Why we aren't married...

Hello guys and welcome back to my channel, so today I wanted to talk about something very exciting that I received for Christmas and I was meaning to make this video, but I haven't had a chance to until today. I rewound a little. I had told Cisco that I didn't want anything for Christmas because literally, guys, if I want something, I can go out and buy it if I want, like makeup, perfume, or basically anything, stickers, planners, whatever I can get my hands on. I just went out and bought it myself so I thought let's just not do gifts, if we do give gifts let's do them for Leilani, for the little ones, our family, my mom and dad, your brother and his family and the people who are coming to Our house is basically what I said, let's have gifts for other people and not so much for ourselves.

I have been so blessed to have so much more of what a human being needs, to feel so happy and fulfilled and I just don't need to let this go anymore. which I was like I just don't care about me I'll be fine I'll show them he obviously got me other things could you show them how you would show him but we didn't give gifts last year and I know you guys wanted me to do what bought for Christmas and stuff but I don't really have anything to show you other than some little things but he actually gave me a ring for Christmas and it was so unexpected that I wanted to make a video dedicated to it because a lot of you were asking why why not do you have a ring like why why aren't you gay why aren't you

married

why do you why do you have a kid but We're not

married

yet people always ask so I thought I'd make a video and address it here so that if a people like to watch my older videos and they are just curious, they can come and just watch the video. so I totally understand that it's a tradition or that's the traditional way of doing things like getting engaged, getting married, having a house or whatever the case may be, there's a certain order that you have to follow and I don't think it should be like that.

In the case, I mean, obviously, I'm not saying this is the way to live your life or this is the only way, this is the right way, but this is who I am and this is what I believe to be true. and that is. to really know who you're going to be with, to really know them, you can't get to know someone just by being with them for like a year. I've been at Cisco for over ten years, so it's not like I don't know about it. It's not that he doesn't know me. I know him very well.

I know how to make him angry very quickly and he knows how to make me angry very quickly. We both know each other very well. You would know a lot about each other. We know a lot about each other. our phobias or we were afraid we have grown I mean, I have known him since my first job and we have grown together we are like learning together we already have leilani and she is two years old and I understand it, some people don't I like the fact that we didn't do it somehow. I totally get it, but we're not perfect and I'm okay with that.

I'm okay with not being perfect. I'm okay with not knowing what's going to happen. I'm okay with that as long as our relationship is healthy. I don't believe that a ring or a document measures love. Not really. It doesn't measure the love I have for Cisco. It doesn't measure the love he has for me. For me, he's all materialistic and it's not that he's ungrateful. I'm so grateful for that, but I just wanted to say it because I know a lot of people were asking me, "I have my ring now and I'm so happy with it, it means a lot to me because he picked it himself.

I didn't want to be like oh and it needs to look a certain way." way or it has to be a certain way like no, I want you to choose it, I want it to be special and I say, you know, I told them if you ever end up buying me a ring, choose it for me and I'm happy with it, you know, and I don't want to cry because come on, like I'm going to. I get emotional, but guys, I hope to get my message across and I don't think a ring or a document should define your relationship with your partner, your significant other, or whoever you're with.

It's more than that. much more, much bigger than that, I'm grateful, I'm really grateful and I've told you this so many times it means a lot and the way he did it was also very cute because he was giving printed gifts to everyone and I was like not expecting anything because I didn't have to buy anything for Christmas. I opened mine and mine was like puzzles like the ones at Dollar Tree, but he said it's really hard to figure me out and he gave me puzzles like they were little letters. gift and then in the bag along with the puzzles and stuff was the ring, so it was so adorable and so cute that you can believe it because you know I'm very small, my ring finger is three and a half like I had to get it. resized because I'm really small, three and a half, like the standard ring is like a seven.

I think like a seven Masai, seven and I'm three and a half, like I'm the size of a kid, so anyway I wanted to share that with you. and I know it wasn't the traditional way that people like to do things, like when I first had Leilani and then I got engaged, and I want everyone to know that it's okay, there's nothing wrong with that , as long as they actually get to do it. Get to know that other person, as long as you are both happy, it can't be one-sided, as long as you are both happy, it doesn't matter, there is no time frame, you shouldn't rush things and that is the best advice.

I can tell any of you to be patient. I didn't expect it at all. I think everything has to work a certain way. I would love to know your opinion in the comments. I know some people are very strict about this. how things should happen, but I think in my experience, when you try to force things or almost control things to happen a certain way, they don't end up working out as well as you'd like and it's just not a good ending. At least I figured it out anyway I'm going to stop rambling. I wanted to share this news because it's so exciting, it's a blessing and yes, it's my little ring, it's so cute and he did such a good job as if I had little. diamonds everywhere like the sides and I loved it so much he did a good job and I wouldn't have it any other way so I wanted to show you some other things he got me for Christmas. even though I wasn't supposed to and it's these highlight palettes that I really like it's been like my new thing so this is from VB it's called glow and it has these colors in here and then she also bought me this one which is from beauty treats s1 they call it out of this world ultra pigmented six shade universal highlighter booklet and it even has a little picture where you like to highlight if you are a beginner or don't even know what you are doing like me.

I have fun with it and this one is also very pretty and the colors or the shades are quite big, so he bought me those Christmas shoe balls and they look so comfortable, so excited, and they have a little bow. You're so cute. I wanted some cute shoes like these and they are very well made, so I also bought these little shoes from him and I am very excited to start wearing them. You have a cute bow and they are quite charming. I know you wanted to see that I usually have a lot of things that I get for Christmas, but I honestly can't ask for more, you know, I wanted to give more than Ribeira, it seems like I just received.

That's already a lot I wanted to give to my people, but anyway, make sure you're subscribed if you haven't already. I have a Dollar Tree tour coming up. I'll probably film this right after this video, so I'll do that. see you there bye