HOW TO ACTUALLY GLOW UP | becoming THAT girl physically & mentally

What if I told you that I struggle with insecurities and self-hatred every day and I could tell you what you're going to say? You're going to say no, you're so pretty, oh my god, if I look like you, I would never complain. Again, like all my problems are solved, you know why I know? Because I say exactly the same thing when I compare myself to other

girl

s. The tendency to shine until you know it fits. Society standards have been around forever and I can't lie. I've been a victim of this several times, but now that it's so normalized, people are willing to spend thousands of dollars on nails, hair extensions, clothes, everything, premium facetune.

I know about all of you, but try to keep up with these beauty standards. It's been quite exhausting and I can't keep doing it at the end of each week like every Sunday. I would psychotically try to shine like I plucked my eyebrows. I would dye my eyebrows. I would whiten my teeth. I would do squats. shave my whole body and that would make me feel good in the moment, like on Monday, I'd be like oh yeah, let's do it. I'm ready for the week, but then on Tuesday I wonder why I'm not satisfied and why.

Doesn't anyone else notice that I slap myself and that's because I thought I was taking care of myself but I was just trying to fit into beauty standards? At some point the question arose: Am I trying to look better or feel better? I'm not trying to sound cheesy when I say that if you've ever tried glue sticking before, you've probably realized that the results don't last or that the positive feeling that comes with it doesn't last and I have the answer to that is literally because you only focus on The physical aspect, you can spend thousands of dollars trying to improve or even change your appearance, but if you don't focus on the mental aspect, you will be trapped in a situation never seen before. -End the cycle of trying to fit into beauty standards or you'll burn out and then wonder why I don't like other

girl

s as much as I try, but best friend once you realize that a true

glow

focuses on both . your physical and mental health, you will accidentally step into the best version of yourself, but at the same time you have to make that decision and put in the effort to see results and I will show you exactly how to do it.

I'm going to show you 15 ways you could shine

physically

and

mentally

. I'm sure we can all agree that the definition of social media

glow

is improving your physical appearance and looking more attractive. My personal definition of glow is taking care of ourselves

physically

and

mentally

so that we can slowly become the highest versions of ourselves and most of you right now are probably like this, the mental aspect can wait for another time because I just want to look good now as a result of my mental health. Fluctuating health and constant stress like literally every day, chronic stress for no reason over the years has caused a lot of physical changes in me and I didn't see the physical changes right away obviously and there's your proof.

I am your proof that you need to work on the mental aspect, not just the physical, because in the end you are not going to shine as you want. It is not humanly possible for permanent change to happen in one day, so live a healthy lifestyle and work on yourself. mentally over a long period of time guarantees the physical brilliance that will follow. I like to call self-care the work on your physical appearance because that's what it should be and plus if you look good you feel good, it's

actually

a proven fact that when someone trusts their appearance it instantly affects their motivation, their happiness and their productivity and since I started romanticizing my physical glow in self-care, I feel so much more fulfilled if you're like me and struggle with self-love and being kind. to yourself This is saying I love you to yourself without saying it this is for the basics you are only here right now to see what I do to have clear skin but number one invest in taking care of your skin and hair I used to have a very bad Spending problem like you don't even look at things before you buy them so make sure you are getting quality products and you are researching the ingredients, looking into their benefits, looking at how it will help your skin in that way. physically you could focus on the problems that are wrong with your skin, like if you have blackheads, but you are going to focus on your acne, it is not going to remove your blackheads and then oils and hair masks because healthy hair equals a girl happy.

I'm literally just investing in one, you only need a good hair oil and a mask to help your hair grow and stay healthy. I've been using hair masks forever and I love them because they keep my hair hydrated, even though it's a little dead, it's still somewhat hydrated. What I learned is that you can't just have a concentrated oil and if you are using very heavy oils like castor oil then make sure you use a clarifying shampoo, you can remove all the buildup and honestly it's kind of like I got oily. hair before because my hairline is crazy.

I literally give McDonald's a free promotion every time I have my hair up. Number two exercises every day. I don't mean that you have to like lifting weights and doing squats every day working out, I mean literally. Go for a walk outside, but make sure you do something like lifting weights during the week too, so not only will it make you feel good for the rest of the day, but your body will be strong, it will also help with laziness, so step further. What's really difficult is the first step, number three, is establishing a solid morning and night routine and by this I don't mean wake up at 5 in the morning, go to Pilates, have a matcha and, honestly, it sounds pretty good , but I do not do it. having the brain cells to do that or wake up that early because I would avoid a morning and night routine because I didn't have a perfectly established routine with everything perfect, like your morning routine, it could be a shower and a lemon. water and your nighttime routine could be skincare and a green tea, these literally prepare you, you don't like foundations for makeup, a morning and nighttime routine is a foundation for your life, morning routines get you started, They help you have energy for the day. they help your thinking during the day and then the nighttime routines help you relax help you calm down and you don't have to follow it up to having tea every day some mornings.

I literally do nothing except have coffee and then do my gratitude. stop eating whole foods that give you energy and drink two to three liters of water every day and I don't mean following a ketogenic diet, I mean replacing foods that are literally killing you over time with better foods that you like in your first instinct for a snack is to eat chips, substitute them with crackers and hummus, if you are going to have sweets as a snack, have strawberries, cover them with chocolate if you want, but you will feel it all day if you do.

Eating foods that do not nourish you will make you feel like you are in a bad mood and then drinking two to three liters of water a day will not only clear your skin but will also help you with fatigue, it will give you energy and cleanse toxins from your body such as drinking two liters of water a day has so many benefits I can't even name them all oh it also helps speed up your metabolism and that point was for The basics too, I'm sorry you had to wait, I know you know you just have to put it in its place .

The next thing is to prepare, even if you stay at home, every time I wear a cute outfit that I feel confident in. It literally makes my whole day better. I feel much more productive. I am much more motivated. I do a lot more in general and like putting on makeup, you don't have to put on makeup like every time you're at home, because who? likes to do that, plus it's expensive, learn how to emphasize your natural features with makeup, so literally research your face shape and then find where the shadows are located on your face, like when I look down, mine are here and then here you see that so Contour right there and that literally goes with everything like blush placement, eyeliner, once you learn what looks good and what doesn't on your face your makeup game changes completely and then that results in an immediate shine.

The next thing is to get at least eight hours of sleep every night when you consistently sleep less than eight hours, you

actually

look tired and you don't realize it, like I promise you, if you're one of those people who sleeps less than eight hours a night. night, like every night, and You have very bad eye bags. Try to sleep eight or nine hours a night for a week straight. I'm sure your eye bags will heal on their own, unless you have genetic eye bags. Then I can't help you. Additionally, your skin becomes dull. a lot when you don't get eight hours of sleep and you won't notice either because it's constant and also, just as a bonus, try not to sleep on your side because I've always slept on my right side my whole life. and I'm sure you can't notice it now, but when my face is upside down, wow, wow, it's not, it's not good, so if you want an even face, try sleeping on your back, the last physical step is to work on your position.

I literally added this because my posture has been so bad lately. When you start fixing your posture in private, then it will automatically start correcting itself in public when someone has good posture, they actually radiate confidence as if it radiates from them, you can see it in their Aura, so these are for all my Hunchback girls Notre Dame. I'm with you, finally the part everyone was waiting for. We move on to the mental aspect that I like to call self-love because when you really start to love yourself, that spills over into every aspect of your life, the first thing is to create a mood board and specifically write down your goals, like when I say specific I'm talking about your daily goals, your weekly goals, your monthly goals, your yearly goals and your ten-year goals, and that's because when you don't have goals, it's what you're really living for, what your purpose is and that's because we all need address.

If not, we are going to be grouped together, what do I do next? There are so many things I don't know what to do. do or there is literally nothing like what I am doing with my life so we need direction and no one is going to set that up for us we have to set it up ourselves and not only do you have to write down your goals you need to write down how we are planning to achieve them and in fact I highly recommend creating a mood board because that allows you to visualize your goals and really see them and have something to constantly look at that will motivate and inspire you too if you're constantly searching.

See photos and likes the whole life of your dreams and what you want will accidentally manifest. I want to see your mood board, it could literally be on Pinterest like you don't even have to like DIY and do it, you just have to do it. Make sure you look at it constantly. The next thing is to learn new things, whether it's reading self-help books, books that interest you and you just want to learn things about literally educational YouTube videos that you find interesting or things that could really help you in your daily life, basically, learning skills that will move you forward or things you enjoy, like if you like languages, learn a new language if you're trying to be an influencer, watch videos from influencers on how to start and develop your If you want to learn how to draw for fun, find a YouTube video on how to draw for beginners and that is not only to keep your brain moving, healthy and functioning, but it will also move you forward or make you feel good.

Try meditating. I say this literally all the time on a daily basis, especially on my YouTube channel, and then I always get a couple of comments saying, well, I tried meditating but I like it, it didn't work because I was thinking too much and that's totally fine, that's totally normal, Actually meditating is learning. how to just observe your thoughts without reacting to them if an emotion arises that is totally fine but it is your reaction that matters and over time with constant meditation you literally see every situation in life in such a calm and serene I really should meditate every day and I am not a victim of that, but meditation every day literally changes you as a person, so you just observe your thoughts, feel your emotions but control your reactions and meditation helps you master that this is so important if not the most important thing and is to protect your energy by protecting your energy.

I'm talking about not doing things that drain you, like limiting your time on social media because social media drains you without you realizing it, like you probably scroll through Tick Tock just for fun. You visit the page and watch the funny videos and then without knowing it you are literally comparing yourself to everyone you meet, so I'm not going to tell you to delete all your social media because you know then you couldn't see this video . I'm joking, but it's not really realistic to get rid of all your social media, but it is realistic to limit it, but one thingyou can get rid of is the people who dream of you, you don't just limit, you completely get rid of it and sometimes, it's the people closest to you who are draining you and you don't even realize it, but then when you come back to home after being with them, you feel very tired and exhausted and if you can't separate yourself from the people they are exhausting you.

Make sure you set realistic boundaries with them for my fellow perfectionists. It also means not trying to perfect everything, not everything is going to be perfect and trying to make everything perfect is absolutely draining your life, taking the time to do things that connect you is also something that protects your energy unconsciously, it means that In these stressful situations you can literally control your emotions, your thoughts, your reactions. all of the above and it takes a lot of work to stay grounded all the time, like I wish I could be grounded all the time, there are so many ways to stay grounded, like practicing your hobbies is a big part of it, like for me when I paint I'm so focused I'm so calm I'm so serene If something were to happen at that moment I'm fine Nothing is going to affect me, actually it might be because I watch Bob Ross tutorials while I paint and his voice really calms me down. he just makes it being grounded literally means knowing who you are being confident in who you are mentally physically like it's literally the goal of life.

Some ways I like to connect in my daily life is to breathe deeply for literally three minutes straight. When I start doing it I don't really feel anything, but at the end of those three minutes it's like everything has changed. I also listen to inspiring music with happy vibes for me, nature is really something that grounds me, I think in a past life I lived. in a forest or something and doing other relaxing things, like it could be a face mask, it could be a bubble bath, the only thing that motivates you next is to identify your bad habits and try new things, the key to really shining is discovering Where did you go.

It's wrong to fix it and then get out of your comfort zone to try new things because yes, you can easily find out where you went wrong and get rid of it, but if you don't get out of your comfort zone to try new things you're not going to get much change with it. this and if I'm totally honest, you have to get out of your comfort zone first to get rid of even those bad habits, because you can't just get rid of a bad habit. You have to create a plan which would be to change it, get out of your comfort zone, blah blah, and make small changes to achieve it, so it's all one big confusing loop, you just have to take the first step and that's it.

Self-love affirmations are a real game. Changer, especially if you are bad at practicing self-love and in general being proud and confident in who you are gives you a lot of power in all aspects of your life. If you don't believe me, self-love actually does so many things. how to reduce stress and anxiety increase your confidence increase your motivation overcome your fears your self-love actually translates into your relationships with others and how healthy they are because you know the saying if you don't love yourself how do you do it? Will someone else do it for me? Whenever I see a self-love affirmation that resonates with me, I put it in my notes and every night before I go to sleep I read my long list of self-love affirmations, but girl affirmations will only get you so far Yes I am just making affirmations, they are not going to work in a simple way, since the last but not least is to take small steps.

I personally have to do it day by day because then I look at my week and then I look at my month and then I get stressed and I feel overwhelmed. I literally have to be like what am I doing today? I'll worry about tomorrow. What do I have to do now? So I literally live in the present moment. So what is happening now? What can I be grateful for right now? Do I have to achieve it and do it right now and not look back at the past like it made me so dirty? No, no, and part of taking baby steps is treating yourself when you accomplish something to improve yourself mentally or physically, or even doing it. something productive during the day and makes you feel accomplished, treat yourself because when you indulge in doing things that you try to make a habit, you subconsciously want to do those things because you are being treated for it, so yeah, that's it.

On the mental aspects I feel like I definitely forget two, five or a hundred, but lately more than ever I have been working on the mental aspect and I am starting to see more long term results, believe me, doing all these things will give me a glow. permanent because you are going to trick yourself into taking a step towards the best version of yourself and she is confident, she is grateful, she is positive, she radiates beauty and she radiates good energy, and that is why the key to all this work is coherence. I always knew how to add the mental aspect.

I always knew it except that I would add it and then not be consistent with it so I would never see results or at least I would see temporary results that wouldn't last more than two. Days like I know all this very well and I've been knowing it but I still struggle daily because it's the process anyway. I'm so sorry about all that boring stuff, let's pluck our eyebrows, what we're putting on our teeth, well. We also did our nails. I'm so excited you really thought you really thought you know what I have another video just go watch that one just go watch that one I'm kidding I really hope what I said resonated with you and I I hope it helps, together we will become the best versions of ourselves at the same time, we're both coming out at the same time and honestly, I'm really excited for us.

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