Do This BEFORE getting Married!! | What To do While Single | Melody Alisa

now i know it sounds crazy but listen to me sis okay hello everyone welcome back or welcome to my channel my name is

melody

and i make fake face content here on youtube and i'm sitting on my living room floor , which can only mean a Guys, we're doing laundry, so in honor of you knowing that you're a multitasking mom, I'm going to fold laundry with you in today's video and we're also going to chat about things I'm really grateful for. to have done. or experienced before I said yes and before I became a mother, so I'm looking forward to

getting

married

and becoming a mother are incredible blessings, but life still happens before these things happen, which is why my husband and I celebrated our year and mid-wedding anniversary last week.

I'll have that video linked up here in case you missed it and it really reminded me of the life I led before the life I have now and love now, so in today's video I'm going to share it. with you three things that I'm so glad I did or experienced and I feel like these things really helped me be the wife and mother that I am today and I think if you're in your

single

season, these might be things that are worth it. explore or things that are worth discovering

what

your version of these things is to achieve the growth that I experienced going through some of these things, so I hope you enjoy

this

video.

I hope you are excited again, my husband. I've been

married

for a year and a half, we have a very cute five month old baby girl and, yes, I have her clothes to fold here, so everything is very small in size and

this

should be fun, so if you guys are interested in

what

these So, three things are: keep watching, all right guys, so first of all, the first thing I'm incredibly grateful to have been able to experience and to have done before I got married, before I got married and before I became a mother. . It's travels, so, my channel, actually, a fun fact was born from my travels.

I moved to South Korea in 2015 when I was 23, which is so weird thinking about it now because back then I thought I was really old, but 23 is literally like. a newborn baby and I can't believe I did that, but it was one of the best experiences and one of the best things I ever did. I was looking at some of my old videos, because I started this channel when I lived abroad. and I found this video clip and even back then I knew that one day I would get married, I knew that one day my life wouldn't just be about me and I knew at that moment, living abroad and being

single

, that this was my time to do everything .

Traveling in terms of what I wanted to do and really, what's the word? I immersed myself in it. You know, I appreciated these free Saturdays. I had these Sundays off. I had to go on adventures to do things that lit up my soul. Back in the day, you know, and today, the things that light up my soul are, honestly, folding baby clothes and playing with my daughter. It's not necessarily like taking a train to the next city by myself and traveling just for a day, but I'm so glad I got to experience that, so I really want to insert a clip of me in 2015 talking about the life I knew I would have now and how he was grateful for the experiences he was having back then.

I just feel like I'm so glad to have this documented and it's so funny that one of my subscribers commented on this video recently saying wow it's crazy to see this now knowing what your life is like so yeah let's go ahead and move on, I think I love all this freedom. because I know that one day I won't have it you know that one day I will have a partner and I will have children my life will be less for me and more for someone else that's why it's important for me to do this to travel to live here to experience life, so yes, As you can see, I feel like I always knew this was coming for me, and in the meantime, I'm so grateful to have been able to experience travel.

I was able to experience different cultures. just

getting

out of my comfort zone and I feel like that makes me a more confident person in general, a lot of marriage and I think a lot of parenting you're out of your comfort zone and so living abroad, living in a foreign country, being a foreigner, okay, navigating life as a foreigner who is not only a foreigner, but looks incredibly foreign, who, like me, couldn't fit in at all, okay, so there were a lot of things to do. the ones I had to navigate and I feel like that makes me feel good. a more confident person and I feel like that confidence comes into my marriage, it goes into parenting and it also makes me extremely open-minded and I want to raise Zoey, we both do it with that open-mindedness like you know there is not just one correct one.

That's a broad way of saying it, but keep an open mind when it comes to cultures, you know, American culture is great, yeah, great, blah blah, but there's also a Jamaican culture like my husband's Jamaican. There is also a Korean culture. Chinese culture, there is Thai culture, there is Lao culture, there is Ghana culture, there are so many things out there and we really want to raise her in an open and open-minded home, but of course in a home that loves the lord, um, But that is. just open you know so yeah first of all travel travel travel travel okay guys so number two on the list.

The second thing I'm really glad I did before saying yes is that I'm really, really grateful to have lived. alone, so I lived alone in Korea and it was a little extreme to move to a foreign country and then live alone, but I'm grateful I did it and I also lived alone here in Atlanta when I first moved. Atlanta gave me a nice little studio in Buckhead and I'm so grateful that I had that time to have my own space to have a home and turn it into everything I wanted it to be because now you know, obviously, I share a house with my husband and our daughter and now that Zoe is here, honestly, it's even more like it's her home and we just live here, so I'm grateful to be able to experience like you know the little things of making a home. and being able to decorate freely and not having to consider anyone else or um, I feel like those are more superficial things of just being able to have this space that really is exactly how you want it to look and then on top of that.

I'm grateful for the responsibility that living alone teaches you and that it specifically taught me, so when I was in Korea I feel like I learned more life skills, like I really learned how to be an adult in Korea, but when I lived in Atlanta alone , I really learned just how to manage bills. I had a corporate job. I went to work daily. I was in this new city and I had bills okay, like cis people have bills, so I learned how to budget for bills. I learned to make sure things. I got there in time learning how to maintain my car and balance all these different aspects of life, like those of adulthood.

I think it was very, very important for me to experience that personally because there are things now that I feel are a blessing. These are things that my husband just takes care of, like my husband is definitely the one doing the budgeting. I follow the budget, but I'm not necessarily the one who does calculations and all that kind of stuff, but I'm grateful to have that skill. If I need to implore that if I need to take advantage of it, I know how to build and stay within a budget because I lived alone, I also know how to take care of a house and manage a house, and I feel like that's another really valuable thing that I learned from living alone, so I'm very grateful for those experiences and I feel like even if you're not necessarily the one living alone, like for me, I was just, you know, living alone.

I was the only person who lived there, but even if you move and you know you live with a friend or you live with um, maybe your sister or cousin, whatever, just having that experience of being out of your parents' house before moving in with your spouse. I think it's a really great opportunity and time for you to grow in your adult skills and adult skills are important. You know, it's nothing, it's great to have those skills to get married with, so that would be number two. Number three on my list, the third and last thing I'm really glad I experienced, even though at the time it wasn't very pleasant, but looking back, I'm actually really grateful I experienced heartbreak.

Now I know that sounds crazy. and I feel like anyone who's going through a heartbeat right now is playing eye roll so hard right now, but listen to me sister, it's okay, so for me, when I experienced the biggest heartbreak of my life, It led me to Christ and into The relationship with the Lord has really transformed my life and this actually happened when I was living abroad in South Korea in 2015. I talk about this quite a bit on my channel so I'll link to some of the videos from above, but basically If this heartbreak hadn't happened, I wouldn't have found God at the time I did.

If I hadn't found God at the time I did, there are so many things that I don't think I would have experienced and I wouldn't have grown and I wouldn't have held on to the Lord and I don't know if I would be the person I am today or in this position in the world. which I am today so looking back I'm grateful for that heartbreak that I'm grateful for the lessons that came from this I'm grateful for the experience that I can talk to you through um I'm grateful for the experience that one day I can talk to zoey through you know and I know that god uses everything and even Now, in the season of marriage and the season of motherhood, I can see how strategic that heartbreak was and I hope that anyone who is currently heartbroken knows that God you are using and it is not in vain, and two know that even if you don't feel like today or now or even tomorrow or next week that one day, I can almost guarantee that you will look back and be grateful for what you are going through now, so I hope that can encourage you to do it.

Good things are on the other side of heartbreak and at that moment I'll say, oh my gosh, I wasn't happy to be going through that and oh my gosh, it sucked, but the Lord really used that um 100 billion percent for me. . Okay and now I'm beyond grateful that I went through that, so I thank God because I don't think I would have chosen to go through that, but God knew what he needed and that was the way to get me what I needed. necessary, so that would be number three, okay guys, so this is my short and sweet list of three things that I am very glad I was able to experience before becoming a wife and mother now.

If you like this video, please be sure to like it and I want you to know that if you like more videos like this and have more time to talk to me about topics like this, you can always join the membership club created for this, the link It's below, basically this is a membership club that I created every week, we have different events, we have live Q&A, we have live Bible studies, I release a masterclass every week and we also have a new discord group chat, like this as a private Facebook group, so this group is For women who care about Jesus and who want to be around other women who also care about him, we are also focused on becoming the people God made us to be. created so that we can do what he created us to do.

Again, feel free to join us as a member. The club doors are always open. I will have a link below before I finish of course it's your turn so this is for all my married or engaged sisters so leave us next. We know what's something you're really grateful to have been able to experience before you got engaged or before you got married. I can't wait to read your guys comments and as always I encourage you to leave one below and then scroll through and see what everyone else is saying, well guys I'll see you in my next video or inside the gates of the membership club and until next time I will see you in my next video next Thursday, which by the way guys we are changing the posting schedule so I will upload it every Thursday and then starting in August I will watch two videos every week on Mondays and Thursdays, so like this video to see more videos coming soon.

I'll see you next time, peace.