The Common Touch - The Jake Bailey Story (Full Official Documentary)

In fact, we are going to have a change in the program, sorry Mr. Chapman, our senior monitor Jake Bailey, was able to come to the awards ceremony and can't stay for long, so I will invite Jake to make his speech now. If Jake can't get through it all, I will. The speech of him left me and continued. I wrote a speech and then the week before I gave that speech, they said you have cancer, Chris. I don't know. School was an interesting time for me. I did not do it. I always felt like I got it right, I always wanted to be the kid that sat with the adults or didn't always want to play with the other kids, so that kind of shone through his personality as he grew up, he was described as having a still young on all shoulders and in a way he was like a mini adult from a very young age.

I remember him going to preschool at school and being a little surprised by the other kids who dressed up as animals or superheroes and he would find it quite surprising when I was seven, my parents split up and I spent half the time with my dad, half the time with my mother and she has always been a very important part of my life and I have been very lucky. have a half-brother and a half-sister one from each parent hello long contractions that have been three minutes how are you feeling well worth the secret sweetheart clear me up when I have reflected with them and what it was like for him to come into a family with an estranged father, he has a incredibly positive outlook on us.

He was obviously very worried that it would have a profound impact on him and not necessarily a positive one, but when he talks about that experience that, to me, can be really painful for a person. number of kids, he just talks about the positive things that came out of it and I think that says exactly the kind of person he is as you try to write the time and I think initially when Jake first told him that he was getting another sibling, probably a little shocked, I mean we just tried our best to get him together as much as possible, basically, yeah, he liked to help and was a good role model.

I ended up falling in love at West High School as it was kind of a last minute change, just because Christchurch boys' school was really limited by my values ​​and how I saw myself as a person. It is called a very inclusive school with a long hi

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. Great sense of community and an incredibly strong sense of belonging among the kids. He went to high school. I think he was a very committed student. I don't know if he dedicated himself academically as much as he could. I spend most of my time working on the academic side of things.

I came and two guys, hello later. After being hit at my last school and I remember in grade 9 people were joking and saying you know you're going to get hit around here too and I thought no, no way, this is a school of almost fifteen hundred kids. and you know, my year group of around 300 boys, so not only did I have a much bigger pond to be a very small efficient, but it was a really incredible selection of boys who are at the school. I really met Jake when he was. They made me a monitor and the boys went to monitor camp.

You know, I felt very lucky to have been sick. There was a monitor that was a group of guys that were exceptional and I didn't interview Jake after that before the senior position. monitor hey taxi taxi hey I feel like yes, a 15 to 20 minute interview about the other candidates and then he called me one afternoon a few days later and he said would you like to be a senior monitor next year? And I still remember the feeling of coming. blood draining from my face and my stomach churning, it was like it was a pretty big responsibility and I was very excited about it, but at the same time I knew it, but I mean, it's a role that demands a lot of respect and it's something that it needs to be handled to the best of its ability and it needs to be done to a certain standard and I was worried about being able to do it justice and not being able to do it on the stand. that deserved to be done, but I was excited about what was to come, so in September I started to feel a little bit of pain from the wisdom teeth in my jaw and it started, it was pretty minor and innocent and then it got progressively worse.

As time went on, we weren't sure what it was, but they thought it was probably just a second of inflammation or infection from the impacted wisdom teeth. It's a long and complicated

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, but the gist is that in the meantime, while we wait to have my teeth removed and I started losing a lot of weight. I lost about 10kg and for about 10 days he was really very sick and that was probably the only time I moved a chair into his room and had to keep an eye on him. He wasn't in a terrible condition but we didn't know exactly what it was and he started vomiting blood and eventually after I started vomiting blood I was admitted and into the acute medical assessment unit at Christchurch Hospital, from there there was a huge amount of tests that I went through and I remember going with him to have the kidney biopsy and as we went up and to the left he just screamed I'm dying I'm dying and as a result of a bone marrow aspirate a kidney biopsy a kidney biopsy gums an ultrasound CT scan an MRI They showed me I had stage 4 in Bukistan, a lot of Cannes lymphoma and my kidneys, my pancreas, my eye sockets, my nasal passages, my jaw, my bone marrow, spinal fluid, brain lining, I think that's all.

Plus, I haven't memorized them all year. I feel they are the most susceptible to chemotherapy treatment because they grow very quickly and in some cases the tumor can double in size and in 24 to 48 hours it can become very large. I mean, that's like science fiction and isn't it a horrible thing to be happening? I remember thinking, imagine sitting in the room with the doctors there telling you that something really serious is happening to you. I mean, yeah, just two days later. I was in that room, we went back to the room and he's still in terrible pain and there's a lot of drugs going into his system and my initial reaction was to just run over him and hug him and start crying, obviously, and he said, Mom, don't cry. mom don't cry if you're going to cry you have to go out and I said okay I won't cry I won't cry but I couldn't stop it for a while oh I leave the room I find my phone there are worries and explain to him look it's bad Winton.

I found it. I walked past him in a hallway sobbing into the phone and walked out of the hospital and across the street into Pegasus's arms. It seems like a really good idea at the time, but instead I just got really bad news and he's really ugly. I said, can I have a quadruple vodka? and I said we don't actually sell quadruples, it's illegal, so I said can I have two doubles? and they told me you were fine, so I took the two doubles. took advantage of a dr. Barry said thank you and that gave me the courage as I walked back to regain my composure because I knew I had to be there for him, it was absolutely essential that I put my own feelings aside and if he didn't want me to cry. around him and I understood it because I've seen my mother cry and it breaks your heart when your mother is angry, so when I came back I had some Dutch courage under my belt and I managed not to evacuate Wray in front of Pass them all over the process again but there are several times where things get pretty upsetting and we think I might have failed and wanted to cry but yeah I learned a lot about how to breathe when you want to cry or when I'm terrified just breathing and being there for the other person .

Basically, smokers know. I remember thinking that I basically couldn't have a life without him and how could I go on and do the fun things we would have always done? You know, you relate vacations and we spend a lot of time at the lake and you know, just playing and just thinking about moving forward. I suppose everyone would say that the thought of continuing without him being there was quite unbearable, yes. I don't have anyone to imagine what my parents were going through, obviously it was very hard for me and dad and with my girlfriend I called her and actually said, you know, in a combination of not knowing what to do and being taking some quite strong painkiller, I said, "You know, the doctors have told me what's wrong, but I'm not sure if I should tell you," and his face was like you know what, so I said, "oh yeah, then." I have cancer and that stage is rare, but I was only dating for ten days when I was diagnosed, so I told him, "You know, it's not scary for you, it's not what you definitely signed up for ten days ago and it's not even what you would do." I was expecting it and then I said look just get out of here you know you would run for the hills because no one would blame you for doing that and that's you know it's not a bad thing and you know she said no and she said no we'll get through this together. and that was what I know was a big point for me because that was real, it was a

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turning point, otherwise, for so many different things again, it's a long haul with Jack, so it was very important that I was there for him and he was always quiet.

You can really share my emotions with Jake, which I found quite difficult because I had other people I had to wait for, but yeah, a lot of fun anyway, so for each other. It was always really nice to see him, even I was still a bit terrible going to see what he was going through and seeing him go downhill and not stopping, but I always told my mates in another terrible way, which is kind of funny. Looking back, but I literally left it in the Facebook group chat. I did not do it. You know, I've bided my time a little bit because I didn't want to tell anyone.

I didn't want anyone to know. 25 minutes before it was released through crochet it was hello. I wrote a big message and I just pasted them into the group chat and a couple of group chats and you know, I hope the messages keep scrolling, so I read them. Do you know which ones they are? We're going to do this weekend guys, is there anything like someone's or someone else's house? Hey guys, I have cancer and I was really hoping to keep scrolling, but it turns out once you put that in the group chat, people actually pick up on it quite a bit.

There was quickly a state of shock at the school, that's the obvious tragedy surrounding the cancer news and also the fact that it was someone so prominent and the school community was obviously devastating, causing one artist to undergo chemotherapy and the principles behind. chemotherapy is not really that smart, we basically poison the patient, we hope the patient survives, the disease dies, as it is supposed to happen later, there is something a little bit smarter than that because we have a lot of experience and there is a lot of evidence about the particular combinations of drugs that we know are effective in treating certain different types of cancer.

I remember Lyman was doing chemo day after day thinking to myself you know the end of this. I'm never going to boss you around. Again, I'm never going to tell you what to do if you don't want to go to college, whatever it is, it's up to you because after what he would do, after what happened, I thought he can just take his own life. From here he doesn't eat meat, I give him advice, but not afterwards, after the punishment treatment like there, the morning of the speech, I had my first chemotherapy and Ruthie reciprocated and that had taken its toll on me, I had had a pretty bad time. headache from a lumbar puncture, on top of that I was even there because of the chemo anyway so to be fair I was on and off quite a bit that day, there were times I was sure I would and there were times. when I was so scared that I wasn't going to get there and even right away and that led to that, my family and they actually in the afternoon bought my jacket and it's my school uniform and a razor to shave and I said you know I have to do this and I got out of bed and started shaving and I got halfway there and the sheer exhaustion in my body from doing it made me feel sick and you know I sat on the side my beard was in second place it was Becker and I thought there was no way I could do this and a nurse came and the only nurse who is really responsible for me making the speech and in many ways I give her all the credit. her for that and she knows who she is, so she came in and said: are you going to do it? and I said, look, I can't, I can't do it and she said, okay, that's okay, but I just don't love you. regret it and I see it's for myself, yeah, I'll get another chance and I got up and finished shaving and walked by and thought, well, I've already made it one step down and I'm just going to put on my uniform.

So I started getting dressed and my uniform was kind of draped over me. I really fell in love with them by wearing pieces of it. It was designed to fit me when I was 15kg heavier. I mean, it was just a skeleton. a shell of my old self at the time so I put it on and just from the exhaustion of getting dressed maybe I would get stuck again and I was back on the side of my beard being second to a sponsor she came back and I said: are you going to do it? and I said look, I really can't do it and at that point I would have taken off that uniform and gone back to bed and laid there and my life would have been completely different. to the smells of her now but she saidI just don't want you to regret it and then I said okay, sure, I think I see it and I shed a tear or two and I gave him a hug and mom bought the wheelchair around them.

I sat down and she comes out and I said, you know, let's do this. She walked me through the hallways to the elevators and I remember I was in the elevator and I was vomiting, you know violently, so sick, I've never been so fed up with my life and she said look, you can't do this, I'll take you back and see . She doesn't take me back, she just keeps taking me to the car, so she went back to the car and the car was outside. Dad, Dad was waiting and I got in the car and lay in the back seat while he drove to the auditorium and my family.

It was all there around him. I remember the strength that that offered me in that moment and I'm so grateful for that because I don't know if I could have done it without it and dad would be there. being in the wings and yes, there is actually a secret about that, but not many people know it and that is that just when he was about to let me go, there was a round of applause when mr. Hill said he would be there and it was right when the round started, of course, I leaned over to dad and said dad, I can't do this, I want to be good on stage and I want mr.

Hill to read the speech why did he stand there and because of the round of applause, who didn't hear me and just crouched down next to me and saw it, you'll be cool and we'll go out and I was like damn, I'm doing it now chickens what was it? who was a heretic began none of us get out of life alive so be brave, be great, be kind and be grateful for the opportunities you have to learn from the men who walked before you and those who walk alongside you through the The challenge for each of you and for me is to continue growing and developing for the better.

The future is really in our hands. Forget about long-term dreams. Let's dedicate ourselves passionately to the pursuit of short-term goals. Micro-ambitious work with passion and pride in what we do. we have in front of us we don't know where we could end up or when it could end and then I remember, I remember fragments of the speech, it's all a little blurry for me, I remember the hacker and those were the most powerful things I have ever experienced in my life. I remember the school song and that was such a special moment as you know. I felt such a strong connection to those guys in you and that moment that I had fifteen hundred men behind me and it was like this really happened.

A red dreamer. I couldn't, I couldn't believe that he had just died. A very special story emerged. It was a recording by the Christchurch boys. The tall-headed boy who gives his speech at school cries, and what makes this one a little different is that between writing his speech and then delivering it, ten-year-old Jake Bailey was diagnosed with cancer and told yes. I didn't do it. If he didn't receive treatment right away, he wouldn't be alive to give that speech, so take a look at this extraordinary young man. Yes, it's been a crazy fortnight, that's for sure.

They told me he had stage four cancer. He had the fastest growing cancer. known to man and then the speech starts to get a lot of attention having a million and a half views on a video of you in a couple of days, it was something that was quite nice, a host, yeah, ah, people lining up at the stairs. at school he wanted to talk to me so he could talk to Jake every morning there was a journalist who threatened to come and knock on our door a lot of mail many phone calls many emails he developed two stalkers one initially who broke into his hospital and one a few years Then, a few months later, she came from abroad because she wanted to marry him even when my family couldn't be there or my friends were going to be there or my girlfriend couldn't be there, all those messages of support always. were and that was that little bit of extra support that meant a lot to know that there are people who cared, obviously, he lost us here and his eyebrows, and it was quite alarming for me to see at times. getting out of bed and being able to see where he had moved for the family, the cancer was, it was a pretty traumatic time and probably the best way to describe it or the easiest way for me would be to show them a poem that his brother wrote that he had had. he published it and he wrote it while Jake was sick and it just came out this year, but I think it describes exactly what we were all thinking.

My life is a mirror in my brother's cancer. He is a Hemmer crashing into my mirror. I can't stop the Pieces fall off sometimes I put them back in place but they just fall off again. I don't think I've considered stopping treatment. There was a time when he refused to go back to the hospital and there was another time when he ran away from the hospital and then New Year's Eve came, we were his friends, we were all in Queenstown and it was just me and him at home. Queenstown was. I love thinking about Queenstown, it was the perfect escape from reality and we were looking at each other, they arrived at six. o'clock at night and I realized that he was longing to be with his friends to have a normal life and I was sitting on the couch at home with my mother, like all eighteen year olds want to do on New Year's Eve and I thought this really wasn't a fitting end to the year it's been, so we made a deal that he could take my car and drive to Queenstown, as long as he called me every hour, had his temperature taken before calling me, and tell me what was my girlfriend's name as she drove down the driveway and said she was on her way to Queenstown it was surreal it was like you knew they hadn't told me I had cancer life was normal and we went to sort of fireworks on the boardwalk and I did the countdown there and it was probably the happiest moment of my life.

I think because it was crazy, it was everything I would have hoped for if he hadn't had cancer, but it was also more. I don't know where any of us go from here for free for me for you but I wish you the best on your journey and I believe that you are part of mine wherever we go and if we do, can we? We will always be friends and we will meet again with a Europe, you know, and tonight we are going to be the first of our next awards list to receive a new trophy, so I would ask Jake Bailey to come forward and present Jake's cut Bailey for her bravery and Jake wants to I'll say a few words just to explain what Jake is all about.

I won't be speaking for long tonight, but I'm very excited about how different the speech I'm going to give will be compared to the one I gave this time last year. It shows how much the year can change the last time I gave a speech on stage. I didn't know if I would love to see the school again. I remember very vividly when my father asked me to get out of here again and I was throwing up in a suck bucket and a mustard seed came and held the door for us and I remember the look on his face because I can't forget it and what I read that look was what I read was him wondering if he would ever see me again and I certainly wondered if I would ever see him again.

I remember looking over my shoulder as my dear old dad pulled me off stage trying to bring a familiar face or friend to life in the crowd in case it was the last time. The first three weeks of treatment were critical as the aggressive regimen of chemotherapy attacked the aggressive cancer and my kidneys and my body were caught in the crossfire that it was the third day of chemotherapy when I gave that speech last year and at that stage the cancer dominated me my body failed me more every day but fortunately None of that matters anymore, neither the statistics nor the possibilities, all the memories no matter how much it hurts that I matter because I'm still here Today, 364 days later, I will speak with you tonight and I feel absolutely honored and privileged to be able to do so.

It's also very nice to be on your feet instead of in a wheelchair, although I may have recycled the sign keeping me out of my life. now it's maybe a little more established but it hasn't changed at all in the sense that it's something I could never have imagined at the beginning of last year. It's another case of something I could never imagine happening and a seemingly recurring theme over the past 12 months. I live on the Gold Coast

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time with my girlfriend and that makes a great base for public speaking in New Zealand and Australia.

The environment is all I need while I recover. It's warm. It is relaxed and calm. and I really enjoy it there. I signed a contract for the book. I've worked really hard on the

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over the last 12 months and I know next year will be even bigger, but this year has been a very busy and exciting year. year and, above all, it has been a year for which I am grateful. I'm back tonight to present a new award that the school has honored me by allowing me to donate tonight. For the first time, currently, the Jake Bailey Cup for bravery.

Great courage, strength and resilience in the face of adversity, in many ways, is for moral strength, which is something I talked about disturbingly the last time I was on stage. I said that not all of us can be the best academics achieving absolute excellence or the best. sports the first 15 believe me well sometimes we can be the best at everything or anything but we cannot choose to have it is moral strength moral strength is about making a conscious decision to be a person who does not give up Will circumcision normally be easy Is it less arduous?

I want the moral of this award and my story to be that when life confronts you with something terrible, you have the choice to leave it or you can choose to become stronger from it. This award recognizes those who control adversity and then use it to propel themselves forward. Those who know that bravery is not when you don't feel fear, pain or sadness, but the ability to feel all that and move forward despite it. General George. Patton once said that he doesn't measure a man's success by how high he rises, but by how high he bounces when he falls.

This award is for those who have fallen and rebounded high with the courage, resilience and bravery that I have spoken about with the inaugural winner of this award with mr. Hill and a film that stands out for the student, as it not only shows all of this, but has very solid principles and adheres to them, so from the effort on the levers, I was sure that the best thing was that it sailed from this port where we have been docked. For the past five years, they can venture far and wide, but always with a partnership with this powerful school.

Divya 12 were selected as martyrs. Congratulations and welcome to a group of incredible men who will always leave an impression on you and whoever you are with. to be elected senior monitor for 2017 I will give you the same advice I gave Jake three points: I don't drink Diesel and I don't have cancer, so there is a poem called Earth by Rudyard Kipling that talks about whether you can walk. with kings and not lose the

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and I think that represents Jake as a person now go and adventure in life because Nancy sir to get food thank you for everything mom I love you where can you explain it to me you will find it now take you