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Roberto y Farid #2 - La paradoja de la elección

Mar 04, 2024
hello people how are you welcome to the second episode of robert and

farid

we are very happy to be here again after the good response the first chapter that I think is from all the comments of the people I go well thank you very much to everyone who made the time listen to it and thank you for all the feedback I think I don't think it was very well received and I think the points that we wanted to leave were also understood and well I hope they continue to listen to us so I hope they don't continue to tolerate

farid

you are coming well before before addressing That topic, we are still not sure what the podcast is going to be called.
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I think I like the name Roberto and Ferid and I think some people like it too, but we can still change it, maybe at this time we have ideas. They have also been commenting on us and giving us ideas for the name of the podcast. I like the name cheap philosophy, we are repeating it to you. What do you think of this name? I like it. I like it. It is a way to make a serious topic less serious. It doesn't get to the point. At the end of the day, I think that what we are and I think that it encapsulates well what we are doing, which is almost the philosophy of oops, the famous one in this or, as one would say, here in our lands, exactly the web, well, it's coming to Ecuador.
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roberto

mtc is there and you can check out the video of this of this episode of the pots but well farid well let's start we what are we going to talk about today what topic do you bring to the table well look at today's topic I bring the paradox of choice the dogma well this is this is one like a theory presented by barry schwartz which was very interesting for me to read his book the dogma would be that the more options you have the freer you are is what everyone would think as a hypothesis among the options I have more free today I can't choose from many things but in the practice and in reality this ends up doing the opposite instead of being free you feel like a slave to translations and it has an explanation right now we are going to review the three points of the couple of the choice and to a large extent instead of making us feel better this makes us dare to live in a better place who who doesn't who wouldn't like to have many options we live better we live better but it feels worse that it is different and what causes this paralysis and well I say this paradox is three very points Important of the first, having so many options can be overwhelming for many people.
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You can't imagine what we are going to give as an example, to put it more like this, visual Netflix, for example, of course, how overwhelming it can be as soon as you go to Netflix, there is an infinite amount of movies that overwhelms us. and instead of feeling free to choose easily it paralyzes you if you don't know which one to choose or when you go to the supermarket also now wow how many quantities of a sol of the same product there are soy milk coconut milk lactose-free milk milk I don't know what and I don't know What will come out of human porn?
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Well, which one will be the best? No, and well, in fact, there are even certain social experiments where there are certain groups of people who are asked to choose from, I don't know, let's say five options, and another group that chooses from ten options. and people who have fewer options to choose from choose faster because it is easier, don't waste so much time, second, expectations go through the roof because I mean, throughout history, humanity, the famous formation is not really modern, this comes from since Very long ago, people do not remember that they could be people who do not know that it is formed formed is firm and without gender a thousand singles means in Spanish fear of missing out on something is something that throughout history humanity has simply existed that today is exponentiated because because on social networks and so on, because stories, sometimes photos, and so on, you are connected with everyone, so you expose yourself to that feeling of being more in touch with the possibility that you let go because in a certain way at the same time in a Coming from Zarra this is exactly then what happens with an infinite amount of options because your expectations for what you choose are raised by the dialogues because well if you don't want to miss anything and at the end of the day choosing is abandoning we could say that if I choose something, well, I renounce everything else, well, what I choose has to be perfect, letting go of so many things that you have to be perfect, my expectations for what the son is are, they are high and yes manu and well, many times we choose things that are good but Because of our expectations, tonight is perfect, well, we finished, we are dissatisfied with our area, who doesn't know what you choose, it's not based on a restaurant or you choose a dish or on any typical Basque film on Netflix, since the typical one hasn't happened to you, oh, I would have chosen the another is done better but you don't know about that one you really didn't see it in the other movie it is just as valid to say that the other thing could have been better as it could have been worse totally is really the real point of comparison would have to be with things that you have experienced because it is read to know that what you chose, the best of all, you have to have experienced problems and it is not true, you have not experienced it, then well, if it becomes very very overwhelming and for good, something that or the last one that is very related to At this point, the opportunity cost you are letting go of many things, well, I don't know how I am letting go of many things, so the expectation, we return to the same thing, has to be very high.
Yes, I think I am saying summarizing a little or adapting what you are saying to the age in which the one we are experiencing, I think it is a problem that I insist on, maybe it has been a constant in humanity but now it has become much bigger, of course, with such great access to the information we have, we have a stupidly larger amount of information. options before and that overwhelms you because, as you say, the fact of having so many options automatically raises the expectation that you have to choose that option that you are choosing and that request because it obviously harms you because all the time you are thinking about the options that you let go in place you are enjoying that one or accept that the one you chose may even be good and that is also the problem that everything suffers from comparison not of course that is a real dogma everything suffers comparison because if you are going to buy something with something else there will be things that they are going to be better than the other, they are going to gain things that are going to be better than this one, then, as you say, you end up not enjoying what you chose yet and when what you chose is good and it also increases frustration because because you want to be guilty, you don't. wants to be guilty of not having chosen something something good from among so many options because you get it in self-flagellation the self blames not for things that well well dude because at the end of the day it is what you believed at that moment that incorporates it into you and that Finally, it justifies, I think that having taken it and apart is knowing what you think, this does not just translate into things like product or movie issues, and furthermore, this is really present in many things in life.
Let's give an example of the universal today. Let's talk about love couples. I do believe. I don't know what you think, but I do believe that this paradox of choice is direct. It is very closely related to the fact that people no longer want to commit to things. It is not. It is very difficult for him to commit because I don't know, imagine that you are on Instagram and you see an infinite amount of options of couples you could be with or relationships or people, it is not an infinite amount that, well, we return to the same thing, it translates in high expectations of a partner in comparing in not knowing who to choose and then you end up not not like not wanting to commit to anyone because they say it's time to get something better than that is very typical nothing I feel like I can get a goal but my question is what is it?
I also think that the point to discuss is to what extent you are not falling into conformity because he said there is a fine line, I am not selling, it is good to be satisfied with what I have, not that maybe if you can really get something better, there is or There is that possibility to what extent you are falling into conformism or in the paradox of choice. It is a good question because, as you say, you can get caught up in the paradox of choice and always be thinking about the options that you lost but you can also go to the other extreme and say well you know that this well I will never know what is the best then well I will stay with what I am and maybe you made it be a bad situation both in a sentimental matter As in a matter of whatever it may be, I believe that the solution would be out there.
I believe that the solution is not to make a decision about anything at the drop of a hat but to make an intelligent intelligent decision considering all the variables that you may know what you You can recognize the fact, I believe that what gives you peace of mind and I believe that I mentioned it in a video is to make the decision with what you know at that moment, of course, inform yourself and make an educated decision with the variables that are within your control and those that you do not know or those that you do not control, there is no way to discard it, you forget it, I mean I don't think that the kaiser conformism when you stop taking into account the variables that yes with us although it does consider like it if I like it we could say that kaizen kaizen in conformism when when you are not doing what you are supposed to do when to inform, abandoning, not exploiting what you control exactly and here it is as a victim of the paradox when also for the same reason when you are not really doing the proper analysis of the situation no He is doing an intelligent analysis, which I really like, we could say as a kind of call to action or solution.
I don't know when you will present yourself because right now I am going to present you with another case that is more complicated, but for example, in this case, there is a lot. We are talking about quantity and greatness of options. I like the common one as if we could add a series of steps. The first one, I am completely happy with you, which is the information, do not be informed as much as you can do, what you can control and also drink the scope. How far can you go, how far can you get to know information because you are going to see a line, a border where you will no longer know what the thing is, that is, with the things that are outside that line of knowledge that you have access to the so find out how far you can be informed to win inform yourself and obviously there is going to be an unknown area and that is why you do not control it yourself do not worry about it in turn exactly if definitively finishing this point I think that what remains is what you What gives you uneasiness is the fact of knowing, that is, I think that what I forgive you that gives you peace of mind is the fact of knowing that you made a decision considering everything that you could have considered at the time.
That is where the satisfaction is. I don't know why we can To say that the first step is to inform yourself and thanks to the information and the exploration of all the variables, maybe you can go through a second step of reducing that that is also very important, maybe you have a large number of options but with the information You can reduce your options with a discard technique. No, that can also maybe free up a little weight. Maybe you had five at the beginning, but after the information and so on, you were left with two. It can be much easier to choose when, well.
It's not that it can make it much easier to choose. I think it's one, or the fact that we have so many options at first glance. Maybe the choice can scream paradox to you, but I think it's also an indicator that your yardstick of the standard has It has to be very high, if you have 100 options to have a partner, maybe you're just going to choose the ones that meet 95 percent of your criteria. Before, maybe you had three options, so you settle for it. Then I think the solutions are also as it says. I was in reducing and reducing that information and raising your standard of what you want to see but well also but there also raising the standard I feel that you can also be a victim of the web paradox because if the paradox itself I know that your expectations are by the heavens well remember that the formula dissatisfactions expectations less reality yes well you are right but I think I did not explain myself well standard I mean with the information that you know the people who meet those criteria and based on that that is what I meant at the beginning I'm not talking about what you expect from the person, but rather how much he or she complies with what you are looking for that he or she does have the power to inform you and thus reduce and so much fibria, and there is also the possibility that he or she willTake into account that you don't like what you chose, it's not worth summer or I followed the steps, I did everything possible and I liked it from everyone, it's okay, but what's going on here?
Well, the satisfaction, as you say, is that you did everything you could to do. a good decision at that moment with information that you had, you believed it was the best for you and that justifies having made it and there is satisfaction and it is not valid to decide point of view. What I think is not valid is the comparison always for the better because as we said a while ago we are very good at saying that something else is that it could have been better but well and that but I also said something else it could have been worse because you really don't know if you are there is probably something better and there is probably going to be something worse also totally not if you don't live them you can't overwhelm for not having taken foresight that no and that is what you say is key because it is called the paradox of choice because the paradox is that the more options you have in theory you should feel freer because you feel more you have pressed less free of paralysis, that is, those who speak, the paradox is that you have many options and you do nothing to feel paralyzed, the way to overcome the paradox is to act, that is, it is not noticeable with gels and I say this right now we are speaking in the romantic theme in sentimental themes but it also applies to creative things with sewing with work, it was my first hand experience when I wrote my last book to say footprint to where to where it covered to where it stopped knowing information to where it stopped studying or to where it left me, even making music up to 100 or so, they say, you know, well, maybe right now I'm not ready because I prefer to take some guitar lessons or the girl is not ready because I want all the singing classes.
I think that the solution for Overcoming this paradox is precisely that of acting on making a decision and art with it at that moment, that is, not not considering other options while you choose it and then you realize that it was not, it is okay to change your mind and it is okay to change your choice but At that moment you renounce Teo and that also gives value to your. I mean, you can do it too, since in the past we also saw the poetic side of suffering, we could also give a poetic side to the choice in the sense that today I would choose you and Your value also lies in the fact that you give up everything for TV3, regardless of what happens, I give you that value, no, and that can also happen, for example, with your partner, no, also since we don't want to miss out on anything, please, there are times when It doesn't happen here, not that you have a new video, for example, if you are watching, other people have not really given up, that is the problem that I also see is very big.
The paradox is the lack of commitment in the lack of commitment, why do you think you chose something? but this really doesn't give up anything, the rest you chose without giving up the rest because you don't want to miss out on anything and that's why it means that you don't enjoy what you chose, that you don't see the good and that you're thinking about the rest, then also the poetic side, for example the choose not even and hotels and you and a big part of the value that my choice has with you is that I let an infinite number of people go for you but I really gave up everything else no and it is also where it gives a poetic perspective also to take the position a little I know that it is not the best option, I know that this option is perfect but it is the one that I chose, it is going at this moment and we are going to grow on it, that is, there is a date and with Pitt I think that well it goes very hand in hand with this, which is Stravinsky and that the music comes from an interview by Jorge Drexler who says the more I limit myself, the more I free myself because I say if he comes back, returning to the creative topic, if you start thinking about where the great geniuses in any area of ​​any discipline come from, it is when they know how to exploit the limitations of the rules that they chose to impose on themselves, that is, when you limit yourself when you go, for example, if you don't know what I'm going to make a book instead of making a movie, when you choose the format of the book within those rules liberos and you can become a genius in that bone area because we cannot also adapt to the sport theme Leonel Messi is a crack he is a genius within the limitations of football soccer so my advice would be to choose both a partner and a creative area and become a crack within deliberations He knows limitations as a blessing as freedom of course and I believe in the creative issue.
This also happens a lot, be it in the creative issue because I understand, I understand to a large extent how to find the limits, for example when you are dating because there are things that you don't know but in the creative theme, like when writing a book, when it comes to making music, no, that line doesn't really exist because you can always continue learning a lot of possibilities and you can always continue improving, there will be continuous improvement but at the moment in which you choose limit yourself, you can take advantage of both your defects and your virtues, and that will tell you how restored you are.
For example, you adapted it right now to the song that I'm making music and I know that I play the hell out of singing, you know what your liberations are, I know that I write very well so what am I going to do today you know what to do a song that highlights my voice or that highlights my guitar solo because I don't make a free and ordinary song that highlights what I'm good at so the fact of limiting having sense frees you because you say well I know it's exact yes definitely and you can also take into account that if you went back in time to take a vision again with what information you had you are going to repeat of course then well it is absurd you had an appointment with That is not a quote from Paul, God is a priest if I remember correctly he has a good book called The Biography of Silence and that is where he says it is absurd to condemn the ignorance of the past from the present wisdom and because thanks to you you know that that choice now yours because you lived it and because you made this decision because at that moment you are ignorant so it is absurd and now I am going to make another point that is more complicated because here we are talking about a large number of decisions but what happens when you have No decision was presented, 22 options but it is not so much that you are paralyzed by the decisions per se but because you are talking about your life, I don't know, let's say a vision of life or I'm going to do this.
I have two options: to go and study for a master's degree. to another country or stay in my city to work, yes, he explained, it is a different type of election that I don't think will be manifested as much and the paradox or if I say there, I don't think it's that the paradox is manifested but it is maybe giving it a lot of expectations to each of the decisions and I believe that the solution to that or at least is and the solution but the approach to that is to understand that those decisions are platforms that later you are going to decide if you take advantage of or not, it is like that for example or in understand that, for example, a very big issue in people's lives is that which major is correct and people get very stressed because of that.
It was good and there are also many reasons. There is something good. Imagine that you go to a university that has four exceptional majors. I think the key is to understand that that decision is not going to define you forever, you always have the possibility of turning around, but even if you study a career and then not pursuing the career is simply a platform, you will still have the door afterwards. open to choose what you want and that is I think that that is what many people do not understand, they become paralyzed because they believe that a decision is going to determine the direction of their life and that is not true.
With this mind I believe that there are very few of you. decisions in which the best does happen but I see it mostly because of the option of reversal, I don't know if there is a reversal, maybe there are certain sessions where there is no turning back or no reversal oops but for example if not I know if you choose it is if you choose to go study in Germany Esteban I don't know where the fact that you have chosen it does not guarantee that that option will be a success the fact that they devastated guarantees that what you are going to do will be a success after all whatever you do, what you decide to do with it, then the choice is nothing more than a platform, it is not, it is not the out with a clear ending, there is also no because I also believe that many of the solutions that we mentioned in the first point also fit here. because well we could say the same thing because it is something that he chooses, it is an important edition within two things of your life and maybe you did poorly in the section you took but then never without another option your power is worse and we are very good to always see like it could always be better or better better but well it could also be worse so better as you say I think the solution is ok if the vision you have taken goes wrong then well you are the only one responsible for how you react to what happens to you ok it was bad but well you can channel that into something else and that's what it can be, you can use it as a stepping stone so that in the next edition you take you do great and I think that's also very important because I think it's a problem that I There is a lot of despair that arises from the paradox of the decision is the PSL but from victimization I know that now I am desperate, big people shit me if I have patience with people who victimize themselves, I do believe that in 99.9 percent of cases success depends on you I obviously talked about it in the last chapter it depends a lot on how you define success geometrics that you use that depend on you but if you take those metrics if you take pure metrics that depend on you then really the vision that you take not venous there is not so much but I say obviously tragedies happen and there will be exceptions but for 99.9 percent of the cases success will depend on you regardless of whether an incorrect edition is not because you will always have the amount of work necessary to to be able to position yourself in a favorable position, agree completely, we could conclude with a formula of dissatisfaction, dissatisfaction equals expectations less realities, as you have so many expectations with the decisions you make, it is very likely that the dissatisfaction with what you chose will be great. proportional dissatisfaction is directly proportional to the expectations you have of things and returning to the topic of the paradox of choice to more or less summarize what we said as you say so in order to lower dissatisfaction we have to lower the expectations that Expectations normally rise due to the opportunity cost because we have many options and we give a lot of opportunity cost to a single option.
How do we fix that? How do we try to combat that? One could be by setting your metric high to in a certain way dilute or simplify the information. Reduce, you are not going to really inform yourself, knowing what it is you want and so on, you inform yourself well about all the options and based on that it is a technique of discarding starting to reduce there to limit the limitation in freedom and already in bases or make an intelligent edition because if it does those decisions to chile go there you are going to be a victim of the paradox of choice yes I think it is I really like this for this topic the whole culture of minimalism that I really like there is a book called essentials in The discipline of double names is called and I like the author a lot and the guy talks a lot about this.
In fact, I got the concept of raising your metric from this book because I'm going to talk a lot about minimalism in the workplace. Then he tells you that to get involved in a project, this project has to convince you, you bastard, not just here, because you can pull it off, it doesn't have to start you off, bastard, because that way it dilutes the noise and is a way of simplifying the thousands and thousands of options that you have, I think that you can apply the same thing to both relationships and creative work in relationships. I would say that making is a decision based on what you can know.
It is an important decision. Get informed but also understand that there are things that you are not going to know. you are going to control that in the creative field or in the field that is to say that in the creative field if you are doing anything I think it is important to limit yourself and launch something with the knowledge you have now and learn from what you launched instead of simply absorbing and prepared there is a phrase that in fact with that phrase I end my book that says that an ounce of practice is worth more than a ton of a ton of theory there is no better teacher than doing things then alarming things and you will learn more by doing it than studying and still perfect and also complementary a little with the renunciation that when you choose something, at least at the moment you have chosen it, you renounce everything else and live what you really live, I did it and that way you will realize if you really don't do that yes I hope you give up the rest no no no don't look the other way live what I'm seeing if it doesn't satisfy you if it doesn't and so on without looking the other way I think it's a very good metric to stop yourself and realize that that's not what you wanted totally agree if you choose something choose give it your all to make it work and stop thinking about the alternatives immerse yourself in what you are choosing and see if it works for you or not and learn from it but choose a hotel don't get the illusion of choosing no really choose resignation, the rest for that moment is worth changing your mind but if you are not being a victim, the paradox is the choice because you are not choosing that one, well, with this we finish, the second episode of this podcast seems very good to me, my people, thank you again for listening to this episode you can follow us on social networks like farid diaz and

roberto

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