Adult ADHD | Inattentive

There are symptoms of ADHD in

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s that you may not know about here to go over nine often hidden symptoms of ADHD in

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s. Dr. Judy Ho, clinical psychologists, welcome to the medical circle. Dr. Judy. I would love to get to the first one right away. careless errors and lack of attention to detail, can you explain it more absolutely? So these are people who sometimes say, well, I just don't like paying attention to details, I just like general things and that may be true, but the reason they like things in general is because They have some shortcomings in paying attention to details, not only do they not have patience but they make more mistakes when looking at routine and monotonous information, but sometimes those details are important, for example, paying bills or making sure you address all the different points that someone asks you about in an email.

Number two is difficulty maintaining attention now that I hear I'm doing well, yes that's classic ADHD. Why is it usually a hidden trait? Well, it's a hidden trait because a lot of times people will do it. Just start as your adults build their lives around the things they're really interested in, so they don't come out all the time, but the complaints I get are from romantic partners and family members. I feel like he or she never is. Listening to me, they never focus on what I'm saying, it's like they're disconnected and that's why sometimes they come to therapy because their partners complain about this problem and then after an evaluation process we discover that the problem.

It's not that they don't care, it's that they have a really interesting undiagnosed or unaddressed ADHD symptom, which brings us directly to the third point, which is that they don't listen enthusiastically when you talk to them directly, when do you think that someone They could just be distracted because they're stressed at work or because they have something important going on in their lives, so of course they're distracted instead of hey, I'm distracted and I can't hear you because I have undiagnosed ADHD. I think the difference is that it only happens in times and periods of stress versus when it happens almost all the time and so for a person with ADHD of course when they are stressed it will be even more problematic but even when they are not stressed , they seem as if they are staring into space.

Sometimes when you talk to them you may have to repeat yourself a few times or maybe it seems like they were listening and then they turn around and say, wait, what did you do? just tell me, those are the types of signs we see in someone who has this undiagnosed symptom, it makes sense. Yes, if you or someone you love could use weekly mental health and psychology videos, make sure you like this video and subscribe to this free YouTube channel. That helps us spread this accredited information throughout the planet. I appreciate your support, let's go to number four, which is not following through on tasks and instructions.

Not completing assignments is probably the biggest complaint I receive from well-meaning adults who have ADHD. and they're saying, but for some reason I'm just missing deadlines, I can't meet them or my boss or supervisor is reprimanding me or I'm having problems with my college professors and it's because they find it very difficult to start a project. They see it through to the end and do it in a timely manner. They often get very excited about the things they want and have to do, but then when it comes to the details of completing all the tasks, they may stop somewhere in the middle. stuck and then their concerns about executive function make it harder for them to get back on track or plan ahead to make sure they finish those things on time, we'll get to these other symptoms and traits, but when I look at them, I could easily see someone saying that this is just someone who is lazy, you can't blame them for not doing their homework on their ADHD adult, they are just lazy, what is your response to that?

I think a lot of times people will say this about children with ADHD and adults that many of the behaviors they do that can annoy and frustrate other people around them are willful behaviors; It is simply not true that ADHD is a neurological condition and until the person learns different types of coping mechanisms and accommodation strategies or is treated with medication, they will continue to exhibit these behaviors, so no, the person with ADHD is not lazy. On the contrary, I know many people with ADHD who actually work much harder than the average person to try to cover up these discrepancies and deficiencies that other people perceive in them.

Absolutely, you and Dr. Dominic Sportelli opened my mind about ADHD to really understand it and we have detailed series on ADHD in adults and ADHD and children will link to the ones in the description of this video so you can watch number five, which shows poor organization. Organizational skills are very important, especially when you are trying to organize all the different domains of your life, from personal responsibilities to social responsibilities, work to school responsibilities, and when someone cannot organize themselves properly, they will have a harder time executing projects. than before. They might also experience procrastination problems, frustrations, disappointments and negative self-talk in terms of their own abilities to be able to overcome these problems, so I say that poor organizational problems not only have a very real impact on their lives, but they also have a impact on their lives. how they feel about themselves and their self-esteem number six is ​​that they avoid or dislike tasks that require sustained mental effort.

I'm really going to downvote this one because there are a lot of tasks I don't like because they require sustained mental effort. effort, but I don't have ADHD, what do you think? Yeah, I know I feel like that symptom is kind of interesting because who likes having attention on sustained tasks that are kind of boring or take a lot of time, probably no one, but I think the problem. For people who have ADHD, the biggest problem is that they completely avoid doing it to the point of starting to get into trouble. They don't pay bills for months, not because they can't pay them, but because they really don't like having to sit down and do that process and now they are completely behind and owe a ton of money.

It can frustrate family members and people they have a relationship with if they avoid doing certain things that are things that are responsibilities and continue to avoid them to the point where people start picking fights with them and arguing with them about why. what they don't do, I think when it affects your life in that way or causes you a lot of mental anguish, that's the difference between someone who has ADHD and struggles with this problem versus the average person who just says yes, nobody likes it. pay the bills. I leave it to the last minute, but they still pay them and generally pay them on time.

Yeah, that makes sense for next time. is what I would consider very hidden. I'd love to see if any viewers have experienced this trait or know someone who has. Please leave a comment if that relates to you. It's that someone could lose things necessary for a task or activity. necessary is something that many adults with ADHD complain about and it could be anything: losing their keys, losing track of where their phone is, where their glasses are, you know they're leaving the house and suddenly they can't. find any of the things they need before they leave and some of this relates to the poor organization that we talked about before and also the fact that sometimes people with ADHD are a little more distractible, again, not intentionally, but that's just the way their brain works sometimes, so they put down their phone but forget where they left it, whereas maybe the average person has a very clear memory of "oh, I put my phone by the dining room table." ", so obviously there is a workaround. try to always have some of your necessities in the same place so that if you are distracted doing your routine you know that you always leave your key next to the box next to the front door so if you don't know where it is probably because the number eight is distracted easily, but we all hear that ADHD is easily distracted, most people understand that, but this nuance of unrelated thoughts, distraction is what we're trying to do.

I should be in this interview with Dr. Judy, but I'm having this unrelated thought, can you explain more about that at all? We're not really multitasking. I know everyone says: Oh, I'm a big multitasker. I want to be a multitasker, but really your brain works best by switching between information and individuals. Those with ADHD may have more intrusions of thoughts that really shouldn't be there when they're trying to focus on something else and then have a hard time disengaging from those thoughts or using their executive function skills to say, let's put that aside. and I think about that a little bit later, they allow those interesting thoughts to take over and impact the thoughts and tasks that they're actually doing at that very moment and I think because of this it can be really difficult because when they're trying to focus on something It creates even more friction when there are also other thoughts in your head that you're trying to fight and you're trying to let go of, but it's very hard for people with ADHD to do that. correctly and well and that can also cause a cascade of other symptoms that we already talked about, like difficulty finishing things, disorganization, procrastination and other symptoms like that, I will also add and I will certainly correct myself if I'm wrong, but when we have those thoughts unrelated thoughts that distract us from our project or our task I find myself when this happens then I judge myself for having unrelated thoughts so now I go kyle you can't even organize your thoughts you can't stay focused and then I have to say to myself, well, be a little more compassionate, you had some unrelated thoughts, that happens now, get back in line, sometimes I think we are very quick to judge when we realize we are not performing at our best and I think that can have a lot of negative consequences What is your opinion on this?

I absolutely agree with that and I think it's that second wave of judgments we make about our first wave of thoughts that really are the most damning and detrimental to our well-being. Um, you can let those thoughts intrude like we all do, but it's that story, that narrative that you tell yourself about why those thoughts came up that makes you feel so much worse and then makes it even harder next time. ever move forward with something, yes. Yes, and then you keep having thoughts not directly related to the task, thinking about judging yourself. The last one isn't too hidden here either, but there are some nuances I want people to understand.

He is forgetful in daily activities, the things we do every day. So how can we forget about these little guys? Sometimes I go. I forgot to brush my teeth, but I brush my teeth twice a day at least. Yeah, so it's that idea of ​​maybe never being able to be aware of things like coming home and not realizing how you got home and, you know, leaving your house and not really being sure what you're doing. you just did for the last two or three minutes, have certain routines and errands that you must do every day and that should already be in your arsenal and You should already know it like the back of your hand and yet you forgot to do something that you do every day.

This is very common for people with ADHD because they tend to be a little more distracted and that is why it is so important. teaching people with ADHD mindfulness skills, it actually helps them focus better and mindfulness strategies are a great evidence-backed treatment for certain symptoms of ADHD, yes, mindfulness, you'll hear it in Nauseum at Med Circle and There is a reason for that. It is relevant, prevalent and effective, so if you haven't been practicing some mindful exercises, look up some or visit medcircle.com and you can find many exercises there. Dr. Judy, I appreciate your knowledge about ADHD in adults, but I want to leave our viewers with a sense of hope in terms of the chances of recovering from an ADHD diagnosis as an adult, absolutely ADHD is treatable and despite its frustrations and how much they have negatively impacted your life up to this point, know that there are a variety of scientific treatments available. and it's not just about medication, if medication isn't your thing that's okay because there are a number of behavioral interventions that work very well, it's actually about learning how to improve the skills that you feel you have certain deficiencies in and also learning adaptations for those areas that are simply weaker in their abilities and knowing that there is always room for neuroplasticity, you can always change the way your brain works, no matter how old you are.

That's right, Dr. Judy, it's my pleasure.Watch it to learn more about ADHD psychology and mental health management. the description of this video remember whatever you're going through, you got this