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Covert Narcissists COUNTER-PARENT Instead of Co-Parent

Mar 18, 2024
Welcome to my latest YouTube video. I'm going to talk about a concept where

covert

narcissists

counter

act

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s and I think it's a fascinating concept because anyone who is married to a

covert

narcissist and lives with them and has a hard time sharing.

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al responsibilities that are natural or someone who is divorced from a covert narcissist understands that the way narcissistic parents cover up makes no logical sense when measured by what is good for the children when there is hostility and conflict and the covert narcissist is subject under scrutiny they get caught someone takes off their blinders they go into panic mode now let me remind you in case some of you are new to my channel or don't know or understand what covert narcissism is so I'll just give you a very brief Definition of covert narcissist, of all the

narcissists

that codependents or people with self-love deficit disorder or slds are attracted to one is someone with a narcissistic personality disorder, which is why narcissistic personality disorder exists, the antisocial personality disorder, sociopath and borderline personality.
covert narcissists counter parent instead of co parent
Disorder Narcissistic personality disorder is separated into three or four categories, one of those categories is covert narcissism and covert narcissism is related to narcissistic personality disorder, but includes an element of sociopathy. The person who has antisocial personality disorder is a sociopath, but the covert narcissist. is this pathologically narcissistic person with narcissistic personality disorder MPD and has sociopathic traits. When you meet these narcissists, you understand that there is a part of their mental health, the part of their thinking that is calculated, they know what they are doing, they are conscious. from lies, misrepresentation, fake love, affection, they know that their inner desires, their inner self does not really give them, they know that they do not have empathy and they do not really care about the people who have deceived them. a pedestal, their entire self-esteem, everything that is valuable to them, requires them to become a lovable, likable person that people can admire.
covert narcissists counter parent instead of co parent

More Interesting Facts About,

covert narcissists counter parent instead of co parent...

Now they not only know their narcissism, but they are also able to accept the worst parts and hide them and then create something that is wonderful, adorable, pleasant, that not only looks normal but looks better than normal and they do it for profit, it feeds their needs for entitlement and grandiosity, but they know it, and if they know it, they have sociopathic traits. then they can plan their costume, they can plan how that costume should manifest in the world that they live in, where that role, that Persona, that character can be worshiped, so that they can get something that they need.
covert narcissists counter parent instead of co parent
It's always about getting something they need and the sociopath. part of that requires lying, deceitful manipulation, so now let's think about the covert narcissist who is a husband, wife, partner but who shares custody with the children. They really don't stop believing in children because they are narcissistic and the only time. A narcissist cares, and I'm just talking about the garden of artists who write, about their children is when that child can make them feel good, but the covert narcissist needs each individual in the family to play a role so that he or she can feel better. see better. and Elevate him to that position of Authority or that position that people see as wonderful because there are covert narcissists but what I did was create a video and it says do not remove the mask from the chest of the covert narcissist run but I say that in this video because if you are spouse, partner of the covert narcissist and you share children, if you try to remove their mask, they will do everything they can to humiliate and humiliate you to make you look like the Bad Person it's not that they are just horrible people, it's because they have everything to lose if their masks are ripped off if They are covertly narcissistic in their parenting.
covert narcissists counter parent instead of co parent
They say that they are part of some type of community or school organization where you represent the children or whatever possible scenario they find themselves in in the community brings them value, but the covert narcissistic parent, you might ask, then , what do they get that is so valuable that they have to fool everyone? They create this completely false deceptive Person. Well, I have a client. who is married to her husband for 20 years and it wasn't until she started working with me that she ever considered him a narcissist because she was turned on and it was really mean, but when I asked her if she had friends and she said, God mine. everyone loved him, she was fine, but did she have friends? she, she says, oh yes, everyone loved him, he could go anywhere and just tell his stories. a Storyteller, he was a little brash and aggressive, but people just loved him.
She, of course, sees him differently now because he is no longer Gaslight and she understands that this man had no friends because he was incapable of having friends. He was a covert narcissist, but he built them up. He molded himself into the type of husband and father that everyone outside the family saw as the model father, a perfect father and he received no money for it, but he gained self-esteem, he gained feelings of community because if he was the covert narcissistic father he would not. I could hide it, I would be the object of ridicule, isolation, abandonment.
People just don't like dating narcissists unless you're slds, but read my book The Human Magnet Center. I mean, you'll understand when you're married. To a covert narcissist you are going to know what everyone else doesn't, day or night, he is adorable, he is liked, he is charismatic, he is funny, he is a storyteller, people love him, the child loves him, but that Well-articulated wealth practice, perfection, is just an appearance. It's just part of the surface because he doesn't have any real friendships or she's all focused on getting as real as possible not letting people get close because if they were close enough they could see behind the scenes and behind the scenes are the kids who they are neglected who are beauties wives spouses Partners husbands who are even worse hurt and I will never forget this session I work with this child and he was angry because he had problems with drugs, which no one could communicate to him I had a specialty at that time of working with teenagers and by the way, I missed working with him, but you don't want to understand them and I was able to break through and connect with them and he said he's very tired and angry and furious with the kids that come.
She approached him and told him that his father was a high school counselor. He was loved. Everyone liked that they gave them prizes. He was the MC for graduation activities and all that stuff and the kids showed up all the time. It's amazing, I wish he was my dad and the truth is this kid would go home and since his dad came home he would like to, you know, open the refrigerator, have two or three beers and start putting people down. and be an idiot. abusive, I'm humiliating and he was just a very bad person, but you might be wondering, what stopped the boy from telling everyone the truth?
What stopped him from living his life and telling her the truth again? Well, if you take off the mask, you're in trouble because If he started telling everyone the truth, he knows, like any other common narcissist or any other sociopath, that if he tells on them, there will be serious consequences, so sometimes children of Between 20 and 25 years old, it is surprising how long this lasts, they feel helpless in the face of the potential for retaliatory consequences, so the question is well, why does the mother or father, the partner of the covert narcissistic parent, not say nothing?
President White is a sld who was afraid of being alone, that he is insecure and all the things that make up self-confidence. they love that for some disorder and there is a high probability that they have a gaslight that no one loves them and if you understand codependency addiction or sldd addiction, they believe that if they are ever alone, they will never survive pathological loneliness which is the withdrawal symptom. of this addiction is okay, then the spouse is afraid to tell the truth because they have more to lose than the children because they are adults yes without the covert narcissists their jobs could be in danger their relationships with their friends their participation in the community organizations because remember that that spouse, that partner, Colbert's narcissist, is held in such high esteem and has been put on such a high pedestal that he has to be calm and ordinary and not be threatened in any way by this illusion that he is bigger and better than nobody.
So imagine what happens if you get divorced, that covert narcissist will do anything to destroy your credible accusations, if he is a bad person, you have a judge, in some cases he goes to trial, you have more than a judge, you have people messing around and even you could have an attorney advocating for the child or in Illinois they call them Guardian ad litems, so there could be a custody evaluation, someone sticking their nose in the house talking to the children getting what they call collateral information to verify their claims. about being this type of parent now people pick their nose and say: you are selfish, you are arrogant, you are abusive, the covert narcissist who is in a custody battle will do anything to make the other person look bad, you will do anything to the kids or the kid who is trying to make you look bad and they are emerald shit, if you are gaslighting, which a lot of corporate narcissists usually do, you will turn up the gas and if the gaslighting doesn't work, you won't threaten them. and it's sad to say that sometimes the threats are not so clear, direct and dubious or whatever seems horrible to you.
Terrifying threat. Sometimes it's like, well, I'm not going to talk to you anymore because remember these kids are going to be codependent or narcissistic in the future. They are probably for the attention and love of this parent who, at best, gives it conditionally, so they have survived the problems and that is all they can hold on to, to the extent that I believe this parent loves them, so if that parent takes that away from them that could devastate them and the child, let's say this child is the next generation of codependent, that child will do anything to protect mom or dad, whoever the sld is or some type of parent , and they will sacrifice themselves, they will jump on the bomb to protect this father.
They will be quiet, they won't say anything, they will say Total Line, so the consequence of something the covert narcissist could do to punish could take away from depriving him or seeing his mother being punished, so now that we are divorced, they will do everything and anything. to fight and go against whatever agreement is in the court agreement, they will do it because their covert narcissists will be able to manipulate it and pretend in front of others that they are doing what is good and the other person is not, they will simply stop visiting the suddenly , the children walk away from this father who during the divorce spends all this time with them to show the court how good parents they are and this is the mind-blowing reality that if you have not crossed this bridge and I hope you never have, it is You may not understand that covert narcissists can fight tooth and nail during the custody process and spent thousands of dollars in hundreds of thousands.
I've seen these fights that are just unbelievable just to protect their fake identity and punish the spouse and maybe the children, so when you see this fight between a narcissist who never really cared about his children and spent all this money, but then you knew that once it was over they would have nothing to do with the children, now you understand. That's why some of these narcissists after divorce don't know anything about co-parenting, it's all

counter

-parenting, so I want to conclude that covert narcissists are dangerous. You should not remove their mask unless you are ready to flee. and I have everything set up in place and I have a lot of material about this in my Self Love Recovery Educational Library that has videos or audios and of course you have YouTube and now my new podcast and my seminars are full of information and It's called Uh , the 50 shades of narcissism.
Check it out So in conclusion, if you are thinking about divorcing a covert narcissist, plan your Escape well, if you are in the process of divorcing him, understand what you are dealing with and be as proactive as possible. you can and if you are divorced from your covert narcissist and are experiencing the counter-parenting dilemma then you have or should have a better idea of ​​what is going on and reach out to someone who has the experience, knowledge and mental health degree to help you. because this is a very complicated situation that has booby traps and landmines scattered everywhere so thank you for joining me and I very much hope that this information can be useful to you or someone you love if you want to learn more about anything that I do or the services and products I have available just go to selfloverecovery.com write us an email at help at selfloverecovery.com subscribe and find me here again on YouTube you will be fine and I will see you soon

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