weaponised incompetence

I will help clean the house. If I... Stayed... I'd just be on... The road... So I'll go. And they're the ones who say, "Well... I mean, you want me to clean, but I'll get in your way. So I'll be nice and... and I won't clean. You know, I will." get in your way. You don't want me in your way, do you? And it's like, bro, just get over it. Just get over it and help. You will not get in the way, unless you deliberately try to get in the way. And I know that's what a lot of people do.

And I need you not to do that. Just help out and be a good partner. And if you really don't know what to do, if you really can't understand it and you think you're going to get in the way, ask them what they need help with. If your wife is cleaning the kitchen and you don't want to get in the way, my suggestion is to go clean the bathroom. If your wife likes to make the bed and clean the bedroom, then maybe you should go wash the dishes. For example, you can separate tasks. And if you really don't know what to do, if you really can't figure it out, you can ask what needs to be done and then you can do it.

And I think you should know what to do. I think you should be aware of your environment and understand it. But if you really can't figure it out, then you can do something. For example, if your wife is cleaning, she goes to take care of the kids. Or if your wife is watching the kids, you can do a little cleaning. Like,   figure it out. It's not that hard to be an adult and use some critical thinking skills. I really don't think it's that hard to be a good partner and contribute and help around the house, you know?

Too many people will simply manipulate their partners and like to use this

incompetence

as a weapon, because what are they going to do? Know? It's a matter of saying, "I can't do it, you'll have to do it for me. I can't do..." It's like, what can you do? It has to be done. And if they're not going to do it, they just will. And these men know it. I see a lot of TikToks of women saying "I'm going to stop cleaning the kitchen and see what happens" and they stop cleaning the kitchen. And they just watch the dishes pile up, watch the kitchen get dirtier, stop cleaning up after their husbands and socks start getting everywhere.

Shit starts to be all over the floor. And usually the house is very clean and these men are like, what the fuck is going on? Why doesn't the magic fairy chase me and do all these things? And it's as if the magical fairy you're imagining is your wife. She's doing all these things and you don't even consider it. You never say thank you. You never help. You don't do shit. And the fact that after several days they still don't do anything, because it must be very frustrating. Because just do it, you know? For example, if tasks are normally done and not done, it is clearly a sign.

Thinking, please do something, because you never do it. Know? Like having a conversation. Help. Be an adult. Please. And I think we'll end with a general explanation of what this is all about. Like, don't do that. It doesn't matter, that's because you refuse to try. And I promise you, that doesn't flatter you. They just don't want to argue with you. It's like, help when asked, man. I know I keep saying the same thing over and over, but it's so annoying. For example, these men refuse to take care of their children, they refuse to help with household chores.

And then they complain that their wives always scold them. It's like if you just do things, then they won't feel the need to scold you anymore. Just do things. I'm sure when the dishes aren't clean you nag your wife and say, "um, sorry, honey, why are the dishes dirty?" It's like, I don't know. Why don't you clean them yourself, Greg? I... truly, truly infuriating. Anyway, that's all the TikToks I saved. I didn't really go into much about all of this. There is so much more I could say, there is so much deeper I could delve into, but I am fed up and exhausted.

And I just... I just can't. I just can't, you know? These women deserve so much better. These children deserve so much better and many people settle for this because they think it is all there is. For example,   I promise you there are better partners. I promise you that there are people who care about you, who will care about your children, and who will help you. Know? Like, don't settle. You deserve more. Anyway, I hope you enjoyed this video. A huge thank you to my previous patrons whose names are on the screen right now. And a huge, huge thank you to my Kiwi Cat sponsors: I love and appreciate you all so much.

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