How To Be Your Own Rescue - Lisa Nichols

Hello and welcome back to the Lisa Nickel Show, where I share with you the tools we both want to live the life we ​​deserve, the life we ​​all aspire to achieve, one with joy, happiness, memories and all those good things you want to look at. back and say I created for myself now I love

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comments every time you comment I get excited I hear you're getting it I see you're getting it show me what it's like showing up so please keep coming foggy you commented on the episode how reduce the chaos in your life and you said I love your coat you said in quotes vol preview out loud if you're just joining us bol means preview out loud and in this community in this tribe when we have a preview we share it so thank you very much misty for sharing your trailer you say a quote without quotes the space between chaos and intention is personal development oh say that again the space between chaos and intention is personal development you said an amazing discovery quote so that's what this is about journey called life, point of explanation, thanks Lisa, you're welcome, it's my pleasure and then Donita, you commented on the episode, master one lesson before taking on the next and you said a quote.

I just realized that I have a lot of aha moments but I'm failing when it comes to putting them into action yes I can dance on it I can dance on it I can dance on it when you have an aha moment and you don't put it into action you have to having the aha moment again you said quote instead of being an information gatherer I'm going to focus on some things to master hash tag bol hash like action Oh, you all get me so excited it's hot in here, don Don't take any of your clothes off.

You know I love your comments, so keep them coming. You know when you are in a place where you are suffering and you recognize it. Number one is to recognize it. Don't try to leave the pain behind. If it doesn't exist I understand overcoming it I understand producing when you have it because you still have to go on life goes on you still have work you still have families to have school you still have life but don't try to run away past the pain and if it doesn't exist, you know, for so many years I would act as if The pain doesn't exist, this is what I realize, pretending like it doesn't exist doesn't make it go away, it just doesn't give up, it's a space to live in and then move on.

I always say if you are suffering, suffer, just don't take out real estate, don't take out a lease option, buy with pain, don't rent to own anything. in pain you don't reside in pain see I'm suffering now what do I need the truth is powerful I once heard someone say I think I heard in the book the truth will set you free even if it's pain isn't it I mean you want me to If the pain grows now, remember that energy grows where it goes, so if you are putting energy into feeling pain, then the pain will increase, that is by having conversation after conversation after conversation about what caused you pain.

I say yes We will talk about the pain, we will talk to have one conversation after another, after another, about what you are doing to get out of the pain you are in. So, number one, acknowledge the pain. Number two, immediately find the action steps you can take. come in daily I didn't say weekly I didn't say monthly daily to help you get through pain number three don't expect to run out of pain sometimes you will come out slowly sometimes you will sometimes you will crawl as long as you stay in constant motion write that down keep up in constant motion and what that looks like is a daily habit, so for me the place I had to start was with Lisa, I recommend you start. with you, so I recommend that you look in the mirror and do a mirror exercise because when you feel pain it is not about who took you there or who can get you out first, but about recognizing where you are and then being your own

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, that's why the mirror exercise is always powerful, so I invite you to look in the mirror and when you look in the mirror I want you to do this exercise.

I did this exercise every day for six months straight and now you could I didn't need to do it for six months, but I was suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder. I was diagnosed with clinical depression. They prescribed me Prozac. I had to give myself something to help me develop my own beliefs and Lisa strengthens my own belief in myself. On my own I can recover muscles. She needed something to help me crawl to walk and walk to run and then run back to my sword, so I did it every day for six months. I invite you to do this for at least 28 days, if you find yourself sailing back to joy or want to navigate to your next level of joy, you don't have to simply be in crisis to benefit from the evaluator exercise, so look in the mirror, look at yourself like I'm looking at you, look at yourself and I want you to look like you're your best friend and you're cheering on your best friend because if you look like you're your best friend then you're not going to judge the lines on your face or the hair or whatever it is that we tend to judge ourselves by when we look in the mirror and ourselves we only see love, we only see possibility, we only see all the things that you've been through and then I want you to talk to yourself yourself as if you were your best friend say your name I would say Lisa say your name and then complete these three sentences the first sentence say your name first Lisa I would say Lisa I am proud that you and Find seven different things to celebrate yourself for and It could be small things.

Lisa, I'm proud you woke up this morning. I am proud that you prayed today. I'm proud that you went to work. Today I am proud that you established a healthy boundary in that relationship. I'm proud that you got out of the relationship. I'm proud that you said yes, even though you're afraid to jump into that new job. I'm proud that You talked on the phone today with your mother, whatever that little thing is that you can celebrate, it doesn't have to be big things, remember, celebrate the micro lens and the micro winds become macro, gain seven different things that you can be proud now.

This is what I did because I'm in my early 30s haha. First I went back and celebrated everything from 20 or more years ago because I hadn't celebrated those things. The first thing I celebrated myself was because I had done it in second grade. The second thing I celebrated myself for was something I did in high school. The third thing I celebrated myself for was that when my father left town when I was in high school and told me there was no company after 10 o'clock, I never had company afterward. 10 o'clock, but no one knew he was alone at home.

I celebrated myself for that, there are so many things you don't get celebrated for because you're waiting for someone else to celebrate you when you're the person who goes for it. a party you are the person to celebrate don't expect recognition from someone else give yourself recognition recognize yourself and the rest of the world do the same and they will start to recognize you more so the first sentence seven different things that you are proud of that you have done big small recently and long ago second sentence now this recognition this might hurt this might get you a little down this might make you want to quit this is where your convenience and your conviction won't live on the same block This might be like a punch in the gut, but It is also the most healing of all.

He is the one who cuts the shackles of guilt. The shame. The blame. Regret and anger. It's still hard for me when I do it, but I still do it because I deserve it. being free in my mind sometimes we are free physically but our mind is shackled because we are held hostage to something we did before, something we didn't do before, something we said or something we didn't say in the second. phrase you look in your eyes you say your name and you say I forgive you for going back 20 years go back 10 years go back five years or go back five days Lisa I forgive you for entering into a relationship that was not worthy of you Lisa, I forgive you for lying in your bar integrity and saying yes when you really should have said no.

Lisa, I forgive you for endangering Jelani when you unknowingly got into an abusive relationship, at least I forgive you for not getting out sooner, at least faster. I forgive you for gaining over 80 pounds by being too stubborn to go to the doctor to find out what was really wrong. At least I forgive you for blaming yourself when a relationship didn't go well and he left when in reality the man's rejection was truly from God. protection but you blamed yourself that second sentence is liberating, sobering, a little painful and definitely free, it won't magically happen the first time you say it, that's why I did the exercise every day for six months straight, somehow, one day you wake up and you are going to forgive yourself for something and it is no longer there there is no guilt there is no shame there is no guilt there is no regret there is no anger you wonder how it went away because you gave it attention every day because you minimize it in the nothingness that always was, you reduce the power of the story, so the second prayer is the prayer that I need you to commit to saying every day and I did it with tears falling at chest level.

I made it inaudible, it sounds like this. I forgive you. because I want to say it was bad I mean it was bad and the third and last sentence that I invite you is also something that we do not do enough we do it for everyone else but we do not do it for ourselves I want you to look at yourself and complete the sentence say your name first Lisa I commit to you that says I commit to you and I make seven different commitments to you look you will commit to someone else and you will honor the commitment I will see you at four I will go to that meeting every time you decide to be on time for work, every time If you hand something to your child or your friend, you will introduce yourself to them, but how often and consistently did you introduce yourself?

That was a big one for me. I cried even at this when I cried at the three sentences what did you commit to? It seems as simple as this Lisa, I promise you that today I will only say yes when I want to say yes and I will say no, on the days I need to say no, Lisa, I promise you that I will not keep score, I will not collect evidence and why life It won't work for you, our relationships won't work for you or this next meal plan. won't work for you I won't follow up I mean, I won't keep score I won't collect evidence why it won't work I will follow up on why ELISA should work I commit to you that today I will stop the negative talk, so no faster, no more fast and I'll get into the love talk sooner, I'll go faster, so three prayers each day will stop the pain and encourage the possibility that every time there's no magic, there's no fairy dust. no potion lotion there is no magic wand with this you have to do the work you have to be willing to take the journey three sentences I am proud that I forgive you and I commit to you that every day now if your bonus and you are going to give me three months just three months as my advanced student give me three full months so I want you to identify that you are going to do it for three months and if you want to make the general commitment twenty-eight days and when you do that you will find that the pain will slowly start to dissipate slowly it will start to evaporate into the nothing that was the story that was the perception that we gave it and suddenly the truth will rise above that and you will begin to see yourself again for who you really are, not for what that situation made you believe about yourself, but for what you have always been designed to be.

It's like wiping steam off the mirror and suddenly you see yourself. again and you like who you see and then one day you love who you see remember this show is not just a monologue it's not just a one way conversation this show is a two way conversation and more than ever for this episode I want to Listen about you I want to know what came up in you What are you ready to be proud of? What are you ready to forgive and let go? What are you ready to commit? What impacted you about this episode?

How did it shake you? How did he catch you? How did he support you? How did it inspire you? This episode is very personal to me. This was the process I used to catch my breath. So I really want to hear from you on this one. Leave me your comment below subscribe join the community look for more content more connection and remember that this is your house it will always be your house and we will always be your impulse and I will always be your sister in prosperity and impossibility and when I say that I believe in you and that I love you it's because I love you.

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