3 Ways to Respond to Chronic Pain or Symptoms from TMS

Hello everyone, here with

pain

for you. Today's topic is three

ways

to

respond

to

pain

or

symptoms

, so we'll get into that in a minute. Take a few deep breaths. Breathe in the clarity. Exhale the uncertainty. Breathe the courage. Breathe out the Fear this is for you Breathe whatever you want positive Breathe out anything negative So in my opinion there are probably a thousand

ways

we can

respond

to pain but this is the most typical one I see in comments or just conversations and you know three obvious ways we know that pain is designed to get our attention properly, it's supposed to make us come out and take notice, it's designed to protect us from doing something or continuing to do something that the brain perceives as dangerous, so the typical response it's flow and then quickly become alert and say what the hell just happened, so as far as this type of mind-body pain, this

chronic

pain, that's the goal of this video, I'm not suggesting that there are multiple ways than responding to touching a hot stove, there is a way to respond. to that ouch and you shake your hand, I'm talking about long term

chronic

pain and whether it's the slow grinding of chronic pain that's pretty consistent or a major increase in flare up, in my opinion there are three main ways that people can respond to your pain and generally the response tends to be aligned with the severity of the pain or any change in the pain, so the first response is to freak out, completely catastrophic, oh my god, this is so bad, is it? what did I do? you've moved follow this path of worrying about what triggered this what caused this i have to figure this out so i can avoid it again oh no oh my god i can't believe this this is never going to go away and you're just going to go crazy, monster freak out, panic , despair, and that's a very common response, I'll say it's pretty much in line with nature's designed purpose for pain, which is to take note, pay attention, something bad is happening here, but I'll tell you what it relates to. learned chronic pain. pain neuroplastic pain freaking out never helped anyone get better, right? no one got better by freaking out, I say it all the time, but it's so true because when you get scared, the stress response goes off with that adrenaline, cortisol, the stress hormones go off, what does that do to the nervous system?

It actually amplifies things and everything becomes more hyperalert, more hypersensitive because when you're freaking out, the brain senses that you're in danger and the heart beats faster, the breathing, you know, uh. increases the eyes dilate, okay, all of these things happen in the stress response, so by freaking out, you're amplifying your nervous system, so again, just for that purpose, that's not going to help you feel better, so that the opposite side of the spectrum is what I recommend to everyone. time the attitude of uh whatever it is no big deal the attitude of indifference and if you're sitting there going dan but you don't understand when it's really bad it's impossible to be indifferent I get it, I've already done it and that's the biggest rejection to come to all the things I suggest is that indifference is impossible if not all the time sometimes I have had people literally tell me how you can be indifferent to pain it's uncomfortable how you do it so well it's like anything if we realize that Freaking out isn't good for us and only makes things worse because you're basically confirming to the brain that pain is dangerous and the brain will always be alert for anything that remotely feels like pain, so freaking out won.

It doesn't help us, so if you know that and you know that that's not good for you and it's not going to make you feel better, we have to make a decision, we can move away from that indifference towards me, it's the gold standard, it's the ideal. because when you say okay, whatever I heard today or wow, the pain is really bad right now, okay, whatever, it sends a very specific message to the brain that says, calm down, you're not in danger, it's not. big deal because if you were in danger which you wouldn't become you wouldn't be right and that's the ideal so that's the second way that people respond to pain and it's not very intuitive because it's kind of contrary to the nature, nature is designed to take action, to be scared. the normal kind of response, but now that you know what tms is and you've done the assessments and you've discovered that yes, this mind-body thing is exactly what's causing my pain, we can get out of the panic zone and start moving toward indifference and see if you can't be indifferent if you can't, you know, let's say you're devastated by pain, you're lying on the floor, you understand, oh my God, this is horrible and you literally cringe and you're stunned, I understand that the ability It doesn't matter, it's not a big deal, I understand that can be really challenging, it can seem very out of reach, so as long as you don't panic, there are a lot of options.

In the middle, that's where I always suggest we choose our response and that's the next best thing to indifference because the way you respond to your pain or your

symptoms

sends a message of fear, oh my gosh, danger or indifference, which which is yeah, no big deal. okay, are you safe or the middle ground is peace of mind, okay, the pain will get your attention and look, I want to say this very, very, very clearly because no matter how many times I say it, there are still people who say and repeat comments and make recommendations. to others and see dan tells me to ignore my pain no no no no no I never say ignore your pain that's because it's impossible it's not possible to ignore your pain ignoring your pain is like acting as if it doesn't exist that's not what I I say it, I suggest that if you can notice it in a very neutral, calm, reassuring way, like it's no big deal, I know it's there, it's not pleasant, but I know it's just tms, I know it's temporary, so don't I'm going to do it. freak out, that's what I'm suggesting, not at all suggesting that you ignore it because that sets a standard for you that if you can't ignore your pain you're never going to get better, which isn't true, um, that's not what I'm suggesting.

What I'm saying here is that the more often you can choose your response, a pleasant calm will reassure you, it's okay and it's just that you're going to be okay, it's only temporary and remember that you know this, the more you can choose a calm. reassuring approach the sooner you feel better, the sooner this pain flare subsides, the more reassuring messages you can tell yourself, both cognitively and even reassuring like, for example, rub the shoulder you feel. Well, that feels a lot better than you know, this burning, stabbing pain or whatever, whatever other symptoms you have, that's why you want to raise yourself, you want to convince yourself to get off the ledge and get out, okay, you can. do this, you know you'll see it sometime. a child falls, the way the parent responds is basically how the child is going to learn to react correctly, so you see a child fall, he immediately looks at the parent and looks at the parent like he's going to walk away, am I okay if Is the father running?

God, oh my God, are you okay? What does a child do? He instantly starts crying, but if a child falls, looks up and looks at the parent, the parent says, you, here, come here, you're fine, no problem, the child will quickly like the brush. Take your hands off and go back to playing, I mean, unless of course they literally get hurt, but for the most part in that kind of scenario, the kids' response is, you know, oh, the parents' response. It is what will determine the children's response. they get scared or move on quickly and what I am suggesting here is that you are both the person suffering and the parent and the more ah you will be fine, don't worry, take your hands off. little scratch, we'll clean it up, don't worry about it, the more you can be the parent who responds calmly and goes, no, don't worry, instead of oh my God, oh, you're my poor baby, you fell.

Your inner child is going to respond like the little kid who just fell on the playground, so this is an opportunity to be a parent. You know, I was doing a coaching call today and in some cases, did you ever see some of those stories online, uh, about. animal rescues and you find this starving dog chained to a fence, he's been moved to the fence his whole life and abused and really neglected and anyone who comes near him growls and shakes and is completely terrified and every time you go near him He's howling and screaming and he's petrified, but then you see the story of the people who take him in, adopt him, clean him up, show him love, show him compassion, reassure him, calm him down, the dog doesn't know he's in therapy, right, but? eventually, no matter how much time passes, days, weeks, months later, they show those amazing video clips of the dog looking normal, his hair has grown back, he is all clean and he is playing happily in the backyard chasing a ball playing with another pet, whatever it is, that's what we kind of want to do for ourselves, we get away from this scared, almost you know, abused person and sometimes the pain can feel like it's doing that to us because you know you do something. and it hurts and we can literally feel hurt.

The point is that we are simply too afraid of everything, our nervous system is on high alert, everything seems dangerous and it is our job as an intelligent and wise adult, okay, I have you like you are calming that scared dog, okay, show him love. show yourself love be kind to yourself make sure everything will be okay this is temporary don't worry I've got you I've got you and those are the different ways that we have the ability to respond, we can completely freak out which ones are on one end of the spectrum that doesn't do more than completely confirming the belief that pain equals danger and you normally hit your hand with a hammer that pain does mean danger stop doing it you're going to break a bone in your hand chronic pain as it relates to tms mind-body syndrome, this kind of stress-induced thing, pain doesn't really equal danger, it doesn't feel good, but it doesn't mean danger and so to that end we want to respond differently to the truth, damn it! dating doesn't work indifference isn't always available, but if it's okay, you have a 100 track record and getting over your bad days, you'll get through this one too, no matter how bad it is kicking your ass.

You're going to be fine, so instead of freaking out choose your response, you can choose indifference, it's a kind of choice, you can tell yourself it's okay, I'm fine, I don't care, even though your symptoms may be kicking your butt. . At this point you can choose to do that and I will tell you that the calmer you respond, the more reassuring you will be, the faster your brain will get the message that you really are okay, this is no big deal, it's not dangerous and you'll let those symptoms go away, so That those are the three ways I see most people respond to their pain.

They go crazy with indifference, which is ideal. And in between is reassuring yourself and sometimes you will be much closer to the phenomenon. depending on severity the key is the severity of your symptoms do not change tms tms according to dr. Scabies can produce some of the most intense pain known to medicine, actually said that tms can often produce more pain than most injuries and therefore the severity of the pain does not indicate the severity of the damage, it only means That this whole mind-body process can be a pretty wild ride. Your job is to calm yourself down.

Get out of the panic zone. Move toward indifference. Remember that you are good and that you will be fine. The more you do that, the faster your brain will get the message and allow these symptoms or pains to go away, so I hope you found that value, I love you guys and girls and I'll see you tomorrow, take care.