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8 SECRETS To ACHIEVE Your Most AMBITIOUS GOALS Today | Lisa Nichols & Lewis Howes

Mar 29, 2024
When the tongue in

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shoe go in two different directions you won't go anywhere when you line up, pull it, yeah when you line up the tongue in your mouth to go in the same direction as the tongue in your shoe Now we can move, don't chase things, look for acts of service and everything you need will come. I promise you that awareness plus action equals transformation. Please don't skip that part plus action because action is the antidote to despair. Look at some people you have. It's non-negotiable, but you're still optional.
8 secrets to achieve your most ambitious goals today lisa nichols lewis howes
I would really love to be successful and that's why you want to be successful. I want to be successful. I want to win money. I want to win money. I want to be healthy, but I'm not. -negotiable, but let me tell you, you can't take the elevator to the top right of a set of stairs if you've been feeling stuck with no purpose in your life. This video with Lisa Nichols will break down the

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your dreams and change your life I love your message I love your ideas I love your wisdom I also love your story and I want to immerse myself in it before starting the process of how to be abundant because you didn't start well in abundance no, not at all, I have Curious now that I'm a child about who is the

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influential person in your life and what was the

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important lesson that you remember being taught by my grandmother my father's mother my grandmother Bernice and she taught me that she said she prophesied about my meaning of the life, she talked to me about life when I didn't see it for myself and she said several things, but one of the key things was that she said baby, as you grow up, you will impact lives and they will write about it.
8 secrets to achieve your most ambitious goals today lisa nichols lewis howes

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You I have no idea how she knew and a lot of people are going to talk about you she said do yourself a favor take everything they have written about you and put it in the filing cabinet don't read it she said and when you are older my age, sit in your rocking chair favorite, have a cup of tea and have fun with who they thought you were, while the whole time you knew who you were and she was just instilling this sense of humility in you like you were a servant leader and I wasn't. It doesn't matter what they call you master guru expert you are a servant leader you remember that because they will say a lot of things and that's why she has been my anchor you know she passed away a long time ago but she has been my anchor and that was just one of the most powerful things and then She also said honey, you can get all the knowledge in the world, she said, but only time will give you the wisdom that I have, well, I thought, whoa, I thought, I guess grandma just checked me out, you know?
8 secrets to achieve your most ambitious goals today lisa nichols lewis howes
I continue to this day with all the knowledge that I have acquired from great books like yours and great books like Stephen Covey's and great books, but from Phil Jackson 11 Rings and Howard Schultz onwards, you know all these great works in the that I still feel. the feet of older people I still sit at my spiritual mentor I sit at their feet once a quarter I sit at the feet of people when they are 20 years older than me or more because they have something that I don't have, which is time of wisdom, yes, so she is she anchored me in two things that leave me humbled wow, okay, what is the wisdom that you have from all your time so far?
8 secrets to achieve your most ambitious goals today lisa nichols lewis howes
Don't count the number of times you've been knocked down, stick to the number of times you get up. Hmm, okay, I'm going to get these truth bombs all day, right, boom, boom, boom, I love it. Now I'm curious why you didn't start out, you know, with a lot of money and a lot of abundance mentality. You're right, not only was it not a lot of money, you know, it's one thing to be fiscally bankrupt and another thing to be emotionally bankrupt, two very different things and I was bankrupt and in 1994 I had to seek help from the government. just to feed my newborn baby, um, I had to connect with women, babies and children, and I still say it and you know, I say it often.
I was interviewed, I was interviewed 155 times in five months for my previous book, no matter what and it still hits me in the same place. I was embarrassed to stand in line with all the other mothers, some fathers, to get free pasta, no butter, no cheese, no milk, but at the same time I was grateful that a service existed to help people like He told me he knew that here It wasn't where I was going to stay, but it was where I was at that moment. I wasn't committed to occupying real estate there, but it was my current address and it broke and broke, it kind of hit the I felt like I had hit rock bottom.
Sometimes you feel your back at the bottom as if it thinks that's the right bottom. And then there is always a deeper yes. So when I was getting food stamps, I thought I was. at the bottom mm-hmm and then you said uh I went to the ATM I ran out of diapers for my son Jelani and I went to the ATM to get money to go buy diapers and it said insufficient funds and I had 11.42 cents in the bank, which is the minimum? You take out 20 dollars exactly, you need 20 to get 20 and, um, I had 11 dollars and 42 cents, so I went home and I had to wrap my son jalani for two days in a series of different mosaics that That was my biggest point low and that was because as a parent all you want to do is provide that it's simple I just want to provide security and food for my baby someone else was providing my food and I didn't even have diapers and I.
I remember on the second day of wrapping my son, Louis, in the towel, I put my hand on his stomach and said, "Don't worry, Jelani, with tears streaming down my face, I said, don't worry, son, mom. will never be so broke again." so you talk about having financial resources, I realized that first I had to believe that I could do something different and that wherever my mindset was, my bank account was going to follow, so I needed to change my mental zip code, which one Was it your mental zip code? then scarcity lack I was born and raised in South Central Los Angeles I grew up among the Harlem crowd in the 30's and paper in the 60's I had three fights a week to get home from school my highest grade in school was a C-plus and 12 years of In school, my highest grade was C-plus, so if you ever tell the story to anyone, don't forget my Plus, don't think that you don't forget my Plus, it's very important for a C student, a student I was an I.
I was a c a d for a student it doesn't matter like plus plus whatever, but for a c student the plus matters, man, I get it so I fought, everything in me life was about a hustle, everything nothing was easy except the love for my family which was easy and effortless and graceful and generous and but everything else outside of that was a hustle getting her to get god was the environment in which I grew up and I'm not saying that you have to grow up in that difficult environment to have an incredible future. People say well, Lisa, I didn't have a bad time.
Could you listen to it? I would have traded my experience for anyone. I don't think I chose that to be able to have this and that's why I didn't know abundance. I didn't know abundance existed I didn't know abundance could happen to people who look like me A woman geographically from my neighborhood I didn't know abundance could be I didn't see it around me I didn't know abundance could be for someone that in my culture it was all about survival and hustle, so many things and spiritually I didn't know that someone who loved God and had a spiritual foundation can also have prosperity without being perceived as greedy, I mean everything in my environment.
He didn't tell me everything he said no I do hear the sound effects well and sometimes you have to turn down the volume and listen to your heart well so what was the conversation that you would say to yourself during this time when you're in this? scarce zip code someone like me can't have them there that boy over there comes from the right family that girl over there her skin color is the right complexion I'm full figure mocha skin color full lips round hips curly hair girl no, me No, now I have other things that I have, I have an abundant family, I have fantastic children, if I want, I have closeness with God, but I don't have abundance and I realize that a lot of that conversation was embedded in me before I was five years, I mean, it just comes with the territory.
I watched my grandmother earn a dime in 20 different directions and I never wondered if she had 21 dimes. I just want to grow and make my dime go in 20 different directions. instructions to be like grandma and both as a culturally inherited gender as a woman you were not raised to make millions you were raised to get a good job or get a man with a good job that you know especially in the 80s and 90s absolutely absolutely and that's how we were raised spiritually, they taught you, you know, in my background, my religious background, now I'm spiritual, I'm not attached to any religion at all, but I grew up in the Mount Tabor Missionary Baptist Church.
It was you know money is the root of all evil, who would want a lot of that and that, um, exactly who wants evil and if that's what you say, then I learned that I don't need it and Sister Brown, I saw the Sister Brown and Sister. Brown was the most pious woman in the church and she was always selling fish dinners and barbecue dinners to make sure she had enough money, so subconsciously she wanted to be like Sister Brown because that woman can pray to heaven and so on. I'm looking at that and then in my neighborhood it was the time when you get a little bit more, you give it away, you give it away to this day.
I'm not kidding, I'm one of my last chances. I don't call them challenge opportunities. I am among the top one percent of earners in America and I say that with humility, I am grateful and my job now is to learn to keep it and grow it because I love giving it away and I know it is a learned behavior. I learn and I give it to good things. I just put in eighty-two thousand dollars and renovated my grandmother's entire house because I know she wasn't going to move. She's going to get up. That's where she's going to rest.
She's going to stay right there. She's been. in that house since 1968. she's not going anywhere, so I redid the whole house, gutted the whole house and spent about a hundred thousand dollars doing it and I'll do it again and again and again. because I was also taught to give it away, so now I'm going to go with people who are more powerful in money in terms of I know how to earn a lot, I know how to keep a lot, now I learn how to grow a lot, you know? be willing and humble enough to say that's where I am.
I got the first two because money has three levels. How do you win? How is it preserved and how is it grown? So you know. I had a conversation for a long time in many different ways and then it's the conversation as a woman, if I earn that much, it will be difficult to be that big word, you know, and as an African inaccessible exactly and men are taught like I taught them as a woman. about money they teach you as a man be the provider well you know it's a little hard to keep a person like me you know when I come in I go how about we put it together because I'm great at the You know I realized that men also have to be comfortable with the fact that that's an '80s conversation and in 2015 she could be 16 right now in 2016.
Well, you're the book tour last year, I started the book tour and you have like you have to at every moment tell me the date that we are exactly right we are living in everything good I feel you I feel good you know that only you uh there is your freedom of time um so I'm curious to know what it was at this moment when you realized, okay, I need to change the way I think, the conversations I'm having, uh, how I'm showing who I am in each moment, living in the sparse environment that I've lived. for 20 something years to suddenly shift into an abundance mindset and way of being, what was the moment you experienced the thought, the idea, the catalyst that broke, I like how you say a moment as if the roof opened and the lights came on and the angels came no, maybe it was over time, right, there was a time when there was a time when the suffering became too painful, there you go, so mine It didn't necessarily come in a moment of glory, it came with 11 and 42 cents and seeing my baby wrapped in a towel, a towel, I felt like I was being unfair to him, look because 30 days before the tile really told my things during 30 days before the blue, her father called me and when I answered the phone he never forgets that I said hello, Lisa said, I'm in the Los Angeles County Jail, well I don't work in the jail and I don't know the people in the jail. and I don't know people who have the possibility to go, so how did you get there?
I met you at an American company and you were a professional. How you got there is your business I don't know but I am now a single mother of a son whose father is now in prison on the floor again so 30 days later when I had my son wrapped in a towel. I've finished now. I just finished. You are sick and tired of being sick and tired. I've finished now. So you know, the concept of bankruptcy is that there is nothing left. That is the concept of bankruptcy. So I like to explain it. I was ruined in my mess I was ruined in my chaos and I was ruined in every sexy because my excuses are sexy by the way I have been a specialist inLinguistics for years I was able to convince my teachers to do things right I mean, that's just been my gift, my father used to say Lisa, please promise me you'll use your powers for good and that's why I was bankrupt with all my excuses , so if you ask when it was probably about three hours after I told my son we'll never be.
Here again the second day of being wrapped in a towel in 1994. And then I said the next question was: "If I finish this, I'm not even sure what it looks like. I just know that there are a lot of abundant things in there." . thinkerslive an abundant life have abundant memories with a surplus of everything you need because abundance is being an overflow of the things you have abundance is simply about overflowing it's about overflowing that means if there was a saucer under this cup the abundance would be everything um, this tea flows into the saucer and I can feed you from my saucer because I have already filled my cup enough, I use my cup for myself and I feed you from my saucer and abundance says that I have a saucer in my relationships. full of great experiences there is a dish in my health and well-being I have so much abundant health and vitality that can appear for you there is a dish in my spirituality that I can pray for you I can forgive those who are perceived as unforgivable and love those who are They are perceived as not kind and then there is a saucer for my finances and that in every area because abundance is a 360 degree experience.
Let us see that wealth is singularly focused. Wealth is about your money and your possessions. That is wealth. Okay, but abundance is 360. I have many very, very rich friends. miserable and happy who they are who are not abundant who are not abundant are fine scarcity yes they are rich they are not abundant and they don't understand that and they come to me

lisa

help me with my relationships with my family or whatever and then um I had to learn something different louis didn't know what he didn't know and then that became the moment I said what do I need to know to have something different what do they know that I don't I don't know and how can I get it and I became a hunter so what was the first discovery? um, that there's a mentality that comes with abundance, that they think differently, they don't just do something different, there's not a connection, first of all, what camera.
Do I investigate if someone there is no such thing as a connection? I'm still waiting for mine and if you know where my phone number is so there's no connection yeah there's no connection like it's not true like you. I had a 297 million in one chance of winning the lottery and within five years people win the lottery and they get into more debt than before they won the lottery, so that's not even a correct connection, so I realized I needed change. my way of thinking I needed to learn something different and I needed to know it on a cellular level all those things that I just told you about my color my gender I had to unlearn people we are addicted to information because we have all kinds of access to information online and we are learning all these things but we are not implementing anything.
Sorry, I might step on some toes, that's what I do, so I realized I had to do it on a cellular level first before I went looking for more information. I had to be willing to get divorced and dislodge some belief systems I already had, that had taken me as far as they could and are now holding me back. It's almost like if you wear a size 11. You have 11 feet and you tried to fit them back into a size 7 shoe, you went through it a long time ago and that's going to be a very uncomfortable day.
I was uncomfortable, I felt very uncomfortable with my thoughts, so I started to immerse myself in books. The first book I died and dove into was Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People and it interrupted me. He interrupted everything I didn't know. It was like a double door opened and then a wall opened. and I say, what do you know? Why didn't anyone tell me that? I felt like I was outside a club and you really are. I'm just going to tell you that many thinkers think a certain way and don't do it. I'm trying to convert you like people like you and I come on, let's do it everyone, but this is what I know about the human spirit is that the human spirit has a choice of power and most people don't want to choose this type. to think because it cost you something what is the cost the cost is that you have to get up earlier you get up earlier than average your day what you do during the day is what some people do in a week but you do it in the mornings and Others people make a 12 hour day you have to be willing to do what you're willing to do on your book tour to appear in the New York Times some people say I have to do all that I don't want to do all that that's a lot of work, okay, great, then you have your life like you have to sign up for your life experience.
There's no way you were when I realized that I was the culmination of all my decisions. That's direct without a pursuer. It's like getting it without cookies. and milk, I was culinary, you are the culmination of all your decisions and then when you level up your decisions and now that's even harder, when you leave, God, why am I always single? You are the culmination of your decisions, you are a combination of your actions why can't I keep the money you are a combination of your decision your life so I wanted to make better decisions because my son is wrapped in a towel I have 11.42 cents I am overweight I my son's father in prison couldn't help it, I was a culmination, my life experience was a combination of all my decisions and without a doubt it was a disaster, so I went, let me go learn from the life of someone, it doesn't seem like he's a disaster and then let me adopt some of his behaviors when I started hunting I went to conferences myself and at first he was afraid of me these conferences I had never been to conferences before I went to entrepreneur conferences I was the only one who I was one of four women at a conference of 800 people and I was the only woman of color, so we were all older white men and I and I was like, well, they're not afraid of money, it seems like they're talking about money and businesses and corporations and roi and ppms and term agreements and no blah spanish I don't know what that means but I'm not leaving until I realize this and I went to the same conference when I said do what other people don't they would do. and you will have what other people don't have.
I went to the same conference those 42 times. I told you I was a C student, so I took a minute and kept getting sponsored until I didn't have the money. go to the conference I started volunteering at the conference I would be on stage teaching because they loved the way I spoke then I would get down and help clean because I had to pay my dues to be there it was fine I ate my A piece of humble pie everyone the days because he was bankrupt. I see some people you haven't pushed. Non-negotiable but you are still optional.
I would really love to be successful and you want to be successful. I want to be healthy, but I'm not. negotiable still because the moment the rubber hits the road and you feel a little raw and it gets a little tender and a little blood may appear and you don't want to donate blood, you don't want to sweat, you don't want to cry, let me tell you no you can take the elevator to the top right of several stairs. I'm curious. You talked about self-care in a recent tweet. The importance of self-care. I'm curious to know what it is. the definition of that for your self-care because a lot of people think okay, is doing your nails if you're a girl?
Is it getting a massage? Is it the way you think about yourself? is if? What is self-care? For you, yeah, first of all, I think self-care is a reflection of the value that I think I have to a lot of people. I did this for a long time. I wasn't into self-care, but I noticed. my lack of self-care was related to my lack of self-esteem, so I think the other side of the coin is recognizing your self-esteem, recognizing your value to yourself, recognizing yourself first and then your value of being yourself. you have for the people around you, then self-care is your responsibility to your future is much bigger than getting your nails done it's much bigger than a massage, although those are nice, self-care says I want to be responsible for myself future, that is, I want to give my body give my mind give myself what I need to play the long game that to recognize self-care is to recognize that this is not a sprint this life is a marathon you know, I always say that your work en Identify and and and have the courage, tenacity and resilience to own your purpose.
Your body's job is to get you there. Focus on sustaining the marathon of life so that your purpose can be fulfilled and bring it to life as if you have a responsibility to your body and your health and well-being if you believe your purpose is important or you are still discovering it. you want that interval between your birthday and your transition day to mean something take care of your body take care of your body take care of your mind so that you can every morning I wake up and have the same prayer of gratitude every morning god, thank you for giving me a healthy, healthy mind and logic, thank you for giving me a body that follows my orders and if you don't think about it as you like what it has, try telling your hand to move and it doesn't move, try to want to run towards a goal and you can't do it and so every day you don't. a day passes I am grateful and I share my gratitude because my mind thinks logical thoughts being able to rationalize and my body following my orders your body is your instrument it is your tool it is the first person the general in your army what happens when we live in a state of irrational thoughts or overly emotional thoughts, especially you know there are a lot of people during this time who are getting scared about the pandemic and it's coming from an illogical and irrational place with the social justice movement coming from whether it's justified or not, it's not what I'm saying, but it comes from an emotionally charged energy, what are we saying to ourselves when we come from an emotional or irrational state? mental with our actions well, it's simple first it's important to understand that uh individuals who advance leaders abundant thinkers agents of change and when you think of Nelson Mandela and Dr.
Martin Luther King and César Chávez and the Mahatma Gandhi and Mother Teresa and you think of Michelle Obama, you think of those people, Barack Obama, you think of those people, they recognize that inside, that emotion and logic cannot coexist and they make a logical decision, that logic must lead the emotion and the longing has to follow, so You make your decisions from logic and information, in fact, not from longing and emotion, you allow longing and emotion to fuel a logical decision, does that make sense? so don't run out of emotion, don't run out of feeling, but every time you did something and it was just feeling that delay just emotionally you probably said oh, I should have done something different, I shouldn't have done that, I'm so sorry, I was too angry, I'm like you always apologize if it's just out of emotion and in no way I mean I'm saying don't be full of passion but also make sure you're full of logic so don't just don't be uh this, I'm outraged by this, whether it's a relationship or lack of justice or whatever, this isn't fair, you don't know, just going out and expressing your feelings, that's not enough, it's not really enough, it's not enough in any way, whether it's justice Social, whether it's a relationship, whether you know a business or service, it's not enough that you have. when you have logic, in fact, you have logic included, it gives you a better chance of having longevity and impact, so, yes, I know people recently have wanted it to be more emotional before what they saw and and I found myself saying on social media Very boldly you know, I choose my path.
I found my stillness. I entered a place of stillness and some social injustice. I first went to stillness so I could think about my movements because again I am a leader. a leader a gladiator a change agent a change maker all the things I consider being or aspire to be at the next level I want my script to mean something not only are you responsible for your words and your actions you are also responsible for your reactions, um , that changes the rules of the game, and so on, for those people who get carried away by emotions, I absolutely say let emotions be the fuel of your car, but make sure logic and information are at the wheel. oh, if you're excited behind the wheel, you're about to crash somewhere exactly something you're not making the best decisions while you're stuck in traffic at 100 miles an hour, did you get a sense of what I'm hearing? what you're saying is that maybe you weren't posting or talking about your feelings about the importance of black lives or the social injustice that was happening fast enough and that some of your audience was pressuring you to say where you stand.
Or why not? Aren't you talking or is that what you're saying right? Well, I responded right away, but I said, I responded when I responded,I said, I'm, I'm praying, I'm praying for George Boy's family, I'm praying for his children. I'm praying for their, um, communion, I'm praying for every mother of every child, every murdered black boy, every murdered black daughter, I'm praying for them, um, and I had a violent reaction, not much, but a reaction that He said: do you know why? Are you just praying? We have been praying for so long and people were angry because they were not passionate.
I wasn't passionate enough publicly. I was compassionate and you know I'm a black woman. I was angry all day. She was hurt. She disappointed me that my grandmother was 91 years old, why does she still watch this? Why are we still here? She had all the emotions that everyone else had, but because I have to be responsible for my thoughts, my actions and my reactions because she could have a few million come with me. I wanted to make sure that I was doing something that was going to be guided for a long time, but before all that, Louis, one of the reasons I couldn't talk was because my 25-year-old son, six to 220 pounds, was driving 20 hours across the country from California to Seattle during the initial part of many of the protests, so my baby was on the road in a car at the wheel, a huge African American man, so I couldn't even speak until he told me that It had arrived safely and that took a few days. and then I was a mother, so it was super.
I was shocked at how scared she was. I could not sleep. I couldn't think clearly. She called him at three in the morning because she told me mom, let's get it done. to hotel, to next hotel around 2am. m. or 1 a.m. m., so I'm awake, I'm talking on the phone like you're still there, are you still there? So, I had a backlash, I got more support than anything else, but I realized it. which um and at times like this, Louis, where the woman sometimes just wants to talk, I have to stop and wait, that's going to do the most good for everyone and I'm not saying dilute my conversation.
I have no desire on any level to dilute my belief system or dilute my opinions, but I do have a desire to have the greatest impact, so you know, what you do is sometimes not popular, but I never started making a transformative work or to be a transmission to be popular if I am some form of celebrity if I am, it is a byproduct of doing, hopefully, good work in the world, but I am not, I am not doing things to be popular, I am doing things to have impact, that's good, hey. I'm Louis and I'd love to connect directly with you.
Text youtube to my number 614-350-3960 to receive weekly inspirational messages from me and anyone listening who may be starting out or maybe growing. audience of you know, uh, of a certain size, whether it's 10,000 followers, 100,000 or millions, what do you tell them because at some point they're going to get pressure comments about something that people don't like about them? What advice do they give? Do you have for people who are leaders or want to be leaders and with that type of leadership comes some type of following or fanship what advice do you give them to not allow the pressure of your audience to dictate your decisions or make you feel bad about who you are okay, I'll tell you what my grandmother told me and she starts every statement with honey, honey, other people's opinion of you is none of your business, so that doesn't mean you don't care, but it means you have a job, but you need to discover what that looks like and feels like in you, you are a unique, unrepeatable miracle, that is what you are, unique, unrepeatable and the moment you try to copy someone else, you will be a failure of yourself and so find out who you are what your belief system is speak to inspire not to impress oh like all day like speak to inspire and speak to interrupt to interrupt to move forward move forward conversations interrupt to move forward well uh mentality be willing to be unpopular at the expense of possibility of someone growing up on the other side look my grandmother also says and many people have heard me say this your conviction and your convenience they don't live on the same block I was talking to a beautiful group of coaches all white they looked like they were probably over 40 years old, true, and this gentleman told me something beautiful, he said

lisa

, he said: I want to talk to black people as a white man because I'm afraid of finding out that white people that's been in my life my whole life could be racist he said I don't know what I'll do if I I hear about that so I want to talk to black people so I don't hear about that I said here's that moment when your conviction and your convenience don't live on the same block you have to be willing to be bothered with new information to have a impact on the future when you live like this suddenly your mind being at the highest level of consciousness does not mean that you are the smartest does not mean that you know everything, let me be very clear, but it does mean that you are always seeking the highest level of service that may have some obstacles, oh that.
It might come with some bruises like my doctor said when I broke my right ankle Lewis in three places, Miss Nichols said, this will get better and you will be stronger, however first it will hurt because I have to break your leg again, oh I have to do it. Break your leg again to fix it, so I always go back to that experience because in order to get to a healed leg I had to break it first, which means I had to walk with some pain, so if you're leading a group of 10 10 000 20 000 10 million be willing to lead even when it is not popular leaders lead even when it is uncomfortable to lead do not choose convenient leadership choose leadership do not choose leadership that will not cost you anything you choose leadership and if you do not want it to cost you it costs nothing so sit back and don't leave be a follower because it is always always the path is already done there is nothing wrong with that by the way there is no judgment in a follower but if you choose this path I am a unicorn I am a gladiator I am an agent of change I'm here to interrupt I want to make this world a better place between my birthday and my transition day okay then be willing someone is always going to have this little thing here it's down always this little thing here don't worry about that don't worry you job is to wake up look at yourself in the mirror and say

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I am enough I am smart enough, I am bright enough, I am chocolate enough, I am mocha enough, I am creamy enough, my hair is curly enough, my hair is straight enough , I woke up enough before you check any response on social media, first you like yourself and then everyone else's like is optional oh like on the only like and I'm not saying ignore other people but I'm saying that you are whole and complete and everything you touch you have to touch from an incomplete whole even what you don't know even in your ignorance about something right now I am educating more of my white brothers and sisters on how to have conversations between color lines , how do you want to do that?
What are some things to say that can keep you in that safety net of connection? That's what it should be used for and that's what everyone asks me for. Give us an idea and in that you are complete and complete your ignorance about that conversation that does not measure your integrity correctly and continue with that leadership of followers. I guess somehow throughout our entire life we ​​all follow something or collaborate and follow someone else's opinion, advice or teamwork and we all lead other people at different stages of our life, whether it's one person or you. I know millions of people, so we will always learn.
I want to talk, talk a little bit more about relationships because I feel like for my success, my growth has been all about relationships and building quality relationships in the process. I would say a lot of friends from college to after college, you know it's like a lot of people don't get it, they don't get it right and when you try to connect with them and educate them or just encourage them and say hello, this. you might rescue 9-1-1, it's almost scary and yes, there's a lot of judging each other, a lot of negative talk behind your back, jealousy, stuff like that, you've lost a lot of relationships over the years, from family to friends, um and how do you handle a situation where someone you're very close to no longer wants to grow wants to learn wants to have this abundance mentality?
What do you do in that situation? Do you just delete them? Do you add new people? your life, how does that work? Because I know that you have great relationships and you constantly connect with the people that I do and I care for them, yeah, and there's probably only a few years between us, just a few, um, but they've taught me something. Yeah, and I'm glad you asked that question because I've been looking at that lately, so there are three types of relationships. I talk about this in depth. In the book there are three types of relationships.
There are three types of relationships. giving relationships now I'm going to talk about friendships and I want to talk about romance, of course, of course, because yes, what we talk about most are relationships, what many people think about most is money, those are the two anchors that simply consume. a lot of energy, yes there are three types of relationships and I'm happy to answer the friendships that I've lost and what I've done, but I want to give this context because I think this is going to be liberating for someone someone came to this podcast just for this this is your nugget everything else is an advantage this is all there are three types of relationships there is a relationship that gives life and that is the friend or the romance that lasted from one to two days years and they were in your life just to remind you that you still have it and you know that friend you made and it was like fire for six months and then they left, yeah, and you because you can.
I don't even support it, it's too combustive, you know, it's too demanding, it's too chaotic, it's too turbulent, the joy is high and the turbulence is high, yes, exactly, that's how it was, it can't, it can't exist after two years , but that's called a life-giving relationship and some don't last even a day there's a stranger that stopped by your night and it was delicious a certain one or two and without judging that that's just life they're giving life they I'm there to remind you stay in the game, that fire that you had in your belly when we played, skated, made love or sang.
Keep that fire in your belly, which is a life-giving relationship. Relationship number one, relationship number two, is for life, no matter what. you do it someone is going to bury the other person romance of friends is only for life they can get on your nerves you won't leave and then this third type is the type that there is the greatest disturbance in the greatest chaos in the most sadness and the most discordant and it is the relationship we are in for the most part, 80 out of 80 of our relationships are in this category and probably about 99 of our chaos and discord are in this category and that is called intentional, I hope you are writing This now that is called a relationship with a purpose and a relationship with a purpose is a relationship that came together to fulfill a purpose, whether the purpose was to create a business, to grow together, to have children, to learn to love madly, there is a purpose. and that relationship lasts from three years to 15 years or 25 years, it can be a long time, however, when discord arises, when sadness enters, where discontent enters, once you know what I am going to say, a once it is a determined relationship full of purpose determined once the purpose is fulfilled the relationship will forever take a change it will not necessarily end but it is at the beginning of its decline now they can stay together for a lifetime after the purpose is fulfilled yes you can but it will have a flat line, it will just have a flat line and then most people, a lot of people, the relationship ends because something just isn't right because someone says why can't we go back to the way it used to be well, we learned that , we used to be serving and fulfilling the purpose, yes, everything is ready in that beautiful juicy excellent content, it didn't even come from me, I learned it years ago and adopted it to save my own life, um, etc.
In that context, I have friends who have been with me for years and I have friends who have moved on and had a purpose and that was the only thing I could give to find peace because there is this gap, right there is this hole. I wish I had them, but let me share something with you, Louis, I realize that my job in the lives of my friends and in the lives of my relatives is not to rescue them now, this is where the distance in our years comes a little, I realize that I can have all this information in your beautiful book.
I can have all this information and what I wrote in mine. And when I show up to them, they only want their girlfriend. They only want the girl from home. They only want her niece. They love their cousin, they only want their daughter, they don't want me to rescue them, it's true that I had to retire from the conversion business because I am terrible at converting people, they will be whoever they want to be in this, no disrespect to them. but no one drugs me to this place of consciousness so who am I to drag them?
I know we get excited because we see the light and the reality is that all of us, all your work, all mydespair john bias says that action is the antidote anything that doesn't work in your life you have to be in some form of Action, not thought, not thinking, not just thinking, not just talking, but action so that people can think that They're like I've really been working on this. What you've been doing. I have been analyzing. No, no, then, no. It didn't work to strategize thinking I'm strategizing and communicating maintaining action is the antidote to despair john bye says lisa

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says action is the recipe for success deep down self love is the ground personal action is the path towards progress and movement for you and those who witness your life and when you remember that your life does not just belong to you, look, look, look, this is huge, what does this mean?
Your life doesn't belong man man man this is huge man people need to favorite this. I need to say it again, man, let me tell you if my life just belonged to me and I and I knew it did, I wouldn't have done half the things I've done with all the discomfort it brought me. the inconveniences and problems donuts all day ice cream all night all the victories peric all the time wasted I'm just talking about the time I have, I've had to give up the relaxation time, the bubble bath time, the time I've given up to that my life can be a contribution, man, your life simply does not belong to you, your life belongs to those people who are going to cross your path and because they crossed your path, not anyone else's, but because they crossed your path. along the way you inspired them to want to be better people you inspired them to want to express love in a way they had not thought of before you inspired them to look another man and another woman in the eyes you inspired them to listen with open ears and an open heart because they crossed your path oh your life not only belongs to you you can't come and go without being responsible for those you impact and when you understand that you are as expected my life is my life it literally sends waves to the universe and in fact it sends waves to my cousins ​​it's on ripples to my brothers it sends ripples to my lovers it sends what it sends to the people around me and it impacts the way they choose to show up in the world when you recognize that then the question is then what are you sending?
What are you doing with all your power? You are powerful You are powerful and leaders do not forget their power Look, I tell people if you don't get selective amnesia about the impact you have on the world You are powerful You are a unicorn You are a gladiator You are an agent of change and the more you are own that and then you do the required healing, see I had to do the required healing to own that, oh that's like a dichotomy, so a leader has to heal and a healer has to lead what was the most important thing you needed to heal and what do you still need to heal now?
No, I'm serious, yes, I had to heal, not feeling good enough because, because of my mocha skin, my full lips, my round. hips and my curly hair. I feel like because I felt the calling in my life to help humanity, but I didn't think I was qualified as a black woman to help humanity. I didn't feel that humanity would listen to me. I thought black America would listen to me, but no one else, so when I see myself in Croatia, in Kazakhstan, in Kiev, in Ireland, in Kenya, and in Dubai, literally every time I go, I keep thinking, wow, I needed to heal. . my image that um because I had problems in school because to this day I am functionally dyslexic functionally um because I did not graduate from college I was not qualified to have a big impact I could be a local I can have a local impact for a group of little black children, but it wouldn't have a local impact for black educators, it wouldn't have a regional impact and I'm sure it wouldn't have a national impact, who am I to think it could have an international impact? south central the crypt of harlem 1930s my neighbors kicked me out of college because I didn't have the money I didn't think that so I struggle with the I am I am the right person for this task with everything I have and all that I think I should have done it Yes, I am the right person.
I also struggled with feeling like people would love me forever. Which means it was worthy of the long haul, like I heard about people who have 25 year friendships and people and me. I hadn't experienced that, um early in my career, um, the people from my past had been part of my past, I had it and and this world of transformation was all these new people in it, you know, because it was the climate that didn't was. the conversation my friends were having, so I needed to find the people who were having conversations like me, like you, I need to find Jack Canfields, I need to find Marcie Shine Off, I need to find Reverend Michael Beckwits, I need to find I need to find them, but I haven't known any of them for a long time so I'm starting to miss anyone who knows me, Lisa Shantae, the old me, yeah, no one knows they know me in the last two years, yeah.
Yes, no one, no, there is no one there for my bridge, for my bridge, and then I start to wonder: will I ever have? Will I have long-term friends? Will I have long-term relationships for a long time? That was a very silent concern of mine, I want someone who knows my story, I can get up from the table, I would always say this to my friend, I want to get up from the table and if the waiter comes, I want someone at the table to know what that like, I go, it's just that simple, it was that simple and then I worried about love.
As my career grew, I will talk about the more successful Lisa. As my career grew, I began to feel like it was harder to find someone who could hold my light. without dimming my light, I need someone to be a container for my light without asking me to turn off the light and um, that was, uh, that was a long journey, I'm 54 years old, I'm proud to be 54 years old and I just met love of my life just two years ago, wow and um, and I'm grateful for every relationship that helped me get there, every relationship gave me something, gave me a gift or taught me a lesson, wow and I.
I'm grateful for them and I would never do this, but I'm one of those rare people who think it's an anomaly to do. I could throw a party and literally invite my previous relationships and they would all come. and we would have a great time, that's something that needs to be said now, that's how clean they are, that's how I wish, I wish I could say that about my past relationships that I was in, I wish, I wish I was in that. space but I don't think they want to see me yes yes yes that's how clean I left them because one of the things I made sure is that we left the relationship leaving each other's dignity intact that's nice and that was a priority for me And then, at the beginning of relationship, I would say I don't see an end to this as I would love for this to last and if it doesn't we can commit to honoring each other's dignity and leaving our dignity intact. because we may not be, we may be Mr.
Mrs. Right for each other or we may be Mr. Miss. Right Now for each other and either one of us is perfect, so I opened it up with that and literally, literally, If I had a party with my friends. everyone wants me to do it, I say no, I'm not going to do that um but uh but that was uh that was one thing and um and then the last thing, the last thing I have to say because I struggled was between my love for my son and the love of my career that was a fear that was a that was a pull I felt like I didn't know no one said they had both everyone talked about having to choose everyone talks about having to choose between my career In my family everyone talks about being out of balance and then I adopted it and started with the fear that in some way my son would suffer because I was living my dream or in some way my dream would suffer because I am a mother and therefore, my son. uh my son was 18 and remember, I don't know if you remember they had phones where you could put your five favorites on the phone, yeah, yeah, from the beginning and my son, when he was 18 or 17, he was talking to his cousins. for the five fade away and we have a very close family and my cousins ​​my his my nephew said why why am I not in your faith five why are you alone why am I not here for a five and my son said no I don't have room and he's going to show me your five favorite men, show me your faith, bye and I can hear them in the background and he's showing my nephew's face five and I can hear my nephew go, dude, your mom, what's that about? ?
He says, we're cool like that, my son said we're cool, we're cool like that and I was my first sign that I didn't have to choose, I made them both work and anyway you asked what the dogs were, those were the three things that I struggled with, you know, I'm a big believer in visualization and obviously secrecy, that's something that was talked about. I hadn't seen Secret in 10 years when he came out, but I mean, this is something. I practiced as an athlete to visualize my results before the game saw me scoring the touchdown at the track meet.
I'm sure you did a lot of similar things, how important it is to visualize in abundance, but also how important it is to take action. right, I have five visualization exercises in that book just because it is very important visualization is a gift for your heart and your soul is a gift because if the idea is the seed the visualization is the is the fertilizer is the fertilizer because when your thoughts they are connected to an emotion, see you would visualize yourself winning and you would feel all the emotion that comes with it and all you are doing now is you are not chasing some strange emotion, you know the feeling and now you are simply doing what is necessary to get back to that feeling exactly in real time and what a good friend of mine vishen um who from the CEO of Mine Valley who do you know um I would do a visualization with him we were in bali and um he told me afterwards I never get excited he does he doesn't get excited he is Like yeah, right, yeah, well I was like I cried, I got emotional, he says, I figured it out, it's a visualization, a good visualization brings an emotion, he was like that, this is how you do it and so I love doing visualizations because and it's very important in visualization you can't see it there you have to see it right here feel it you have to feel it here like it's me it's all I am Am I in my dream house?
I'm in my dream relationship and then I analyze how it looks but most importantly decompress how it feels and when you have that emotion right now you suddenly wake up something that I don't think I'll never sleep again everything will be fine, let's look for it and what it really does is establish a state of cognitive dissonance and cognitive dissonance is when you see something in your mind and you see yourself in a way that your behaviors are not currently leading you to and that's why your mind becomes disturbed. and everything is going well. Can we get there properly?
Because I'm not there right now and that's not comfortable. Your mind literally wants to be congruent with what it thinks. you're doing what you think is what you're doing and so when you set up constant, abundant thinkers like you and I, we do it unconsciously, we cut out, we constantly keep ourselves in a state of cognitive dissonance, which means, okay? , what else? and I'm seeing lisa over there and I'm going well, let me go, wow, while I'm grateful for me now, yeah, it's not about I'll be whole and complete when I get there, I'm staying whole now, I just know I'm supposed to be there, so let me do whatever it takes to get there and let me dislodge any behaviors or characteristics that are holding me back and let me adopt whatever new behaviors I need.
How can someone discover their unique calling because you talk about that in the book discovering your unique calling what if people are like I don't even know what I want? I know I want to be out of the place I'm in. I want to be abundant, rich, healthy, great. Relationships are right, but I don't know what my purpose or calling is right now. I think people put too big a notion on purpose because they think it has to look like Nelson Mandela or Mother Teresa or Oprah or you. or me and and many times what you are really good is right in front of you what you are really good is right in front of you and recognize that your calling and your purpose can change, just that it can change you have a long life, it will not be the same calling all the time, so allow yourself to evolve, allow your purpose to evolve, what is that thing that you do effortlessly and that you don't give credit to because you're just looking past it? oh it can't be that because it's not hard, well what if it doesn't have to be hard?
How about the fact that you're a great listener? How can you take that and use it and expand it and not compare? comparison between you and another person i think the comparison of benjamin franklin is the thief of all joy everything is when you look left or right you know people always compare me to oprah winfrey or jan levanzan or les brown or tony robbins I said Listen I'll do it if you want me to give you Oprah or Janla or Tony or Les, I'm always going to fail you 1000, but if you're ever interested, I make a really good Lisa, I make a good Lisa Nichols, yeah, and so when you see what my gifts, what my unique gifts are, I knew from theAt the beginning, I was a gifted speaker, I was not certified as a gifted speaker, I did not pass any speaking courses, in fact, the last time I gave a speech In class I got a D minus and my speech teacher called me Miss Nichols, I recommend you that I never speak in public, that I get a desk job that was my first year of college, the last speech class I took, so many times, your gift and your purpose you have discounted either because someone else discounted it or what's more common is you don't know how to monetize it yeah and sometimes the best gift you have to give isn't a fee it's free you look at people like you and me and go why can't they pay me for it ?
Not all the gifts I'm supposed to get paid for. Nelson Mandela received no pay for leading for 27 years when he was released from prison. They paid him after that, but he was great. leader while he was in prison and martin luther king he was a paid him from the church but his right to fight for civil rights was free and he paid the highest cost and you can go on and on with some of the greatest leaders mahatma gandhi was not a paycheck, right, and I'm not and I know we're down to our version, but don't get attached to having to get paid for your gift, yeah, I started this podcast. as a way to do this for free for a year, I'm not going to take any sponsors I'm not going to do anything I'm not going to sell anything I'm just going to create and facilitate great conversations and that's it and now the money is coming because of how it has impacted the people's lives, their intention was in the right place, yes, but I didn't ask myself how can I do this right now to make money, but how can I serve the maximum number of people, right there, when people live in a place of servant leadership, my grandmother said when I was 24 if you go and how can you serve the most people when I sit down with my team I go how can we serve more people?
How can we last year we were able to reach 30 million people and that's our whole question now as serving our platform becomes broader, but how can we serve? Don't tell me how we can make more money. I'm not interested in that. I'm not sure how we can serve more because if I do the right thing for the right reasons, everything I need will be a byproduct of exactly that, so I think we get caught up in, you know, society allows us to have us looking at possessions and then We begin to measure our joy and our abundance in possessions.
I have a friend who is worth it. worth 14 billion dollars, how do you write that? I had to write it down to be able to see it, maybe zero zero, a lot. It is worth 14 billion dollars. I checked my email on my phone before I started and he's on my phone asking me please. come visit me because he's lonely he's rich but he's not plentiful yes he flew from canada to come to my house for new years only to be surrounded by people who were celebrating and didn't want anything from them so don't chase the things, pursue the actions. of service and everything you need will come, I promise you they are a big struggle right now, besides health, there is something psychological or a belief that you are still limited or you have some limiting beliefs about um or it's just all the time, it's just like you know everything is happening it's just going to take as long as it takes and um no I mean I really want to find an answer for you because I think when people are on a leadership platform and I'm not saying I'm a superhero, but sometimes people tend to put a cape on us.
I think it's important for you to understand what we're still working with, so I want to work hard to find something for you. You know, I think all the people who search. looking at me and looking at you right now, they deserve that, there is no place of arrival for me, I am a constant flow of movement, acceptance and growth, and now, I said 17 years ago, Lewis, I want to live on white sand beaches and I wanted to have clear blue water 17 years ago wow without any indication of how I would get there without uh and without any indication that it would happen and then when this happened this was the day I moved this was the day I moved the day I took my truck to the house, we crossed the street and took a photo and I've lived there for six months and I just looked out my window at the water, but I didn't give myself permission. to go to the water why don't you ask me what I'm still working on questions what I'm still working on I'm still working on this and then I started to process why don't you can't get any closer you can't you're 30 feet away yeah and, by the way, and you are in quarantine, so nothing happens like the beach, it's empty, it's quiet, you don't like it, no one will look at you, no one judging you, no one can wear your swimsuit, you can even wear your two pieces properly, so I start to process what is happening and why and I realized that me and I are looking for another photo.
I have traveled all over the world. right, I've been to every continent that can be populated by humans right, sure, I mean, and then I realized that a lot of times I'm in resorts and I don't get in the water, right, I just wanted to be Once in Jamaica and I was in the presidential suite, it was amazing. There was probably 5,000 square feet of space at the top of this hotel and there was a hot tub on my balcony. on my balcony and if you look down at the beach, you'd see this cabana type bed sitting in the water, and I looked at it every day like, wow, that bed is amazing, wow, that bed is made.
I never went down to bed. but I wanted to lie on the bed, but I just looked at the bed from the balcony, that bed is amazing, get this on the last day, three hours before I leave for the airport, I go downstairs, I walk along the beach. walk up to the cabin bed i just want to see it up close there's a sign on the edge of the cabin bed that says this space reserved for lisa

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shut up i didn't say it came with the presidential suite oh the whole time it was yours the whole time and I never got in, oh man, because I assumed from the balcony that it couldn't be for me, so on my birthday in May I finally gave myself permission to go and get in the water, it was a liberating day. wow and the reason I realized I wasn't in four months later, the reason is because the fact that I had this life had already blown me away and I didn't know I could participate because I had always seen others. people on TV who didn't look like me who didn't come from my neighborhood who maybe weren't dyslexic who surely weren't expelled from college so I started going unconsciously louis was still working you asked me if I'm still working on things, I'll be honest with you please don't judge me we all work on our stuff that's still when I bought the house moved to the Bahamas got the big family to do the work I'm still going oh can you get in the water now get in the water it's my story what's yours so I talked to my family my extra family to get in the water with me I just have to show you wow in the water too wow what a beautiful family my extra kids and my man wow um so still I'm working for now I worked hard to get here and now it's to take it in and enjoy it that's my that's my job this is this is powerful and I had a question for you about this and you know we're like brother and sister because I'm a function, I love what he called functional dyslexic because that's who I am too and I was at the bottom of my class all through school and no matter how many tutors I had it and yes I get it, just graduating high school was a huge success for me exactly and you talk about knowing, I hear you talk about owning how you feel and finding your joy and a lot of people do this.
Also, a lot of people do this thing where a lot of good things happen but then we don't celebrate it because we know other people are suffering or struggling and then bad things happen and we're like oh, but. other people have it worse and so I should be grateful for what I have, this comparative joy and comparative suffering, how can we take ownership of the moment when you know it's in quarantine? Who cares if everything is working out well for you and the world is falling apart? or be ashamed of our success, right? and when things are horrible, we should own it and you know, be in our suffering or say you know what we have a lot of things to be grateful for, what do you think about this?
So I love Benjamin Franklin's statement. he says comparison is and always will be the thief of all your joy, so that's the number one thing: when you have a false sense of worth because you're stepping on someone else's breakdown like, oh, I'm better than you, that's a false sense of worth uh or when you're downplaying your greatness because someone is older uh my girlfriend suzy has this great story that she talks about she and her friends were on a yacht in san diego and they had their martinis, they had their glasses, the sun and muse go away and they are there, I don't know, they are a 55 foot yacht, right, and it is beautiful, and they are sailing through San Diego, she said and she had her sunglasses on and, suddenly, this shadow covers her . her face and she opens her eyes to these 155 foot yachts and the ladies up there and the ladies are up there drinking and she looks down and says hello and she said she felt 100% complete and complete and happy until that yacht came in okay and She said that the woman didn't try to take her joy away, she gave her joy to that woman, so comparison will always steal your joy one way or another the false feeling of grandstanding yourself on someone else's neck, I always say, can you be as tall as?
You need to be without standing on my neck like, can you do me that favor? Can you stand on your greatness without standing on my neck? And that's right, that's every time you say but we're not that bad as such and then you just put your foot on someone's neck to stand a little bit higher and so, um, and then the other part, so when you sit down well and when you feel happy, what I like to do is show awareness. I want one hundred percent of my joy I want one hundred percent of my joy I want to be able to share it but I want to share it with awareness so for me that is one of the things that means with awareness I will give you an example, listen, I am a student of outstanding, so I will always give examples.
Hey, I'm going to compare myself to you, you're better than me, so it seems like not everyone is having the same experience as me. to have it and I honor it and I celebrate it and I want to celebrate the fact that right now I am in the most satisfying relationship I have ever experienced I want to celebrate the fact that I found love in a way I never knew Love existed and I understand that everyone is in a different place and I honor it. I just wanted to give light and celebrate where I am now, so it's a compassionate and compassionate celebration, so if you can accelerate with compassion, I don't want to minimize my light I don't want to dim my light I don't want to lower my light I don't want to go into the room e go wait let me lower my light because your light is not the right one no, that's my life I want to bring it into the room but I want to honor you and I want to recognize that your life may not have the same power as mine and that's why it seems like everyone is in different places right now I just want to celebrate where I am I want to put it out there I want I want to say it out loud and that's how you do it that on the other side is when life is hard and life is you know it's hitting you um you've lost all your money, you've been through divorce, you're gaining weight in two weeks and you know everything is wrong, yeah, so I think you have to be careful because you can be a vortex of dark light, so you come in and shine. your dark light you draw everyone into your dark light and suddenly everyone is spinning with you I'm going to be careful careful make sure your swirl isn't the toilet bowl make sure you're not spinning with someone inside the misery and then there's a responsibility and for me I make a sandwich of ugly things I make a sandwich of the ugly I will make the sandwich effect I don't have a better name for making the sandwich effect I grew up eating sandwiches as a child so sandwich effect ugly sandwich with possibility this is How it sounds, no It will always be like that, but right now I feel like I'm in the darkest place of all time.
I feel miserable. I feel angry. I feel alone. I feel frustrated. I always feel like I want to make a screen and I know it. I will not be purchasing real estate in this location. Oh, I know you're just renting it. I know this is a rental and not even a rent to own. If this is a stop sign, I'll do a rolling stop. I don't even want to stop completely here, give me the ticket on the way man, but sometimes I walk out of my door buying the ticket, I'm about to get a ticket, I'm fine with that, so you sandwich it if you have to share. our news, I was just in the interview a moment ago, I told them, all the white leaders, and they said teach us and I said, okay, I'll share some news first.
I want you to know that we will get through this. to be a better human race so you should be celebrated because you signed up for this call now this might hurt a little bit and then I gave them an idea and then at the end I said it was my honor to sit here. With you as your sister, it is my honor to co-create what the future will be like. It is my honor to be on the planet at the same time as you, this is the beginning, not the end. What's coming will be a sandwich, so if you're I'm going todeliver some dark energy, put it in a sandwich, make sure it sounds like a possibility, even if you don't know what the possibility is, just say, I know there's something better to come, it's my birthright, it's my birthright to have joy, that's my birthright, to have abundance, that's my birthright to experience healthy love that's my birthright right now I'm not having that experience but I'm going to hold on to the fact that it's my birthright how can we remember ourselves and truly believe in abundance for ourselves when all the evidence points in the other direction of scarcity lack of lack of unworthy of like how do you convince yourself how do you deceive yourself how do you know is this a trick Alright?
I say it in the mirror every day, but I'm not making money and I'm still okay, okay, so I'm going to be honest with you, it's part of a spiritual practice, it's part of understanding that your mind can't hold all the things that are happening in the universe right now and if you believe that everything that is happening in the universe is happening between your ears and you understand that, that is a very ego-centered and very limited universe, right, then my faith is number one , My faith. Faith is knowing how to have, knowing how to have faith in what you can't see well, so I'm not.
Looking at all the physical evidence I'm not looking at that because the physical evidence is just a manifestation of people's decisions, so the people are helping, that there is an entire universe conspiring in my name, that I do good, I believe in good, I want to bring good. so the universe is preparing things to support me because I am operating an alliance with a calling in my life that is what I know how I know how I know I am not asking permission to believe that I am not asking for the way my day is going To confirm that, I woke up with that awareness and then my day began, so there has to be a part of you that is not triggered by what is happening, there has to be a part of you that is sitting in what you know.
I know how I know how I know how I know I'm not asking permission to be used in this universe I'm letting you know that I'm going to be used in the universe for the greatest good Now,

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is a bad day, but I'm going to be used for The high is good, you have to stand firm, you have to let your knowledge be like a pole that goes through the center of your head, Louis, to the center of your head. body to the center of the earth and no matter what happens, riots, outbreaks, quarantines and pandemics, you still have to say wait, this is impacting my life experience, it is not impacting the purpose of my life, yes, so when you operate so then you stop reacting and your emotions are not in a state of reaction, your emotions are on, okay, that came, okay, how do we operate with that?
Okay, that came and you will still turn like I turned, I asked when they told me I could. I didn't get on the plane because I thought, "Okay, wait, but then I start looking for my grounding, yeah, I start looking for my center, I start looking for my calm, so you have to know where to find those things and how to find them." ". go back and get them you have the right to be angry to be scared to be frustrated to be angry you have the right to feel all those feelings please fill them so you know how they feel what you are not allowed to do if you say you are a leader a unicorn a creator of changes is occupying real estate in that feeling making a lease option buying what you can't do is staying in that state of emotion that takes you out of b stop being shocking and then, it's a continuous process, why do you think it's easier for people to stay?
I guess what the terminology is like if misery loves company, why is it easier to stay in misery than growth? You know,

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ment. You already know. Consistency of positive things Why do you think that is because the low vibration is the first vibration? If you're walking down the stairs and there were 15 flights of stairs and you saw a party on the fifth flight and there's no one on flight 15. I wonder why it wasn't flight 15 because it was easier to get to the fifth flight. Requires less work. Drain your energy. It drains more energy but requires less work to think about in a low vibration.
Wow, every single one of us who is in a conversation moving forward right now didn't land there accidentally, so you can fall into a toxic conversation, you can't do anything and be average, you can't do anything and be average, that's why it's crowded I'm not judging anyone but average is crowded because it's level one no elevator required no stairs required it's level one there's no average thinking right and so toxic and and and and thought without growth gossip and gossip right and and hate and and cont and just girl just constantly reliving and putting new energy back into the anger that is at a lower level think about those of us who are around four moving conversations that we have to escalate I have to be silent for 10 days

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I have to being silent, do you understand the challenge that that poses for you?
Lisa, yeah, I get it, yeah, I have to be quiet for 10 days and then when I did my first facebook live and if you come back in May you'll see, I went back to my first facebook live, I've never cried. I have never cried like that on Facebook I have never been completely because I am not I have cried like that on stage but I have never had so much emotion but I had already made my way towards conscious thought and now I gave myself permission to speak and even then I felt that I felt the pull I felt the pull pulling me in oh man I can level a man and I kept going no, no, not on my watch wow, no, wait, not on my watch, wait But when I tell you on my ankles in That first Facebook live I did on my comp, the negative comments are the victims, the judgment, all the pain, all the fear I had of my son and just angry.
I'm still afraid of my son driving and all that was coming up and then you asked why do people do it because it's less work um uh and we do it in we're community people so we love to do things that we love to get people to sign. with us um and negative thinking is cancerous um uh and that's why it spreads effortlessly if you don't do anything to the cancer, it will spread fine, but but If you don't do anything with positive thinking, it doesn't spread, you have to get up, shovel, pick, plant, pull weeds, plant new seeds and get water and water.
You have to do all these things in a positive way, so yes. People decide I'm just going to hang out here in the negative world and then they see successful people and wonder why I can't have that. Well, let me tell you something: your way of thinking is giving rise to your life experience. You can't have a life in a castle with a doghouse mentality oh hell that's the truth lisa you can't you can't have a life I want I want to have a life say that one more time you can't have what you can' I don't have a life in the castle with a doghouse mentality in the kennel like you, you're right, you can't, it's incongruent, you're not congruent when the tongue in your mouth and the tongue in your shoe go in two. different directions you're not going anywhere when you line up pull it yes, when you line up your tongue in your mouth to go in the same direction as the tongue in your shoe now we can move let's talk about the four e's what is this principle the fouriers? what you talk about in your book, yes, yes, yes, so I like to divide my life into quadrants and I help my students.
I do a lot of coaching. I do personal and professional development coaching and it doesn't matter where you cut. come to me whether you come to me for your personal development or if you want to turn your passion into profits in this professional development and business development for entrepreneurs we go over the four e's because abundance is holistic, it is a holistic experience, so the first It is enrichment. of yourself that you are only going to go as far as you think you are worthy I can push you can push you can have the best product but if you don't feel worthy you will work hard to sabotage that relationship that you don't You don't know everything right, you don't know what you're doing , you think these are the things I need and you're pushing that guy away, you're pushing that woman away because your self-esteem says they won't stay forever.
Anyway, or your self-esteem around money, you have a limit and you feel like you deserve a million dollars. You will always reach 999,000 and stop because your self-esteem says so. So, enrichment is number one. What is good exercise? or process that we can follow daily maybe something simple to improve our enrichment absolutely worthy absolutely I did this for six months every day right after brushing my teeth and it's the ICU exercise and you look in the mirror now it's not necessarily simple because, of course, because you're dealing with yourself, of course, and as complicated as you are, we're going to be the mechanics of this.
The mechanics are very simple. Yes, I appreciate that distinction. You look in the mirror and complete three different sentences. I want to write this in the first sentence you look at yourself and say your name then you say louis and complete this I'm proud of you and you find seven different things every day to celebrate yourself for seven different things every day you can do the The same thing you did on the day above, but every day do seven different things to be proud of. The second sentence will knock you down a bit. It will come out of your gut, um Louis, I forgive you and cut the shackles to blame, shame, guilt, regret. and the anger in that sentence you cut those five shackles not on the first day maybe not on the third day but by the 21st by the 13th you will feel some relief so louis I forgive you and go back five years 15 years 20 years I forgive you for that no one knows, but go ahead and cut those shackles because if you can still think about it, it's still in your energy space and then the third sentence is louis, I commit you to that before you make a Commitment to anyone else to Throughout the day, you make seven commitments to yourself, so the first sentence is: I am proud that you celebrate yourself first.
We are little celebrated as a society. We seek recognition. They enter. They interviewed one hundred executives. They all made over a quarter of a million dollars and said, would you like a five percent raise next year or would you rather be told thank you more often? but first celebrate, be the example when I was on Oprah when she said what do you do, I said, I recognize that I am the example of how the rest of the world is supposed to treat me and it is my job to give the world the best example of how I like it. let them treat me, so celebrate it, forgive yourself, cut the shackles and then commit to yourself before you commit to anyone else, that powerful there that right there will begin to fill your cup to get to your sauce.
I love it. Where did you start to learn that the process was something that you just started practicing yourself and you started looking in the mirror and trying different things and you, boy, asked the question? I was in a committed relationship to get married and it became abusive. They were emotionally abusive and then he picked me up and threw me three feet across the room and strangled me until I passed out. I don't tell many people that I suffered from PTSD and my mother asked me. go to the doctor highly recommended go to the doctor, get high, go to the doctor and after evaluating me in manhattan beach my doctor said he was clinically depressed and I told him how I got here.
I didn't even fit in. with my name I was head cheerleader at my high school I was the captain of the track team I'm always the person who cheers people on I didn't fit in how I got here I don't know if you've ever found yourself saying how I got here. I was sitting at the table in the doctor's office saying how I got here and when she wrote me the prescription she handed it to me and I read it and it said lisa nichols prozac. It was like I was looking at a foreign statement my name on prozac and I asked him I said can I try something for 30 days because I realized that I was sad because I had lost myself I had lost myself in it I had lost myself being a mother, I lost myself for being a mother of a son whose father was in prison and trying to hide that shame and then trying to make this man happy and then starting to defend my life, I lost myself, so I needed to discover myself, I needed to discover myself. reminding me who I was and then I realized that he wasn't celebrating me, he was punishing me, he was very angry with me and he was introducing me to everyone else, so I made up these phrases and did it to rescue myself.
I turned my crawl into a walk and I was finally able to turn my crawl into a walk, my walk turned into a run and I ran into a sore but it started out as a crawl so I don't tell how I got to that exercise often. unless someone asks me, thank you very much, thank you for sharing, yes and opening up. I learned four things a long time ago. This for me. This is the path to true freedom. I have nothing to prove. I have nothing to protect. nothing to hide and I have nothing to defend that your perception of me after telling my truth is really none of my business my perception of me that I go to bed as whole and complete as I woke up beforecheck how many likes I have on facebook that I like first and all the other likes are a bonus, there you go, likes, it was a long road to get to the long road, sure, long road, yes, and we probably have to remind ourselves of it constantly , you know, and then, when I come in. that place and then when I live like I'm forgetting, you have to have accountability partners hiding in the corners of your life and you have to give them a task on your big day, you have to give them a task on your big day If I look like I'm forgetting slipping, well my ego is in the way, get in my face, get in my face, right, get in my face and remind me of the man of the woman I told me to be, don't let me off the hook. for the 2020 version of me, because we are human, this will happen as long as we breathe, at some point we will lose integrity, come on, your humanity will get in the way, your ego, our ladies, your she is.
I'm going to hook your resentment your smallness just smallness everything fits in smallness yes, I'm human and that's why I am the best thing I did was keep people around me to hold myself accountable to the woman I said I want to be sure she's great, I love it, so I have a lot of people from the Midwest that work with me on my team, they support me, they keep me grounded, like, no, don't go to Hollywood, exactly, no. getting caught in the lights and the cameras in the headphones daggone exactly exactly absolutely fine enrichment that's the first part uh the second part is enchantment relationships go to define the quality of your life when you're in your bed and your last days, you'll want to know who will be around you.
Ultimately, you won't care about another podcast, you won't care. worry about another sponsor, I'm not going to worry about another book or the damn New York Times. The best thing that matters to us now is that the relationships in your life are going to determine the quality of your life, so take care of your relationships and therefore in the book abundance now I teach you how to heal broken relationships that matter to you how to recover the established level I give you this great um this great tool um called um it's a it's a conversation to heal a broken experience that's what it's called a communication letter, I use it in my company, I use it in my home and, um, it's just about how to maintain great relationships and then the third area is commitment, work commitment, you're going to put in a lot of time and work and we.
We are so emotionally attached to our work and most of the time people are so depressingly attached, why would you have that depressing energy around something you are going to spend so many hours on? So I teach you how to shift your energy towards your work so that you no longer see it as your job now it is no longer your jlb like everyone in my community everyone in my tribe no longer says they have a job they say I have an investor and when you look at your I work as your investor, you are truly rebranding yourself as your investor and investing in your awesome future.
You have the ability to buy anything you want for your future if you take care of your money properly, you can buy your freedom and all of a sudden you start trying. your investor better and you're more excited to leave you're actually grateful you're grateful for yourself feel like a worker my investor was the unified school district which was a tough place to be when it was a job I'm just telling you, but as an investor for three years and a half I wrote myself a check and put in the memo line to finance my dream.
I didn't even know what the dream was. I wasn't even clear about it. I only knew what my dream was. It was going to cost some money and I needed to pay and I need to have some money to pay and if I was going to ask other people to invest in me they had to be my first investor who am I to ask someone to do it? put money my way when I didn't put money my way correctly so I want ma wanted someone to match just match my investment in me I have 10 in can you put 10?
I'm 20 and you can put 20 in And so when you look at your work, your work commitment as an investor in your awesome life, suddenly there's a different energy around you, yeah, and then the last one is the endowment of money and recognizing more than the Dr. Seuss family and the Disney family. and the mcdonald's family and the lawrence welk family are entitled to a donation when you understand it and I really unpack it here where you go, what do you think, I'll make you do a couple of scooby-doo looks the book like row row when you look and go I can make a donation like I like because we believe it's for them remember I started this conversation with abundance for those people over there, especially when it comes to a donation or a living legacy like in your reserve and be a creator, create a legacy to recognize so wait a minute, there's a donation from

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and a donation from lease and a donation from don, john and tanya and fill in the blank here and I need to live my life to establish my donation. suddenly you become responsible for the generations to come responsible for changing the trajectory of your family's life that is a bold thing when in your life you make an embroidery move for your family in my life I was able to make an embroidery move for my son as it is a Nichols boy is one of many Nichols men but that is a Nichols man who now knows what it feels like to cook in Italy and in Tuscany and in Florence and in Venice and in Rome that is a Nichols boy who knows what he feels he likes to go surfing on the gold coast of australia that's a boy nichols understands what it feels like to be standing on the highest mountain in africa like his life i asked him this morning i said jelani can you when you get married and have children you can stay? in california so mom can really see her grandkids he's doing well mom that's a little restrictive he's restricted to staying in greater california because he knows the world yes his paradigm shift has happened he'll never live like another and will accept everything. he learned and expanded the experience of the man child from Nichols, so in my generation in my life I was able to change our family experience for him and that's why I think we have the right to look at our legacy and create a living legacy and then create a legacy that so important are the thoughts you say in your mind silently every day and the words you say out loud every day how important they are together and which is more valuable if you can only choose one negative thoughts but positive words positive thoughts but negative words or both should be aligned with your mission and purpose, well, then I'll start with this.
Your life is a physical manifestation of the conversation happening in your head. I'll start with that. Can we talk like this? 24 hours on this, I love it, right? Your life is a physical manifestation of the conversation going on in your head, so if you didn't say anything but thought, your whole life will show up to make your thoughts come true, so you have a job, you have one. I work in your life so that you make true what you think about life so that you are not wrong you do not want to be wrong wrong wrong wrong wrong wrong you want to be right about the life you see so you are going to work hard work hard to produce the life of the what do you talk in your mind if that life is no one loves me I'm all alone you can be in a group of people and you'll think I'm so alone and you'll feel lonely and things will appear to co-sign your loneliness just because you're looking for that and then if you start with , I'm going to say the mind as if the mind were that thing, the mind is the central engine that starts all things. it turns off all things when I start thinking about something different like wait, stop, I want to think something, I close that behavior, I close that result when I explode something, I born it in my mind, I focus on my mind, I see myself there.
My mind before continuing with you was doing guided visualizations. I'm recording them for people and I want to say they're juicy and I say look at you here because if you can see it, then the key is to evoke the emotion. like you were there, yeah right, and that's why people who are sad all the time are sad because they think about things that make them sad and then the emotion follows the thought, so I must say it all starts with your thought, Louis, but leave it. I only say this when you speak you speak your future to the world you speak your few whatever you say whatever falls off your tongue when when you say I'm right the unconscious mind says and you are like that whatever comes from the other side of that and Then you You ask me a difficult question, which is the most important.
It starts with the thought, I think the thought is that's where everything originates and then you add a bunch of turbo to it with your tongue, yeah, when you align the two. and then you add like the b12 the b12 of action the action is like the action is like that is the nitro that is the nitro as correct and I see so many people who think about it, they write about it, they write about it in a journal, they talk about it and they don't. action and I go, you understand that the action is that that is like putting the flower in the sun because it requires sun and yes, yes, I had this is a beautiful explanation and I had a navy seal six, seven months ago, his name Chad and he he talked about a seal, uh, he used the tongue as a rudder and a boat, he said what you talk about will take you down, you know the ocean or the river or whatever part of the boat you're in, so he never says anything negative in voice high because it is so powerful in the Navy Seals that you talk about how powerful it is, no matter how much pain they are experiencing in hell week and all these things that they are dealing with, they never allow the tongue to speak anything.
Negative, otherwise they will eventually give up and give up. Very painful. It is very painful to deal with what they face. Then they say, "Oh, it hurts, I'm tired." "I can't do it right." don't speak that don't speak that in the unit just because whatever you speak feels like it expands of course the energy grows where it goes the energy expands so speak life speak possibility there is not a dark situation that does not have a sparkle of light doesn't mean it's going to be convenient to see, that's true, most of us are looking for convenient light, yeah, oh man, I want to talk about five more hours with you, but I want to try to finish with a few last ones. questions here um, although I don't want to finish this, we will want to come back, yes, we will bring it up again, I promise it won't be that hard to get me in the future, I promise, my friend.
I want to talk about purpose for a moment because I feel like we're seeing a lot of people with scattered purposes right now, especially with everything going on in the world over the last three months. Six months. I'm seeing a lot of big influencers leave. Through the divorce they publicly had excellent relationships. I'm seeing people's businesses go under because they were in the events business or whatever and they couldn't adapt and change. I'm seeing people scattered with their purpose and without being clear how. Can people talk about this because I think they are two different questions.
One is how to really figure out what your purpose is because I think it's seasonal. You know what your purpose was when you are 10 years old. Is different. I agree that it is seasonal, so it is difficult. It's a very broad question and I don't want to complicate that for you because I think it's unfair when people ask you that about me, but if you know, if you think I know what my purpose is, I know I'm destined. to do this I think I'm supposed to go after this I feel like maybe I should try this but I'm afraid how would you train someone who knows what they're supposed to do or at least they think they do it until they realize it and it's not that or it's that.
How are people trained or encouraged to overcome the ultimate hurdle of fear, whether they are afraid of failure or success? of judging whether they have a really good life and a really good job, but it's just not their decision, it's not leading them to their ultimate purpose, where do you share that line? So one of the first things I do is ask us to please quantify and bring to life what it's hard for you to sit still, oh, so you know I'm a, I'm a, I'm a non-chasing straight girl, okay, I'm , I am a. I'm, not only are we going towards something, we also have to realize that to the same extent that you asked weight loss, uh, why did I do it, because what would it cost me with all my success?
It cost me to stay in that 220 pound body what is the cost and when I saw that that's why I responded if I didn't give myself this right I was very clear with the cost so number one I would say how much does it cost you and I and my students know each other. I do this in my workshop, my trainings for my platinum level students and my coaches and students who are getting certified to be Lisa Nichols coaches uh and I ask them tough questions: how much does it cost? You have to stay in that mindset and they have to list it and I say what part of the price you've already paid and they just give guts like oh and I say how long I don't know what you want how much longer do you want?
I want to pay that price well two years ten years two months or we are pif we are paid in full now we are pif I painted completely and I am the keyboard exactly and then I use this metaphor that if you went to the store and bought a dozen eggs and you you went home and scrambled all the eggs and cooked them and then you took the empty box to the supermarket and said I would like itbuy them again and the cashier will go but you already bought them, why are you buying, why are you paying for it again?
That's what we are doing, we are paying for the same behavior over and over again and so it becomes clear that your pif is that you are paid in full for not being in action. Since I already paid for it, I've been wanting a dream for three years and I don't have it. Whatever your reasons are, they are correct. Number two is, let's talk about everything that happens if you fail, let's just analyze that you return to where you are now, yes, of course, oh. , actually, you will never get back to where you are now because now you got some kind of lesson that you didn't have, yeah right, you got some kind of experience, so what happens if you fail?
Okay, great, so what lessons can you? we got out of it so now let's agree if we fail let's fail forward so let's define what failure looks like going forward so we'll be very descriptive about what failure looks like what I'll do with the lessons um what I'll do? I will document four to six things that I did well and I will document two or three things that I can improve and I will implement them all in the next round and then eliminate all the possibilities and even go on like As far as saying, so what if people judge you ?
I analyze it, what do people judge you? Let's say they like you, they talk really badly about you on social media for three days, like a while has passed, well then what happens? Well, the sixth day. I get up and do it again and suddenly it takes all the juice out of the balloon of everything we just dive deep into the darkness of your illusions, dive deep into the darkness of your mind, so, well, I'll lose this money, okay? I lost how many forty thousand, okay, the forty thousand is gone, so now what I don't know is okay, let's come up with a plan because you already lost the money, we lost the money, now I can start saving again, I can do what whatever, okay? great, so all these great possibilities are now just situations, so I'm going to, so what can we do to eliminate the possibility of that happening?
Now let's get to the strategy, so I'm big on strategy, I'm big on milestones. I believe that you should not set a macro goal without setting several micro

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as my number that I want to generate this year. I never look at that after November of the previous year after November 2019. I don't really look at it, I look at each monthly goal because that's my milestone. I know that goal and I know that goal is tied to my annual goal, so I have to worry about that, so I say am I on the right track?
Clue launcher because I can handle that, that's acceptable, so a lot of times entrepreneurs get like a big flashy gold and you have a release of endorphins when you first say it, but then it wears off because you don't even know how. I'm going to get there, yeah, so I'm very big on my like, just on my campus, I'm very big on three things, a strategy, right milestones and accountability, buy when, dates, buy when, by whom, right and thus make it feasible, do it like this. You can see it set in 90 days and so, I think that purpose comes with a plan and often we live, we leave a purpose so big and so ambiguous that it feels hard to touch, so if you're supposed to inspire millions , OK?
Great, for August, how many are you going to play for that million? We're going to get to millions, we're going to get two million, but are we touching 5,000? Are we touching 50,000? And then in November, did you increase your social media platform by 3 or by 30 at least something trackable and measurable so you can see that purpose being met so you can trust your recruiter many of us haven't had enough indicators we haven't had enough evidence that we've done it the way we thought we would or better that now you're starting to stop trusting your selector. Well, you need evidence if the court sends a man to prison for evidence or lets a woman out for misdemeanor. of evidence, so why not use evidence in your life that you are ready for a time like this, but you have to set it up in such a way that you can see the traceable evidence.
What do we tell ourselves when we don't? taking care of ourselves, what are we saying about how much we are worth to ourselves when we don't, when we put it off for months and years taking care of ourselves? Yeah, yeah, yeah, um, I'm not important enough to put it on the forefront. my own line, you will always have a line of people to help with things to do and you have a job to be in front of your own line. um, you're saying that you're training other people how to treat you. by the way you treat yourself, so you're saying, um, you're saying I still need to heal in the area of ​​feeling important enough to prioritize my self-care, yeah, um, you may also be saying and you may say, uh I still need to learn to fall in love with myself enough to take care of myself like I take care of others and there are so many people you take care of those around you so much better than you take care of yourself, yeah, yeah, this is beautiful, you, uh . shared last time I want to see if your three truths are the same, so at the end of each interview I asked people what their three most important truths are if this were their last day on earth many years from now and all their content it was me go with him to the next place and there were no more videos or books or anything of your message, but you could share three lessons for the world or three truths.
I'm curious to know if your three truths have changed this season, so I will. I ask you what are your three current truths you are greater than your circumstances it is your birthright it is your birthright to have joy and abundance and love and justice and it is your responsibility to leave this planet a better place than it was before you came for your contribution and probably everyone is different because I'm a woman I change I change my hair I change like what for what were they for yes the last time was uh you get a thousand reps every 999 you can press reset The most valuable thing is to nourish the people around you who love you and make your script dance, yes, I love them, those are a lineup, yes, those are the linemen, yes, yes, yes, okay and the last question, which I'm going to ask you here in a second before Do it, Lisa, I want to recognize you for being an incredible human being who spreads positive energy that you talked about as if our life is not for us, but for other people and every action, every word, every intention you set creates a ripple and has had a powerful impact on me.
You know, I know Ben is watching and listening to our producer. It has had an impact on him and the millions of people listening and watching right now. This is going to have such a profound impact. In a powerful way, I recognize you for your constant growth, constant effort and energy that you put into working on your health and maintaining and improving to have the relationship you want. All I give you, you are amazing and I am so grateful for us. We are friends and you are alive, so thank you very much. I appreciate the recognition.
I am a reflection of you, brother. We are lucky to find unicorns that look alike so we don't have to walk this planet. just wondering about our sanity because we play in the universe um we don't play outside the box we realize there was never a box in the first place so thank you for making the journey feel good. I'm always grateful for the company that I can have while I'm here and while I'm doing what I'm doing, so I'm your sister in service, your sister in possibility, I want to find excuses to play together and call it exactly exactly.
I appreciate it, you have always been a safe space. I love the space you create. It is free of judgment. It is free of eagles and is full of intention to serve. Yes, that's where I want to spend my time. I appreciate it. I'll probably do more of this frequently in the future. My last question: what is your definition of greatness? Nowadays, he is willing to lift others up as he rises. He is willing to lift others up as he rises. He is willing to talk even if his voice shakes. your life then you have to watch this video here mental resolution I think everyone needs that because when you have goals and dreams there will be resistance an airplane can't fly without air resistance Walt Disney declared bankruptcy seven times and had two nervous breakdowns

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