¿Eres feliz o solo sonríes? | Regina Carrot | TEDxUANL

Are you happy or do you just smile? Are you a person who lives emotions to the fullest? Do you dare or do they just pass? Are you living? Life is surviving. Are you one of those who fall in love and tear your heart or cave? Surely if you are one of those who defends your ideals, you will end By doing what the rest of the people say, I am going to tell you a very important thing, the life you want is outside these doors and I am not coming here to blame you or anything, I am coming to accept that I am also afraid because most of People don't do it, we don't dare to do things because we're not very afraid, but that's why I ask you that question.

First, are you not happy or are you just smiling? I'm going to confess a very important thing about me. The truth is, until a few days or a few weeks ago. I asked myself this very important question because I am almost 31 years old and the truth is that I think I am late that is why it is important that you listen to this message and I will tell you a little about my history before I started doing YouTube to give lectures to have the millions of views I wanted to inspire people and I can give them through acting and singing I have always been a very dreamy person, very dreamy with very big dreams from Mexico from Monterrey Nuevo León where I wanted to appear on television. an opportunity in 2007 and by chance of fate and after a lot of preparation and many rejections and reinventing myself and going through a line where there were girls taller than me but shorter girls more dangerous less redheads more than things that did not decide to give me one of The four leading roles in this series were a very large television station in the country of Mexico, it took two years from 2007-2009 and I already saw myself saying, it's true, I'm achieving what I want, however, by doing all of that, I honestly didn't expect that I wouldn't.

It was going to work, I didn't expect that reaction, so I was at a point where what am I doing? If society, the system is always teaching us and telling us that for you to be happy, it tells you that you need to complete your studies, preferably a degree in business, not engineering. because if you dedicate yourself to the arts or communication they are going to ask you questions like I have been asked all my life Jay, you live from that and you live from the videos and like both but you don't go to a doctor and ask him that is true then when you have a whole career after getting married that the cleaning society imparts and after that having children I said it is certain that you are going to be happy so you better take that security I was taking another path completely I was challenging a little by testing the system and society and I had that light in my head that said to originate, they were right, they were right, you shouldn't have taken the risk, of course, who lives off the arts, right, but it turns out that after that I said, I'm not going to give up, I'm not going to listen to that evil little voice in front of me.

What I'm going to do is I'm going to try again and I reinvented myself, I released an original unreleased album and I faced many rejections from record labels where they called me son of the Queen, you know what the truth is that you're not that strong or that you bring a lot. pop and there is someone who is doing the same or at that time it was the novel of rebel the profound success and now fun fun clan of all the characters told me that it is already sweet Maria is redhead and the truth is that it costs us less to invest in it People already know her and get something out of her to make yourself known to you, all this was before social networks, it was not like now that you can catapult yourself and create your own destiny, I leave after there, the truth is with my head down.

Stressed, I didn't know what to do and suddenly I discovered that the management I had was stealing money from me and I remember very well that my mother told me Regina, you better go back, please, go back to Monterrey and Paloma, do the famous saying and stay calm, it's a normal life, I'm a career and said and done and he accepted them, I threw in the towel because in many conferences I'm sure you have had to see where no one wants to accept it. If I tell them, you have the towel, I gave up and was studying the international market.

I am very happy and to be able to pay for my screenwriting career a work then let's say that the artistic part of inspiring people and sending messages through so much performance is already going on and I had already said goodbye and suddenly when it comes to a job of organizing a swimming pool if they make me be housed where I coordinate The public relations people got sponsorships, they paid me well, it was in the afternoons and evenings on weekends, so in the morning I would arrive and go to the university very tired and after doing that at brand events and people would say well that you are very good at talking he is very good with relationships you look good in this business I couldn't sustain that lifestyle because I came to university very tired and I needed to get my degree I needed to get my degree because I was being happy I invited him to reach that step to then I got married and then had children so at least it was going well because remember that I had lost about five years between the whole part of the series and the acting I had no time to waste so it turns out and what ended up happening was all that artistic part all That part that was Regina I put on pause a little and I stopped being me and started the next job I did was nothing more than selling houses and I was in real estate it's true it's also real estate I interacted well with people I went to the tweets They are on the road, imagine, but I was already working in the same marketing field and that gave me money but it was until I sold a house and I remember that the first house or the 20th only house that I sold cost me a lot of work but after four months of insisting on taking clients to see how we could negotiate it worked and I said I like it but I'm not passionate about it I think that's not Regina that's the new Regina Carrot I'm going to do I don't know so I quit the university and in that I say well no I'm going to return to the artistic part, it's a lot of risk but I'm not going to go to the market either.

I think I've already gone through many nuances so what I'm going to do now is find something in the middle and there was a very important marketing position. brand coordinator and that coordination was from a multinational food and beverage company that I'm sure everyone knows here to manage the part of a cookie brand that talked about power and that cookie brand had 4,000 people of applicants who wanted to have that position. another style of casting in my life and thanks to

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well are you happy or are you just smiling I need to achieve that happiness I already have my diploma I'm already a marketing graduate now I have to get it it went through many filters and there are only 12 people left of those 12 people it turns out They call us to the vice presidents' room as if from a movie, a long dark table is pure people over 50 years old who are looking at you and it does not cause any emotion on their faces.

It was there where everyone presented who they were, very formally with godín pants the same and with the jinx being the typical thing and me a little more rebellious out of the ordinary with some printed boots there is a pair of pants that also had some words of course that all the people in line saw me and said son what a fool I don't do it anymore They grab me and I don't know what a fool she is digging her own grave. It turns out that I introduced myself with a video that was a video that I recorded at my house, which was a song that introduced me and told me everything I had done in my career.

After that interview, I They spoke automatically and gave me the position and told me that it was because of the creativity, because even though it was a serious company, of course you are going to the goddamn world, I respect it a lot because I worked there for many years, the truth is that they sought to think outside the box. the box then I began to see different ways to be happy and different ways to find my way I went together with product rotation and I began to make videos on how to get the power out of these famous cookies so that finances would buy us the initiative to be happy turned out I became very good at videos and someone was already saying that to refine the video we have to make a video that we make tell Regina not to talk to the agency and I opened my YouTube channel without having direction without knowing what it was going to be I just knew that the reggina

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and I uploaded things about everything, tutorials, etc., but it was a hobby, suddenly in a very stressful meeting, the regional marketing director told me, let's see, come over here because I see you so stressed, you're happy, I said, of course, we're about to to promote you we are about to launch tea for Mexico City we want to bring you you have a lot of growth you are doing very well and in health you are happy you just smile and after a lot of work imagine after 4000 people having been chosen for this position and having some type of security, I had to tell him, you know, no, I'm not happy because this is not my passion and people questioned me and called me Regina, but look at all the four years you've invested in this multinational cookie company, what are you going to do and I decided not to.

I went to Mexico City, which was the promotion and I was left at zero. Imagine managing more than 50 people, to fulfill myself in my career, I gave up everything and it was when I was reading a lot a book by the Dalai Lama that said that happiness is found when you help the rest of the people I remembered if I said I have to return to my purpose to inspire empower help I was a 27 year old girl, imagine a 27 year old girl making videos where 5 or 10 people saw it 200 where she will receive critical ridicule the People were constantly laughing at me because I wasn't fashionable and nowadays, being an influencer, YouTuber, blogger and in truth people question refined clairvoyance, I vote, imagine that you are going to take over the management and that's when I said, I'm tired of not be me and I'm going to talk about things that come from the bottom of my heart so I started talking about things like the first video when you feel afraid in your life of things like how to be happy but not from the point of consumer psychology that It was what I saw in marketing but from the people's point of view, that's why I specialized in positive psychology and I said it's true, I put a cap on my back for the people who have seen these videos, I always bring tennis shoes, sometimes I don't even get dressed. and that was what began to give growth to the social network and all the networks suddenly after seven eight months began to be viral and suddenly those videos that everyone laughed at and told me you are throwing all the garbage away see how you are going to die of hunger, imagine I was not married, I was already 27 years old, in many places they tell you that if not, you are already a friend by that age, I was following it, the system is not going to be happy, poor thing, and those videos suddenly become They turned into not only five thousand one million views but 100 million but I'm not int

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ted in being able to change lives. Inspire if I can change your life just by opening it. the door today at the convenience store that is the important thing and that's how it was the first is that I received a case that tells me Regina by chance of fate I am from Ecuador I received a recommended message from you on networks that is called with hundred million your life I had already tried three times to take my life he tells me and thanks to that silino video and I want to send it to you because every day I play your video these types of things leave you cold they leave you cold they leave you paralyzed for a while and You say there's a reason I'm making these videos so that if it can help someone in the slightest that's what we should do, unfortunately out of fear we stop ourselves and we don't do things and one of my favorite books by Hector del Poder de la Hora talks about that.

He says if you are thinking all your life about what is going to happen in the future, that something is going to happen to me, I am not going to risk it, you are not going to do anything, you are going to live with ghosts all your life, you need to live in the now, that's what unique and it was what I began to do living in the now a study at Harvard University in 1955 took 250 men and those men studied for 50 years and they wanted to study what happiness was where people's happiness came from because it is not a destination it is not something tangible it is not happiness it is not a car a car a house not even happiness ends up being your partner what you say is that without you I am not happy no happiness cannot be seen and found from the product and I said that interpersonal relationships, the relationship with yourself, was what gave people happiness throughout these 50 years, but it's not that you are a social person or it's not what relationship you have with yourself, you're giving them pleasure in all that. people out there are making you happy or you are making people happy with what they want you to be basically I'm going to tell you one thing it's time for you to please dare take the risk of doing things because one of those you can get it right because they rejected me many times and told me you are not going to make a living from the videos you are not going to do well you are not going to do anything in life no after all those millions of views I learned one thing one thing is the What do you think you should do, the same thing society tells you, you must be married before you are 30, something else is what you want, if you tell me I want to be a doctor or I want to travel around the world, go ahead and that is your happiness is different. to mine and something else is what you end up doing that normally you end up doing nothing of what you wanted and you just end up smiling so I decided to erase that smile and that's it it hurt me to be smiling so much to be in a fake person and draw me to the happiness inside here that is found here inside of us as being myself being authentic through that thing I realized that I was happy and that girl that you see on the screen that has a cap like that skater just the same and is not the typical girl that they tell yousometimes be more feminine change something you're not going to hit lower your neckline open up a little more that girl was the one who ended up being able to dedicate herself to what she was most passionate about and make a living from art and I ended up being happy as well as being happy a week ago in Miami also realizing that If dreams could be achieved by signing my first book, how I realized that I was happy because I was inspiring people by launching the first Werthein Mind tour in America.

How I realized that I was happy because what you see on the screen, the little

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is full of scars full of many mistakes full of many rejections today but a person who always wants to look for the best in people and try to inspire and inspire them that you find that part of you that is very united so from choices I hope that you please You realize that it is important sometimes to take risks, not as Gene Kelly said, you have to protect your dreams because it is something that no one can take away from you, people will probably take it away from you, people who do not believe and did not do well, but if you can have the opportunity to fail at something you don't like, just try to try something you love because maybe even in one of those and you can give them so please choose to be happy don't wait for everything to be perfect please please please please Follow your dreams, that is the most important happiness you have to have in your life, so I always tell everyone, dance in the rain, no matter what woman you are, write to who you miss, let yourself take care of the place, don't fall in love with someone, and that's it, serenade.

Because it is better to die trying over and over again than to die without doing anything, so I ask you for the last time, are you happy or are you just smiling?