Cuffed To The Cuddle // Cuffing Season (Part 14) // Michael Todd

what's going on my name is Will and I have the honor and privilege to serve as one of the leaders here at Transformation Church. I just want to thank you for tuning in from wherever you're watching and if you haven't. already make sure to like and subscribe, we believe God has such an amazing word for you today, so let's jump into this amazing message today. I only have four weeks left of

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, yeah, oh, that's how I feel. I have 19 more messages, okay? We're not going, we only have four left. I'm going to gently unwrap a gift which is actually a slap in the face, so imagine having a box and then someone opens it and slaps you in the face. from the beginning, that's this message, okay, but it may be the most important message of the entire series because this one is about relationships and I know some of you say I'm married, some of you are single and this is really them I'm going to hit, um some of you think because I've been married 52 years I don't need this message let me turn it off this one here is for everyone they say everyone not everyone everyone says everyone that's the emergency de

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ment all of us I've been on a series called

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of wives, this is week 14 of a series we call the wives series and this week I like that everyone thought this whole series was going to be about relationships and we didn't make it. which are not at all like people relationships, this is like relationship goals on steroids in one message and I will give you the title from the beginning today, the Holy Spirit told me to talk to you about being hand

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to the hug, you are hand

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. to the throat and some people say no I'm not hugging yeah that's not really my thing cool just give me about 40 minutes to reveal this Revelation to you because the body of Christ has been living in this carnal state of going to things that they are not pious for their comfort and they have been very intimate and close with it, they have been hugging with things that have the power to kill them, okay, let's back up, someone is like ew cuff everyone says wife to the hug um come on see here how many people There is in this room it doesn't matter if you are single or married like hugs come on let's be with our hands in the air you can weigh 600 pounds and you steal spoon me if you hear me touch myself woman of God I love hugging my wife even if you are single in Right now there's something about some, have you ever met someone who gives you a good hug? you know what I'm saying the hug is like wait, take a box of mine, go upstairs Me, you know, that hug you have to get off of me.

Hug, it's something about that hug and there's something that happens and there's something that happens when when you hug it happens just a second more than the regulation, everyone knows what I'm talking about. Everyone knows when someone hugged them, but it was too long, stop it, it's just a little bit further like, hey, what's up? It's like what were you trying to tell me through that hug and, um, I figured out let me talk. Singles for a minute, calm down, um, there's this idea that in your singleness you're missing something and you're like it's happening like a hug.

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ner. I need someone to hold me. warm at night what I discovered about hugs is that most hugs are a false connection most of the time when we hug people. I'm talking about people right now. Netflix and relax, just come and watch a movie. Hey, hey, I know you. You're an adult I know I'm an adult He laughs nothing's going to happen if we don't do it I just want to say, let's hug each other and these are things that we don't talk about because these are the things that we see the results of these are the things That's what we deal with. the consequences, but we never talk about its seed form because hugs happen in your consciousness before they happen in real life.

Now I wasn't with you this week and I don't know what you did. week and I don't know what you plan to do today and I don't know what you plan to do tomorrow, but I really feel like God told me to come right out to everyone who has been longing for one more relationship. that a relationship with him is a fake until it has Covenant attached okay, let me come back okay, let me see something about a fake I'm just trying to slowly guide you towards this okay, fakes, let me tell myself most people I snuggled with before Natalie I knew they weren't the people I was supposed to be with in Covenant I just like hugging I like being close to someone I like it when someone has a connection with me that no one else had and the truth is The thing is, there are people in your life right now who have access to you and no one knows they have access to you except you and them and you may not be hugging each other physically but you are hugging mentally.

You are all creating dreams and visions. and you plan together uh-oh and you're nowhere near Covenant but you're building something with someone that will end up being a fake and cause you a catastrophic end because they've handcuffed you to a connection that's fake, the truth of the matter is that there are many married people hugging someone who isn't their spouse, we advise them every week and you're on Facebook looking for high school classmates, maybe we should take the handcuffs off the classmates, oh, because I'm in your business and it starts out very pure, like how is business going, you live in Arizona, now you saw that your children were out of the house and then, very, very, almost subtly, just once, you are angry with them, just tired of this belief, right now fill out the sheet.

What do you mean everything looks so perfect in your life? Sin I don't know anything really just a lot of pressure I can help you relieve that pressure How and for the next four weeks you will be in different states, but every moment you arrive is different. There is a connection forming that is embracing something in your mind that makes you look at your current situation and think you have a way to escape. Okay, this is about to get too real for a lot of people because it's your real life right now. going through the motions but you're actually handcuffed to the hug, okay let me tell you the reason I have to put this out there is because most of the people we hug with and who we're not supposed to have a Covenant with are a fake and a fake, if you know anything about fakes, a fake has the same visual value but not the same.

Have you ever seen a fake Louis Vuitton bag? Some of you have them on your feet right now and carry the visual, I mean. It came in the box and everything had a receipt and the guy on the corner on North 46th Street gave it to him, he said, "I got bags, like I carry the part," someone mad at me, she's looking at me like, ah, how dare you? I'm not hating on you, I'm just saying that if you are going to resell it or appraise it, it doesn't have the value that it has, most of your relationships have the visual value, but not the value of walking with people and situations. looked great matches your outfit weighs about the same but don't get too close don't start checking the details don't get into the real feel of the leather actually don't take it to someone who has touched the real thing because they will be able to detect a fake right away, but when all you've seen are replicas, okay, look, the fake has the same makeup but not the same material, a fake has the same look but not the same luxury and there are a lot of relationships. which we have been participating in because we have been reduced to the cup of hugs to wanting to be close to the cup to wanting someone to know us, feel us and hold us and it's ugly, you don't even think it's cute, can we be honest?

Now you don't even feel attracted, you don't feel attracted and some of you think I'm just talking about relationship, but you also apply it to the business partner, oh, you don't even feel attracted to that, but it is. It's convenient to see that there is something that happens when you don't feel attracted but you are available. Many of the relationships we have are not about attraction, but availability. Who answers the phone when I call when I need it? Who appears? okay stop settling for fake hugs write this a fake connection this is the reason why i say this and i am trying to build this because a fake connection or relationship can leave you compromised.

The question I have for you today is who. Are you hugging who when you get in trouble? Who do you climb on his lap? I'm not even physically just angry. Who do you jump on to start talking about how angry you are? said piston Church much more for you me I like it when you're frustrated when you're upset Who's like who? Where do you lie when you've believed a lie about yourself? Who do you cut? Who do you get into bed with? I'm just going to go to bed. here I only have positive thoughts oh Lord I don't get upset but uh great is your mercy thank you Lord for being my safe place in the time of need because I'm angry and I want someone to hug me I want something to do I feel comfortable that's why many Of you have a lot of pillows that cushion you, you are making a whole person out of pillows and what happens is that at some point this does not satisfy you, so this is what we do: we invite people.

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season in our beds and they can be fake, we don't care who we snuggle with if it makes us feel comfortable, they can be fake and have been fake since we met them, but it doesn't matter when it's convenient how I just want you to feel comfortable, I just want, we're not going to do anything, I just want, yeah, let me, um, I feel your heart and somehow we convinced ourselves that we can stay in this place of connection and nothing else happened, but the crazy thing is The person I only have a part of them so I think I know this isn't real.

I know this isn't completely real, so let me see if I stay with them long enough, they'll come up with something. other parts of themselves see I know Her like no one else. Reach out and touch someone's hand. She's not really giving it all to me yet, but if I make fake commitments, maybe she can build something that she can see and I'm not going to claim you in front of her. from anyone, but just make sure you're there when it's time to have a hard day at work hug you frustrated by the outcome hug you look here's what I learned about hugging write this hugging usually happens behind closed doors you don't see anyone in public hugging like it's not like lying on a park bench hugging no Most of the fake relationships we allow into our lives that have the opportunity to leave us compromised happen in the dark, behind closed doors, my question is where are the relationships? where no one knows who you are and who has the key to the door because the truth of the matter is that no one can help you behind a locked door and there are too many believers hugging each other, we don't even know.

You are friends with that person, but every time we surround them with you there is a strange vibe and I am your prayer partner and I have asked you directly what is going to, oh them, that is my brother in Christ, this brother and sister in Christ. Shit you all have been paying for yeah that's the brother and sister you've been cuddling with and you want us to pray that God keeps you when you keep letting the same person into your vulnerable spaces and I just wanna be honest with you all. I put myself in this position with one of two things that happened.

I was condemned to the point where I either got out of this situation or made a connection that would replicate from this situation. Oh, I'm talking about big words right now because the truth of the matter is that you can't stay, write this down, you can't stay that close to someone without wanting to eventually create something else, stay with the person like that and you know me, I'm from great color, so if hugging my wife, the right leg has to be overcome, some of you are too saved for this right now, but you don't have a proper hug if there isn't a part of your body resting on them, stay in that position for 35 minutes. an hour an hour and a half they want to pray later or they want to play later they are going to be fake they don't want they don't want to talk about my children they are here they already know I have been on Tick Tock, they have already seen, they already know how all this happens and they have already experienced something about it and you won't find out until a decade later because you're living in la la land knowing that you have the same blood running through you and what were you doing at 16?

It's okay, the Saints are so thick. See how tight people are right now? But the truth of the matter is many of the problems we deal with in the church. It's about fixing the consequences that started out as a hug and the truth of the matter is that all you really want is to be selfish and you're really looking for the cookie. I'm trying to keep it PG rated as much as possible, but we may have to do that. Make an uncut version of this and each time it can be different dummies, different cookies, bragging about how many different kinds of cookies you've eaten, oh come on don't play with me, oh I've got the mini trips ahead that you've never heard of talk. mini Chips Ahoy, but the double stuffed Oreo, did you see our double stuff, like "okay, blow into the hug?", everyone wants to act funny with me, most of you kids started with a hug, can you just give me a massage, huh?

I'm telling the truth, just a hammer sauce, no needa lot when it connects in a fake relationship to make you want it to go further you want a new moment a new memory more this is what I want everyone to know okay God created the hug we were created with the desire to hug write that God created us with a desire for connection, he created us with the desire for closeness, we all want someone to really know who we are and still accept us like they're on drugs, but you still love me like my breath doesn't smell like that every morning. but you would still let me come close to you like you know I really fumbled in this area but you see me in my shortcomings and you still want to come to an intimate environment with me that was put there by the Creator but he put it there to be housed within from Covenant and most people want the hug without Covenant.

This is not popular preaching because we want everyone to play house instead of letting God build his house. You have been with them. Everyone shares everything. The cell phone plans. car notes and you won't commit to them Dating nine years old and you have a 14 year old son Where's the commitment? Where is the Pact? Where is? And look, that's where we get confused because God only spoke about him, he never spoke. about Connections, he only talked about Covenants, if you read all the Scriptures, I'm just preparing you. God has always been concerned about who has made a covenant with whom, that is the type of relationship I am going to bless and write this connection. without Covenant, see how these hugs without Covenant lead to some reproduction, it means that something can be bred without care.

If you continue hugging without Covenant, then you are going to reproduce a child who will then not be cared for during one of the largest epidemics in In our world today there are people who, due to loneliness and desperation, settle for a hug that is substandard, that hug becomes a child and then the person says: I have no commitment to you and I have no commitment to you and then it is a child. raised carelessly and then we're trying to figure out why children behave like they did when I was younger when I was a daughter when I was but you've reproduced after your own kind because you made a connection on a non-Covenant call and then you you reproduce without responsibility I'm talking heavy and the truth of the matter is what we have to deal with every day is what we are raising our children on, you know?

Let me give you some statistics for the people I demonstrate. If we live in a fatherless generation, the statistics in the US are that 18.3 million children live without a father in the home, which means that one in four children in the US have been reproduced and then they have no one to give them identity. For you it is that if you continue hugging without any Pact, someone is going to live without care. I know no one preaches about this because they want you to scream and scream. I love you, I want you to get out of this thing of being difficult to hug and be careful with this bracelet to be content with the season that God has you in, where he has you doing what he has called you to do so that in the moment when Let him send it, don't settle for a fake, it's okay, it's okay, that's why.

I'm going to slowly walk through this, okay, what was the first place or what is the most common place for people to be hugged? He said in the movies, let's go back even further than when you were in high school, let's go back to like when you were a kid, a baby, a baby, the best thing you can do with a baby, they can't communicate, they can't talk, but man, there's nothing like a fat, chunky baby that just lays down perfect, so I have four kids. and one of the things they told us to do, I've never been a dad before, you know what I'm saying, so I'm here and I'm like, what am I doing? and the nurse said when the baby arrives.

The first thing we are going to do is have you take off your shirt. I said, "You're not going to see me like that," and she said, "No, no, no, you have to understand that the baby needs to make the connection that she needs." hug me with you and we're going to do this thing called skin to skin which is like scans yeah that's how that baby came in well okay so I sat there and they put that baby on me and it felt like a hug from heaven it was like that baby and as soon as Bella hit my chest for your daddy to be here I'll protect you I'll keep you and I'll be all these other things I'm talking to the baby I'm walking That way it's like we need to change, we need to do something, no, we're skin to skin and What I discovered is that hugging all my children was a form of connection, it was something I didn't have to say. but you could feel that I'm trying to speak with as many metaphors as I can when my children grew up every time they were frustrated angry hurt they started to cry they were in their crib the crib was a place of immaturity a place where they didn't know how to deal with their emotions and where he would go to look for them when they needed to be hugged.

He was out of his crib. The crazy thing is that God is calling his church to maturity to stop embracing people and things that are still false. We have chosen to be 48 years old still dragging our crater and this is the place of immaturity I am frustrated I need someone to hold me I am not going to forgive I am not going to say sorry no one is coming Hold me, someone, come, touch me, knowing that you have the full capacity to get your big ass out of the crib and handle business. We have been handcuffed to the embrace and now God is asking us to grow up and we are still running towards the crater.

I'm not going to serve anyone, they don't even respect me in that church. I'm not ah G. It's the new thing is no no no no no no no no no no no no no and that's what we've been saying to God and him. He says um, when are you going to answer God's call on your life? and you will mature outside the Cradle. Came. I came to ask the church today. Is it okay if God can use us to the fullest? potential in our calling okay that means you're going to have to get out of the crib?

You can't stay here and blame everyone for everything that happened to you You can't let yourself be hugged and answer your call You can't Keep crying because my family wasn't there, no, it's like it's been 48 years and you've known for the last 22 that you needed counseling and you keep saying you can't find a counselor. Let me help you. Search on Google, how is it found? restaurant when you are in a new city but you can find a new restaurant but you can't find restoration because you are handcuffed not only to the hug, you are handcuffed to the Cradle and that is why the hug is the safe place and comfort and the place where you can connect with someone and we would rather respond not respond to our call and be hugged and pampered than get out of the Cradle and today I'm calling on the church to really get out of the hug me place and get out of the Kratom place because the big boys and girls can hear the truth and really make changes when my babies can't communicate.

I just hugged them. Just I like it. I can't share anything with you, so we will only embrace you and the church whenever we have a conflict. We want to be hugged instead of dealing with conflict. Wow, most people go to a person who really needs a process. I am Jesus okay write this down when there is a conflict hugging is a way to connect communicate and bring comfort okay my babies wake up at night when my babies wake up at night the first thing I do is bring them close come here I talk to he now comes back to your bed yes Bella 19 came to me needing a hug to go to sleep at night there was a part or portion of her life that didn't get attention when she was in the crib and since she's not developed as a child, she it grows but it is not like that. heal so that she continues to reach the same thing that appeases her.

Some of you are in relationships and doing things with people that you don't even want to do anymore, but it's the only way you found comfort when there was conflict. And then you keep coming back to what pacified you in a different season. Everyone knows what a pacifier is. All the babies in the crib jump back here. Wait, let's go through some fires. Someone bring me a pacifier. ah um sex money status in church I'm an elder I'm a deacon I'm a proper test I'm an apostle I don't know what pacifies you, but there are many of us who have been handcuffed to something that pacified us in another season when God says that You two owe that shit now, if a 14 year old shows up, let me introduce you to my son, who started high school and comes up to you like the first thing you'll say, why the hell is that? that grown man sucking on something that is made for an immature season, why do you go back to the people who used to help you in an immature season?

Why do you go back to a hug that helped you when you were in crisis in your first year of college and you have been connected to that person because you all made a connection but it no longer serves you. I wish we could see people as they really were. I wish I could see Pastor Charles um Joe Joe come here. I Need You, Joe Joe, is one of the most incredible people in the world, but this serves tirelessly. Joe Joe is an amazing person, yes, yes, but what you don't know about Joe is that there is an area of ​​his life that concerns how old he is. you, Joe 44.

What if I met Joe with the passy in his mouth, good businessman, huh, yeah, suck it? Joe feels embarrassed up here right now, he feels degrading right now, but there is something we don't know that calms him down when there is a problem, there may be someone like you know that group of friends you go to when you get angry and who They get excited about you, they let it go and then what happened? Well, so they were talking about me after a job and then I hit them. Oh, I wonder, you better be glad you weren't there 'cause I'll hit 'em twice and they, um, hey mom, come here, yeah, come here, profit proof, he said, oh, Lord, don't be slow, yeah, yeah, so me and Joe, men. of God you want to change, oh I see, because what we do is surround ourselves with people and we begin to share the things that pacified us in a season, well, have a drink of this, it will help you with your anxiety, woman of God, how you look? how beautiful uh you know I was going to call you uh feeling some kind of way to put the pacifier because in the place that we don't let God heal we will find something that brings us comfort no matter how old we are, no matter how many times we have been used By God and no matter how many other commitments we have made, we will make a connection with something that makes us feel better, laughter, this is actually the way we live, this is our spiritual state, it seems silly. platform but that's how you live every day of your life no, you just need, you just need to smoke some weed, that's a pacifier, that's a pacifier for peace, you just need them to release your pacifier, they, you just need to go to a church. where they just respect your title and then you literally like where's my cook Charles?

Can you come? And that's how we reward people. We believe that people who can make it happen and go through all of life and so many pressures and all these other things. that's why we see the shepherds fall, they just discovered a lot of pacifiers, you can't see them, but I'm stressed, I don't feel worthy, I found my baby Gia in her crib. with three pacifiers on this baby, he had a double wife and had two pacifiers in his hands, one attached to her in case she felt uncomfortable, she was going to put something in her mouth that would give her comfort, what are you using this season?

It has become a pacifier in an area where you need God to change you so you can achieve your purpose. Thank you now, listen to me, listen to me and I want all of you to make sure you keep the pacifiers throughout the service, even in your homes. I nod because the platform, oh everyone saw it, but when they actually put the pacifier in no one looks and now it's affecting their mouth the longer they suck on one of these. Have I ever seen those kids where the teeth just start, uh expanded, it's like you 17 years old and it's still affecting their speech it's affecting how they believe in the people and the places they go to appease some of you let me be very clear. with you are embracing things it is your time to cut right Corinthians Chapter 13 Verse 11. when I was a child I spoke as a child I understood as a child I thought as a child this is the only verse I really wanted to give you today but when I became a man when I grew up when I I realized that God had a great calling on my life when I realized that the reason God forgave me was not to live anyway, the reason God forgave me was to bring His name Glory, all They say what I put. away childish I left my pacifiers I deconstructed my crib I left the things and people that no longer served me but I want you to hear the key word I this is a decision of maturity write this God will not leave what we keep collecting he is not keeping childish things, you have You have to do it, it's not going to kill Instagram, so stop texting those people, you're going to have to shut it down, you're going to have to block them, you're going to have to mute them.

You might have to move because they're in the same apartment complex and it's convenient for them to see you every time you get home, a little stalkerish but yeah, and you end up in their bed cuddling because it's convenient, you might have to move . You have todo something that severs the connection to the counterfeit and stop praying for God to do it because you will have to put away your toys and every pacifier Billy.Brian bonica Brittany Brandon you will have to take them away you will have to say that I am worth more than this you will have to say that God has a bigger call from us and it may take some time look I'm struggling with how I might have to ask someone for help.

Maybe I have to say that this has been with me for so long and I feel very comfortable with it. Can someone come up? It's stuck. I need someone to help me see what I can't see. I see that that person is not for me and I am going to have to tell him. I know this is heavy, but when I was a kid that was fine. God is not resisting the way you are when you were angry and just trying. as if he knew you were going to come to them, but now, after all, I brought you forward.

After everything you have learned, you have too much knowledge to be so ignorant, you wouldn't even give yourself the advice that you are living according to some people. I have great advice for others who don't even take it for themselves. Someone says I have to save it. Returning to this cradle with such a great calling means that something did not receive adequate attention and I need everyone to evaluate why. Do I keep coming back to this crib? Why do I continue? God, come find me, use me. I am here for your glory. Why do you use them?

We complain, we throw tantrums, we get frustrated in the cradle and the hand of God gives you the power and the strength to get out of this I will wait your muscles have grown now your prayer life you have enough to get out of this cradle it would be different if this crib was bigger than you it would be different if you didn't have I you literally have four feet of legs you have everything you need to get out of this situation and you are choosing to sin in it sit there yeah claim 2023 is the year for me, claim it, but if you keep sitting there you will never see what is there. out of this crib because you have chosen to remain immature.

That's Mike, what are you saying? grow, grow out of that relationship that is toxic, expelled from the gossip that you keep turning to to appease your own insecurities, grow without needing a title. to be truly effective grow up without thinking that cash will actually give you a constant sense of identity grow up so that you can respond to the call get out of the cradle so that you can respond to the call get out of the cradle so that you can you can respond to the wonderful call that God has in your life this is no longer the time to commit to our embrace more than we are committed to our calling and God asked me to challenge you today get out of the crib throw away the pacifier and walk in your purpose, it's okay , let me say it like this purpose doesn't have a pacifier, write it down.

God is not going to hug you or pamper you when he calls you to a great purpose, he will take care of you, he will take care of you. But he's not going to say okay, come on, obey me oh no, no, don't open up to me, I'll give you, I'll give you whatever you want, if you obey me, I'll make sure you get what you want, I just do, I just do. what I ask for God gives orders living purity well God, I was just thinking about two more hugs and then I would live in purity you too will have to deal with some consequences everything that has been a pacifier has to turn out well if a platform has been a pacifier for you it's Gotta Go if people have been a pacifier for you it's Gotta Go if the role has been a pacifier for you it has to if pleasure has been a pacifier for you it has to the more you suck the pacifier, it's affecting what comes out from your mouth I started thinking what the best example is and I can't even fully analyze it of someone who was handcuffed to the hug and they came back because it was appeasing them and the only thing I could think of was Samson Samson put his head in a woman's lap that he wanted to kill him over and over again because he was handcuffed to the hug there was something on the ground in Delilah's lab that made him feel like something now I don't know about you, but if someone tries to kill me once like I did, I mean, once is enough , this woman tried to kill him several times, let me read to you judges 16 19. because everyone has to read everything, but Delilah says, look at this, put Samson to sleep with his head. in his lap, he snuggled with him, false connection, there is no Covenant and then he called a man to shave his Seven Locks, where his calling was, where his power was, in this way he began to knock him down and his strength left him , he let himself be lulled.

I sleep for the illusion of love and I just want to talk to everyone who longs to be in a relationship don't settle for the illusion of love don't settle for the false connection don't give him or her your cookie just to spend a good time and feel a connection stop playing house and draw a line in the sand that you are worth more than that you are not a replica you have value all of you this is countercultural so I know Every blog will talk about it. I don't care, you are getting the results of the seeds you are sowing and when you do things outside of God, you can pretend that everything is fine, but in your soul.

In reality we are not living fully. I advise people every day who have settled for the fake and let themselves be put to sleep by the illusion of love. I'll put it this way, you can read the whole story of Samson, but the hug killed Samson. arrogance for still lying in bed with that woman who had a commitment in mind but he was just comfortable with what you're sleeping with who you're sleeping with who's going to compromise your calling it's been years that you've been doing this and it just happens it's so wonderful that you've convinced yourself that it's okay because it only happens once every six months it's better than it used to be what I'm telling you it's like I'm sorry prophetically there's there's there's there's this is a warning The urgency with which I'm talking about in this message is that God is saying that what you are holding has the ability to kill you, it's just a matter of time, unless you get out of this bed and unless you deconstruct your crib, you will end up in look at this word commitment, no one talks more of that because it's not sexy, but most of the body of Christ lives committed, we do the Christian thing and then we do the carnal thing and that together leaves us committed and God is asking everyone in the At the end of this year, I mean, We only have like four weeks left in 2020, four or five weeks, he's saying, could you please free yourself from embracing anything that has the ability to kill who I called you to be?

You thought they were just people. first one to go Jerome, get out of his bed Delicia get the, you need to tag them on your phone, killer, you all missed it, there are people you need to tag on your phone when it's on on your device, it should appear, killer, it might be necessary. five more months, but now you used to have such high esteem and such great purpose because you know that when you make that connection it's not just a physical connection, it's emotional, it's spiritual, it's a soul bond, we can't even talk about that in this moment and has the ability to kill you, oh, I tried, I tried to be very compassionate to Samson and asked him why he kept going back to Delilah.

It's because Delilah wasn't just his

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buddy, there was something she didn't get from her parents in the Crib. So when he grew up, he needed Delilah to be his watch, this crutch, so most relationships you're in are a crutch. Something Delilah gave him made him feel like he could move on and he asked everyone listening. Me, especially those who depend on a person other than God to be your crutch, why do you keep holding on to your crutch? You can name them, but it's just the crutch, the alcohol you drink, that person you turn to for loot, that side hustle it requires.

You move away from your wife and your children, but it makes you feel like a man because your father was never there for you, he just provided for you, you missed it in the Cradle, you miss the care in the Cradle, so now you're gone. Become what you hated because you need it. a crutch I get these hundreds from you although I'm making it rain who provides all this who makes this happen how do you understand that you are not God but somehow that money made you feel that it is your crutch I just ask everyone to evaluate what you have a relationship with in this moment that has become what holds you up and if someone knocks it down you fall Delilah was Samson's crutch and ended up killing him at the end of 2022 God asked me to really evaluate Mike what has he been leaning on that's not me , you have to end your relationship with him right now, what I am going to do with you next year will require total dependence on me, whatever the enemy can kick out from under you, he will leave you. committed if you trust the house to give you the enemy said okay I can light up the house I'm going to foreclosure what do I do I'm committed you know how vulnerable I am if someone wants to hit me this is a perfect position to kick my amen because I'm trying to hold on to what that used to hold me together and I'm still in a position where this too can be taken away from me and now I'm holding it together and God says no.

I don't want my church fighting the war and everyone being on crutches for the kingdom and everyone coming out saying, "Let's get the victory in the name of Jesus." No, that's how we see culture. We are about to take control of the kingdom. Attack the enemy. They look at us like this is my competition. I don't even have to fight them. I just have to kick what's stopping them. I just have to ruin their relationship. I just have to ruin their security. I just have to ruin your money. I do not do it. I even have to fight with them, I just have to trick him.

They are crutches. You don't hug people anymore. You hug yourself with crutches. Put everything on the bed. Move and then, in the bed of your vocation, there is no more room. For you, oh nonsense, they hurt you unnecessarily. I think I'm really bleeding. That corner hit me and now I think I'm safe, but I'm actually being suffocated. There is no place when God sends the right person, if the right person came. even my life right now There are no vacancies some of you have been filling your bed with so many other people and things that the right person literally couldn't even come into your life you look full that's what I do how can you not?

I end up like Samson, how can I really achieve my purpose? Very simple. I'll give you four things and then we'll get out of here. Alright. Because again, please write the question like and I just need you to think about it all week. Why do you keep hugging yourself with your crutch? I just need you no matter what. Why do you keep hugging her? Some of you are sitting next to him, just looking forward. No? They have been his crutch for a decade. God. I called you to do things that just make them uncomfortable, well you don't have to do it like that, like one of the best relational examples is my parents because my mom is the one who is the most direct and the one who will go on stage and sing and do all the other stuff but my dad is the leader of that house and I've seen people like dab my dad man I couldn't do what you like to be in the background and he said no I'm called to support my wife, I'm called to cover for her, I'm called to make sure she's safe and protected and all those other things, but some people can't allow their spouse to flourish and be completely safe and comfortable. who God called you to be is because you are still getting your meaning from other people's perception and other people's perception has become his crutch and you are still embraced with your crutch like and some of you.

Like it's not hugging your crutch, it's hugging Chris or Christine, it's hugging that kush, hugging the person you like, oh God help me, okay can I say it, can I say it? people who put the pacifier in your mouth who were around you in a different season when that used to hit the spot and now you don't even want to handle the situation that way, but they think that's the only way to handle situations and That's why I'm offering you things that I think will solve the problem. My kids know that when there's a problem with her little sister Gia, they go up to her and give her the passive, but Here and Now Jesus, to the point where she seems to be trying to communicate.

But she still doesn't have words and that's why she says no, no, no, no, no, and they say, "No, we know this will shut you up." We will know this, even MJ Jim won't cry and he will pick up her pacifier and try to put it in her mouth and she says no, but in the end she doesn't want to fight anymore, be careful around people, be like a girl, let's go to the party , that used to sound, that used to solve the problem, girl, you just need. for hey brother man, let's go, hey, you know, guys, we don't even do it, but what does that mean?

What we are about to get into. I don't need any real incriminating words, but what used to call me won't call me anymore. Now I don't really need another person to hug. I need to communicate and I don't have the words yet, so please stop offering me what is going to kill me, give me the chance to become something I have. I haven't been given the opportunity yet to mature and use my words and maybe go to therapy and get more tools to be able to change and transform, so look at this man. I have a lot to say to who he was talking to.

A pastor friend of mine the other day. I'm being very real becauseI feel that people need the most vulnerable and they will get out of here. I was talking to a pastor friend. That said, I used to struggle a lot with porn in the past and he said I'm in the purest place I've ever been in my entire life, he said, but this past month I've been struggling really hard. with Temptations of. porn this is like a pastor like a known person and I love that. I have real conversations and a community where a pastor might be saying that before something happens because that's when everyone judges them and makes a Christian video, uh, but but we're having community and conversations like I've been very attracted to pornography and he he said and I have realized that I have matured in my walk, but I have not understood how I used to handle situations where I felt overwhelmed or pressured. new ways of handling situations.

I'm more mature than ever, but when there's a problem I only have the same tools I used to resort to to pacify myself and he said he could recognize it. There is nothing wrong, I just need new ways to deal with the problems that I am facing right now and that may be the same for you in this room right now, let me tell you this for this purpose, how many people want to achieve a purpose right now how you want to do what God called you to do. Well, I'll give you the keys right here.

Purpose requires progress. The purpose write it down. Purpose requires progress. And the word I want to attach to that. It is maturity if you are going to achieve your purpose you are going to have to mature everyone says maturity is a bad word but I am praying that in the next year you will grow more spiritually, physically and emotionally than you have grown in the past. last decade someone needs to receive that by faith. I'm believing with you that in the next year you will grow more than in the last 10 years, that's fine, but that means you will have to mature.

First Corinthians 14 20 brothers and sisters, stop thinking like children when it comes to evil, be like babies, stop being in the cradle when it comes to your bad thoughts and your bad actions and hold grudges and things like that, but in your own way. to think, this is the Bible, be adults, grow so that we are able to mature is going to start in our thinking first. I just want to see a church that doesn't blame everyone else for what's wrong in the church, but looks at how I am part of the solution and what God is trying to do in this church and in this city the way I want, but that requires being an adult and the truth of the matter is that we would rather blame someone else than let God use us, everyone says maturity okay, so if purpose requires progress or maturity progress requires a process, you are not going to mature .

Without a process we believe that getting older makes us wiser and some people get dumber as the days go by. I'm not even playing like you're living off old ideas from people who have no idea what God has called you to do and if you are you're going to progress It's going to require a process look at Proverbs chapter 12 verse 1 he who loves discipline loves knowledge I love the Bible but anyone who hates correction is stupid you don't want to enter into a process that corrects you stupid that's stupid you don't do it I don't want to go to marriage counseling and you've never been married before, stupid, or you've been married six times and you still won't go to Mary's count, stupid, say if you don't undergo some kind of process.

Who are you under? What are you learning? Who can give you the sit down and shut up card in your life? If you are the boss of everyone. I don't care how much money you make if no one can say anything stupid to you. I'm not saying you're stupid, it's stupid to think that you're going to mature and you're going to grow without everyone saying process, okay, so we need a process, so if the purpose requires progress, maturity, progress, it demands a process in the work on your mechanics, if I was bad at shooting free throws, they would say keep shooting free throws, I work on my mechanics and a lot of us need to work on the things that seem mundane but are actually going to win us the game, say the truth wins you, the game is being a man or woman of character wins the game having integrity, that means doing the right thing when no one is watching that wins the game being our man or woman of our word that wins the game living with purity you win the game but it is mundane to do those things just keep doing them, but that is the Christian life.

It is the compound interest of doing the same basic things over time that creates a great result and an eternal ending. Oh, that was unpleasant, I mean doing the same thing, serving, showing up, loving. people pretend it's not like that, but it's that compound interest of doing the same things for 20 30 40 50 60 years that ends up in a life that resonates and resonates through eternity so okay, we're almost there. process requires progress maturity progress requires a process Mechanics look at this, so process process requires practice. What are you really practicing? Whatever you practice. That's what you'll get. Mastery on some of you.

They practice gossip and are a master. Some of you practice concealing the truth. That's why. Your best friend doesn't even know what you're handcuffed to, how you got a roommate who doesn't know who you deal with and who he lives with, but you're a master at covering up, the cover up comes, yeah me. I'm fine, I'm not talking about doing something super spiritual. I want to leave it written. Write this down. A practice is always a practice. There is something you can do practically today that will start the process that will break the chain so you can achieve. your purpose you can separate yourself from the hug you can remove the handcuffs from the crib you can get out of the pacifier and you can achieve the purpose I think about what God said in Matthew chapter 6.

These are simple practices prayer fasting giving literally what has changed my heart more than anything are these three practices how I got out of people's beds how I freed myself from perversion and the things that had me going to things that couldn't satisfy me these three things prayer fasting and generosity that's my dad I have nothing to do when I'm on fire when I'm on fire in the middle of the night it does because what it does is give God access to your heart When you pray you can be honest God I hate being single and I hate da da da da and I hate seeing this and that but God I'm here and I ask you again to give me what I need to get through this night, not the next 30 years, don't leave me tonight. answer that phone tonight don't let me stop on that website tonight God I need you to give me joy about my future let me have a vision of my children or my family or me helping other people God give me something to help me sustain myself this night tonight's temptation is enough and God said just come to me in prayer and then sometimes I'll ask you to give up something, sacrifice something quickly, you mean, don't eat, yeah, well, church isn't 21 days of prayer faster, yeah, you know.

I'm not calling harshly on the community. I'm asking you, well it's Thanksgiving and Christmas is on the way, yeah, for the rest of the year, if you give me the next 30 days, I'll give you answers about the next 365. I like it, but God, the pie of my great-grandmother's pistachio has never saved you, has never helped you, has actually handcuffed you to the cake, has actually made you gain a couple of pounds Matthew 6, you can go see it Jesus says when you pray, not if you pray. When you pray when you fast you look at the last when you give that's true, what are you talking about?

These three things can free you from the hug. Pastor Mike, did you take us the long way around this huge mountain to tell us what to do? The basics are not going to be fulfilled there but if you pray, fast and give, God will take care of your relationships, he will take care of your finances, he will fill your life. I am a living testimony to whom they handcuffed me, the hug, I almost lost the greatest thing that has happened to me in my life. wife hugging people she was never supposed to have a connection with.

Almost hmm, thank God that you begin to teach me the principles of the process and to be practical with a practice through prayer, fasting and generosity. I am challenging every person within the sound of my voice to stop embracing counterfeiting and join Christ, and he will ask you to do one of these three things very practically when you make the decision to grow, pray fast. , don, that's very easy Pastor Mike, you haven't done it, you haven't committed, I don't care how much money you make, God said, I'm still going to ask you to pray quickly and give what God is doing. ask everyone to do in this coming year to mature pray What fast and what else?

Just say it one more time if you are really going to grow in God and get out of the Cradle, you will have to pray what else to gain weight and do what to achieve nothing has matured me more than those three practices prayer fasting giving teaches you to love teaches you to obey you teach who is your source time for the church to grow I love you very much but it is It's time for us to do what next week, everyone, listen to me, we are going to be a church giving a crazy offering of faith.

We do this every year, it's our end of year offering, we use this time to check our hearts and really race. the vision of this house but this year I had a different feeling in my mind and in my heart when I was praying for it God said this year is not about quantities but about maturity listen to me when I say this this is the time where people start trying to bend down and feel like oh, he's not talking to me anymore, you're not listening to me anymore, this is the moment when God said, I'm going to ask you to give something that will be a sacrifice and I'm going to ask you to pray. about what you want to give them, some of you will need to fast Lord, if you want me to do this, you will have to show me exactly how I am supposed to do this.

I have to eliminate all other distractions. so that I can hear from you and then God will ask you to do what is the last thing if there is transformation. Transformation of the nation in this church. I think this is about to be the most advanced year of our lives because we are about to mature and this is going to happen. be a relaxed season for your life as you obey God and listen to me, listen to me, listen to me, listen to me if you don't have it, God doesn't require it, so let me be very clear with you, but some of us God is demanding something that is .

I will make an effort to make you obey him. I made one of my friends start selling things because God told them something and they said I don't have it. He said yes, you have it. He's just in your closet uncut from someone else they had. go get money out of an investment to obey God this has happened year after year me and pastor Natalie are believing in God to have a home from time to time God told me what we were supposed to give and I don't know if he heard my prayer for the home because he is asking me to give what I really need.

I'm not leading you from a place where I expect everyone to do it and I'm fine every year, people who know me know I'll be here. Sweaty palm obeying God because I can never ask you or lead you to something that I am not willing to stay here and believe God for myself. I need God to move and he said you want to grow up. Michael, come up, pray quickly next week. not even next week tomorrow people are going to drive someone the team told me that people already started giving the first week we said something about Crazy Faith people said I can't wait until the date you said because it won't be there anymore I have to Obey God now what I'm saying for the next week and a half.

I think we'll have open rooms at this location and I want everyone, whether you're doing finance or not, I want you to go online and fill out a form. crazy faith card and I want you to put here what you are getting out of handcuffs and what you are believing in God with crazy faith this is going to be vulnerable some of you will need two cards some of you will need print your own piece of paper because it's not going to fit on this little card, she said, I need a whole rolling pin that I can pull out, get a piece of poster board, but God is saying, I want you to write down the vision and make it clear. what are you believing me for and I want you to write down what you are getting out of handcuffs and then I want you to pray and if you need it you need to fast and then I want you to obey and what is the last one, yeah, say it like you mean it, I want to say this and I hope everyone knows that I'm not smart enough to plan any of this.

I'm just up here authentically trying to obey God. The Transformation Church does not need resources for the glory of God. Through the faithfulness of the people who already believe in this vision, I don't know if they realize how it's not like every Sunday we are giving fifty thousand, one hundred thousand, two hundred thousand, so this is not like a like, oh I hope we raise something as if God would have replaced through the faithfulness of so many people, we do not have donors of millions of dollars that we do not have yet in the name of Jesus, if you are watching and the Lord is placed in your heart, think this, but as I just want to be very transparent with all of you, this is not a money grab, no, this is an opportunity for all of us to grow up and I don't care where you are in your life.

God is going to demand that we do something. that makes us use our faith knowing that God is going to be faithful even in the midst of whatever is happening, what everyone is standing in the entire building and at home, thank you Lord, giving is asacrifice, but my commitment to give each year solidifies. My Covenant with God remember that I told you to hug yourself, it was a false Covenant and God wants the true one. Would everyone raise their hands all over this building? I'm going to pray for a couple different people for anyone who has been in a relationship that was unhealthy and toxic.

I need everyone to pray right now, Father. I ask that you release them from the principles that were shared today. Father. I appreciate that people stop settling for fakes. who are going to commit to you father, even people who are in abusive relationships. I need everyone to pray right now, people father who have been trapped in the same father of Cycles, God who has been in their generational line today, we thank you for a breaking right now in the name of Jesus I thank you for a way to Escape father God I thank you for the right community father for the people who have been contributing to the Cycles I just saw cycle cycle cycle today Father God everything that they have been putting Down with that is not like you, father God, the people who have settled for Less because they think nothing else is coming, God, I thank you that they would be embraced and connected only with you, father, God, thank you for taking us to another level.

Father God of commitment to our so-called father for every person who is under the sound of my voice father who has been liberated but now is not filling any contentment I thank you Father God because you are returning contentment to your people that God is telling me to count, don't get tired of doing good because in due time, if you don't pretend, God is about to do something you've never seen. God, thank you that you would help my brothers and sisters who have been living in Purity and who have been trying to do the right thing, father, let them remain in the fight of faith, father God, so that they do not receive a good done from the people , but a good thing done by you.

God, thank you because you hear them, you see them and father you will do it. reward and God I am thanking you for each person God who is now giving up pacifiers whether it is sex whether it is money whether it is pornography whether it is friendships that I am asking you to give up pacifiers and father we are leaving to commit ourselves to a purpose let us mature in you someone just say God mature me yes just one more time just say God mature me into the person you have called me to be full of purpose do it within us God prays specifically for each person who is about to give this next step of faith in maturing taking next Sunday and this week and throughout this month I thank you Father because you would confirm what you have told them father your word says that your sheep know your voice and a stranger, they will not listen to God, would you be clear With husbands and wives with single parent families, parents with business owners, would you be clear about what they are supposed to give and may God give them the courage and boldness to obey you, father?

I'm even praying for myself and Natalie. What you have said. God, I thank you that we had the audacity to obey you and we thank you that the fruit of our obedience will be a legacy of faith, thank you Father, we will not. building for now we are building for eternity thank you Father for this group of people who are crazy enough to believe that you can do something with our little ones until today we partner with you Speak Lord, your servants are listening to you if you are in this room right now and you have never accepted Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior.

I just need you to have the opportunity to make the biggest decision of your life. It's what took me away from being addicted to porn. A liar. A manipulator. Someone who. They had so many negative things in their hearts. I need the church to start praying. There is a war going on for someone's soul right now and I just want to give you the opportunity to receive Jesus. I don't care where you are. You've made who you've been hugging what you've been handcuffed to. God's grace is greater than all that and all he needs you to do is accept it right now if you are here watching this podcast online with live streaming 10.

Years from now God says today is the day of salvation and If you want to be free from the things that you have been embracing that have been counterfeit and you want to be handcuffed to Christ, the only thing that can satisfy you, the only thing that knows you. today is your day on the count of three I just want you to raise your hand I don't care if you're in an office in the gym walking on a track in this room right now all I want you to do is slide your Raise your hand on the count of three to recognize that you want to receive this wonderful gift of Salvation.

One. You are making the most important decision of your life. Two. I am proud of you, but more than that, your name will be written on the Lamb. Book of life I see hands going up right now three, could you raise your hands? I see you brother, I see you brother, I see you sister, I see you, come on, there are people all over this place, there are hundreds of people online, I see you, but more. that me seeing you, God sees you, hey, at Transformation Church, we are a family, so I need everyone to pray this prayer with me right now just to raise Your hands to heaven and just say God, thank you for sending Christ to take my hands away. wives today. you my life I believe you lived you died and rose again with all power just for me today I repent I turn and turn to you you changed me renew me transform me I am yours in the name of Jesus amen we can celebrate all over the world oh you better help me to celebrate all the changes in life.

Hello, glory to God. Hello, did you know that in the year 2022 we have seen more than 36,000 salvations? Oh, you better help me get started with over 36,000 glory to God. tomorrow we will have a crazy faith um booths atmospheres for you to come to give people are going to worship in these atmospheres that they are going to give they are going to bring their children I encourage you to bring your children Natalie and I bring our children what are everyone doing we are honoring God we are obeying God we are believing in God and I believe that this week God is going to do something in this church that is going to be incomparable I love you I believe in you I believe that many of us need to share this message with several people so that we can allowing God to continue making us uncomfortable next week is going to be crazy I love you may this be the best week of your life God speaks I speak blessing upon your people and I thank you God that you are going to do something that no one else can get credit for , we give you the glory, the honor and we pray for father during the week we are about to enter, some people are going to work tomorrow and they are going to try to take us. outside I thank you for the joy in the midst of the storms I thank you for the love and light around you we give you glory we give you honor and we give you praise in the name of Jesus we agree we hope someone says Amen until next time week go out and live a transformed life, let's give praise to God in the room.

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