Why I choose to “have no ambition”

My name is Jean. I

have

41 years old. So far, I

have

n't had any of the typical "achievements" that other people my age have: no high-level job, a luxurious life, a high salary... not even children... and... to be honest, I no longer aspire to that life. Ambition to achieve big goals, to live life to the fullest, whatever that means, to stand out from the crowd… I had none of that. I even wonder if it is really possible to “have it all.” As far as I know, most people bring the best of themselves to work and take the rest home.

Frankly, all I really want is to live a small but happy life. I make enough money to pay my bills and be financially self-sufficient – ​​but I still have free time to spend with the people I love… and…. I don't know... I'm terrible at hobbies. For a long time I refused to acknowledge any of this, not even to myself. There's a lot of pressure to be submissive, to work 24/7, to move up, to be a leader, to succeed... but you know, there are over 8 billion people in the world today. planet and yet, everyone is expected to persevere in the face of life's "infatuations." It's the same pattern.

To me that doesn't make sense. We can't all be sharks. It must have some trout, right? Why has society forgotten the value of satisfaction and enjoyment of life's simple pleasures? So yes, I have no

ambition

s. At least not in typical

ambition

s. Professional achievements mean little to me, but I want to achieve success in life in other ways…. Live a quiet and simple life, appreciate the people I love and have time to enjoy hobbies and activities that interest me. I'm not trying to say that mediocrity or subversive success narratives are cool. I just want to send the message that your dreams may not be big, but that doesn't make them any less meaningful.

As long as you are alive, there is much happiness. I think it's okay to "be yourself" and there's nothing wrong with wanting to live a quieter life. "It's not funny", it's okay to be a normal person in the world. After all, isn't that what... 95% of the population is? When _ _opportunity and so on. I agree. Of course, the consequence of my "lack of ambition" is that I no longer dine at some fancy restaurant every week or go on vacation to a luxury resort, but who cares? Food is food and the beach is the beach. These differences may be important to some, but they are not. for me.

Society promotes the idea that our personal worth is directly related to our level of professional success. But I really question this strange universe in which we are encouraged to want an endless supply of new clothes and "nice" things. I think what we really want is respect and admiration. What we want is to be attractive to others and to have excitement and variety in our daily lives. But it's easy for us to satisfy our real human needs for identity, connection, self-esteem, and more with false solutions purchased with our hard-earned money that can never truly satisfy our desires.

We are so busy that sometimes we miss what is really important. Most things in life are limited. You will only see these people or drive down the same street a certain number of times. One day we will do something for the last time, but we rarely know when it will happen. With this in mind, would you continue living the same way you do now and making the same life decisions you make now? I began to realize that, honestly, I didn't have to give much to be happy. I'm an introvert and a homebody, so it's fun to just relax at home and watch TV or cook for friends.

I really enjoy the ordinary pleasures of everyday life, like petting my dog, eating, sleeping... My idea of ​​happiness is not climbing to great heights in the business world, but becoming the master of your own simple destiny. freeing yourself from the pressures of society and having peace and free time without responsibility instead of money and material things. Natasha Helwig said: "You are here to live. Not to make money, not to be pressured, not to prove it, not even to please. Just to live, I know it's hard, but we can try to "unlearn" our forever." -Forward, always-more mentality.

We can reframe our lives around what really matters to us, instead of making our work the central axis around which everything revolves. A good home, a good enough job and a successful relationship. Yes, the current stark reality of affordability means that cutting back is a huge privilege that many people still can't consider. But if we've reached the stage where that's possible, I think it's worth considering that valuing suitability rather than achievement, more free time rather than more money, is a better recipe for fulfillment. Work to live, not live to work. Maybe some people really like the fast pace of life and having to overcome new challenges every day, but I don't think there's anything wrong with not wanting that.

There is great value in embracing our ordinary lives and opening our eyes to the magic of the ordinary. We can spend all our time with our friends, family and pets instead of always having to rush to work. We can explore what interests us. read. Drink tea. See the sunset. Cook delicious meals and share them with your loved ones. We could have been happy. Thank you all very much for watching today's video. I hope you enjoy it and until next time, take care and I'll talk to you soon. bye bye.