The surprising secret to speaking with confidence | Caroline Goyder | TEDxBrixton

Good start, he said: "Lie down on the ground." He stretched me, I closed my eyes hoping for a nice relaxation since we were in yoga class, and suddenly he put a gym weight on my stomach and said, "Breathe, hold this." I did this, I breathed and as I breathed I had to support the weight with my stomach and my diaphragm was shaking. I suddenly knew how I must feel. I realized that I no longer need to breathe here and I can breathe from below. I mean the abdomen is the king of

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. Are we looking for yours?

Take your thumb... Place your thumb under the bra strap. Yes, that's right, sir. I found it (Laughs). Yes, using his thumb, push lightly. When Laurence Olivier was learning to breathe, the actor Laurence Olivier, do you know him? Learn to breathe by pushing a grand piano I probably don't have a grand piano at home, London houses don't suit you these days, do they? But we can practice the feeling of pushing the piano. We move our thumb away when we inhale and push it in when we exhale. Now inhale and move your thumb away. Put your thumb back in.

Welcome to your diaphragm. If you place your hands on your ribs, the diaphragm also surrounds the abdomen from behind. You can also fill your ribcage as you breathe, just as you feel your ribcage open as you inhale and close as you exhale. about something, do this. Your diaphragm is the key to your

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. Now we have two lessons: The power of practice. The importance of the diaphragm. There is a third lesson, which is very important. Which is what really makes the difference. I actually started thinking about this lesson a few weeks ago, because someone I worked with wrote to me, wrote me an email, and said that he had been through the worst thing you could imagine happening to someone who had just gotten married and was on the moon. of honey, when her husband suffered a heart attack and died.

He should have gone back to the church where they were married and read a eulogy for this man. In fact, she had read a poem she had written when they met. She said: "On the worst day of my life, I had it. To recover I had to find the energy to celebrate the man I truly loved." The only way to do it is what you taught me: the ability to breathe slowly, take my time, control the situation, find my inner confidence, was the most wonderful gift I could give him: “There are moments in our lives when we see ourselves forced to speak, not because we want to say something, but we must speak for someone else: the marriage, the memorial. , right now these skills matter more than ever, what you need to know right now is in this soul drawer.

Air. Why does that matter? Because we breathe our thoughts. Each letter is the same. Every song is the same. Each inhalation is a thought. Let's put our hands on our diaphragm for a moment and exhale and then inhale, remember someone you love. If we spoke as we exhale, our words would be full of love. Now inhale again, breathing with a feeling of excitement. for the next day because it will be good. If we spoke while breathing, our voices would be full of enthusiasm. It means that you can control your voices with the idea that breathing is a thought and this is found in Latin, both ancient and modern.

The Romans understood this. Inspiration and respiration in Latin have the same roots. thoughts. Because we're talking as we exhale, all you have to think about is inhaling, and you know, the easiest way to think about inhaling is to close your mouth. So who would have thought that the biggest

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I promised you is yes? I want you to feel confident in your speech, the only thing you have to do is because of Him you will know when to keep your mouth closed. (Laughs) Thank you. (applause)