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I had to run for my life. I didn't run. It was basically my survival instinct. In cases like this, the body does things that you would not have thought possible. There were shots everywhere. a point at which I almost resigned myself. This is how it will end. Experiencing violence means becoming aware of its existence. The thing about Merkel sounds a bit contradictory, but today I'm less afraid of her. I keep asking myself what I can do to be happier. This requires that instead of focusing only on the crack in the disc, we focus our attention on the pad.

The trauma not only covers the scratches on the record but also the arm that reads our sound. memory and it gets stuck That's why we can't move on with our lives We have been observing the victims of the November 13, 2015 attacks in Paris. Neuroscientists are interested in how people manage to overcome a traumatic experience. understand why some people think about getting over it while others remain stuck in their suffering from brazil is the ability to recover from a traumatic event is the ability to adapt and continue even after the event according to lienz is a dynamic process is a process of adaptation, not resilience exists.

There are many forms of resilience. According to Sebastian, it is not clear from the beginning whether one is resilient or not. However, there are factors that can contribute to strengthening resilience. Factors that depend on brain functioning and social factors, the interaction of social and individual circumstances promote the emergence of resilience mechanisms. You don't have, yay, I'm resilient now, yeah, so I don't think about that. nothing and I'm always so happy that it is that way, that I'm not stuck in some deep hole but also that I have so many people around me who get me out of there because of my hair.

Since then I've had breast cancer which unfortunately has also spread. spread, so it is a very fast growing moon-dependent breast cancer that is within these three weeks from the start of diagnosis to the start of therapy, it has grown so much that you didn't. I don't know if you could still help, that she had become stronger just because of this. Otherwise, she would never have reached this strength that she said she has now if she hadn't gotten sick and I thought that was really terrible. I didn't think that was good because it would have had a very positive effect.

I thought she had been through a lot, including what she was going through in terms of pain and everything. You can't always be like that. All is. Great, but now I've also said that it has nothing to do with calm, that's really what you no longer have and that you are grateful for. I thought to myself that this is such a bad situation for me right now. I want someone to help me, yes, and that was the best thing I could do at that moment, which was not hidden in my son, but really was. I was able to work very quickly to get healthy, too. mentally, which is what I've always done or and then you don't notice it anymore, I probably don't know, I think it also has to do with how the environment actually treats you, I'm pretty sure that if there's no one listening, you don't have the people adequate as you have now, not only from us but also from the doctors and everything is believed, then you can't do that at all, then you can't be like that at all.

I know if it's good to talk about what happened. Even those who haven't experienced it and just find out are disturbed when they find out more about all the terrible things that happened. I hope you don't have nightmares about it. But it is just as difficult for victims to have a conversation about the experience as it is for those around you. I think if I hadn't experienced the attacks I would be less happy today. I saw how he changed physically and mentally. It was radical in six months. It was almost recognizable. I was simulating everything. What he does makes sense, his eating habits and sports, caring for others, etc.

I notice how she suddenly listens very carefully and lives in the moment. I think it's really nice. She has changed a lot compared to the person she used to be. The way the election handled all of this and the way he used that trauma is crazy to me. I remember using Gregor as an example when I spoke to him. The young people I work with thought it was impossible. I've had to deal with everything I've experienced and put it behind me and now I can tell you that there are definitely people who use their trauma to draw strength from it.

But I'm braver than I used to be. I no longer hesitate when it comes to complicated things. Doing things that require more effort means experiencing the most beautiful things, things that would not have occurred to me before seeing many things. I didn't know such a thing existed. He was more of a city boy, what I liked was clubs, drinking, smoking, through an experience. A terrible experience that I wouldn't wish on anyone, in the end I became a better person. It is impossible to achieve it. Suffering simply disappears after a traumatic event, but it becomes a springboard for more positive things to rebuild.

A determined person has the ability to face the traumatic memories of him. He doesn't try to repress them. It means fighting painful memories and thus reducing the suffering associated with the memory. Resilience is not only resistance to trauma but also the ability to do so. Find answers and strategies to adapt to this situation. Resilience is dynamic, it develops and it is creative. In a way I think that calling yourself a victim is an act of bravery, it is an act of struggle and, in the end, it is an act of ISI lienz, it is the beginning of an honest conversation with ourselves by recognizing that we are not responsible for what happens to us.

The worst thing happened is to take responsibility for something that was done to you, if for example they harassed you at work and if then they say that I am not a victim, maybe it was even my fault, then it becomes a lot more difficult to recover because I was a boy dressed in civil. Before I became a coach, he worked in the fashion industry. Here I realized that he was a black woman and was dealing with all the microaggressions. the racism that comes with it. After ten years I was fired, a firing that really shocked me.

He gave me depression that lasted two years. That was the best thing that could have happened to me because he gave me the opportunity to reinvent myself. I asked myself what I want to do with my life and then I reviewed everything I had experienced again. I believe there are as many ways to become resilient as there are people, which is the heart of my resilience process. Writing is like that. I took a notebook and in this book I wrote down all the humiliations I have experienced. It's a pretty thick book. I have written down all the humiliations that have happened to me to make it easier for me to continue writing this book.

I made up something called alternate endings. It takes me a long time to realize that you got away with it. They explained to me that I was a survivor of a terrorist attack. I did not understand that. I was still afraid of dying and I was in this state for a long, long time. Months later, on November 13, 2015, there were again attacks in Paris. I received a call from a non-profit association for victims. of terrorism before the media reported it they informed me that there had been an attack in the city near your apartment be careful and so on my friend comes back from the gym we tell each other we won't die twice in a few months.

Those are absurd years because back then they didn't hit me with full force, they kicked me on a very personal level and now on a terrace 50 meters from my house, more than 20 people die under a hail of gunshots. My favorite place was. In the gym I felt good. I could disconnect. I wasn't sad, but I couldn't sit in a chair and look at my feet without looking at them. Thinking about the attack was so present that in sport it was different. I wouldn't call it an escape. I see it more as I wanted to do something good for myself.

At that moment it was clear to me that this was the right path, the more time passed, the more I found myself, but I didn't do it. I am a different person because I recovered in a completely different way. I think if you're not feeling good mentally, if you've been through something difficult, then being physically fit is the right way to get back into that. At some point to be mentally fit I took this path without realizing it. Today I believe that my greatest strength is my mind, not my body. Physically it seems that we suffer but we do a lot of good for our head.

A factor of central importance is the social one. supports reintegration into social, cultural and sporting activities because it actually helps you move forward you can concentrate on something positive memory works like this when you concentrate on one thing the rest fades away this rest is fear and anxiety and when you concentrate on something new The Collapse of activities puts something positive in the center of attention and the negative field returns. Remembrance and resilience have to do with selection, how we decide what comes to mind. We do it as a society. our collective memory That the place of the bunker has a social meaning is a good symbol of this, it reminds us of the past, the liberation of France, things that are celebrated, but it also evokes something else: this bunker was primarily built. by the French under the command of the Germans.

In both events, what is socially recognized and leaves a positive impression is highlighted; the other is more difficult to accept and integrate into one's own story. For a long time, the memory must be seen in. in its entirety to be able to rebuild itself in a healthy way. This is important so that all those affected and those who are also related to these events disappear our traumas and painful life experiences in the group in which we live, which they can cause. problems and suffering because our personal memories do not find an echo in society when written down.

I gave back to the people who humiliated me with their racism and misogyny. I decided it had nothing to do with me. I remember when my boss said that he worked with a. The afro hairstyle was unprofessional. The way I was humiliated, how stunned I was. I wrote all that in this notebook. In an alternate ending, I find the strength to say something to my superior. that the mere idea that this helplessness I experienced was not absolute, allowed me to escape. To recover, the woman who was humiliated is not the same woman I am today and she may not be who I will be tomorrow, which means I have made it.

To give myself a future where she can live life with her head held high, working with Alternate Endings was a way to look at my traumas again and tell myself that what I had been through wasn't necessarily just fate. Consider my training experiences as painful. President Training People tend to expose themselves to negative events that are initially painful. For you, if you learn to deal with stressful situations in the long run, it becomes meaningful and useful to you. a part of you from the can If we manage to consciously confront unpleasant things in small doses, this puts us in a long-term position to overcome even more serious problems, the humiliation that I experienced and was able to overcome.

Solving by making up alternative endings is why I do today. I show these solutions to the people I train. The people that I take care of are not white people is that they have to work four times as hard, but what that ultimately means is. that they have to work four times as hard and then they should consider themselves lucky if they get half that; These people are the ones who are just starting to work and who are also asked to persevere and see strength in it. By holding on, they actually become complicit in their own suffering, which is why I hate when this word is used in a work context, you ask them .people do not ask for resilience, you ask them to endure it until they can't take it anymore that is not the same with resilience it is not about perseverance resilience means living resilience means overcoming it jens means getting up again perhaps it is not synonymous with returning to normal original form but definitely the return to a form that is able to look forward again like this.

I think being broken is a state where we are wounded, but at some point the wounds heal even if scars remain. I firmly believe that everyone can return to normal. the legs can come, otherwise I wouldn't do this job. I was the laziest and I have become someone totally motivated by sports and to get better at racing. I had to address my issues at some point. I had to improve my sleep and be able to run better. Was that what I really wanted? In the end, the sport forced me to go in the right direction. The first six months of the first year were terrible.

At the end of the second year I st

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d to notice that. I no longer had nightmares and now they are gone. You could almost say that I have recovered 100 percent. The corona lockdown was not good for me during Monday training, Tuesday training and Saturday competition. These were important constants in my life. Everything revolved around that and then everything fell apart and the gym closed. I could only jog within a kilometer radius of a house. So I stopped doing that and became a master of video games. I gained seven kilos. I left everything else. I gave up.

I returned to my old self. I came back feeling sloppy but at some point it was enough and I tried to train hard. I don't run ten kilometers but 20. WhenI go to the mountain I climb even more. I did it again. The worse what we experience, the more we have to arm ourselves and make an effort to take the right path. done with sport, can it be done through a high mountain obstacle course or through something completely different, I don't know, but in any case you have to take care of yourself, you can't take the time? pass like this Now I know there are things that will stay with me for the rest of my life.

It's because of what I've experienced. Has no sense. It does not hurt me. I don't suffer so much anymore. Today I can say that I have more adrenaline in my blood during a race than during attacks. Today the most intense memories of my life are not the. Attacks. The most intense memories of my life today are racing and Kooks.