DISCIPLINE YOURSELF - Best Motivational Speeches by Jordan Peterson

You write in the book that there is no faith, no courage, no sacrifice in doing what is right, what do you say to those viewers who do not pursue their dreams and are stuck in their careers because they are too afraid to take risks and pursue something significant, the first thing I would say is that you should be afraid of taking risks and pursuing something meaningful, but you should be more afraid of staying where you are, it makes you miserable, you are paying a price by sitting there feeling miserable. I could say, well, the devil I know is better than the one I don't know, it's like you're not so sure that time is ticking, yeah, and if you're miserable at your job now and you don't change anything in 5 years, you'll be a lot more miserable and you will be much older, but isn't it a luxury to pursue what is meaningful?

Our viewers have more, they have children, they have payments and loans. It is a luxury to pursue because we like resources. Don't think I don't remember now I'm not talking about what makes you happy it's a luxury to pursue what makes you happy it's a moral obligation to pursue what you find meaningful and that doesn't mean it's easy, it might require sacrifice if you need to change your job Let's also say that you have a family and and and and children and and a mortgage you have responsibilities you have already assumed those responsibilities you can't get away with it say well, I don't like my job, I left it, it's not a strategy to stress me out, but what you might have to do is think, well, this job is killing my soul, so what do I have to do about it?

Well, I have to look for another job, well, no. one wants to hire me, okay, maybe you need to educate

yourself

more maybe you need to update your resume V your resume maybe you need to overcome your fear of being interviewed maybe you need to improve your social skills like you have to think about these things strategically if you're going to change jobs career you have to do it as an intelligent and responsible person, which can take you a couple of years of effort to do correctly we are made for struggle we, human beings, are made to face the world, we are made to face reality, you want a challenge and the

best

way you can take on a challenge because a challenge makes you stronger, so you don't want to be safe, you want to be strong and you get it. strong by taking on optimal challenges and then you set your destiny in the world and take the slings and arrows of destiny and you become stronger as you do so and you may fail and fortune may kill you but it is the

best

you can do.

I bet and you know that people have achieved incredible successes from catastrophic failures, and I don't say that naively. I know perfectly well what happens to people. You know you're doing well in life and then you get cancer and then 6 months later you're dead and all the heroism in the world isn't going to save you at that moment, but that's not the point, that's not the point, life It's limited by mortality, but that doesn't mean you don't do it. you go out and compete and you develop by competing and you minimize the net amount of suffering in the world and that's something, man, that's something to do, compare

yourself

to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today, because you need to have a hierarchy.

To improve, you must aim for something and that means that you are going to be inferior to the people who have always reached that Dimension, so the question is who should you defeat in the final analysis and the answer is, you should defeat your old you. I you should try to do that constantly and you are also the right control because it is you who has had all your advantages and disadvantages and therefore if you want to compete fairly with someone then you should compete with yourself. If you are improving, then what you are doing is competing with your lower self and then you might also ask yourself what that lower self is and that lower self would be resentful and bitter and aggressive and seek revenge and all those things that go along with having a moral character. negative and those are things that interfere with your ability to progress as you go through life, so it's very necessary to understand that that's why I've been emphasizing this idea of ​​personal responsibility, it's like a personal thing.

Responsibility is competing with yourself is being a little better than yourself the next day and it's better somehow that you can handle it and that's humility, well I'm an imperfect person, I have all my problems, could I be that good? as person and the answer is if you have enough humility to set the bar appropriately low, then you could be better tomorrow than you are. today and you could well say what the right way to be in the world is if there is such a thing and it doesn't act according to a set of rules, but instead continually tries to transcend how flawed you currently are and what's interesting about that is that the The meaning of life is found in that Search, so I have also been exposing it in these discussions of the album because I say well, the fundamental issue is that life is tragic and difficult, very tragic and difficult for everyone and it is also contaminated. out of malevolence because no matter how tragic and difficult things are, there is always some stupid thing that you could do or that someone else could do that could make things worse than they have to be and that's life and you need an antidote to it. that because that It can make you bitter from constant contact with it, just tragedy, but tragedy combined with betrayal and malevolence makes it even worse, especially if it is self-induced.

Okay, so you need something to counteract that so you don't get bitter and resentful, what do you do? As opposed to doing something worthwhile by your own definition saying that you need some reason to get out of bed on a terrible day because you have something good to do well, what's the best thing you can do to transcend your current miserable self? and miserable? There is a meaning in that and that is a meaning that is associated with responsibility. One of the things I've been trying to make clear is that life is hard, it's tainted by malevolence and betrayal that can make you bitter, you need meaning to make up for it, where is the meaning? not in rights not in impulsive pleasure but in responsibility you take responsibility for yourself then you take care of yourself if you are good at that you have something left over to take care of your damn family if you are good at both things then you have something left over to take care of your community those are heavy burdens you take on the burdens that you consider meaningful the best way to take on the burden is to continue to continually improve yourself and that is where the meaning is found and that meaning is in the continuous self.

Transcendence is letting your old self die and the new self be reborn, even if things are going great for you now, there will be a time in the future when things are tough you know you are going to be sick a family member is going to be sick a dream is going to fall apart you are going to be insecure about your work situation as if the flood is coming just the apocalypse is coming it is always like that in life and you have to be prepared for it and the question is how to prepare for it and the answer is to find a way of being that works even in the most extreme circumstances, you have the chance to slowly rise.

Other than that, you have the possibility to do exactly what the fighter does when he is defeated, that is, well, regardless of the circumstances that could have led to my defeat, even if there were errors on the part of the referee. This is not the time to complain, this is the time to take stock of what I did wrong so I can improve it in the future and that is the right attitude. The point is that your best vantage point is how I am insufficient and how I can rectify it. That's what you have and the point is that you are insufficient and you could rectify it.

Both are within your reach if you aim low enough and I don't mean don't aim and I don't mean don't aim up, but you have to accept the fact that you can, you can set a goal that you can achieve and there won't be much to begin with. glory in it, because if you are not in very good shape, the goal you can achieve. Achieving tomorrow is not very glorious but it is much better than nothing and it overcomes the bitterness and it is much better than blaming someone else it is much less dangerous and you could do it and the good thing about this is that you undertake a very long journey and it begins to aggravate you, for what a small step today means that puts you in a position to take a little bigger step the next day and then that puts you in a position to take a little bigger step the next day and you do that for 2 or 3 years, man you're starting to move on, I don't know how many people have come up to me and told me it's so weird, they said well I started making my bed and that made a difference, it's like, well yeah, you.

You decided to aim up, man, and the first concrete instance of that was you made your bed and you think, well, that's not heroic at all, like no, but aiming up is heroic, that's something and then you go down to the point at which you are not above disaster. in your room you know that you are not superior to that you bend down to straighten yourself you are grateful for what you have in front of you and you take care of it you put it in order it's like a whole Suddenly, things start to get better and one of the reasons why the public is responding to what I've been saying in my lectures and what I've been writing about is that I don't tell people that they're fine the way they are.

Now I say no, no, you could be so much more than you are and they're relieved about that, because if you're in a dark and terrible place and someone says you're fine just the way you are, then you don't know. what to do about it it's like no I'm not I'm going through a terrible time and I'm hopeless you're fine the way you are so what is that that's where I am and what do you want to say to a young man you're 17 years, you're fine just the way you are, it's like no, you're not, you have 60 years to be better and you could be much better, you could be incomparably better in multiple dimensions and, in seeking that better, that's where you will find the meaning of your life and that will give you the antidote to suffering.

This is the trick. Although you have to pay, choose a path of

discipline

. If the

discipline

path you have to choose is a different topic, so there might be a rule, the rule might be the rule, it might not be to follow this rule, the rule might be that you have to follow some rules, then it's a meta rule and the rule. meta rule is that you have to discipline yourself and the problem is how that's not really the relevant question you can choose a disciplinary path that's why I often tell my clients, especially young people, they say well I don't know what to do, okay, no one is going to do something, do the best you can think of, put the best plan you can.

If you have it in practice, it won't be perfect and it will change along the way, but it will change in part because you become disciplined by following the path and as you become disciplined you become wiser and as you become more wise, you become capable of formulating better and better plans. So you can start vague and confusing and develop a plan that's not that good and you start implementing it and then you accumulate incremental wisdom as you implement your broken plan and that allows you to fix the PL plan and that's part of that process. of incremental self-improvement also imagine you only have 100, you only have $100,000 to buy a house and then you walk by, you look at this house and it's like Jesus, this man in the house is like he needs a lot of work, he's like well. that's all you have right are you going to pretend that the house is fine the way it is or are you going to look for where it's rotten and where the plumbing doesn't work and where the stove doesn't work you have to go and look and see where everything needs to be fixed and that It's as if he were a tough man and then, to do it correctly, someone has to have taught you, look, you are not your problems, you are fundamentally that if you face your problems you can solve them and that is the myth of the hero in a nutshell.

In short, the way the hero is the person who faces horrible chaotic potential, masters it, and does something right, that's the fundamental human story, but the problem is that you have to face what you don't want to face. to fix it, so you look at all the things about yourself that need to be burned, that you need to do without and that man, especially in the beginning, especially if you're screwed, that can be like 95% of you, it's not nice, but If you know that you are what can transcend your problems, more fundamentally if you know that you are what, if faced with problems, can transcend them, then.

You have the faith that would allow you to evaluate who you are. My daughter was very sick when she was fine when she was a child, but well, particularly when she was a teenager, she had a very bad time. She had juvenile rheumatoid arthritis. and when he was between 14 and 16 he first destroyed his hip which had to be replaced and then destroyed his ankle.his other leg had to be replaced and he walked for 2 years with broken legs and was taking massive doses of opiates and barely She could stay awake and, as proof of her faith, there is almost nothing more direct than a serious illness inflicted on an innocent child, so the chapter is a meditation on that and also on what to do in a situation like that, because everyone goes to have a situation like that, in certainsense, you know, because you will be faced with illness in the people you love and in crisis, so it is a practical guide to dealing with that kind of thing and one of the things you do when you are overwhelmed by crisis is to shorten your period of time, you know it's like you can't think about next month, maybe you can't even think about next week or maybe not even about tomorrow, you know, because right now it's so overwhelming that that's all there is, and that's what you do: reduce your time period until you can cope with it and if it's not the next week that you see how to get through then it's the next day and if it's not the next day then it's the next hour and if it's not the next hour then It's the next minute and you I know that people are very very very very tough and it turns out that if you face things it turns out that if you face things that you can endure much more than you think you can endure and you can do it without becoming corrupted.

You have to be alert when you are suffering, you have to be alert to the beauty of life, the unexpected beauty of life, and you know you have to look for that little piece of that little piece of shining glass in the dark when things go wrong. you have to look and see where things are still beautiful and where there is still something that holds and you know that you reduce your time frame and you would be grateful for what you have and that can help you get through very dark times and maybe even successfully. If you're lucky, but even if you don't make it, maybe it's just tragic and not absolute hell and you can do that.

You know that in the worst situation you can make it only tragic and not hell and there is a big gap between tragedy and hell. There's nothing worse on a deathbed than seeing people there struggling with death, it's bad enough, but you can take that as terrible as it is and turn it into something that's absolutely unbearable and maybe I think that's what it's like. so I closed the book. This idea is that if we didn't try to make terrible things even worse than they are, then maybe we could tolerate the terrible things we have to endure to exist and maybe we could make the world a better place. place is a constant storm of trying to figure out what it's all about and you change at 26 you're all about the hustle you're going to be a multimillionaire this and that and then you go to the bar one night and you fall in love and that changes what you care about and then you have a child and then this happens and then that happens things change, you just have to always consistently try to find out what motivates you and not because other people are watching you and not because that's what your dad wants and not that because that's what you said was going to happen and it doesn't seem like it and your family is going to judge you, you just have to be as real as possible with yourself and that's a very difficult struggle, but when you're not, you create enormous vulnerability. and unhappiness.

Sincere conversations redeem people because if you go to a clinical psychologist whose value is salt, you have a sincere conversation, the conversation is fine, this is what is wrong in my life and this is what caused it, maybe it know. it takes a year to have that conversation and this is how it could be worked out this is how it could be a beneficial future and therefore it is a completely honest conversation if it is working well and all that happens in the conversation is that the two people involved are trying to make things better, that's the goal, let's see if we can have a conversation that makes things better.

I think one of the factors in the resistance to these ideas of discipline and taking responsibility for yourself is people recognizing that they're not doing it. in their own lives and they get upset and instead of looking internally they try to attack what's bothering them, they attack their message, they attack the philosophy behind it instead of looking internally and objectively and having some kind of introspective point of view where they go. Am I reacting to this because this resonates like I'm missing out on this aspect of my life? Is this diminishing me or is this guy pointing out something I can benefit from?

Very few people are willing to do that. Few people are willing to take that critical moment to look at their own behavior and thought process and ask themselves whether the real adverse reaction they have to this person's message is because they know they are wrong and begin the process of becoming wrong. a lot. Being more honest with yourself will help you make much better decisions and will help you in the long run. It may not taste as fun or glamorous in the short term, but it will put you in a much better position to stop doing the things that If you know you're wrong, you might stop doing the right thing, so it's a pretty limited try.

First of all, we're not going to say that you know what is good or what is true in any ultimate sense, but we will assume that there are things that you are doing that for one reason or another you know are not in your best interest, there is something about them. things you know you should stop are somewhat obvious to you other things you are going to do Have doubts that you won't know which way is up and which way is down, but there are things you are doing that you know you shouldn't do now , some of which you won't stop doing for whatever reason. you don't have the discipline or maybe there's a secondary reward or you don't think it's necessary or it's too much of a sacrifice or you're angry or resentful or you're afraid who knows, but there's another subset you could stop doing it know one little thing, well, okay. , stop doing it and see what happens and what will happen is your vision will clear up a little bit and then something else will appear that you will also know that you should stop doing and that you could stop doing and you could do it repeatedly for an indefinite period of time and You know that does not necessarily mean that you will ever be able to formulate a clear and final picture of what constitutes truth and good, but it does mean that you will be able to continually move away from what is false and what is evil and you know that it is not a bad start.

Discipline starts with waking up early, it really does, but that's just the beginning. Discipline is the root of all good qualities, but you absolutely have to apply it to things other than just getting up early. It's all that works. Every day, getting stronger, faster, more flexible and healthier is about disciplining your emotions so that Being able to make good decisions is about doing the tasks that you don't necessarily want to do, but you know that we will help you and that's what discipline is: discipline means taking the hard way, the uphill road to do the right thing.