the ring finger is very clear and of course represents relationships. When we experience trauma, there is always a. damage within our relationship and these can be very different relationships, they can be relationships from our social environment with family members, classmates, co-workers, your partner, but it can also be a completely different relationship that has come to a head. critical point here, that is, your relationship with life, with the universe, there is only trust and then there is another relationship, the relationship with the most important person in your life, with the people with whom you will be together twenty-four seven, 365 days of the year until the end of your life, as you know Of course who is this person, of course yourself if we get hurt if we get hurt then we usually do not react as we are used to or as we would have liked in retrospect, we bury ourselves while we do it, we remain silent.

We are frozen in shock, standing next to ourselves, maybe we are even arguing about it, which means we are separating a part of ourselves to somehow get through the whole thing and maybe even survive, and that leads us to walk away. of ourselves, develop feelings of guilt and shame, and there is this wonderful promise: Hey, honey, I want to love you and honor you in good times and bad until death do us part. and I think so, I think it's exactly this promise that we can first make to ourselves and then continue to share our relationships and now we come to the fifth principle, we come to the little finger, the little finger represents magic and miracles. represents the miracles that are often hidden behind our wounds the miracles behind the wound and the little finger has an invisible connection with our heart and our heart is not just a physical organ and contains various emotions.

Our heart is also a portal to a. higher level and a world of soul and one of my very personal miracles that I was able to live at the moment when I was in the coffin after 20 years of people who had abused and mistreated me throughout my childhood and youth and I want to be completely Honestly , I only stayed for one reason: I wanted to know that the horror was over and after being convinced of that, I suddenly felt an urge. In martial arts, you greet your opponent when the fight is over, regardless of whether you are or not.

Won or lost, and in the ancient traditions of martial arts, you even greet your archenemy when the war ends, and in this spirit I suddenly had the need for us to recognize the common destiny and its soul, not the person but the soul, and so I followed this impulse and knelt down and put my forehead on the ground and my weapons down and I experienced something deeply magical in that moment, something I never expected. I stood up again, turned to the chair behind me where there was a bag, opened it. and I took out my six books, four of them that had been written about my life and in which he had a leading role, I took them in my hand and put them in his bag And at that moment I entered an interior space and a level that I already I had once entered my near-death experience, a level where my entire life, connection to him, and even my trauma made sense.

There are these miracles behind the wound and the miracles behind the wound are so different, they are. They are as different as people are different. It may be, for example, that one day you will find your voice again and have the strength and courage to leave. Maybe you will suddenly understand the song of a little blackbird and maybe. One morning, you stand in front of the bathroom mirror, completely sleepy, look at your beautiful face and decide to truly love yourself again. I would like to encourage you to find your own personal miracle behind your wound and perhaps the five principles. will help Trauma healing is saying yes to what hurt you to heal it, confronting your fear to free yourself, setting limits, marrying yourself and opening yourself to your miracles because life, life is beautiful, it resonates, it is worth it.

That A little blackbird has already told him and he has to know it. I believe in you and you can do it. The time of silence is over. My name is Wienke Ursula

schulenburg

and I am an ambassador for all those who lived through the horror. survived. Thank you so much.