Therapist Reacts to HOW TO TRAIN YOUR DRAGON

old ways because we naturally slip into old ways of doing things and therefore change behavior as it really seems. Honestly, it's trying again and again and that's why forgiveness is such a crucial part of relationships. Forgiveness, especially if someone continues to recognize that they're doing wrong and that they're genuinely trying and you see the effort, then forgiveness it's relationship healing, that's completely different than someone saying sorry and not making any effort to change and it doesn't actually mean that Stoick has completely changed, I mean, you know, obviously, he's been shown things like oh oh my son is totally right, oops, in his own way, a total badass, yeah, wow, he can pretend he rides

dragon

s, he rides

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s and he is.

I don't control the dragon, but like he's one with the dragon to make all this amazing, he's fighting the battle in a way he never could have. You are all adults and since no boss could ask for a better successor, I have decided to make boss, oh my god, hiccup, that's amazing, oh, you're going to wear out the spring. The calibration is very sensitive. Yeah, so this is what I'm dealing with. What did you say to him? I didn't when he turned around. Gone, uh, I'm interested in why you chose this scene, but this seems like a quick place to add.

I love that we have between Hiccup and Toothless, we have two disabled protagonists, yeah, you know what it's about, they don't just ignore the disability. but it's also not in that ableist way where they're like, oh, they can't do things so whatever, no, they find ways to adapt and adjust and use their disability to their advantage or whatever brings us back to who we are. . What I talked about just a minute ago there has been progress in the relationship, but somehow things have reset. Now Stoick recognizes the value of his son and he's great, now you can do exactly what I want the way you want, but it's not like that yet. what I want right is that you know, I heard that it has progressed but no, it hasn't gone down at all, yes, this is actually a little more important than building saddles, ah, lesson two, no task is too small when try to serve

your

people, so he Back to old patterns of behavior, he doesn't listen, he accepted parts of his son and that's great, he still doesn't listen, dad, go the other way, yeah, but seriously, I really need to tell you about this new land we found.

Besides, we might as well keep our own. You'll have bigger uses for

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time once we make the big announcement that they're building a dragon army. One of the difficult things about growing and changing for the better is that we overestimate how much we have grown at all. It's Dunning-Kruger. change effect yes, I had a paradigm shift I realized that I am a changed person now and everything is great and from time to time we can be blind that I am still doing the same garbage that I did before yes, because he is doing the same The same thing is that he is not listening to his son and the hardest part of that is that he thinks that he thinks that I have changed as a father and that is why we are good.

Sometimes it takes a harsh reality to slap you in the face and wake you up. above you also have more things to do I know that has happened many times in my life this does not make the stoic a bad father, it makes him human I mean, this is a quite human trait that we seek to be understood before seeking I understand well, We seek to get people to join our way of doing things. We are all quite arrogant. We all think our way is the right way. Stoick was open to growth. He is open to change.

He is open to having many changes. In many ways his mind was opened to new possibilities, but in other ways he was rigid and held on to things and we are all like that, yes, change is difficult, true, but what I love about this relationship is that even though it is imperfect, no It doesn't mean the love isn't there and it doesn't mean the connection isn't there and accepting that, accepting that it's going to be flawed, accepting that there will be problems to resolve makes that less painful instead of, oh, it's It's supposed to be harmony. and it's not what's wrong with me or what's wrong with the relationship it's oh no this is just what a relationship is many of you comment on um alan and my friendship and we have a strong and very healthy friendship there is conflict there , yes, there is struggle there there is difference of opinion there are misunderstandings mistakes it hurts frankly we have been working on some of them recently and that is what makes it really good friend cliff we are talking about the importance of listening we are talking about the importance of responsibility and the importance of being able to change your mind how much that has contributed to us staying friends when things have gotten tough, yeah absolutely, you're going to, you're going to have problems, it's coming man just buckle up yeah that's what it does life. funny, honestly, everything went smoothly the entire time, how boring would that be, for a great man, he's become stoic, he sacrificed himself to save a father, not just the hiccup, but to save Toothless as well.

We talked earlier about John Powell, the composer he doesn't need. to try so hard, yeah, I'm glad he did, but he's for us, he's for you, that close-up right there of sorry dad, the shroud gets me every time I love it, they don't make a joke that you wanted me to be and I'm not the peacemaker I thought I was I don't know you came into this world early it was such a small thing oh so fragile so fragile I was afraid you wouldn't make it but your father never I doubted he always said you would become the most strong of all and he was right, you have the heart of a boss and the soul of a dragon, only you can unite our worlds, that is what you are, son, even in the close-ups.

I mean Gopper has a bit of a goofy looking character oh a lot so he's a comedy sidekick and in the close ups you can see they have as much attention to detail as his beard which is a technical thing and cinematographic, there was a great step forward. the rendering quality from the first movie to the second added a lot more texture details and whatnot. The lighting. Roger Deakins was the visual advisor for these films. So Roger Deakins went to Dreamworks and basically taught them how to light a movie. Yes because. They're animators, they're really good, they know how lighting works and stuff.

They have very good technical knowledge. Yes, he consulted and helped with the lighting. Being you is the best way to honor the Jewish Islamic and Christian tradition. There is the doctrine of honoring your father and mother, I honor your parents and then that idea arises in Eastern philosophy, Confucianism, it is everywhere, yes, something that catches my attention is that we do not necessarily honor our parents through obedience, sometimes. It may be the case, especially when we are younger, but we honor our parents by living honorable lives and sometimes we bring honor by having integrity and living our life to the best of our ability, even if it is not the life our parents would not have chosen. .

We honor them and there I see that with Hiccup he is not the boss that his father was and he says how he could be like you were and the message is that he doesn't need to be stoic, he needs to be the best Hiccup he can I know what my dad tells me every time I talk to him on the phone. He says I am proud of you as someone who grew up looking for acceptance and I had it at home. I had it from my parents, but not socially. I have it as someone who has struggled with more insecurity than I think anyone knows, but I like how important a part of my life it has been to overcome my self-hatred, my insecurities, and feel comfortable with myself hearing my dad say that I'm proud. of you means the world to me and some of you watching I know you will never have that um and if you never have it it's not because of you some people are too stuck in their ways of thinking that's the way the world should be. this is what my children should be like seeing the amazing person in front of them if you are living a life of integrity if you are trying to do good we your youtube parents we are very proud of you and we love you we are very proud of you too we are very proud to be your youtube dads ah thanks dad, I'm still pretty impressed with myself so until next time I'm proud of you son, you just gestured at me and watched movies, I don't know if I'm doing it right, really I didn't know, I'm dead, no, but you tried your best, turns out all we needed was one little word, you just completely waved me off.