The SAD Truth About the DeBarge Family | Drugs, Prison & Family Secrets

You know I got the receipts, girl, you know I got the receipts overseas. If you grew up during the '80s, you probably have memories of the talented DeBarge brothers. The Debarges musical. Legacy began with brothers Tommy and Bobby, who formed a funk group called Switch, and then it came. the wildly popular musical group DeBarge, which originally consisted of brothers L Bonnie Marty and Randy and was later joined by brothers James and Bobby in the 8th DeBarge Chico made a splash as a solo artist, but was also considered part of the larger act DeBarge's, in short, was a great

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, their biggest hit being DeBarge's 1985 hit, Rhythm of the Night, which appeared in the film The Last Dragon;

However, their personal lives have been defined by Discord between the abuse they suffered as children, the struggle with addiction, the crimes they suffered and committed. Debarges is a traveling reality show in this video, we take a look inside the lives of these pop icons, their past, their present and what the future holds for bars, as with any story, to learn what makes a person. It is definitely necessary to take a look at your past and as with us, the past often includes our childhood, our parents, our relatives, siblings, education and

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life, what was it like now for some of us?

Those memories are pleasant, they are happy. They are normal memories full of good times and laughter, but for others childhood could have been a time full of not so happy thoughts and memories and, unfortunately, the latter can be said of the DeBarge family, the DeBarge group are the children of Robert Louise DeBarge senior and Erlene. Abney Etterling was a black American gospel singer born in Royal Oak Michigan in 1935 and Robert Sr. was an American soldier of French and English descent born in Cicero Illinois Ederling and her twin sister Ernestine were the youngest girls in their parents' home with 11 children, Etterling recalls. her childhood said that we were very poor but we didn't realize that we were poor that was all we knew my mother wore an apron that was always wet because she was constantly scrubbing clothes with lye soap for her 11 children but we were happy and we loved His father William Adney sold peanuts as a traveling salesman and recruited his sons to help him.

Ederling remembers that I was so quick to bag those peanuts. His father also made steak sandwiches, sweet potato pie, eyes and other soul foods that he sold on the streets of Detroit after selling out. peanuts and plates of soul food during the day William went out to look for his second job in a factory and on Sundays the Abney family attended church with William being the choir director, he led his children in singing a cappella and he remembers those times like very fun. saying that his father was very creative and talented in music, people love to hear his family sing.

Sadly, William died at the age of 56 when Edelene was just 16 years old. When talking about her father, Adeline said that if she had lived another year, she would. I Have Never Married Robert DeBarge at age 17 Erleen and her twin sister were at her favorite place, the local skating rink, when she met an Army soldier named Robert Barnes when she called the nearby military base to talk to him, whoever answered the phone misunderstood her and gave the phone to Robert DeBarge. Robert was an army soldier, but he was also white and in those days it was unheard of and taboo for a white man to date a black girl.

Etterling was a naive 17-year-old girl who had just lost her father. She took advantage of her circumstance and moved fast and the two got married shortly after dating, shortly after the couple got married, Edelene learned that Robert had a dark side according to Ederleen. Robert Sr. was incredibly jealous and ordered her not to wear jewelry makeup or anything else that would attract another. man, he was incredibly jealous, he told me that if any man ever talks to you, let me know from the beginning. Robert physically and emotionally abused Adeline and controlled her by making sure she was vulnerable.

She continually kept me pregnant. She said she told me if she used it. birth control I'd go to hell their first child was an etterling girl Bunny Debarge was born in 1955 their son Bobby was born the following year followed by Tommy Randy Marty L James and Jonathan aka Barren Twin Boy and Carol aka Peaches were born in 1971. Robert was also abusive to the children, especially the oldest boy, Bobby, he was so jealous of Bobby because Bobby and I were so close. Etterling said, and as often as she could, Etterling says that she received beatings for her children.

It is alleged that Robert not only physically abused him, but he also sexually abused him and, after suffering that abuse at the hands of his father, Bobby in turn did the same to his brother James DeBarge. The eldest daughter, Bunny Debarge, remembers being sexually abused by her father Robert when she was years old. 7 to 13. she says that her father told the other children to go do the housework while he took her upstairs to sexually abuse now as for Chico he distanced himself from his father but not from his brothers or the children At school, the children called him. an Oreo, a zebra or a mongrel that got him into many fights, but it was not the fights with the children at school that Chico feared, but rather it was his brothers beating him if he lost those fights of the 10 children, it is speculated that Robert sexually abused at least the five oldest children.

I tried to get out many times but I couldn't. Adeline said that she kept me pregnant and that it was difficult for me to know what to do with 10 children. She was very afraid of him. We all thought it was like that. In a nightmare, it is rumored that Robert Sr. also had five more children outside his marriage to Etterling and, despite all the abuse allegations made by the family, he denied abusing his family until the day he died on the 30th. August 2009, at the age of 77. So finally, in the mid-70s, Ederleen had had enough with several of her siblings, including Ernestine, her other sisters Mammy and Margie, and her brothers James and William Abney had moved away. to Grand Rapids with little money and 10 children.

Ederleen packed her bags and left Robert. I told God, you will have to support me like you promised because I will sleep on the streets instead of going back to hell with the help of Social Services. Ederleen and her children moved into her own house. He bought an upright piano which he paid for in installments and the family prospered with the rich gospel music Tradition in his Bethel Church Bethel was the family sanctuary the people there love the Lord and also loved the new DeBarge family Etterling brothers were mentors to his children teaching Elle how to play the chords and now being fatherless, Bishop Abney became a father figure to the children, punishing them as if they were his own and investing and placing many qualities in them.

I mean, by today's standards, probably not, so, yeah, yeah, a huge amount. the family had a lot, a lot on your plate, yes, they had a full plate, yes, it was overflowing, yes, in my cup too, their parents, eh, but they hadn't forgotten them, I couldn't have done it, yes, because no I did it. a very young woman, I was only 17 when I got married and I started in June when I was 21. And it took me like three years before I started my family, but once I started it was like the number in the store, yeah, like the fight and family pain the DeBarge family Saving Grace was music the grandfather they never knew ederleen's father had passed on his gifts and passions to all of them because they could all sing Adeline said my children were born with music even when they were little you can hear the washing machine running and they are trying to get a rhythm with the sound.

Tommy and Bobby were the first of The Brood to break into the music world along with Grand Rapids native Greg Williams and Philip Ingram, they formed the funk group. switch under the guidance of Jermaine Jackson, who was impressed by his ability to switch to different instruments during a song within days of listening to his demo tape. Jermaine signed the group to Motown Gordy's record label and they released their self-titled debut album in 1978. The album included the hit single They Will Never Be and we know Bobby DeBarge with his falsetto voice leading that song now. Bobby began dating Jermaine's sister, LaToya Jackson, around the same time that his four younger brothers, Marty L Bunny and Randy, decided to move to Los Angeles.

Angels in search of their own musical stardom forming the group The

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s Mom gave me her last 40 to go to California said Marty DeBarge had tears in his eyes as he prayed with me mom said please be careful I love you God be with you no No matter what Come and whatever comes, love each other through thick and thin In 1980 because of Bobby's success with Switch, his younger brother, El DeBarge, was able to play live on the piano and sing for the CEO and founder of Motown. , Barry Gordy, who was impressed and signed. In the landings of that year for a year, the group worked alongside the members of Switch helping to add background vocals, instrumentation arrangements and musical and lyrical composition for songs such as I call your name my friend in the sky and love again and again. again from 1981, Bobby and Tommy. had left Switch and began working with his brothers on their debut album which was released that year with Bobby Bunny and L as main producers.

The only single which was a ballad directed by Bobby titled What's Your Name failed to chart in 1982, they added his brother James. and their cousin Cameron to the lineup and they were not making their second album titled All This Love, which was produced by Elle and Iris Gordy, the album launched them to R B stardom with the recordings I Like It and All This Love, both songs also they became crossover pop hits. With All This Love later reaching number one on Billboard's Adult Contemporary chart in 1983, the group made a huge impression after appearing on Motown 25. Later in 1983, the group released their third album in a special way. which included two hit singles, Time Will Reveal and Love. me in a special way just as the previous album had, this third album achieved gold status in the United States following the success of that album.

DeBarge was handpicked by Luther Vandross to open for him on his Busy Body tour also in 1984. James DeBarge made headlines when he secretly eloped with Janet Jackson, but his marriage was quickly annulled the following year, when the tour ended in late 1984. , the group recorded Rhythm of the Night for the soundtrack of the Motown-produced film The Last Dragon. The song was released in early 1985 and became a hit single that eventually reached the top five in several countries, mainly in the US and the UK, becoming Debarge's biggest-selling hit and best-known hit. of the. Sensing that El DeBarge was emerging as the group's star, Motown had L working on the group's next album primarily alone.

Since the label did not ask the other brothers for help, it was implied that Motown feared that the other members would grow dependent on

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and only trusted L, as he seemed to be the most trustworthy. The album Rhythm of the Night became the band's best-selling album. Her work went platinum and features more hits such as Who's Holding Donna Now and You Wear It Well after the end of her successful promotion; However, both L and Bunny Debarge left the group after Motown offered them lucrative solo contracts without the powerful harmonies of the Brother and Sister Duo, the rest of the Debarges were not considered commercial enough to continue and were dropped from the label.

Motown in 1986. In 1987, Bobby joined the group and unable to find deals with major labels, the group still known as DeBarge signed with the independent. The Stripeed Horse Records label then released what turned out to be their last studio album, Bad Boys, as Striped Horse had financial problems promoting the album and without the help of Motown and although two singles were released, Dance All Night which reached the No. 33 and The Ballad I. Got You Babe, which only reached No. 73, the album itself failed to chart, Bars continued his career in 1988, even bringing with him his younger brother, Chico, who had a successful hit, talk to me with them at their opening act, the brothers made a special appearance on television. show Punky Brewster in 1988.

Later in 1988, Bobby and Chico were arrested for drug trafficking in Grand Rapids, Michigan. They were eventually found guilty of the charges and sentenced to two different

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s to serve out their sentences. The arrest and subsequent convictions ended the group as a musical entity and it disbanded in 1989. At the time of its dissolution, the DeBarge group had released nine top 40 rb singles, five top 40 pop singles, two pop ten hits, five r b top ten singles, two r b number one singles, one number one single. dance chart and three number one hits on the adult contemporary chart despite the group's well-publicized drug addictions and severalmembers served

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sentences for drug crimes, the brothers continued to perform together occasionally in 1991 Randy and James contributed to a gospel album with their mother.

Etterling and his younger siblings, Daryl and Carol, considered the DeBarge family after Bobby's release from prison in 1993, vowed to stay clean by signing a management deal with Burn Litters, who guided him through 1994 to record songs he wrote in prison. and the resulting album released in In August 1995, on an electronic record just before his death was titled "It's Not Over", While in prison, Bobby confided in his family that he had contracted HIV when he became seriously ill. His family sent him to hospice in Grand Rapids, Michigan. There he died from complications of AIDS. August 16, 1995 at the age of 39.

Various members of the family made several solo albums during the '90s and '00s, but never achieved the fame and popularity of their original group. Debarge's story of his rise and fall was documented in late 2008 as the debut. unacknowledged 2010 episode of the television show El Debarge, after a six-year sabbatical releasing solo albums and after a period of drug addiction and several arrests, released the well-received Grammy-nominated album Second Chance, how are you now? It hurt me that I broke the hearts of my fans. mother and my children and all the people who loved me when I decided to buy a crack pipe and I had this crazy idea let me try it.

I'll only do it once. I won't be like everyone else. It didn't work. and it took me 22 years to stop trying, but this wonderful second chance that God has given me, the reason I am here today is because of the grace of God in my mother's prayers, so it has to be emotional for you and , obviously the album is aptly titled Second Chance Second Chance and how, in terms of emotions, every time you sing the song, they come to the surface again. I mean, the first time I saw Second Chance in the studio, the tears fell and it was unexpected and it took a lot.

It took me a long time to finish the first verse because I kept screaming and crying because the song is so real to me and I know there are so many people looking for second chances in so many different areas of their lives. You know, a recession, mortgages, Second Chance. relationships some people want their children back that's why I'm dedicating this whole city to the whole world everyone is looking for a second chance well you know it's a lot of fun it's a lot of fun because a lot of us little kids listen to a lot of your music because everything The world has tried it, hey, stay with me, all this love has been waiting for you, I mean Mariah Carey Beyonce Biggie Smalls and people are trying your music, how does it feel when you hear this?

It feels so wonderful from the beginning. of hip-hop and hip-hop is so amazing my music helps hip-hop succeed yeah you know I'm from the big one to Tupac you know Ashante Mariah Carey Beyonce it's amazing man they kept it alive my music, wow, and you will. I know you just mentioned what stood out to me about relationships and second chances, and I know some of the relationships you're working on to get that second chance with your kids. You have 12 children, these are my 12 children, five women, 12 children. So how do you want to start that again? Will they give you that second chance?

You think well, so far everything is going great, but I'm still working on it. It's like it's hard, you know, because the trust thing you know and there's a lot of pain there, yeah, what I'm trying, there's always hope for that, yeah, you know, I know we were so heartbroken when you went to prison where we didn't. You couldn't write your songs or sing anything, not you. Prison didn't inspire me to write, it was like, um, it was like going back to the Cocoon again, you know, and it's like I couldn't spread my wings inside the Cocoon, but once I was released, I got the repeat farmer of my man and me him.

He took me to Interscope at the show, he just helped me spread my wings and I'm here today because everyone embraced me. Thank you very much, thank you for coming and spreading your wings. You went on tour with Mary J. Blige in 2011, but relapsed and came back. to drug rehab to address their ongoing problems in 2011 James Randy and Bunny appeared on Dr. Drew's Life Changers to discuss their problems with drug addiction and later agreed to attend a rehab center while Randy and James left the first center in a follow-up episode. He attended and told Dr. Drew about his recovery, even performing a gospel song on the show.

Drug abuse has also brought several tragedies and setbacks over the years. Bobby DeBarge, of course, died after contracting AIDS following years of heroin addiction. Tommy DeBarge, who also suffered from drug addiction. on kidney dialysis, but is sometimes done with surviving switch members and his family until his death in 2021. Randy DeBarge and Mark DeBarge are said to have incurable illnesses according to his mother. James DeBarge was sentenced to prison for drug crimes and as recently as January 2021 Chico DeBarge posed as his brother James during a drug bust. This is just part of the intriguing, complex, and ultimately sad story of the DeBarge family.

It was too much, too soon for the brothers who had already been marked by their home. life a talented family that could have been so much more than they were, they blessed the generation with great music that still stands the test of time and fortunately for the world, DeBarge's music from the good ol' days is easily accessible now which is the Wikipedia version. version of the story now let's go to the T so we all came here for James DeBarge and Janet Jackson, so when the recent Janet Jackson documentary that aired on Lifetime and e Networks in 2022 titled Janet Jackson, Janice prepared some tea about her marriage to James.

DeBarge, in an attempt to take control of her life from her father Joe Jackson, 18-year-old Janet decided to secretly marry her childhood friend James DeBarge only to have to deal with the problems. of her with

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. I wanted to be able to stand on my own and at that time I thought there was no other way I could have my own life unless I got married. Now, when Janet was 16, she and James met when DeBarge made her debut in Soul Train. Janet was there with her sister Latoya. and her brother Jermaine and after that, Janet and James started talking on the phone, bunting about the fact that their families were in the music industry, but even though they felt safe with each other, James just didn't understand. why Janet even trusted him. now the young lovebirds snuck out to see each other as much as possible when she talked about those days James even said that it wasn't easy for us to see each other since she was very well protected by her mom and her dad, she just had to do it.

Be with her all the time. I think we were both so in love with each other that we just needed to block everyone else now, which ultimately led to the couple deciding to marry in 1984, although Janet received her sister Latoya's blessing from her. she kept her plans hidden from the rest of her family, but any wedding bliss the couple shared proved to be short-lived after they eloped to Grand Rapids, Michigan and married Debarge's Uncle James, and ended up leaving Janet alone in their wedding night. Jan and remembered that night saying she said, "Okay, I'll be right back" and he was sitting alone in a hotel room in Grand Rapids, Michigan, only 18 years old and for three hours he never came back.

I don't know, maybe it's this person. In me he wants to help people subconsciously when it comes to relationships somehow I'm attracted to people who use drugs. James' drug abuse would contribute to more problems for the newlyweds and in 1985 their marriage was annulled due to the problems James was having with drugs. There were many nights I would go looking for him on the streets at eight in the morning at four in the morning I remember times when I would find the pills and take them and try to flush them down the toilet and he would be rolling on the floor fighting over them.

I cared about him a lot and I also saw the good in him and I just wanted that to take priority instead of this ugliness because I knew he needed help. But I wasn't the help he needed. Now many people speculate that Janet Jackson had become pregnant with James, which is why the couple married in the first place. Some say that his older sister, Ruby Jackson, raised this child in secret. Now there is also a theory. that Janet was pregnant but miscarried, but there is also a woman who claims she is James and Janet's beloved daughter and Mama DeBarge even co-signed this claim stating that a DNA test proved she was their long lost daughter.

In 2017, however, the bar's sister, Bunny Debarge, spoke out about Mama Debarge's claims. He told the Jasmine brand that he felt sorry for the drama the allegations had caused for Janet and her family and in a statement said: I would like to convey it primarily to Janet and her family that we, the DeBarge family and especially James, were not aware that this interview was taking place, we are totally embarrassed and would never do anything to hurt her. James is also hurt by this and has asked me to speak to Janna and Mom on his behalf. Kate and the entire Jackson family wish her and the new baby many blessings and much love.

The interview in no way represents my family. I think this story has been so abused over the years that it's old and tired and it's no one else's business to explore James. and Janet were married in '84 and annulled in November '85. James understood that Janet was pregnant at the time, but after she went to Japan for a year he was told that the baby was aborted, so if there was a baby, the baby would have been Born in the year 86. This makes the child 29 years old, not 30 or 31. We have many girls who claim to be the daughters of Janet and James.

I say leave Janet and James alone. This has haunted my brother for years. Now they want DNA for Tiffany, but DNA is not needed. because it is obvious that she exposed herself to being devoured, but I guess people will do anything for those 15 minutes of fame. I think my mother, now 81, did it once DNA revealed she had 96 relatives. I tried to explain to Mom that the girl is related to her, there is no way she belongs to the DeBarge Jackson family. Mom felt that maybe she went back to Gene and looked like her. I'm sorry, Tiffany.

God bless you and we hope you find it. your family again to my ex sister-in-law Janet, congratulations to the public, it seems that you eat anything but the

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, so when mom Debarge was interviewed, she claimed that she had proof that Janice secretly had a daughter 31 years ago, she recalled Etterling. a conversation with Janet about the supposed pregnancy and she said: I told him she was pregnant. I did not ask him. I told her girl, you're pregnant. Look how fat you're getting and she just laughed. She never denied it. She added that over the years, several women have contacted her claiming to be Janet's secret daughter, but one day she heard from a woman that she thought she might be a match.

I told him the proof is in the pudding. Let's take a DNA test. Mom DeBarge said the fees for the DNA test. all showed that the probability of relationship was 96.7 percent now that this woman is 31 years old and lives in Philadelphia and to this day Janet Jackson has never acknowledged or addressed this woman and her claims. Jackson's ex-sister-in-law will come to Inside Edition to make a public apology to the singer who recently gave birth to a baby at age 50. Bonnie Debarge's brother James and Janet eloped in 1984, the marriage lasting only a year as it was speculated that Janet gave birth 31 years ago to a daughter who has long haunted the family.

Bonnie says she had firsthand knowledge of Janet's pregnancy. Did you ever see Janet where you thought she was pregnant? Yes, when the marriage was annulled, that Janet was pregnant and James believed that too. You think there's a boy, I think we think that, uh, Jan, you know, James and Janet had a boy last month. Inside Edition interviewed Bunny's mother Earlene DeBarge, who says she believed this 31-year-old Philadelphia woman, Tiffany White, was Janet's secret daughter, Ed Earlene told her. Our least Trent was convinced after she and Tiffany took a DNA test. I told him that the test is not important.

Let's take a DNA test. So this is the DNA test and it says the probability of relationship is 96.7 percent. That's my granddaughter. She's nothing more, she's my granddaughter, but Bunny questions the validity of the DNA test. She says there is no way Tiffany is her daughter. How did you feel when your mom came up and said that she thinks this woman is James and Janet's daughter? like mom, you might see some candy, but she's not james and janet's daughter, come on, why doesn't she just look like james? She doesn't look like Janet, right, even James Debarge's daughter, Christina DeBarge, from the reality show Growing Up hip hop, thinks she may now have a secret sister.

I want to know what you think about theseaffirmations. Leave it in the description box below and do you think Tiffany? Do you think she is James and Janet's long-lost daughter? Take a look at this photo and let me know, do you think she's a match? Bobby DeBarge Bobby DeBarge was the oldest boy of the DeBarge children. He was said to be Mum Debarge's favorite among all her children and because of this close bond he shared with Bobby, this led to his father abusing Bobby now. Robert Sr. was already a violent man, physically abusing his wife and children, but when it comes to Bobby, it is alleged that he was extremely abusive towards him and even sexually abused him now as well because of this physique. and the sexual abuse that Bobby received and all the abuse that occurred at home, this led Bobby to use drugs at a very young age and he became addicted to heroin at the age of only 15 years old.

The sexual abuse Bobby received at his hands. of his father led Bobby to also abuse his brother James now, this is described in the biopic The Story of Bobby DeBarge and during a scene in which James actually hints at this abuse committed by Bobby, he does not come out and say it directly, but in this scene, he alleges and insinuates that he was sexually abused by Bobby. James also admitted to this abuse on an episode of Life Changers with Dr. Drew. Bobby was physically and sexually abused by his father, so in turn he did the same to his brother James, now many people.

I think Bobby's first start in the music business was when he changed bands, but that wasn't really the case. Bobby was part of Barry White's backing group called White Heat. When Barry broke up the group, some of the members resurfaced. They formed a group called Hot Ice and released an album in 1976. This group did not generate as much interest as they thought so they broke up and again another group was formed and this was the group Switch in 1977. This feature is Tommy and Bobby. DeBarge Now Bobby was already deep in his drug addiction at this time and would continue to struggle with drugs for years to come.

Now he and his brother Chico DeBarge were arrested in Grand Rapids Michigan in 1988 trying to smuggle drugs. Now, along with two other men, they attempted to transport 2.2 pounds of cocaine from Los Angeles to western Michigan. Chico was detained by DEA agents during a routine screening of passengers at Detroit Metropolitan Airport. The agency's drug packages in Chico's carry-on. bag now The story goes that Chico and a friend of his met Bobby and a friend of his in Los Angeles. Bobby went and bought the drugs for Chico and his friend and then Chico tried to take these drugs back to Detroit, which is when he got caught. during this routine check of his suitcases now Bobby and Chico were sentenced to five years but they served their time in different prisons now while Bobby was in prison that's when he told his family he was HIV positive now some think this is where Bobby contracted the disease speculating that she was having sexual relations with men in prison.

The cause of Bobby's HIV is now officially recorded as coming from intravenous needles due to drug use. That he shared needles with people, but rumors have long circulated that he contracted HIV from having sex with men in prison. relationships with men while in prison now Bobby DeBarge was actually married and his wife's name is Terry DeBarge she didn't get HIV from him she had two children with Bobby two sons Bobby DeBarge Jr and Christian DeBarge woochow, That was a lot of tea now. everyone appears in the comments section below and let me know what you think about this, what do you think about Bobby abusing James and James being sexually abused? "We all think of Robert DeBarge senior and Etterling DeBarge in 1953.

Robert met Etterling. He was 21 and she was only 17. Now the couple married fairly quickly and settled in a predominantly black area of ​​Detroit, but things didn't work out Well, for the young couple, it rather went downhill very quickly. Interracial marriages at the time were not common or widely accepted and the DeBarge family paid the price for this now, when Robert got a job as a truck driver in Detroit. , his employers fired him because he was married to a black woman, no one knew the impact this had on Robert, but it was evident because Robert only became more hostile towards his wife and children.

Now, according to Etterling, Robert tormented her physically and emotionally. , even continually keeping her pregnant. He was also crazy jealous of her and didn't want her to look pretty, ordering her to never wear makeup, wigs, jewelry or anything else that might attract the attention of another man. He even demanded to know the names of any men who tried to talk to her. Robert and Ederleen had a total of 10 children and all of them have had horrible memories of their father. Chico once told Vibe magazine that my father sexually and physically abused many of my brothers and sisters now, in the late 1950s, after Randy DeBarge was born.

Robert received the license from him. to minister and later become a devout member of the Bethel Apostolic Temple in Miami Florida Robert and Earlene remained married for the next 20 years until she divorced him in 1970 with the help of her brothers they left him and moved to Grand Rapids Michigan now in their marriage around the time Mark was born, Robert had begun having an affair with another black woman named Barbara, they had two children together, Chantel DeBarge and Dethra DeBarge, so after Etterling's divorce, Robert married with Barbara and remained with her until her death, now many. People have criticized Ederleen for doing nothing to stop the abuse her children suffered at the hands of their father, it is alleged that due to her strong religious beliefs she believed that the devil had forced Robert to do these things because of the abuse he The DeBarge brothers suffered in their childhood.

Many believe this is what led to all their drug problems and run-ins with the law. Charges were never filed against Robert Sr., who went to his grave saying he never abused his family. Paul, the curse. He's going to kill your brothers do you think I think he came out he can't because I believe in a higher power that I know this is our day and time for us to meet? I feel like DeBarge knows the reason why they are where they are and how to get out of where they are. I think if you're dying about this, oh yeah, I had a brother that died, my older brother died, Bobby, yeah, I don't know, yeah, I'm.

I'm afraid of nine I'm afraid of losing my brother You don't need more deaths in our family uh my whole family said something profound You're sick and tired I'm sick and tired of seeing my family suffer like this You know? I don't want to pass it down from generation to generation Do you want to stop this curse Now do you want to stop the cycle Stop the cycle of abuse Stop the cycle of addiction Do you think you're going to have bad withdrawal when you stop using? I think I'm him, oh yeah, I have one. I had one today before I came on the program.

Yes, she took a dose before you arrived. Yes, what drug would you take for this condition? If you weren't using it continuously, you're in withdrawal, right? and in withdrawal you are sick and you are in the hospital, frankly, so I know you are taking, I know you are taking drugs, now you have to do it, yes, yes, it is very painful, it is very painful, a constant fear is that of not having that or not having the means because getting sick it's funny people have the misconception that somehow you're trying to get high that ended a long time ago about 10 years ago to stay normal to stay normal to not be in withdrawal okay ?

So guys, come down to the comments and let me know what you think about this Etter Lean saying the devil made him do it, not the devil, come down to the comments and let me know your thoughts on it. Michael Jackson saved James Debarge's life in one episode. from Dr. Drew's Life Changers James DeBarge told Dr. Drew how he once contemplated jumping off the roof of Michael's house and how Michael calmly convinced him not to do it. He was the only one who wasn't scared. James said he seemed familiar with my pain. He knew it. I needed someone to talk to, so he was that ear, so we talked all night and I forgot that he was even on the roof and that he was going to play a big role in saving your life once, well, once he, uh, one of the many times, yes, yes, Michael was a very calm person who knew what to do in dangerous situations and everyone else would lose him.

Michael, right? Michael was the most ordinary person, he could make you trust him, he could make you stop what he made you stop doing? I'm killing myself, tell that story, my belly, uh, I was moving out of this house because we lived together, you know I was going to jump and everyone was losing their minds and, um, I wasn't trying. to make it a big no, no, because I know he was going to try to stop me and I didn't want to be stopped, but I got caught, so now we have some people outside, you know, like mom and Toya Jan and we're going to go crazy and um, but when you made the decision I decided to do something, you know, I was trying to hurry up and do it before you know it.

I understand that Fly changed his mind, how can you stop? Well he was the only one who didn't freak out and seemed to be familiar with my pain for some reason, he made me feel that way, he was calm and just surprised me by talking about what he was saying, I guess he knew I needed someone with who to talk to, so he It was that so we talked all night and I forgot about that opportunity on the roof and I was going to jump. Do you miss Michael a lot? Randy says a lot, yes, a lot, yes, he is a leader, not just his music.

I didn't even do it. I know the importance he had in my life while I was there. Sometimes I still don't know all the reasons why things happen to me, but I know it was strange. Because I am here? Why does he know why I'm driving why all these wonderful things? Terrible things and things happened, they happened to me and they still happen to me, which means something great must be ahead. Chico DeBarge now Chico DeBarge, like his brothers, also battled drug addiction throughout his life and career, but in 2003, Chico had turned over a new leaf.

He was working on the play Why Did I Marry Tyler Perry and Kelly Price when he was reportedly stabbed and he almost lost his life? Chico said he was in Philadelphia performing in the play when one night a fellow actor and someone he believed to be his girlfriend called Chico to go clubbing now that the girl had left them and gone to another club, so the Two Men They followed her to that club. Chico said that when he got there he ran into men made by the mafia and it turned out that the woman was dating one of the men at the club and she was using Chico's friend to make that man jealous.

A fight soon broke out between the three and the club's people stabbed Chico in the side, almost hitting one of his kidneys and lungs alone. After escaping the fight, he noticed the wound now, although Chico recognized the face of the person who had attacked him, he refused to provide the name. Unfortunately, the incident allegedly led Chico to develop an addiction to prescription pills. Now came the greatest pain for Chico DeBarge. In April 2020, according to a bet, Chico's son, Dante Anderson DeBarge, was murdered in Los Angeles at only 35 years old according to the Los Angeles police. Dante DeBarge was found on the street bleeding from multiple stab wounds.

Attempts to resuscitate him were too late and he was pronounced dead. dead at the scene in the initial investigation suggested that Dante DeBarge was living homeless on the streets of Los Angeles now, while she will remain silent about her son's passing in 2021, we would see him sink into at least two different relapses according to Vibe magazine in January 2021 Chico was charged with drug possession, DUI and impersonation for impersonating his older brother James DeBarge after he was stopped in Burbank California without identification, he would spend more than a week in jail and then in November That same year, authorities were called to investigate a disturbance and Chico was allegedly the cause of this disturbance and the registration of his mobile home was six months after its search, it was then confiscated and officers allegedly found drug paraphernalia and methamphetamine.

He was charged with drug possession of a controlled substance in possession of drugs. paraphernalia oh man so so so much I'm just on tour doing shows and actually working with my brother L we were back in the studio so yeah that's what's going on good music cause we miss your music thank you, thank you, you did a wonderful job. tonight thank you thank you yeah it was good it was good uh we didn't practice the DeBarge thing but it was good to press that and play that and change and you know a lot of people probably didn't realize that first it was changed I want to be closer yeah, yeah, so, where have you been all this time?

Oh man, um, well, in the studio, I've been writing, I've been, I'm in Pinhead, so I usually like to write and write and I write and I write and then I rewrite and then I rewrite, but I'm very critical of my writing, So it takes me a while, but I do it. Yeah,We are definitely happy to see you back. We are definitely happy to see you back. thank you, thank you, thank you, today is Valentine's Day, so inquiring minds want to know what kind of messages you receive in your direct messages. Oh, you know, I was on Facebook for about three years.

I've been off Facebook and Instagram and all that so I don't really get any messages um and DMs um but um I probably like where you do what you do but um um I don't know what I used to do uh it was just um a bunch of crazy questions um very challenging questions, it's personal, you know things, yeah, I, I, I kind of got into social media because it was like it was getting weird for me, you know and um, it was impersonal, you know, I felt like it was getting very robotic, very uh uh, where should things mean? something and it should be feelings and that people should feel that it became commonplace, it was like a straight line that goes across, you know, so the same question that you would ask as a stranger you would ask your friend, it was like there was no difference between them, so there was no way to really feel that personal feeling, you know, that's why I walked away from it, but we thank you for spending Valentine's Day with us, what kind of things do you remember and all the women with the ones you left? best thing you've ever done for a woman on valentine's day oh um i bought a girl a thousand roses and it was too much and she said this is too much you did it you went overboard yeah but i did that um that was everything.

It was my ex-wife and I bought her a thousand roses, um, and they, uh, set it up before we could unpack them and stuff, so don't ever buy a thousand roses, yeah, okay, one more thing before we let you go. . Are you going back to the stage? Okay, damn, there's a couple songs I wanted to hear from you, uh, okay, which ones oh no, oh no, okay, okay, these are my favorites, can you sing a little? Okay, um, uh, oh no. My eyes avert I want to take you baby I want to take you baby oh thank you I feel so special yeah, well, hold on, that's good, you like it, oh no, that surprises me, yeah, great, it's good to see you, we want to see good music from you, right?

OK? It's okay, we definitely still love you and wish your family the best. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you and, um, I'll come out with something, uh, I just don't know when, but I want it to be something personal. I know something that really feels, that's what I'm looking for, I'm looking more for something that, um, I can talk about, that feeling, that you can feel, you know, that speaks for itself, you know what I mean, that kind of project . since we haven't seen each other in a while, it was good, we want that good music to come back, yeah, I want it too, definitely, definitely, yeah, now, that's something else, now drop in the comments and let me know what you think about this, why are you living?

In a mobile home I mean royalties from their music, don't they have royalties? Why would you live in a mobile home? Scroll down and let me know what you think. Tommy DeBarge then Tommy DeBarge died at the age of 64 on October 21, 2021. his brother El Debarge confirmed this on social media now according to his relatives Tommy suffered from kidney and liver failure and died in the hospital L wrote on social media and so The thing is that on October 21, 2021 I had to say goodbye to one of the best bassists this world has ever had. I have known him forever and I am sad to confirm that my brother Thomas Keith DeBarge has passed away.

My dear brother Tommy finally made his transition after a long illness. Tommy was a kind and loving soul and a beloved son, husband, father, grandfather and one of the best brothers. anyone could ask that his legacy live on in the hearts of all those who love him so much and in the beautiful music he created now at his funeral Elder gave a heartfelt message thanking his mother and praising her as his beautiful black queen, strength that What we have Not only was it inherited, but it was gifted to us by a beautiful black queen named Adeline Abney DeBarge Rodriguez.

We love mom, right? Mom D. Thank you for giving us a brother like Tommy. Thank you. It's a real joy, a real joy. You raised him in the fear and ammunition of the Lord and his soul rests in the arms of Jesus because you taught him to love Jesus, he taught him to love and he knew, but that's where to go before he took his last breath. I have a beautiful inheritance in heaven thanks to you Mom, no matter where we go, we can't get too far from God before he takes us away. Thank God for you Mom, thank you all for giving us a brother like Tommy. a lot for us and I know that you as a mother cry in your own way and no father, this problem has to bury their own children, but I just thank you for your strength, your resilience, a strong black woman I love you and it just seems I'm crying, I'm not really crying, yeah, my eyes are sweating, so, James, um, so I don't want to waste too much time.

Thank you to everyone who came to help us celebrate Tommy's departure. My daughter Adris. I love them. I'm taking advantage of this moment, I'm being a little selfish and self-indulgent right now, cousin Mary Howard Hewett, thank you Madison, thank you so much for coming, Bobby, I've got all the people here, everyone here really loves Tommy and I know this isn't nothing fake. and uh, it's so beautiful to see all the love he's getting and how good it will be to see all his children here together, yeah, I know something else, you know, just like your dad said, the first thing that comes to mind is well, although I don't know if we're okay, well, then, okay, okay, I'm here, they also introduced a long lost brother named Marcus and he also gave a speech that was both heartfelt and surprising, yeah I can think that it is comparable, comparable is my My sisters and my brother were parked in a career that gave them recognition of the tension and how they might have felt and I always knew about my brothers, but I never had a connection until they became the Switch Tommy and Bobby bars and I knew there. there was a connection and when the hell it didn't become more commercially famous and I discovered more information about the roots of this family and her that her father's name was my father's name that I have always been the little homeless hostess of six and seven years that they I was from Detroit, that's where I was born, I knew it then and the way I feel is probably comparable to the recognition they received when they became famous, quote unquote, and this family has been really wonderful to me and I know where I get the love that I have in my heart what I have had since I was little I know where it comes from I want to send a shot Scream first of all I want to say that they are wrong to say Praise God not what I'm going to say Praise for a matriarch of a family which is really amazing and you hear my brothers finally talk to me and say that my mom always told us that we had a brother and that he looked like Tommy and I didn't know that I didn't know. 'We all knew you never had a name or a face to connect with and I'm glad the miracles of DNA science helped me stay connected to my family.

I missed talking to Bobby, just talking to Tommy and here's you and I' I'm not going to talk whatever you want, thanks now. Tommy also battled drug addiction throughout his life and career. He said in an interview that he sometimes got so high that he couldn't even play bass after his first LP. So it's not surprising that El Debarge and Bunny were offered those lucrative solo deals because the other brothers seemed to get so into drugs that they let their careers fall by the wayside and so did their talent. Now there is no doubt that the DeBarge family were a talented family, I mean, they are falsetto.

Bobby's falsetto was like no other. El Debarge's falsetto was like no other and remains like no other. They are a force to be Reagan in their own right. They were very successful, but their story. It's a tragedy, I mean the abuse they suffered at the hands of the father, the abuse the mother witnessed and allowed to continue is just tragic and it's no wonder they struggled with drug addiction their entire life and career, so hit the comments and let me know what you think about this story as always, this has been another edition of the sweep diaries.

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