Happiness is all in your mind Gen Kelsang Nyema at TEDxGreenville 2014

I like my friends, hello, so I want to start with some questions and I know that many other presenters have already asked their questions and they have been difficult questions, but the questions that I am going to ask you are very, very simple and I promise you that you will be able to answer them good. Are you ready for the first one? Well,

your

first question is: you don't have to answer out loud. Are you having a good day? Well, now you have

your

answer. Well, my second question. for you it's why if you're having a good day why are you having a good day or if you're having a bad day why are you having a bad day so I have one more question for you this should be the easiest of all my last one. question is tomorrow, would you rather have a good day or would you rather have a bad day?

Do you have your answer for that? What happens the day after tomorrow? about Sunday, let's see, yes, that's right, tomorrow Saturday Sunday, how about Monday? I would like to have a good day or a bad day Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday at this time next week good day or bad day so the last question like I said is probably the easiest for us to answer because we know the answer to that ask. Don't we want to have a good day every day? Did anyone in the room answer yes, I want to have a bad day on Monday?

Of course not, we all want to have a good day every day so this really speaks to the kind of

happiness

we all want deep in our hearts we have a good day when we are happy and we want to be happy every day there is never a day when we don't want to be happy but whether or not we have good days or bad days really depend on how we answered the second question. Do you remember the second question? What was the second question? Why am I having a good day? Why am I having a bad day?

So one thing is that my teacher says his name is Geshe Kelson yatza. and he says that much of the time our

mind

is like a balloon in the wind blown here and there by external circumstances, do you know that feeling? He says, when things are going well, when they are going our way, we feel happy, but then , if something goes well. wrong, for example, he says if we are forced to work with a colleague we don't like, but I'm sure none of you have colleagues you don't like. Well, he says if we are forced to work with someone we don't like or if we don't like something.

Let's go on our way, then our feeling of

happiness

will disappear, as long as our answer to the question of why am I having a good day or why am I having a bad day, because you know this is a question that people ask us, such Maybe when you get home today someone will be okay, so how was that with Ted? You had a good day? I'll say yes, yes, I did. There is a lady who talked to us about how we should be compassionate to former inmates and there was an artist who did this. Awesome boxing thing B with his mouth and you know this person in that person, as long as our reasons why we had a good day are a list of external conditions, then we are not going to have the stable happiness that we all want.

It makes sense to you because our happiness depends on it because we cannot control people and circumstances every day.