The Most Eye Opening 10 Minutes Of Your Life | Simon Sinek

I have five little rules you can follow as you find

your

spark and bring it to

life

. The first is to go after the things you want. Let me tell you a story. A friend of mine and I went for a run. Central Park, the roadrunner organization, organizes races on the weekends and it is very common that at the end of the race they have a sponsor who will give something away, apples, bagels or something like that, and on this particular day, when we reach the end of At the race there were some free bagels and they had picnic tables set up and on one side there was a group of volunteers, on the table there were boxes of bagels and on the other side there was a long line of runners waiting to get their free bagel, so I gave them I said my friend let's go get a bagel and he looked at me and said oh the line is too long and I said free bagel and he said I don't want to wait in line and I was like free bagel and he said no let's be too long. and that's when I realized that there are two ways of seeing the world: some people see what they want and others see what prevents them from getting what they want.

I could only see the bagels, he could only see the line and So I walked up to the line, leaned between two people, put my hand in the box and took out two bagels and no one got mad at me because the rule is that you can go after whatever you want, but you can't deny anyone else from going. after whatever you want, now I had to sacrifice choice, I couldn't choose which bagel to buy, I got what I got out, but I didn't have to wait in line, so the point is you don't have to wait. line you don't have to do it like everyone else has done it you can do it

your

way you can break the rules you just can't stand in the way of someone else getting what they want that's rule number one rule number two I like this one on the 18th century there was something that spread through Europe and finally reached the United States.

Port fever also known as the black death of infant beds. Basically what was happening is that women were giving birth and dying within 48 hours. giving birth this black death of childbirth wreaked havoc on Europe and got worse and worse over more than a century in some hospitals, reaching 70 percent of women who gave birth who would die as a result of childbirth. birth but this was the rebirth this was the time of empirical data and science and we had discarded things like tradition and mysticism these were men of science these were doctors and these doctors and men of science wanted to study and try to find the reason of this black death of the infant bed and then they got to work studying and they would study the corpses of the women who had died and in the morning they would do autopsies and then in the afternoon they would go to deliver the babies and they would finish their rounds and No It was until the middle of the 19th century that Dr. oliver wendell holmes, father of supreme court justice oliver wendell holmes, noticed that all these doctors who performed autopsies in the morning were not washing their hands before delivering babies in the afternoon and he pointed this out and he said guys you are the problem and you ignored him and called him crazy for 30 years until finally someone realized that if you just washed your hands it would go away and that's exactly what happened when they started sterilizing their instruments and washing their hands the black plague of childbirth disappeared the lesson here is that sometimes you are the problem and what I mean is that you must take responsibility for your actions, you can take all the credit in the world for the things you do well, as long as you also take responsibility for the things you do wrong, it has to be a balanced equation, you don't get it one way and not the other, you can take credit when you also take responsibility, that's lesson two, lesson three, take care of each other others, the United States Navy Seals are perhaps the

most

elite warriors in the world and one of the seals was asked who passes the selection process and who can become a seal, and his response was: I can't tell you the type of person who turns into a seal.

I can't tell you the kind of person who manages to survive through buds, but I can tell you the kind of people who don't turn into seals, she says, the guys who show up with huge bulging muscles covered in tattoos that they want to show to the world. how tough they are, none of them make it, he said, the preening leaders who like to delegate all their responsibility and never do anything themselves, none of them make it, he said, the star college athletes who have never been tested to the limit. background of being none of them make it, he says that some of the guys who make it are skinny and skinny, he said that some of the guys who make it, you will see them shaking with fear, he says, however, all the guys who make it .

When they are physically exhausted, emotionally exhausted, when they have nothing left to give physically or emotionally, somehow they are able to find the energy to dig deep within themselves and find the energy to help the guy next to them, They turn into seals, he said. You want to be an elite warrior it's not about how tough you are it's not about how smart you are it's not about how fast you are If you want to be an elite warrior you better be really good at helping the person on the left of yourself and help the person on your right because that's how people move forward in the world, the world is too dangerous and the world is too difficult for you to think that you can do these things only if you find your spark, I congratulate you now, who are you going to ask for help and when are you going to accept help when it is offered learn that skill learn by practicing helping each other will be the

most

valuable thing you will learn in your entire

life

accepting help when it is offered and asking for it When you know you can't do it, you do it The amazing thing is that when you learn to ask for help, you will discover that there are people around you who always wanted to help you, they just didn't think you needed it. because you kept pretending like you had everything under control and the moment you say I don't know what I'm doing, I'm stuck, I'm scared, I don't think I can do this, you will find that many people you love, you will hurry up and take care of yourself, but that will only happen if you learn to take care of them, first lesson four.

Nelson Mandela is a particularly special case study in the world of leadership because he is universally regarded as a great leader. Take other personalities and depending on the nation you go to, we have different opinions about other personalities, but Nelson Mandela around the world is universally regarded as a great leader. He was actually the son of a tribal chief and one day they asked him how he learned. be a great leader and he responded that he would go with his father to tribal meetings and remembers two things when his father met with other elders, one, they always sat in a circle and two, his father was always the last to speak.

They will tell you your whole life that you need to learn to listen. I would say that you need to learn to be the last one to speak. I see it in boardrooms every day of the week, even people who consider themselves good leaders and who can actually be decent leaders. will walk into a room and say: this is the problem this is what I think but I'm interested in your opinion let's walk around the room it's too late the ability to keep your opinions to yourself until everyone has spoken two things ago one it gives everyone else the feeling that they have been heard it gives everyone else the ability to feel like they have contributed and two, you get the benefit of hearing what everyone has to think before you give your opinion.

The skill is to really keep your opinions to yourself if you agree with someone don't nod your head yeah if you don't agree with someone I don't know just sit there take it all in and all you can do is do ask questions so that you can understand what they want to say and why they have the opinion they have you must understand where they speak from why they have the opinion they have not just what they say and in the end you will have your turn it sounds easy it is not practical to be the last to speak that's what Nelson Mandela says Number five, my favorite of all the true stories, there was a former undersecretary of defense who was invited to give a speech at a big conference for about a thousand people and he was standing on stage with his cup of coffee and a Styrofoam cup giving his prepared remarks with his powerpoint behind him and he took a sip of his coffee and smiled and looked at the coffee and then he went off script and said, you know, last year I spoke at the exact same conference last year, the undersecretary was still there and when I spoke here last year they flew me here in business class and when I got to the airport there was someone waiting to take me to my hotel and they took me to my hotel and they had already checked me in and He just took me to my room and the next morning I came down and there was someone waiting in the lobby to greet me and they took me to this same place, they took me through the back entrance, they took me to the green room and they handed me a cup of coffee in a beautiful ceramic mug he says I'm no longer the undersecretary I flew here by coach I took a taxi to my hotel and I checked in When I went down to the lobby this morning I took another taxi to this I entered through the front door and found my way backstage and when I asked someone if they had coffee, they pointed to the coffee machine in the corner and I poured myself a cup of coffee in this Styrofoam cup.

He says the lesson is The ceramic mug was never made for me, it was made for the position I held. I deserve a Styrofoam cup. Remember this as you gain fame, as you gain fortune, as you gain position and seniority, people will treat you better, they will keep their doors open for you. get you a cup of tea and coffee without you even asking, they will call you sir and madam and give you things. None of those things are for you. Those things are meant for the position you hold. They are intended for the level. that you have achieved as a leader or success or whatever you want to call it but you will always deserve a Styrofoam cup remember that remember that lesson in humility and gratitude you can accept all the free things you can accept all the benefits absolutely you can enjoy them but just be grateful for them and remember that no They are for you, none of us deserve the benefits we receive, we all deserve a Styrofoam coat.