THE OF COURSE METHOD: A Crucial Defensive Technique that Neutralizes Narcissistic Abuse. Expert

Hello, welcome to my latest YouTube video, my name is Ross Rosenberg, I am the author of Human Magnet Syndrome, the Codependent Narcissistic Trap, and the owner of the Self-Love Recovery Institute. Today I am going to talk to you about a recently created

technique

called the Self-Love Technique.

course

. I think this will be of great value to anyone trying to set boundaries with pathological narcissists, including trying to break up with them before you start. Let me connect this to other work of mine that will be very helpful. It's helpful for you to know this already or continue to the end of this video first.

This video requires a fundamental knowledge of my observed non-absorbing

technique

. That information is available at least in the 8 minute version of the track on YouTube or it is available. In Self Love Recovery Calm as a full 90 minute seminar video, it also requires a working knowledge of my 10 Step Self Love Recovery Treatment Program which takes not ten steps but 10 stages and especially stage 4 , which prepares for the narcissist. storm and stage 5 sets boundaries in a hostile environment and other videos that might be helpful would be the three strikes rule videos and the induced talk videos both on youtube so let me continue when someone tries to set boundaries break or end a relationship with the pathological narcissist, they will do almost anything to sabotage the efforts of the SLD, the person who is deficient in self-love or who has self-love deficit disorder or, as many of you who follow me know, then is the new term for codependency in a recent video I made, I think it was just a couple of months ago, I explained the twelve ways narcissists try to sabotage an SLDS attempt to break free from the relationship, so in that video I ate it up. terribly difficult it is. finally set boundaries with narcissists with the intention of freeing yourself from the harm they are causing or they have very well calculated and planned strategies to keep you powerless.

That is why my technique, of

course

, will be just one of the many tools in your Recovery Arsenal that will help you not only stay mentally healthy to maintain your focus on what I would call your mental balance. If we are finally going to take the bold and necessary step to free ourselves from

narcissistic

abuse

, we must follow my 10-stage recovery model. and specifically the fourth stage is the preparation for the

narcissistic

storm and that is the time or the process during which you learn everything you can about the narcissist and how they control you and how they have set up the environment to keep you trapped. in their network of power and control through your work in stage 4 you will be able to understand how they are calculated maneuvers and your codependency or your Java disorder self comes in and keeps you powerless, keeps you in fear, keeps you trapped and with everyone With That knowledge you build what I call predictive awareness, it's an awareness of not only narcissism, self-love deficit disorder and the way they interact in human magnet syndrome, but it also helps you prepare for stage five, which is the establishment of limits. now I spoke in my seminar, you know, of which I have a wonderful and richly detailed seminar.

It's a six-hour recorded seminar from a live presentation I gave six months ago where it's called escaping narcissistic

abuse

when just in these six hours we completely describe stages four and five, so that when you've prepared yourself through stage Four, you will be ready and prepared not only for the narcissist and everything they will do to tear you down in your quest to set boundaries that could include ending the relationship, but they will also do so. They will do everything they can to make you feel helpless and needy, they will sabotage you in ways that trigger your fear of loneliness, and as many of you know who have followed my work, self-love deficit disorder is an addiction SLE D D It is an addiction that has its most powerful withdrawal symptom which is pathological loneliness and once you stop this drug, which is once you leave the relationship with a narcissist, you are overcome and for many people immobilized by this loneliness in the stage 5 because of your work. in the previous stage you are ready, you are ready with complete knowledge and understanding of your own worker with self-love deficits, you have built a foundation of mental health and you understand in detail what will happen when you set these boundaries, this is the Game of chess which I call, you know, anyone who is familiar with chess knows that the most successful chess player can predict a person's moves three four times in advance and will know how that other person reacts to his own moves, so with predictive awareness of stage strength and stage five. necessary ability to set boundaries in the busy environment, you will finally free yourself from the pathological narcissist and as I have said many times due to my warning from the Surgeon General and as many people know, I am neither a safe nor a general, but if we remember what Is there on a cigarette package that says that if you smoke, you will get emphysema?

Well, if I were a general surgeon, I would say that if you follow stage 5, you will inevitably enter a world of chaos in which over 75% of the people you think you love or who love you, will be gone SLDS, codependency partner and pathological narcissist, but you know this because you've been taught that in stage 4 you've been taught that when you set a boundary, things are going to skyrocket and everything that's happening. It will be difficult, but because you have mastered observation in absorption, you understand how the narcissist uses the induced conversation strategy to draw you back.

You know the three strikes rule where you set boundaries with full knowledge that the boundaries will prevail. They don't listen to you and on the third blow you execute the consequence because with all your preparation you will be ready for the definitive establishment of limits with your pathological narcissist. This is where my technique of course comes into play sometimes when we're in a situation. where we are finally in stage 5, we are setting boundaries in this hostile environment with our pathological narcissist and the other, the narcissist is trying to bring us down, trying to trick us or has triangulated other people as a coalition to side with him or her against him. us or has tried to deplete our resources external money emotional internal and all the other ways of trying to improve ourselves overwhelm us to regain our limits when we stay connected to everything we have learned and execute those limits in stage 5 we must be in a way observed in absorption and just a brief summary because that information is on YouTube, there are some videos on YouTube, each one is about 8 minutes and the non-absorb observation seminar presentation is about regaining self-love, calmness and that is a 90. thorough explanation, but when we can see the narcissist try to manipulate us and predict exactly how they are going to manipulate us, we can see them without letting them activate us or absorb us, so if you think about a pill that will make you sick If you swallow that pill you will get sick , so if we let the nurse help us within us, we give them mental space, we allow them to activate us, they will evoke emotional physical reactions in us that will want us to protect ourselves and they will engage in counterfighting George Bernard Shaw said that when you fight with beaks you get dirty and also the pigs like it, you know the idea is that you don't want to fight with the pig and be in a fighting ring with someone who is an

expert

. in wrestling, so it is observed in the absorbing technique and its naked essence says predict the reactions of narcissists predict the intentions of narcissists to involve you in a conversation and a battle and a conflict that its power lies in drawing you into the fight if they can make you talk they get angry, they defend themselves, they can take you to where they are most capable of using their powerful weapons of manipulation, so if you observe the narcissist he tries to take you to his wrestling ring and I teach you in my observed materials on absorption that There are two fighters. rings there is the physical fighting ring and the emotional fighting ring the physical fighting ring is everything you would do in reaction yell scream defend yourself being passive aggressive silent treatment is a reaction an external reaction and the emotional fighting ring is when they get into in your head when you are angry, resentful, depressed, scared, you are still interacting with the narcissus, all the power of the narcissus is in you, reacting and wanting to defend yourself, so when you observe that you are, you have predicted the narcissists attempts to attract you in the wrestling ring you are watching them trying to activate you and you decide that they are not going to activate you or that you are not going to absorb the toxins, you are not going to take that pill and you will get sick or I am not going to want to be induced into a fight, I which will absorb when you say things internally or verbally.

I have learned that it has profound power to maintain our focus and some people have adopted their own strategies for doing so. the observers do not absorb the technique where they actually say things out loud and I encourage people to Taylor OH the observed absorb the technique in their own unique circumstances and challenges with their pathological narcissists when they have predicted the narcissist through this preparation of the game of chess through their work on stage nothing should surprise you, remember that nothing will surprise you and when they try to provoke a reaction, they try to induce conversation as a reminder, there is a video with almost almost a million views about induced conversation, but they try to draw you into the conversation it is important that you tell yourself that I am not going to go to the fight room I am going to watch them observe the narcissists try to get involved, you tell yourself that my power is in observing and not absorbing, no react and what makes this technique life-changing Ode observed in such powerfully powerful absorption techniques is one word, actually two of course, when the narcissist tries to engage you in an induced conversation.

I want you to say to yourself, of course, I want you to watch them and see every little technique. The strategy that they have made and that previously would activate or absorb you to counterattack, to get in the wrestling ring and fight with the pig. I would recommend saying it on the inside because the point is if you say it on the outside. You could be accidentally causing the narcissist to induce a reaction and that's not what we want with Oda, so the other day I was with someone I just met who brought his friend over for, you know, coffee and this person was , I mean, he was a Pathological Narcissist, I mean, they are easy to spot once you get good recovery and self-love back and you are no longer codependent, you can spot daffodils everywhere by spotting you.

I have a video and where I use a clip on The Sixth Sense worse when I use the child or say I see that people are aware. I say I see daffodils everywhere and the point of that video is the point I'm making now that it's so easy to spot daffodils and codependency. recover so endless endless coffee meetings this person is part of politics and his political views are diametrically opposite to mine and he is a narcissist he tries to start a conversation with me to prove that he was wrong because of my job and my own recovery of self-love and my work on stage and my skills on stage 5 I recognized his pathological narcissism and went into my absorption observation mode and watched the narcissus trying to get me into the wrestling ring and everything he did through their attempts. to prompt conversation I would say of course you would say of course he wouldn't make a comment about the person he thought I voted for as his president in the last election of course he would make a comment about my intelligence of course he's laughing.

Me and looking at me in disappointment with every attempt of his to get me involved in this type of wrestling ring, I would counterattack with the comet, of course, and what that does or what it did for me and what it will do for you, will keep you . Concentrate on your observation, don't absorb the reaction, stay out of this pig fighting ring where you will inevitably lose if you have a reaction and what I discovered is that when I use my

method

of course, it makes the situation fun. . funny and that's when you know you've mastered the technique of observation and absorption, that's when you can see the pathological narcissist try to manipulate you and stay in your healthy observation or dissociation mode and consciously not absorb, it becomes almost hilarious, but I don't suggest it . laughter, I don't suggest you smile because that will be antagonistic and that will get you into the wrestling ring, so when this person started not getting any reaction from me, he started getting angrier and angrier and the goal when you are in situations like This with the pathological narcissist is not to upset him because then you are actually fighting with the pig, the objective is to get out of this situation to get away from the conversation with the person or end the conversation in this situation in any way.

I knew I had no choice but to say he had to go home and since this person wasn't going to stop, so this was easy, I just said in some benign way:I'm sorry, but I had an appointment to go to. It was a pleasure meeting you and this narcissist didn't know what hit him, he was confused and bewildered because anyone who was capable of doing it, anyone who disagreed with him, was an

expert

at drawing them into a dialogue that would come out and that in Therefore, the induced conversation would lead them to an art in which he would kick them because he was the pig who loved fighting and splashing in the mud.

This technique, of course, is especially powerful when it comes to a lover, a spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend, partner, and maybe you are setting boundaries to keep yourself safe or, in fact, in the relationship they will do everything they can to bring you down. and this goes back to the video I talked about before. 12 ways they try to sabotage sabotage, you use everything that I taught you in the sunny three limits hit

method

and the induced conversation method in the known absorption method of observing, but everything that I am teaching now in this technique of the course is when they start trying to get you involved to defend yourself or getting you angry enough that they try to defend you to save you, of course they would say that because that used to make me angry, of course, they would talk to the kids and they would ridicule me because that has always made me angry. enraged and wants me to attack him, of course, he would threaten to take the money that is not really his, it is ours because that is how he always punishes him when you catch the maneuver, the reaction of the narcissistic wound and understand properly. or label it the daffodil technique to draw you back into the argument and you know you lose all power.

This, of course, the reactions will save you, it will strengthen everything you have already built and mastered through what you observed in the absorption. and it will be the reminder of your power to predict narcissists and all their chest movements to kick your ass and make you fall prey to their sneaky covert and despicable manipulative methods to get to you, disempower you, control you and hurt you so badly. In short, become what I call an absorption-observed ninja, a master, build your skills that only come with mastering the material from stage 4 in my 10-stage self-love recovery program and preparing to narcissistic storms so you can move effectively. until stage 5, which is when things go crazy and everything is difficult and boundaries are set and any relationships that need to be ended or damage control or relationships that can't be ended or chosen, that's not it, so with that I say thanks for follow me.

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