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I QUIT My $120,000 Job After Learning 3 Things

Mar 19, 2024
I

quit

, I was making around 120k right out of college working in New York City and I honestly thought I had made it and was on the right path, but after working several years in corporate America and

learning

these three lessons On the way, I realized. that I was wrong and that I was just diving deeper into all of this and before I got so deep that I couldn't get out of it I decided to

quit

for several years after college, I commuted an hour to the office. I worked 10 to 12 hours and then I came home and slept and did the same routine the next day work sleep and the next day work sleep and the next day work and I seriously thought this was it for the next sixteen thousand and sixty days that I would be doing this until I retired, but at least on the bright side there were two moments each day that I looked forward to, one was when I got up from my desk, went to the bathroom and used my phone and the other was when I took it from my desk and walked out those doors and one day, after watching too many motivational YouTube videos in the bathroom, I realized that I had two roads before me, one was bright, the land was gently paved and it was safe with lots of people walking through it the other path was darker the ground was rough it was dangerous they had stones and it was lonelier I know that some of you are looking right now the highlight of your day is also when you go to the bathroom or when you go out in the office and I want to make you knowing that it doesn't have to be that way, so I'm making this video to share with you my experiences on what finally convinced me to change to a different path and I really want you to do it. pay attention because I want this video to be more than just words you see on the screen and more than just some sounds you hear coming from your speakers, so let's start here with the work culture itself and how it's all based on how hard it seems . you are working and not how hard you are actually working.
i quit my 120 000 job after learning 3 things
I remember time and time again when I had to stay in the office until 8 pm, 9 pm and even after midnight sometimes to finish a task that day as if the world was going to implode if it wasn't finished that day and neither would I. I was the only one in the office, honestly, there was a group of people and everyone secretly wanted to work harder than the other person and it really was an endless toxic cycle of people bragging. about how much time they spent in the office that the company paid for their dinner and their Uber ride home, which by the way, the company paid for if you stayed after 9 p.m. m., I absolutely hated it, but it's something that people did and how I wanted.
i quit my 120 000 job after learning 3 things

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Belonging I joined this cycle which probably perpetuated the cycle and looking back it never hurt until one night and I remember it very vividly. I was very frustrated at work because I realized I had to work late. I was ready. No I don't know after 7 or 8 p.m. and then my phone started ringing and I checked and saw that my mom was calling me and my first thought wasn't, "This is nice, my mom is calling me." Instead, my thought was: what does she want? Now I picked up the phone and she asked me in mom's sweet and kind voice: are you coming home for dinner or should I save the food for you?
i quit my 120 000 job after learning 3 things
I remember answering that phone and my voice was so angry and so upset like she said something that was completely outrageous and what I said was no, I don't have time and then I hung up and after that call, believe it or not, I was still angry as if I hadn't acted like a complete person towards my own mother. and I kept working and it wasn't until I got back home and I walked in the door and I saw my mom, she was happy to see me, she was excited to see me, she asked me how work was going and she brought out dinner that she saved me and she made for me and the only thought I had at that moment was wow, I'm total, I chose to spend extra hours of my life so I could help finish a project to achieve his dreams instead of mine. family and that's when I learned my first lesson, if you don't build your dreams, then someone else will hire you to build theirs and I realize that if I never stop working to help someone else build their dreams, then every hour of my time, even then the work belongs to them and because they owned my time, they owned my emotions, they owned my reactions and they owned the relationships and I know this may sound super extreme, but that's how it is really how it felt to do something that was so unsatisfying every day that it became painful and yet even after realizing all of this, it still wasn't enough to convince me to take my first step down the darkest path.
i quit my 120 000 job after learning 3 things
I graduated from Vanderbilt University in 2017 and then worked in finance on Wall Street and made hundreds of millions. of dollar projects I worked with executives I worked in London for half a year and I'm not going to lie, at first I was very excited to get this job because it made me think I had made it and what was even more exciting was the fact that I have to tell you to my parents that their son has a good job, their son was paid a fantastic salary, all your sacrifices, um, that you made to give us a chance, when you left Hong Kong, you left your friends and family and you came to the United States. not knowing anyone without speaking the language, all that, all those sacrifices were finally worth it, but after a few months, that feeling of excitement that I felt riding the elevator to the 27th floor disappeared and instead I began to fear going back to the office to do meaningless

things

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I work day in and day out and I have never felt like I was doing so much, putting so much time and effort into doing something and yet I felt like I wasn't doing anything. I felt like I was just a gear turning inside a machine. inside a bigger machine until one day something happened that taught me my second lesson every day without fail around 12 41 um after lunch I passed this person in the hallway and we can call him John and I was friendly with John , he was like one of those really old guys who always smiled always seemed happy and always had a joke to make and he never complained.
He wasn't exactly his friend, but we'd say hello in passing, have a little chat, and he'd always think of John. like this model employee that every company would want to hire because he's a hard worker and never complained about anything, then one day he stopped showing up and I didn't think much about it at first I thought he was just on vacation, but then a week passed, a week passed month and then several months passed and still nothing and to this day I have no idea what happened to John, he could have quit, they could have been fired.
What was strange was that nothing changed. Everything was exactly like. the same people went to the office the people left the office it was like jon had never existed inside these walls, i really knew in the back of my head that a company is not going to stop working just because someone is no longer there, but it felt really strange to witness this firsthand, that someone you've seen every day, someone you've interacted with every day, just disappeared and nothing changed and that's where the second lesson clicked: we're all replaceable, each of us and this really goes back to my first lesson that you are really only as good as the hours of life that you can give to the company once you can't give them more hours or you want to give them less hours than they will find. someone else who can this is when I felt more motivated than ever to really start planning and strategizing how I can change my path and start working towards the darkest one, but it wasn't until my third lesson that I took my first step. the other way because that's when I really thought about my whole life, when I was a kid in preschool, I was always open to helping other people, whether it was someone at school who didn't have a toy, I would let them have it. play with my toy or if I had an extra bag of cheez-its and my friends finished theirs I would give them some of mine, but as I got older I stopped doing that, I became a lot more selfish and this thought really came up when I saw my They took advantage of the parents because they couldn't speak English and I know this because I was there when this situation happened.
I was too scared to speak because I was just a little kid at the time and internally I was thinking like I became so cynical about the whole world that the only thing on my mind was to find a job that paid well because then at least if I had a good job, I would have more influence and I wouldn't have to depend on other people. Fast forward a couple of months or a year or so at work while I was mindlessly working on the computer making a PowerPoint presentation. I don't know what I was doing.
I was resizing a box to make it look better, who knows. At that moment I was thinking to myself, this is what life is all about: creating a really nice Excel template to make really nice powerpoints, like I was thinking there has to be more and that's when I realized my Third lesson and this is what was missing in my career, which was a purpose. If you don't have a purpose in life then you will be part of someone else's purpose and I'm not saying there is anything wrong with not having a purpose. in life as long as you are aware of it and have made this decision on your own, but personally I was not okay with it, I wanted to do and contribute more to my life than what I was doing at the time I wanted to.
To rediscover the mindset I had as a child, I realized that the best way to do it was to use my experience, my knowledge, my education and help other people understand and teach them how they can improve their personal finances because, despite All the sayings that money is the root of all evil, the truth is that money affects us all and unless we control money, money will control us. It took me years to learn these lessons that finally inspired me to take the first steps down the darkest path. and obviously I was very lucky to be in that position that allowed me to do this.
It took me years to finally take the plunge because I felt a lot of pressure internally but also externally, as my dad is absolutely the hardest working person I know. out of 365 days he will only take one day off and that was Chinese New Year to spend time all day with his family and it really sucked when I was younger because I didn't really see my dad very often like when I was a kid, I went to bed quite early and didn't wake up until a little later, so internally for me, quitting smoking felt really bad, like it was a shame to my family that I couldn't hold down a job or couldn't.
I couldn't stand my job for more than a few years and felt like I was being really ungrateful. It's like leaving a job that was really comfortable had great benefits that a lot of people would love to have, but what I realized is that you have to get over something. That's so deeply unsatisfying, it's just not worth it. I didn't want to be paid money to keep quiet, forget about my dreams and continue down this safe path with no other purpose than simply making money. We all have a purpose. for being here today and sometimes we lose sight of that and sometimes it's different from what you're doing and you want to do something else but you don't try because it's scary to go down that darker and more dangerous path, we let the fear stop.
It stops us from pursuing our dreams, we worry about feeling uncomfortable or failing, or simply lifestyle choices we made in the past prevent us from taking that step. We get sucked into what society expects us to do, which is get a job to buy a real business. nice car buy a nice house because other people have nice cars and other people have nice houses we want other people to accept us because we care what other people think about our own happiness at some point in your life impress other people who don't really care It doesn't matter, it's not worth it, it's not worth getting locked into golden handcuffs that become harder to release with every additional large purchase you make Honestly, I had to thank my job for allowing me to learn these lessons because without going through For years , these lessons would have just become a quote I read online somewhere or some words I heard on another random YouTube video and honestly, they wouldn't have meant anything to me, so now I'm on this dark path and I'm trying to pursue my purpose, the reason I'm here and that's why I created this YouTube channel to be able to help other people understand personal finance investing entrepreneurship and to be able to help break down all the complexities of that from a fun and entertaining way where it is easy to understand because if there is something in which the educational system failed for all of us and it is in understanding the power of money and personal finances, because the true power of money is not that you can buy what what you want The power is that you can buy the freedom to spend your time how you want, when you want, where you want.
It is the freedom of not letting anyone else control your time, your emotions or your life, and if you want to listen to whatdo. I am experiencing right now yes, I am afraid, I am afraid of failing, I am afraid of disappointing my parents who sacrificed so much for me to go to university and get a job, and if I fail I feel like I am throwing everything away From there I am afraid of not achieving it even though I'm giving it my all but despite all these fears there is one thing that scares me even more and that is not trying and I'm afraid of regretting it.
I'm afraid of not taking advantage of this opportunity before me and trying to do something with it. I'm afraid that I won't be able to use my education and my background and help others who absolutely need it, but I'm here now, I'm walking. on this path and for those of you who are still watching, I want to let you know that it is okay to be scared, you cannot grow unless you are uncomfortable until you are scared and when you join me on this path, I want you to know that you will constantly feel that you can't do it, like there are literally people who will tell you that you're going to fail and that's completely okay.
What's worse than failing is not trying when you really want to and if you're not ready to try, that's okay too, but take this time now to start planning and start strategizing. how you can take the next step, don't lose sight of your why and your reason, and if you're wondering when is the best time to start taking this step, the answer is that there is no best time to take the leap, when you can afford it. the luxury of drowning

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