How To Make People Respect You If You're Quiet

People love Tommy Shelby from Peaky Blinders. He is a calm, introverted and at the same time extremely charismatic character. While you don't want to be like Tommy in every way, there are eight habits you can learn from him to instantly command more

respect

from the

people

around you. you and although Peaky Blinders is a scripted television show, all of the psychology covered in today's video will apply to your real life. Also, this video has some scenes from season 6, but no spoilers. The first thing you see about Tommy is that he has a slow pace. relaxed movements when he's not physically fighting, he's almost never in a hurry, for example, notice how slowly Tommy moves in the clip below and how he instantly gives you the feeling that he's above feeling intimidated when talking to you, Mr.

Shelby, when It moves slowly and comfortably. In a situation where most

people

would be stressed, this shows that you don't feel scared or pressured. In addition to slow movements, there is a second body language habit you saw that helps Tommy appear confident. Tommy is comfortable maintaining eye contact even during conflict. The oldest you are the thickest. They told me the boss's name is Tommy and I guess it's you because you look at me up and down like I'm a pie. I want to know what you want. Well, you're going to die. right, yeah, we talked about this briefly in Alfie's video.

The only mistake you could

make

after watching scenes like this is to try to maintain eye contact the entire time, but maintaining eye contact during a conflict can increase tension if neither of you is willing to break up. So the goal is not to ever break eye contact, it is simply to know what behavioral cues you convey to other people. If you want to show that you are not intimidated, look down. If your priority is to reduce tension and if you want to diffuse the situation without projecting fear or discomfort, you can maintain eye contact for three to five seconds and then move to the side instead of crouching high.

Tommy's ability to command

respect

in times of conflict comes from the fact that he does not react to hostility. Notice how much confidence Tommy can project without even speaking. Being non-reactive shows that you feel confident in your ability to handle whatever is happening. It's hard not to respect someone who stays calm in situations where most people would lose their minds. Here's another fun example of how not. -Reactive Tommy might investigate his enemies, which is why he has been chosen. I'm José, I'm Jones, could the chosen one smoke? Obviously this is an extreme example and hopefully none of us will have to deal with trying to stay calm with a gun. to our heads, but it's a good example of how Tommy's non-reactivity projects confidence under pressure.

Of course, the goal here isn't to pretend you're okay while freaking out on the inside, but to cultivate deep, genuine inner confidence. talk more about how to do it at the end of this video there's another quick body language habit you should steal from Tommy if you want to get attention specifically in large groups, be as big as your audience, increase your hand gestures when you're talking to more people but the main thing is a group of despite the provocation of the cavalry there are no fights but it is you my friends who must suffer the cuts in salaries and dignity and you must not complain because it would be unpatriotic to go beyond the body. language, the next way you can command respect is by focusing on your speech.

The first thing you notice about Tommy when he speaks is that his choice of words shows conviction, specifically when he talks about his plans for the future, he doesn't say "I hope to." Or I want to, but it's just a few more years and you will change your ways and I will change the world beyond the choice of words. You can show conviction with your tone alone. Many people do the opposite and end with an upward inflection, making the statements sound. I like the questions, this gives the impression that you are not sure of yourself as an example.

Compare Tommy's tone in the clip below to the genre. What are Michael's true intentions towards me? Gina and if you lie, now I will tell myself that he intends to complete the deal and then. You both walk away, so if you want to show conviction with your tone alone, end your statements with a downward inflection similar to your slow, relaxed body language. Tommy also has a slow speaking cadence and uses pauses between words to maintain attention. The pause is the time when you are not speaking, but ironically it is the time when you can engage people.

Tommy does this by pausing when you most want to hear what he has to say. You meet Michael when you're dealing with a very powerful enemy. Getting revenge sometimes takes time. You have to choose your moment, that moment will come. You may be worried that speaking slowly and pausing a lot will cause people to interrupt you. The way you can avoid this is not by rushing to finish or giving up on your thought midway, but by continuing. speak in the same slow cadence until you have at least finished your sentence watch the following clip as an example that you can model for the context that ticking in the background is a bomb as a member of parliament for this constituency it is my duty to take responsibility for the well being of is still working opium use is very harmful now there is one more important thing to cover when talking about why tommy shelby commands so much respect that you don't have to shout or raise your voice because he either knows what you desperately want and He can give it to you or he knows what you desperately fear and can prevent it, so his calm words carry enormous weight as an example.

Let's go back to the Chosen One scene when Tommy was first threatened. You were one decision away from making it. Death, Mr. Shelby, so stop smiling. Tommy projects confidence because of everything we've talked about so far in this video, but why can he be so calm and not react under pressure because he knows that he's not actually in danger? Look why he is called. r.e o'donnell you have a son at cherrywood road school in harbor he has arms on his legs his name is shawn he is last in all the races poor boy poor boys the race was important we touched on this in our first tommy video and it is one of Its defining characteristics is that it exerts tremendous power over people using carrot stick motivation.

Now, obviously, we don't want to threaten to murder children, so how the hell can you apply this to your own life? Well, let's say you want a raise or a promotion at work a lot of people would just come in and say hey boss, I've been working here for a long time. I would really like a raise. Can I have more money? Very focused on that. I'm not very persuasive. How might you apply carrot stick thinking? You could say: Hello boss, I feel like I can add more value to the company and play at a higher level.

What would you need to see from me in the next three months to promote me? Work with your boss to create a concrete list and then nail everything down. on that list at the same time go out and get other job offers in three months you can show all the value you have created for your carrot boss and if they back out of the agreement you can tell them that you want to stay but they have other offers that pay more if they are not there willing to give him a raise, that's the key: there are no child murders involved now, although that plan is very likely to work, most people don't have the confidence to execute it, you would think that building that This kind of trust It will take you a long time or maybe you even think that it is impossible for you to ever develop deep inner confidence, but building confidence is much easier than you think, with the right game plan you can become much more confident in just a few minutes. moment. few weeks, if you want the fastest way I know to take your confidence and charisma to the next level, you should check out our charisma college program instead of telling you about the program myself.

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