Christian Message to SINGLES about DATING

you're really whole and that's exactly why those relationships don't work because when you're not whole you're like a bleeding person who goes out into the sea full of sharks hoping to have fun, you always end up in someone's lunch, people say. Why are these bad people always attracted to me? Sharks smell blood. There are evil people in this world and they smell a lot of times you could even see people among us and I am not going to point fingers or denounce anyone. That was Paula's job last week. We did an incredible job. We were watching the live stream and we were like, "I hope she doesn't do it." Call anyone on the live stream that you're there, but sometimes I see young guys or girls by the way they dress, the kind of attention they seek and you know it's not because they want to, it's because they are suffering and the next thing What happens is the kind of guys get the kind of things they get eventually they're like man, I always break my heart, I'm always tough, I always understand, you know these people that leave me hurt, I said, well, you know, if you stop set the hook, you will stop.

Attracting those things, but the reason we put that bait is because we are suffering, it is not because we want to act this way, it is because we grew up without a father or maybe we have been abused before or maybe we feel very unsafe, etc. I want to tell you something: God first wants us to find fulfillment in him. If you're taking notes, he writes this down. The relationship with God will make you complete. All relationships will reveal your holes. Every relationship in your life will actually expose the holes you have. I am only in a relationship it will make you feel complete if I hear another young person say that he makes me whole for me it is a first sign that they are broken if she makes you whole that means you ruined it you have to come in I am already whole he God makes me complete and the other person comes in and guess what happens when you hold you don't have to settle for anything or anyone who has a lust problem who has control of the problem who has a manipulation problem you don't have to send your nudes you don't have to have sex no you have to give yourself to a cheap wife because you know you don't need them to be you you are yourself you found yourself in god I know he's sexy I know he's romantic I know he sounds cute on Instagram he completes me he completes me all those things are garbage it just means that you are in love you are drunk with infatuation and the same god that completes you then starts stalking all your friends and sending all kinds of bad things on you and destroying your reputation, because if you give someone the power to heal you, they will destroy you.

I go into a relationship knowing one thing: there is only one person in this world who has a relationship with Make me whole and break me to pieces and that person is the one who died on the cross for me and that's why when I get married, when I date, I don't come to be complete, I come to be blessed, I come to bless I come to love I come to bless why you don't have the power to heal me and you don't have the power to hurt me why because I am complete for god's sake come on someone but you must understand no matter how complete you are get that every person in this room has some holes the holes are the things that your attitude when you are one of your brothers is preparing the holes is when someone cuts you off maybe you are making the holes maybe when the manager you know you gets on that 4th of July shift and asks you to work and you have a barbecue to go to and you say that's a hole for some of you, it's all maybe the fact that you know you're addicted to something that's a whole and many times when you get into a relationship you recognize that you are perfect but then they start to reveal your holes and that's why in many people, of course, they say: "Oh my God, I made a wrong decision, not you." you didn't make the wrong decision you have had these holes your whole life your mom told you you had these holes your brother told you you had these holes your pastor told you you have these holes your youth group leader told you you have these holes but always You said it's not your fault and now you have someone under your nose saying you know what you have to deal with it or we're going to have problems and guys like I finally got to him marriage isn't meant to make you happy first it's meant to make you holy and if it doesn't make you holy it will make you miserable but if it makes you holy it will make you happy any other relationship won't make you whole temporarily it will make you feel like it's so perfect and then three months later you find out it's so perverted oh wow , from perfect man to pervert, he makes me feel so beautiful and just three weeks later, I'm sick of him, why every time you give someone the power to make you whole?

You will destroy your world like Thanos just write this the relationship with God satisfies every other relationship magnifies every relationship in your life including the relationship you will have with other people it will magnify who you are only the relationship with God will satisfy someone says satisfy someone says magnify that God satisfies magnified relationships If you are satisfied in God when another person comes into your life they will magnify that satisfaction, for example, if you are a young girl and you know that you are beautiful because your dad told you that you are beautiful because God told you that you are beautiful, you The next thing that will happen is another person, another man will come into your life at the right time and this is what is going to happen, they will magnify what you already know about yourself, but if you walk around knowing that you are You are ugly if you walk around you feel like you are not You are worth nothing no one will love you and this is what typically happens somehow in this crazy universe you tend to attract exactly the same people who after two or three months start telling you exactly the same thing What you have been telling yourself for 20 years and people say why do I attract that kind of thing?

Because look, what you believe about yourself is a magnet that attracts the exact same thing. If you are alone you begin to attract more loneliness if you are sad you begin to attract more sadness and that is why I want to challenge you today to face God and begin to find a relationship with Jesus where he can satisfy you and then God will bring other people who will magnify you. , which will magnify what you entered, they will make it even more so if you are broke as a single person. Can I give you a secret? No man will solve your financial problems.

He is like that woman who married a man and boasted about it. he was a millionaire they asked him who he was before I met him she was like he was a billionaire he was a billionaire before I met him because when you are broke you get married you become more broke but if you know how to manage finances if you know how to manage your emotions if you know how to manage your time you get married that starts to grow you have intimacy with god you have a devotional life even though you are in school even though you are at work you still find time to read the word of god this is crazy how it happens you get married and you discover that your relationship with god actually grows someone else gets married and you discover that they have no relationship with god at all why because they have never had one the relationship with god to begin with marriage does not change you it only reveals and magnifies what you already you have inside you have anger it will only be more anger you have sadness there will be more sadness you have depression marriage won't fix if marriage would fix depression if marriage would fix lust some people some guy likes the man I struggle with porn I just need to get married so I can have free sex you are crazy marriage is not going to free you if marriage were a liberator God would not send Jesus Christ to die on the cross for you, he will send marriage to die on the cross for you.

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what can only be found in liberation, I believe that if you do not walk with God, your romantic relationship marks my words , I know some of you, I'm looking at you, it's going through your thick skull right now, it's completely fine, I'll still be here when you're broken and heartbroken and crying, but I'm going to tell you this.

I have seen these 16 years in youth ministry. I've seen this everywhere where romance turns into rehab when you're not intimate with God and you see a poor girl helping a guy get over his cheating problem because she's so insecure instead of dropping him like a hot potato, she she's literally taking care of that guy who literally needs rehab or you see the same guy putting up with the girl who literally has a jezebel spirit, she's devoted, it's not a date, it's the reason why he's putting up with her because it's very pretty the bible says that a pretty woman with no brain is a pig with a gold ring in her nose homelice you are dating a pig the girl at home is a witch she is a manipulative controlling maniac the fact that she looks great no It means nothing more than why do we do that because without the relationship with god we don't have the confidence to sing no, no, that's not right for me, I know you're sexy but hell is too and I don't want to be with hell, oh , but he is so good.

You see the BMW he drives. Do you know what it is. He is so good. Those biceps and triceps. Did you see that? Do you see his hair? I mean, he even does his eyelashes. and he's going to shave and everything, I just know that he has an addiction to pornography, I know that he sleeps with anything that moves, but we can change that, no, no, no, no, no, no, if you don't have intimacy with God, you will convert. How you will get the most out of your relationship in rehab. I can't tell you how many people I met even this week over 13 years.

They are not married for 12 years, they are in a rehabilitation program and the other spouse continues to take the same classes. every year and I can't graduate and they are sucking your life away, people literally telling me I already tried to end my life why, because this rehab sucks, marriage was supposed to be a place of love, that's what they expected . it became a prison sentence god doesn't want it to be for you but it will happen and you will never be able to see the difference between love and lust if you don't have intimacy with god intimacy with god who gives you protection intimacy with god allows the weirdos to keep away from you and from you to smell where the weirdo is coming saying you know what hit the road jack said I'm not uh, I protected my purity for 12 years, not so I could live in rehab in my romance no, no , no, that's it, that's not it, I prayed, I didn't fast to be able to have a handsome boy, I need a good man with good morals, with his head screwed on his shoulder, with his heart in the right place, like someone who uses his hands to pick up the shopping not to slap me someone who is not a player but someone who is a priest in the house someone who knows how to pray someone who knows how to read the Bible not only someone who is always on his phone but someone who is always connected to god and then you start to know why because you are in the relationship with god because someone says man, I want you to see Adam, spend time with God and then God comes to Adam and says Adam, you need to get married. and Adam is as if married.

Which I mean, I've never seen that happen, God, because look, he was so lost in God that God had to tell him that hey, you need someone in your life, so Adam says, Well, okay, God, what? do you want me to do? do and the scripture says we read that Adam was naming animals but it was not found someone said found come on someone says found the word found indicates that someone was looking correctly so when someone says found or not found it means someone was searching yes yes yes send you say you could you could find my keys and you come back and say I didn't find your keys it means you were again, that means while Adam names animals giraffe elephant snake hyena lion Adam searches naming and looking ever did two things at the same time so Adam names at the same time looking I think she's imagining it's like we ended up together elephant they looked at the rattlesnake how the children will turn out oh my god have mercy and then there she was a glorious monkey a little too much here but there's nothing god can't make my god is the god of laser surgery impossible hair removal surgery my god is the god of miracles there she was the only thing that was as close to a human as a man had ever seen and I'm pretty sure Adam said : "You know, it's not the best option, but you know, with a little disciplinary surgery and a little miraculous power from God, we can make this work.

Look, this Adam doesn't come to God and say God. Look what I found, could you do a little tune-up, do a little fixing, change the oil, change the tires, do everything, you know, you know Adam doesn't really he had other options, there was no one else around, it's not like Adam could go to Mars and find someone there, there was no one around, Adam should have settled for a monkey because there was no one else instead of Adam, he went back to God He shook his head and said God, I looked everywhere, I found something you could work on, but I decided that I don't want to bring you someone to work with, I want you to bring me someone inwho you have been working before God brings you one eve the devil will offer you a monkey come on, let's preach right there someone say amen before God brings You will see, I want you to see this.

God didn't go and put Adam to sleep along the way and say, "Hey, here's your wife." God actually sends him for him because he wants the generation after Adam to know that before God brings anyone. For you, you will be tempted to bring someone to God so that God can fix it. Pastor is my boyfriend. This is a big anger. The problem slaps me in the face, but God can deliver it. Can God deliver him? Aha, he can, but that's a monkey. Why anyone you bring to God while you're dating? For God to fix it, he is your monkey.

I'm not saying look. like a monkey, I'm not saying behave like a monkey, what I mean is that you are not waiting for god to bring you someone he has been working on, you are bringing someone before god for god to work on and that is your monkey and that's just I want to tell someone here a prophetic word right now don't hang out with monkeys a monkey is someone who doesn't share your faith someone who doesn't share your values ​​and someone who has a very chronic problem right now like addiction abuse problem fly anger problem demonic possession demonic oppression is addicted to drugs pornography masturbation parties like an animal he cheats on you disrespects you he belittles you and you're not even married that person is a monkey you have to run away from him like a plague why because that It is the work of the devil and he is bringing you a monkey God has someone else for you but before God brings you someone who was going to offer you someone first a monkey is someone who is sexy but he is not holy, he is someone you will look for flirting so you can convert is someone so you can, well, you know, I heard this one time a girl said all Christian guys are so ugly and they're not as fun and they're so boring and they look like you know it and just all these they're like non-Christian guys they're so exciting they're so amazing they're like they know how to treat a girl that's the problem and then there's girls in particular would say this or guys the same would apply to guys I'm going to take him to church I'm going to beat God I'm going to save him then we'll get married and they'll be happy forever because I know some people in our church.

Look, I know that couple over there. The girl was in her church and went into the world. She got a boy. She saved him. She got married and now you know. You are doing very well. Did you know that the Bible says to win the world? Not dating the world Did you know that the Bible says not to be friends with the world in order to witness to the world? Not dating the world every time you go out with someone so you can convert them to your religion or your faith, shame on you and if you're here today and you're not a Christian and a Christian is dating, you quit because let me tell you something. . about them is that while they are dating you they are secretly praying for you they are not interested only in you they want to save you they have points they need to score with god your project that is not right are you with me?

This whole idea, well, I know people, it worked. You know, my brother fell from a second-story building when he was young in Ukraine. I saw that my angel brother, the guy has long hair right in front of my eyes, on the second floor building, with his head down. concrete I saw blood coming out of his eyes his nose his ears I saw blood coming out of every part of his body that had an opening we picked him up he was unconscious we thought he had died he had such a bad shock that he got his hair back it's growing so fast now I don't know if it's because he hit his head really hard, but his hair is as you can see, it's like it's very long hair, now that's a powerful testimony, the second story in the concrete the hair is growing fast, so we should all go today and jump from a second story building onto concrete and see how fast our hair can grow, let's do it, you always look at who it is, you are or something, what's wrong with you, their testimony is not your example, are you with me, monkey ? it's someone who doesn't share your value in faith monkey someone who's playing who's who are you praying for god to fix mono is someone you're dating out of desperation and impatience and number three let's pray for god is preparing yourself for the person who he is preparing for you god is preparing you for the person he is preparing for you so adam comes to god they have had a great relationship adam has had a job adam has named the animals and i was looking for a spouse, he couldn't find no one and refused to settle for an animal for God to fix.

He comes to God and says God, you know I can't find anyone, but God, could you help me with that? and God says yes. I have this amazing thing that I want to give you a solution for and Adam is like dude, let's do this. What is Christian Mingle ready for single or Christian single ready for mingle.com sign me up sir and God gave him this as he puts it? to sleep, give it to anastasia and uh anesthesia, god actually gives him an anastasia, he just puts him to sleep and while Adam was sleeping, I want you to see that Adam is sleeping and you would think that God is working on his wife, in fact, God was working. about Adam, not about his wife and while he was working on Adam, somehow his wife showed up.

Look at this deal where people say I'm just waiting for God. God is working on someone. In reality, the only God. The only way God will bring someone he's been to. working on is yes while you wait he is working on you god is preparing you for someone is preparing for you someone says man in psalm 90 says this is that our years on this earth are 70 years 70 years is the life on this earth and anything over 70 is a bonus, so if you listen to your parents, if you were eating broccoli, if you weren't eating a lot of sugar, if you weren't drinking a lot of Red Bulls, God says you know what you're probably going to live up to. to 80. but like you're playing really bad with your parents, you know, eating, not eating green vegetables and just drinking a lot of sugar and all that, because 70 is going to be the maximum, now do the math, let's do it. mathematics how old are you as a teenager 13 14 15 16 17 18 19. how many how many what is seven out of seventy come on let me know school is over so seven out of seven is what 10 what 10 what is this your teenage years are the 10 of your life your teenage years are your tithes to god god wants you to give your adolescence in the same way that you give the tithe completely to god your teenage years have to be given to god in the same way that it is given your tithe to god if you keep your adolescence by dating someone, fornicating, just partying and just for yourself, it's the same as taking your tithe and not giving it to god, but going to spiderman, god wants you let's do it. take our tithe and give it to him why because so that the rest of the 90's are blessed god wants us to take our teenage years and give 100 to god why so that the rest of the 60's or 70's are blessed by Him, Can someone say amen?

Your teenage years are decimated to God, so he looks, this god comes to Adam and God puts him to sleep and while Adam sleeps, he's under this thing. God is working on him like a doctor. I had two eye surgeries and both. Of the times I had eye surgery the doctor wasn't working on me until he put me to sleep when he put me to sleep he didn't kill me when he put me to sleep I was in a coma but I was unconscious I don't remember anything about what was happening the only thing What I remember is that I woke up hours later it felt like an eternity I woke up hours later and like I opened my eyes and I felt like something was different about me now it wasn't like that it wasn't the same and I discovered that the surgery was over.

See, when you're a teenager, God wants to put you in a sexual dream where you close your eyes and God starts working on you. There are some things that God will never be able to. work on you until you are sexually asleep, what does that mean sexually asleep? Stop looking for someone to date. You stop looking for someone to love you. Stop searching as long as there is a teenager attached to your age. God wants you to go. to sleep another reason why god wants you to sleep why do you sleep at night why do you rest at night to recharge why then when you wake up what so that you can have energy for what for the day so that when you wake up you can have energy for The Day, what if I told you that God wants you, as a teenager, to be sexually asleep so that when the time comes to get married you can have energy for your marriage?

What if I told you that God wants you to say all your kisses and everything? of your hangouts and all your roses and all your ah's you're so sweet you're so good you're so cool what if I told you that god wants you to keep all that and not throw it away but say hey why Don't you date your partner instead of dating someone in high school? Why don't you have your best dating romance and all that in your marriage instead of having it in high school with people whose names you'll never remember when you get married and then when you get married, you and your spouse feel like cranky old men, It's not fun, it's not exciting, what, but the days in high school, party time, oh that was fun because you were up at night and now you sleep during the day. marriages don't come out couples get married and their marriage is like an arrangement their marriage there is no fun there there is no excitement there are no kids anymore they don't open the doors they don't bring flowers there there is none of that you know where all that exists in school high school with people whose names you don't remember and the person you gave your heart to the person you said I am I am you that for me that person doesn't get anything why that person doesn't get anything because the night was supposed to be a time when you recharged for the day for your soulmate for the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with.

The problem is that most of us go to parties at night, which is our adolescence. having fun and then when we get married, we go, oh that one you're still married to you, okay, oh man, my life is boring, you're boring and you're kind of ugly, you're gaining a few pounds, my life sucks, let's not go? On a date with us we don't have the luxury of knowing things and you look like a man, I didn't get married for that reason, why does that happen in our generation? Why are all romantic partners in high school, college, and when they get married? everything is boring predictable boring could it be that marriage is supposed to have energy but we waste it in adolescence on people we will never spend our lives with rick warren said this he said if there will be more courtship in our marriages the less of our marriages will be in the courts, can I challenge them with something right now?

Some of you are here today it's 10 p.m. m. in their lives and I tell them to go to sleep why, because they have a day coming, there is someone that God is bringing into their lives. and God wants you to be prepared for them God wants you to have energy for them God wants you to have the best, the best, the best, not just before the wedding, after the wedding, continuing everything until you retire, God wants you have that. and god wants you to save not just your body, god wants you to postpone things for your marriage so that your marriage is fun, your marriage is exciting, but many people here today sadly say that your marriage will have to run on caffeine and red bull because it is TRUE. now you woke up one time I went to a summer camp not to mention what youth group and uh they placed me with the kids where the kids slept the kids slept upstairs on the floor so I was on the first floor me and my wife and the kids were on the second floor at night, we were going to sleep at 11 o'clock and I heard this so I thought an earthquake had happened and I grabbed my wife's head.

I said, honey, are you okay? She says, yes, I am. Okay, so I got to the point where it got so loud it was like midnight. I got out of bed and then went to look for some volunteers or some people. Hey guys, could you find out if there is a nuclear weapon? They have dismantled me upstairs because I feel like I'm dying down there. I feel like they're going to crash through the ceiling like the guy who was paralyzed in the Bible. They went through it. I feel like that's exactly what's going to happen. There were teenagers who decided to turn the bunk beds into soccer goals they moved the bunk beds and played soccer at midnight and somehow without lights the bunk fell down now I don't know how they survived that so I guess when that boom was when the bunk Fed fell, they still continue to play soccer without lights.

I'm kind of surprised by how much energy they had, but look, no one is like God, you don't have energy for 24 hours, you only have energy for 12. And the next morning, do it. Do you know how I knew which guys played football? The guys who struggle to pay attention and I knew right away those were the guys. I know that because you are yawning and I always tell this to people that the night is supposed to be a time not in which you play football in your room but in which you sleep and rest so that during the day you can be excited, you can bepassionate with one. spouse I don't love a thousand different women but I love the same woman in a thousand different ways and for that to happen you have to be rested and you have to be recharged someone says amen someone says amen god wants you to fall asleep sexually some of you here today is no it's your time to get married it's not your time to date when you're ready to date when you don't need to secondly we know when you're ready to date when you're ready to get married so let me ask you a question with the next 12 months are you ready to get married? marriage is an option. with the next 12 months, okay, most of you go like this.

You just answered if you are ready to date. If you're dating without the intention of getting married, it's the same thing. like going to the mall without money or you will be dissatisfied or you will take something that is not yours dating is not for fun what is fun is hiding hiking badger dating is not for fun what is fun fun is going to life group dates are not for fun what is fun is learning to minister learn how to start a business that is fun learn how to fix a car learn how to get a car pay for the car get a job that is for fun get it get some friends that is fun we don't date for fun let's involve someone's heart and emotions dating has an intention and that intention has to lead to marriage and if marriage is not an option dating is not an option either so I just want to encourage you until that time until dating is become an option.

Can I give you a suggestion? to sleep, how are you going to sleep? Oh it's very simple, you turn off the distractions in your bed, you turn off the notifications on your phone and secondly you go to bed and then you close your eyes, that means you turn off the distractions around you. You, if someone is distracted, you separate them from your life by going to bed, which means you develop an intimacy with God and then you intentionally choose to close your eyes, which means you come to church for God, not for him, her and them, that means you stop having personal relationships. relationships with someone who is not your spouse as if you were dating them when you were a young girl learn to talk to guys the same way you would talk to guys if you were married right now girls who are talking to all the guys why? because i'm single you're developing a habit that will continue after you get married god doesn't want you to do that the bible says blessed is the man who finds your wife doesn't it say blessed is the man who finds a woman i mean i was acting like a wife before of being a wife, she didn't talk to anything that moved, she was already keeping herself, which means she already had her eyes closed from her boys, the same with the boys, that means sending direct

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s on Snapchat, you know, sending all of them. types of photos that are completely explicit have very explicit conversations spend time one on one on the mountain top let me prophesy and pray for you all that nonsense has to stop go to sleep sunshine go to sleep what if now You yourself went to sleep and you realize, you know what woke you up, this handsome boy sends you a photo and says that he likes you and you realize, you just woke up, it's the same thing you do if you wake up at three in the morning, you know, You look, it's like you know it's three in the morning, you know, uh, how I woke up, I'm just going to stay awake, no, no, you say, you know what, I'll go back to sleep if you wake up already. maybe you had a sexual relationship maybe you were involved and emotionally and you realize you know it's not your time.

Can I ask you something right now? It's three in the morning. You still have a lot of sleep to do. There is a day that is waiting. for you there is an incredible marriage there is an incredible husband there is an incredible wife there is an incredible destiny this wedding you do not need to put it in danger so you can live it in the red bull go back to sleep until the day comes in your life and trust me it will enter in my life will come into your life there will be that day I remember when a guy one of the guys we married and he is a vlad this is crazy it's like I'm of age the person what I like is actually right , he says every time I like someone they make a mistake, everyone told me what's wrong and he said I thought they would never come but now this is like I'm scared what do I do, I said enjoy it. full you've been praying for this you've been watching this I'm like you sacrificed for this enjoy it I'm like it's seven in the morning the alarm has gone off brother it's time to wake up it's time to enjoy your life My friend, if you're going to sleep well , God will wake you up well and you will have a wonderful life.

Your destiny will be blessed by God. Your relationships will be blessed by God. Your purity will be blessed by God. Come on, someone put you on. your hands joined for Jesus Christ right now hallelujah