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The Key to Abundance and Success: Lisa Nichols and Lewis Howes

Jun 06, 2021
welcome everyone to the school of greatness podcast very excited about our guest today

lisa

nichols

thank you so much for being here I appreciate it yeah I'm excited you've got a new book out I'm just going to show it to the camera real quick make sure So guys, look at this book, we'll have it linked, it's called

abundance

, now amplify your life and achieve prosperity today and I'm very excited about this. I was reading it and I love its message. I love your ideas. I love your wisdom. I also love your story and I want to delve into it before we start the process of how to be abundant because you didn't start abundantly well, no, not at all, no, well we and you are also a clue star from what our agent tells us I know how you knew that's like in the cuts it's not in the book she's like you can talk about your days on the track because I was an all American decathlete yeah come on yeah so I'm a state. champion, there you go, okay, what events did I run in the 110 and 330 with low hurdles, wow, the four for 400, four for that's hard and the fourth open, okay, cool, what was your favorite event, the 330 with small hurdles and held the record at my high school?
the key to abundance and success lisa nichols and lewis howes
All I have to say about the 330 hurdles over 18 years, get it, boom girl, I found out in year 15 that I had the record, so I only had three years of bragging rights before someone broke it. I love it, I love it, okay, great. I'm curious now who was the most influential person in your life and what was the most important lesson that you remember being taught by my grandmother my father's mother my grandmother Bernice and she taught me that she said she prophesied over my life, meaning that He talked about life. in me when I didn't see it for myself and she said several things, but one of the key things was she said baby, as you grow up you will impact lives and they will write about you, I have no idea.
the key to abundance and success lisa nichols and lewis howes

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Since she knew it and a lot of people are going to talk about you she said do yourself a favor take everything they have written about you and put it in the filing cabinet don't read it she said and when you are older than my age sit in your Your favorite rocking chair, take a cup of tea and have fun with who they thought you were, while the whole time you knew who you were and she just instilled this sense of humility in you like you're a servant leader and I don't care what they call you. master guru expert you are a servant leader you remember that because they will say a lot of things and that's why she has been my anchor you know she passed away a long time ago but she has been my anchor and that was just one of the most powerful things and then she too She said honey, you can get all the knowledge in the world, she said, but only time will give you the wisdom that I have, well, it's like, whoa, I was like, I think she just checked me out, you know, and by I continue that to this day with all the knowledge that I have acquired from great books like yours and great books like Stephen Covey's and great books by Phil Jackson 11 Rings and Howard Schultz onwards, you know all these great works.
the key to abundance and success lisa nichols and lewis howes
I still sit at the feet of older people. I still feel. my spiritual mentor I sit at her feet once a quarter I sit at the feet of people when they are 20 years older than me or more because they have something that I don't have, which is time for wisdom, yes, so she anchored me in two things that both leave me humble wow, okay, what's the wisdom you have from all your time so far? Don't count the number of times you've been knocked down, stick to the number of times you get up. these truth bombs all day right, right, boom, boom, boom, boom, I love it, um, now I'm curious why you didn't start out, you know, with a lot of money and a lot of

abundance

mentality, did you do well? um, it wasn't just not a lot of money, you know, it's one thing to be fiscally bankrupt and it's another thing to be emotionally bankrupt, two very different things and I was broke and broke and, um, in 1994 I had to apply for help. from the government just to feed my newborn baby. um, I had to get it with women, babies and children, uh, and I still say it and you know, I say it often.
the key to abundance and success lisa nichols and lewis howes
I was interviewed, interviewed 155 times in five months for my previous book, no matter what, and it still hits me in the same place, I was embarrassed to stand in line with all the other mothers, some fathers, to get free pasta, without butter, no cheese, no milk, but at the same time I was grateful that a service existed to help people like me who knew this. It wasn't where I was going to stay, but it was where I was at the time. I wasn't committed to occupying real estate there, but it was my current address and it broke and broke, like it hit me.
I felt like he had hit me. Deep down, sometimes you feel your back at the bottom, like I think that's the right bottom, um and then there's always a deeper yes, so when I was getting food stamps, I thought I was at the bottom mm- hmm. and then you went well, I went to the ATM, I ran out of diapers for my son Jelani and I went to the ATM to get money to buy diapers and it said insufficient funds and I had 11 dollars and 42 cents in the bank, what is the minimum , you get 20 dollars exactly, you need 20 to get 20 and um, I had 11 and two cents, so I went home and I had to wrap my son jalani for two days in a series of different tiles, that was my rock. down and that was because as a parent all you want to do is provide that's all it's simple I just want to provide security and food for my baby someone else was providing my food and I didn't even have diapers and I remember in the second.
The day I wrapped my son in the towel, Louis, I put my hand on his stomach and said, "Don't worry, Jelani, with tears streaming down my face, I told him, don't worry, son, mom will never come back." to be so broke, so, um, you talk." About having financial resources, I realized that I first had to believe that I could do something different and that wherever my mindset was, my bank account was going to follow, so I needed to change my mental zip code, what was your mental zip code and then scarcity? I was born and raised in South Central Los Angeles.
I grew up between the Harlem crowd in the '30s and paper in the '60s. I had three fights a week to get home from school. My highest grade in school was a C+ and 12 years of school was my highest grade. was a c-plus and therefore if you ever tell the story to someone, don't forget my plus, don't think that you don't forget my plus, it's very important if for a c student, a student, I was , It was not. It doesn't matter like plus plus whatever, but for a C student, plus matters, man, I get it, so I struggled, everything in my life was a hustle, everything nothing was easy, except the love for my family, which It was easy, effortless, elegant and generous. and but everything else outside of that was a hustle, get it, God, it was the environment I grew up in and I'm not saying you have to grow up in that difficult environment to have an amazing future.
People say, well, Lisa, I did it. It wouldn't be difficult. Could you listen to it? I would have traded my experience here for anyone. I don't think I chose that to be able to have this and that's why I didn't know abundance. I didn't know abundance existed. I don't know that abundance could happen to people who look like me a woman geographically from my neighborhood I didn't know that abundance could be I didn't see it around me I didn't know that abundance could be for someone who was in my In the culture, it was all about survival and hustle, so many things and spiritually I didn't know that someone who loved God and had a spiritual foundation can also have prosperity without being perceived as greedy, I mean, everything around me said no me, everything He said not me.
If I listen to the sound effects well and sometimes you have to turn down the volume and listen to your heart well, then what was the conversation that you would tell yourself during this time when you are in this tight zip code, someone like me can do it? They don't have it there, that that boy over there comes from the right family, that girl over there, her skin color is the right complexion, I'm full figure, mocha skin, full lips, round hips, curly hair, girl, no, me, no, no. I get other things, I get an abundant family, I get wonderful children, if I want, I get closeness to God, but I don't get abundance, and I realize that a lot of that conversation was embedded in me before I was.
I was five, I mean, he just comes with the territory. I watched my grandmother roll a dime in 20 different directions and I never wondered if she had 21 dimes. I just wanted a girl who would turn my dime in 20 different directions to be like grandma and stuff. As much as gender is inherited culturally, it's inherited as a gender, as a woman, you weren't raised to make millions, you were raised to get a good job or get a man with a good job, you know, especially in the '80s and '90s. , absolutely, and that's how we were raised spiritually, you were taught, you know, in my background, my religious background, now I'm spiritual, I'm not attached to any religion at all, but I grew up in the Mount Tabor Missionary Baptist Church, you know that money is the root. of all evil, who would want much of that and that? um exactly who wants evil and if that's what you say, then I learned that I don't need it and Sister Brown I saw Sister Brown and Sister Brown was the most godly woman in the world. church and she was always selling fish dinners and barbecue dinners to make sure she had enough money and then subconsciously I wanted to be like Sister Brown because that woman can pray to heaven and then again I'm looking at that and then in my neighborhood was the time when you get a little bit more you give it away you give it away still to this day I'm not kidding, I'm one of my last opportunities that I call, I don't call them challenges, opportunities is, um, I'm in the Los who earn the most in the United States and I say it humbly, I am grateful and my job now is to learn to preserve it and make it grow because I love to give it away and I know that it is a learned behavior, it is a learning and I and I give.
I left it to good things. I only invested 82 thousand dollars and renovated my grandmother's entire house because I knew she was not going to move. She will lift. That's where she will rest. She will stay there. It's been in that house since 1968. I'm not going anywhere so I redid the whole house and gutted the whole house and spent about a hundred thousand dollars doing it and I'll do it over and over again because I was also taught to give so now I'm going to go to people who are more powerful and with more money in terms of I know how to make a lot I know how to keep a lot now I'm learning how to grow a lot you know and be willing and humble enough to say that's where I'm at, I got the top two.
Because money has three levels, how is it earned, how is it kept and how is it grown? So you know, I had a conversation for a long time in a lot of different ways and then it's the conversation as a woman, if I make that much, it's going to be hard to be able to say that big D word, you know, and as an African man it's exactly inaccessible and men are teach them like I taught them as a woman about money they teach you as a man to be the provider well you know it's a little hard to keep a g like me you know when I come in I go how about we put it together because I'm fine with What about the provision?
You know, I realize that men also have to be comfortable with the fact that it's an '80s conversation and that in 2015 she might not be 16 now in 2016. Just last year I started the book tour and I have like you have to do it every moment tell me the date we're on exactly what we're living on I feel you I feel good you know you just you alone I'm recovering I'm finally in this life tell me there's something on the other side there's a clear voice there is sanity there is a healthy body true true true amy uh there's your time freedom um so I'm curious what was that moment when you realized okay, I need to change the way I think about the conversations I'm having uh, how I am showing who I am in each moment, from living in the scarce environment I have lived in for over 20 years to suddenly shifting to an abundance mindset and way of being, what was the moment to experience the thought , the idea of ​​the catalyst that broke, I like how you say a moment when the roof opened and the lights came on and the angels came, no, maybe it was over time, right, there was a moment when there was a moment when the suffering became too painful there you have it so mine didn't necessarily come in a moment of glory it came with 11 and 42 cents and seeing my baby wrapped in a towel a towel I felt like I was being unfair to him Look because 30 days before the mosaic I'm really telling my story for 30 days before the mosaic her dad called me and when I answered the phone I'll never forget it I said hello Lisa said I'm in the county jail well I'm not going to the jail and I don't know the people in jail and I don't know people who have the possibility to go, so how did you get there?
Because I met you in corporate America and you were a professional. How you got there is your business. I don't know, but now I'm a single mother of a son whose father is now in prison hitting rock bottom again, sothat 30 days later, when I had my son wrapped in a towel, I was done, I was just done, you were sick and tired of being sick and tired, I was done, so you know, the concept of bankruptcy is that there is nothing left, that's the concept of bankruptcy, so I like to explain it. I was ruined in my mess, I was ruined in my chaos and I was ruined in every sexy. because my excuses are sexy, by the way, I've been a linguistics major for years.
I could convince my teachers to do things right. I mean, that's just been my gift. My dad used to say Lisa, please promise me you'll use your powers for good, so I was ruined with all my excuses, so if you ask me when it was probably about three hours after I told my son we'd never be together again. here the second day of being wrapped in a towel in 1994. and then I said how the next question was how if I finish this I'm not even sure what that looks like I just know that there is a group of abundant thinkers who live an abundant life who they have abundant memories with a surplus of everything because abundance must be an overflow of the things you have abundance of it is simply about overflow it is about overflow that means if there was a saucer under this cup the abundance would be everything um this tea flows into the saucer and I can feed you from my saucer because I am full, I filled my cup enough, I use my cup for myself and I feed you from my saucer and abundance is saying that I have a saucer in my relationships full of great experiences, there is a saucer in my health and well-being, I have so much abundant health and vitality that can appear for you there is a saucer with my spirituality that I can pray for you I can forgive those who are perceived as unforgivable and love those who are perceived as unlovable and then there is a saucer for my finances and that in each area because abundance is an experience seeing wealth wealth focuses singularly on your money and your possessions, that is wealth, okay, but abundance is 360.
I have many very close friends. , very rich who are miserable and happy, yes, they are rich, they are not abundant, they understand it and come. For me at least they help me with my relationships with my family or whatever and then I had to learn something different Louis didn't know what I didn't know and then that became the moment where I said what do I do? I need to know to have something different, what do they know that I don't know and how can I get it? And I became a hunter. So what was the first discovery? um, that there's a mentality that comes with abundance and that they think differently.
Not only do I do something different, there is no connection, first of all, what camera do I look at? Someone, someone? There is no such thing as a connection. I'm still waiting for mine and if you know where it is, there's my phone number. no connection, yes no connection, like it's not true, like you have 297 million and one chance of winning the lottery and within five years people in the lottery earn more debt than before they won the lottery, so that's not even a I connected well and then I realized that I needed to change my way of thinking, I needed to learn something different and I needed to know it on a cellular level, all those things that I just told you about my color, my gender, I had to unlearn to the people, are we?
Are we information junkies because we have all kinds of access to information online and we are learning all this but we are not implementing anything? Sorry, I might step on some toes, that's what I do and that's why I realized I had to do it on a cellular level first before I went looking for more information. I had to be willing to get divorced and dislodge some belief systems that I already had, that had taken me as far as they could and now You're holding me back it's almost like you're wearing a size 11, you're 11 feet and you're trying to fit it back into a shoe size. 7, you passed it a long time ago and that will be a very uncomfortable day.
I was uncomfortable. I was very uncomfortable with my thoughts, so I began to immerse myself in books. The first book I ever immersed myself in was The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey and it upset me, it upset everything I didn't know. It was like it was like. A double door opened and then a wall opened and I was like, what do you know, why didn't anyone tell me that? Thinkers think a certain way and they don't go around trying to convert you like people like you and I come on, let's make it open to everyone, but what I know about the human spirit is that the human spirit has a choice of power and most of the people don't want to choose this type of thinking because it costs you something what is the cost the cost is that you have to get up earlier you get up earlier than the average for your day what you do in a day is what some people do in a week but you do it in the morning or some people do a 12 hour day you have to be willing to do what you're willing to do on your book tour to get in the New York Times some people say I have to do everything I need I want to do everything, that's a lot of work, okay, great, so you have your life like you have to sign up for your life experience, there is no way you were when I realized that I was the culmination of all my decisions, that It is direct and without a pursuer.
That's like getting it without cookies and milk. I was a climax, you are the culmination of all your decisions and then when you level up your decisions, and now it's even harder times when you go, God, why am I always single, you are a culmination of your decisions you are a combination of your actions why can't I keep the money? you are the culmination of your decisions in your life so I wanted to make better decisions because my son was wrapped in a towel and I was 11.42 cents being overweight me my son's father being in prison I couldn't help it I was a culmination my experience of life was the culmination of all my decisions and it was certainly a disaster, so I went, let me go learn from someone's life, no It seems like it's a disaster and then they let me adopt some of their behaviors when I started hunting.
I went to conferences. I was very scared. These conferences. I had never been to conferences before. I went to entrepreneur conferences. the only me was one of four women at a conference of 800 people and I was the only woman of color, so we were all older white men and I and I was like, well, they're not afraid of money, it seems like they are. talking about money and business and corporations and rois and ppms and term agreements and he doesn't speak Spanish I don't know what that means but I'm not leaving until I have this figured out right and I went to the same conference when I said do what other people I won't do it and you will have what other people don't have.
I went to the same conference those 42 times. I told you I was a C student, so I took a minute and continued to be sponsored again. I did not do it. I had the money to go to the conference. I started as a volunteer at the conference. I would be on stage teaching because they loved the way I spoke. So I would go out and help clean because I had to pay my dues to be there. Okay, I ate my slice of humble pie every day because I was broke. I see some people you haven't pushed.
Non-negotiable but you are still optional. I would really love to be

success

ful and that's why you want to be

success

ful. I want to be myself. I want to make money I want to make money I want to be healthy but it's still non-negotiable because the moment the rubber hits the road and you feel a little raw and it gets a little tender and a little blood may appear and you don't want to donate blood, You don't want to sweat, you don't want to shed tears, let me tell you, you can't take the elevator all the way to the top right, they're not number stairs, okay, yeah, boom, sorry.
I got excited. I don't know where the event you went to was. You know what? I would prefer not to even tell it because people started to think that the event went well. You know, I'm going to say there's a conference. Know? every conference there's a conference you know find like minded people in your tribe it'll put you on your toes so I know no disrespect but people started saying that's the next light so no no It was I who hunted. because the conference didn't give me much more than the people there that I kept getting, you know what I mean, the important thing you know, I'm a big believer in visualization and obviously in secrecy, that's something I that was talked about.
I haven't seen The Secret in 10 years when it came out, but I want to say this is something I practice as an athlete to visualize my results before the game sees me scoring the touchdown at the track meet and I'm sure you made a There are many similar things about how important visualization is in abundance, but also how important it is to act correctly, so I have five visualization exercises in that book just because it's so important. Visualization is a gift to your heart and your soul, it's a gift because if the The idea is the seed visualization is the um, it's the fertilizer, it's the fertilizer because when your thoughts are connected to an emotion, you would visualize yourself winning. and you would feel all the emotion that came with it and all you are doing now is you are not chasing some strange emotion, you know the feeling and now you are just doing what is necessary to get back to that feeling in real time exactly and then what a good friend of mine , vishen um from the CEO of Mine Valley, who are you?
I know, I would, I did a visualization with him, we were in Bali and he told me afterwards, I never get emotional, he does, he doesn't get emotional, he's like, sure, sure, yeah, well, he was like I cried, I got excited. wow, I found out that it's visualization, a good visualization brings an emotion, he said that's how you do it and so, I love doing visualizations because and it's very important in visualization, you can't see it there, you have to see it. right here feel it you have to feel it right here as I am is all I am I am I'm in my dream house I'm in my dream relationship and then analyze what that looks like, but most importantly, analyze how it feels and when Yes you have that emotion right now, you suddenly wake up something that I don't think will go back to sleep, it'll go away fine, let's go find it and what it really does is establish a state of cognitive dissonance. and cognitive dissonance is when you see something in your mind and you see yourself in a way that your behaviors are not currently leading to and then your mind becomes disturbed and everything is going well, can we get there okay? because I'm not there right now. there right now and that is not comfortable your mind wants to be literally congruent what it thinks is what you are doing what it thinks is what you are doing and that is why when you establish constant and abundant thinkers like you and I do unconsciously we cut, we stay constantly in a state of cognitive dissonance, I mean, okay, what else and I'm seeing Lisa over there and I go, okay, let me go, wow, while I'm grateful for my now, yeah, it's not in that.
I will be whole and complete when I get there. I will stay whole now. I just know that I'm supposed to be there, so let me do whatever it takes to get there and let me dislodge whatever behavior or characteristic it is by stopping and let me adopt the new ones that I need, how does someone discover their unique calling? I want to be out of the place I'm in, I want to be abundant, rich, healthy, in great relationships, true, but I don't know what my purpose or calling is right now. I think people put too big a notion on purpose. who think it has to look like nelson mandela or mother teresa or oprah or you or me and a lot of times what you're really good at is right in front of you what you're really good at is right in front of you and recognizing that your calling and your purpose can change, of course it can change, you have a long life, it will not be the same calling all the time, so allow yourself to evolve, allow your purpose to evolve, what is that? thing you do effortlessly that you don't give credit to because you're just looking past it oh it can't be that because it's not difficult, well what if it doesn't have to be difficult?
How about the fact that you? You're a great listener, how can you take that, use it, expand it, and not compare yourself to someone else? I think the Benjamin Franklin comparison is the thief of all joy. It's all when you look left or right, you know people are. always comparing myself to oprah winfrey or young lavon or les brown or tony robbins I said listen, I'll do it if you want me to give you oprah or janla or tony or les I'm always going to fail a thousand percent but if you're ever interested, I make a very good one Lisa, I do, I do a good Lisa Nichols, yeah, so when you look at what my gifts are, what my unique gifts are, I knew from the beginning that I was a gifted speaker, I wasn't certified as a gifted speaker.
I haven't passed any public speaking courses, in fact, the last time I took a public speaking class I got a D-minus and my speech teacher told me, Miss Nichols, I recommend that you never speak in public so that you can get a desk job. . In my first year of college I took the last speech class so many times you have discounted your gift and your purpose either because someone else did it.discarded or what is more common is that you don't know how to monetize it yes and sometimes The best gift you have to give is not a fee, it's free.
You look at people like you and me and think: Why can't they pay me for it? Well, not all the gifts you are supposed to get paid for by Nelson Mandela were not paid for. for leading 27 years when he came out of prison he was paid after that but he was a great leader while he was in prison and martin luther king was a they paid him from the church but his right to fight for civil rights that was free and he paid the cost higher and you can go on and on with some of the greatest leaders mahatma gandhi, it wasn't a paycheck, right, and I'm not and I know we're reduced to our version but I don't get attached to getting paid for your gift , yeah, I started this podcast as a way to make it free for a year.
I will not accept any sponsor. I will not do anything. I'm not going to sell anything, I'm just going to create and facilitate great conversations and that's it, and now the money is coming in because of how it's impacted people's lives. Your intention was in the right place, yes, but I didn't like how. Can I do this right now to make money? How can I serve the maximum number of people? Right there, when people live in a place of servant leadership, my grandmother said when she was 24 years old if you leave and how can you serve. most people when I sit down with my team I go: how can we serve more people?
How can we start last year? We were able to reach 30 million people. As? And that is our whole question now as we serve. Our platform becomes broader, but how can we serve? Don't tell me how we can make more money. I'm not interested in that. I'm not sure how we can serve more because if I do the right thing for the right reasons, everything I need will be a byproduct of that. I think we get caught up in, you know, society allows us to have ourselves looking at possessions and then we start measuring our joy and our abundance in possessions.
I have a friend who is worth 14 billion dollars, how do you spell that? I had to write it down to be able to see it, maybe zero zero, a lot. He is worth 14 billion dollars. I checked my email on my phone before I started and he's on my phone asking me to come visit me because he's lonely. It's rich, but not abundant, yes, he flew from Canada to come to my house for new years just to be around people who were celebrating and didn't want anything from them, so don't chase things, chase acts of service and Everything you need will come, I promise.
You, yeah, that's powerful, let's talk about the four E's. What is this principle? The Fouriers you talk about in your book. Yes Yes Yes. So, I like to divide my life into quadrants and I help my students. I do a lot of coaching. I do personal development coaching and professional development and no matter where you cut, where you come to me, whether you come to me for personal development or you want to turn your passion into profits in this professional development and business development for entrepreneurs that we review. the four e's because abundance is holistic, it's a holistic experience, so the first is personal enrichment, you will only go as far as you think you are worthy, I can push, you can push yourself, you can have the best product, but if you don't feel worthy you will work hard to sabotage that relationship you don't know every day you don't know what you're doing you think these are the things I need and you're pushing that guy away, you're pushing that woman away because your self-esteem says they're not going to stay for always anyway or your self-esteem around money you have a limit that you feel you are worthy of a million dollars you will always reach 999,000 and you will stop because your self-esteem says so, so enrichment is number one.
What is a good exercise or process that we can follow daily? Maybe something simple to improve our enrichment. Absolutely worthy. I did this for six months, every day, right after brushing. teeth and it's the ICU exercise and you look in the mirror now it's not necessarily simple because, because you're dealing with yourself, of course, and as complicated as you are, what the mechanics will be, the mechanics are very simple, Yes, I appreciate it. that distinction um you get in the mirror and complete three different sentences you want to write this the first sentence you look at yourself and say your name then you say louis and complete this is I'm proud of you and you find seven different things each day to celebrate yourself for seven different ones each day you can do the same thing you did the day before but every day do seven different things to be proud of the second sentence it will knock you down a little it will come from your trip um louis I forgive you and I cut the shackles to blame shame guilt regret and anger in that sentence you cut those five shackles not on the first day maybe not on the third day but by the 21st by the 13th you will feel some relief So Louis, I forgive you and go back five years, 15 years, 20 years, do that, I forgive you for that which no one knows, but go ahead and cut those shackles because if you can still think about it, it's still in your energetic space. and then the third sentence is louis, I commit to you that before you commit to anyone else throughout the day, you make seven commitments to yourself, so the first sentence is, I'm proud that you celebrate yourself first. , we are little celebrated.
As a society we look for recognition, they come in, they interviewed a hundred executives who made over a quarter of a million dollars and they said, would you like a five percent raise next year or would you prefer to be thanked more often? 100 100 said keep your money I'd rather listen thank you so we're not that celebrated but first celebrate be the example when I was on Oprah when she said what are you doing I said I recognize that I'm the example of how the rest of The world is supposed to treat me and it's my job to give the world the best example of how I like to be treated, so celebrate it, forgive yourself, cut the shackles and then commit to yourself before you commit to someone else, so powerful, so of good.
There you will begin to fill your cup to get to your sauce. I love it, where did you start learning? That process was something that you just started practicing yourself and you started looking in the mirror and trying different things and you, boy, asked the question. Um, I was in a committed relationship to get married and it became abusive. I was emotionally abused and then he picked me up and threw me three feet across the room and strangled me until I passed out. I don't say that to many people. and I was suffering from ptsd and my mother asked me to go to the doctor, she strongly recommended that I go to the doctor, get high and after an evaluation in manhattan beach, my doctor said I was clinically depressed. and I said: how did I get here?
Me that doesn't even fit my name. I was head cheerleader at my high school. I was the captain of the track team. I'm always the person who gets people going. it doesn't fit how I got here I don't know if you've ever caught yourself saying how I got here I was sitting at the table in the doctor's office saying how I got here and when she wrote me the prescription she handed me the prescription and I read it and it said Lisa Nichols prozac it was like I was looking at a foreign statement my name on prozac and I asked him I said can I try something for 30 days because I realized he was sad.
I got lost I got lost in him I got lost in being a mother I got lost in being a mother of a son whose father was in prison and trying to hide that shame and then trying to make this man happy and then starting to defend himself For my life, I lost myself so I needed to figure myself out, I needed to remind myself of who I was and then I realized that he wasn't celebrating me, he was punishing me, he was really mad at me and he was introducing me to everyone else. so I made up these sentences and I did it to rescue myself and turn my crawl into a walk and finally I was able to turn my crawl into a walk.
Am I walking to run? I found myself with a sore but it started out as a crawl, so I don't often say how I got to that exercise unless someone asks me to. Thank you very much for sharing, yes, opening up, I learned four things a long time ago, this for me, this is the path to true freedom I have nothing to prove I have nothing to protect I have nothing to hide and I have nothing to defend than you perception of me after telling my truth it's really none of my business my perception of me that I go to bed full and complete when I woke up before checking how many likes I have on Facebook, who likes me first and everyone else likes me like are a bonus, there you go, it was a long road to get there, sure, a long road, yeah, and we probably did it. to be reminded constantly, you know, and then get into that place and then when I live like I'm forgetting, you have to have accountability partners hiding in the corners of your life and you have to give them a task at your higher level. day you have to give them a task on your high day if it seems like I'm slipping well my ego is in the way get in my face, get in my face right, get in my face and remind me of the man of the woman I said I wanted be, don't let me free from the 2020 version of me because we are human, this will happen as long as we breathe, we will be out of integrity at some point, come on, your humanity is interfered with your ego our ladies your shigo exactly absolutely your resentment your smallness just smallness everything fits in smallness yes I'm human and that's why I'm the best thing I did was keep people around me to Make me accountable to the woman I said, I want to be sure that's great, I love it, that's why I have a lot of people from the Midwest who work with me on my team, support me, keep me grounded, right, right, right, of course. get to hollywood exactly don't get caught up in the lights and the cameras on the daggone headphones exactly exactly absolutely fine enrichment that's the first part uh the second part is enchantment relationships are going to define the quality of your life when you're in your bed and In your last days you will want to know who will be around you.
In short, you won't mind another podcast. You won't mind another sponsor. I do not care. Another book or the damn New York Times is the best we care about now, but the relationships in your life are going to determine the quality of your life and, therefore, take care of your relationships, that's why, in the book Abundance, now you I teach how to heal broken things. relationships that matter to you how to get back on track I give you this great tool called um it's a conversation to heal a broken experience so it's called a communication letter I use it in my business I use it in my home and um so it's about how I can maintain great relationships and then the third area is commitment, commitment, work, you're going to put in a lot of time and work and we're very emotionally attached to our work and most of the time.
People have such a depressing attachment that why would you have that depressing energy around something you're going to spend so many hours on? So I teach you how to shift your energy towards your work so that you no longer see it as your work now it is no longer your jlb like everyone in my community everyone in my tribe no longer says they have a job they say I have an investor and when you look at your job as an investor you really rename your investor, yes and it is investing in your awesome future, you have the ability to buy anything you want for your future, if you take care of your money properly you can buy your freedom and all of a sudden you start You treat your investor better and are more excited to go.
You're actually great, you're grateful for your investment work, man, my investor was the unified school district, which was a tough place when it was a job, I'm just telling you, but as an investor for three and a half years. years ago I wrote myself a check and put a note on the line to finance my dream I didn't even know what the dream was I wasn't even clear on it I just knew that whatever my dream was it was going to cost some money and I needed to make it pay and I need to have something of money to pay and that if I was going to ask other people to invest in me they had to be my first investor.
Who am I to ask someone to put money my way when I didn't put money my way? alright, so I want, I wanted someone to match, just match my investment in me, I got 10, can you put 10? I'm 20 and you can put 20, so when you look at your work, your work commitment as an investor in your impressive life, suddenly there's a different energy around it and then the last one is the endowment of money and recognizing that more than family Dr .Seuss and the Disney family and the McDonald's family and the Lawrence Wealth family are entitled to an endowment when you get the understanding and I really unpack it here where you go, what do you say, I'll make you do a couple of Scooby-Doo looks in the book , like the railroad, when you look and go, I can make a donation as I like because we think it's for them remember that I started this conversation with abundance for those people over there, especially when it comes to a donation or ayeah, I mean, I'm enjoying it, grateful, I love it.
I want to ask you about three more questions, yeah, before I want to make sure everyone picks up the book, make sure you check this out well, but it's also linked below this and the show notes, but pursue abundance now if you want to have an abundant life. , it's getting spicy now, I have to tell you it's great, there are a lot of things I wanted to ask you here, but you shared so many great stories. I had a lot of things marked here that I liked. Balance is a myth. Harmony is essential. The rich think differently.
All different ones. Topics we talk about here. To create prosperity you must create a new relationship with money. I think that will be powerful for a lot of people, so be sure to get this book to learn these principles. Where can we connect with you online before asking? The last three questions, yes, I'm in a season where people ask me how I went from public assistance to going public. My company two years ago went public, yes, and the big conversation has a second, what is the second African? American woman having a public company is like that, yes, graduation and the only person in the self-development industry today who is the founder of a public health company.
I'm grateful, thank you very much, so the big question is how do you get off welfare. to Wall Street, how do you go from public assistance to public trading, which is a big leap and there are two important things? One, I changed my way of thinking, I picked up a book and that's why I love this book, because I wrote it modeling something like the seven. Habits like: How did I give them? What did I get? Well, then the second thing was that I went and joined a tribe of people that made me stand on my toes, so I'm doing something like that.
Well, it's not crazy, my CFO says it's crazy. I have invested more than two hundred thousand dollars to organize two free conferences to which you come as if nothing had happened, there is your book, your ticket, so this is your ticket to get in and this is the way. If you find out about me online, I would say join

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free.com. Okay, join lisafree.com and it will give you access to my website. Access so you can learn about my programs. How you can get training if you want, but I think first. and most importantly, it gives you access to come and be in my presence at no cost, like if you bought the book, you bring the book because your past supports it, I'll love it, and then for nine hours we'll talk about it. taking the concept into action, like what do you do, that's the benefit, that's the beauty of that day, let's get into action, like I said, I went to this conference over and over again, I want you to do the same.
I did the process because it worked, but what I also love is that I have brought together some of the best people on the planet to come together with the right movement mindset to create a community of accountability because I know that when you have a community of surrender Accountability, you are 80 percent more likely to follow through with the dream you said you had, of course, and that's why accountability takes me everywhere, which is why we're going to have accountability groups, accountability communities we established that day. It will be so juicy so delicious It will be confrontational It will be edgy It will be spicy It will be liberating We will have meltdowns and breakthroughs It will be one of those days I'm here for your breakthrough I'm not here to entertain you although I can be quite entertaining I'm here for your breakthrough so I just want to give people the that I have, you know, someone said, oh, it's like you're paying in advance and I thought I've never thought like that, I just feel like I'm being responsible with what I know and someone blessed me with this information and then bless me, people, people It poured into me, Louis, people loved me, people saw my light and said, I'll help you, young lady, I mean the white people, the black people, the men, the women. young old older more older people who have made so much money have been so successful have such wonderful relationships all they want to do is help someone else yeah and I was the beneficiary that's right so this goes here let me show you what they gave me, I don't know if you'll meet them, you know, and then you'll come whole with my tribe because they're amazing, so I'm excited to be able to let 2,500 people come.
I love it. What was the link to join Lisa for free? Okay, cool keyword, we'll have that link while it's linked too, um, okay, last three questions, what are you most grateful for in your life recently? Oh, when you say more, you make me have to do it. pick one um, I'm so grateful for my newfound health. Amen, I love it, congratulations, I am so grateful that my body can now keep up with my life purpose. It's great, it's beautiful and I just have to say this. It would be negligent. If I didn't, I'm grateful for my 86-year-old grandmother who was sitting in the audience last night cheering me on, who accompanied me to Jamaica to see me speak, who will come tonight to see me speak again, who is in the right body of hers.
Her mind heals her, her body heals her, her mind heals her and she is in my life and she is able to witness what she helped create. I love it thanks. In fact, I'm going to add one more question. What is something you do every morning? A ritual you don't do. It matters where you are what's happening what's something you should do non-negotiable um I find 10 things to be grateful for before my feet hit the ground 10 things and they can't cost money they can't cost money perfect, do you write them down? or just think about them and acknowledge them, yes, I think about them, I say them out loud, um, I talk to him some days, a lot of days, I do 25, but I won't allow myself to move until I've done 10 every day, it doesn't matter .
Where I am I sometimes do it on the plane because I get up very very early, so if I am on the flight at dawn and especially if I feel tense and stressed, I go through my gratitude list because gratitude Reduce stress throughout the day, Of course, I believe in it every morning. I do three things, man, we gotta turn it up to 10, but every night I always say it out loud and ask someone what are the three things you're most grateful for. the day and then I'll repeat my three things, so I think it's very important every six months.
I asked my son to measure our relationship every six months. I asked my son on a scale of one to ten, ten being amazing, one being like this. There is no mom, how is our relationship measured and when does he measure it? The next question is the most important question. I say son. What would he take from an eight to a ten? What would take it from a nine to a ten? seven to ten every six months that's a ritual it's powerful very powerful um this is a question I've been asking a lot recently it's the last day for you at some point in the future all your books have been deleted all the videos have been deleted in youtube is gone everything you said the secret is long gone it's been a race the secret is a secret exactly yes um and you have all the people you wanted to be there by your side you're healthy happy but it's the last day and they say hey mom sister lover um everything is a career that you have created but we have a piece of paper and a pen and you can write three truths the three things that you know to be true about what you have experienced in this beautiful world this will be the only thing that we will be able to remind you of me love this question three truths by lisa

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what would you say would you write I love you three times I'm not putting you on the spot I apologize what's opening up for you right now I love the place I love the place I love organic I love unrehearsed It is not rehearsed it is much richer juicier three truths my three truths would be that you have a thousand second chances and every time you have 9.99 you can press reset you get a thousand repetitions which would be the number one truth you get a thousand repetitions and every 9.99 you press Restoring the second truth would be the most valuable asset investment you could ever make and have would be nurturing the people around you who love you because if it's my last day, then these faces are the ones that matter the most and these are the people that I somehow invested enough in and gave enough value to that you bless me for being here on this special day and then thirdly have your script dance do that dance between your birthday and this day make that script dance make this planet move, make it unapologetic, take no prisoners, play your hardest if you're going to run, run. run fast and hard even at the risk of hitting the wall make your run dance i love it i love that last question before i ask lisa i just want to acknowledge you for a moment for coming and sharing your wisdom and opening up and being present and being loving and committed and for the constant work he has done over the years to not only develop himself but also many others who are ready for that type of information and transformation, and I recognize him for his ability to show up and be honest. for the last two years about the things that are not serving you, the things that are holding you back or overwhelming you and taking them on completely and committing to all areas of your life, always understanding that it is a work in progress and that you are never going to You can't be perfect nor can I, except by recognizing it and taking action, even if it's after many years when people wanted you to do it.
It's amazing that you've taken it on now and it looks and you look amazing. beautiful and thank you you have always been so I recognize you for all the work that you continue to do to support so many thanks that I received that yes, I appreciate it and one last question is what is your definition of greatness with which my definition of greatness is living intention from leaving people better than you found them to allowing your breath to appear and possibly be a change agent moment for another person to giving yourself permission to shine your light so brightly that if someone is in your presence and they could be in a dark moment in life when your light illuminates their life long enough for them to see their own possibilities again.
Greatness is about being willing to be used at your highest level of possibility, even when it's uncomfortable, even when it's unpopular, even when you're alone. even when it's inconvenient you're still willing to lead Lisa Nichols, thank you for coming, I appreciate it, thank you for having me, this is awesome, thank you, hey guys, thank you so much for watching this interview, I hope you enjoyed it, make sure to share it with your friend leave a comment and like below and we also have many previous interviews on this channel so click here to see the previous interviews and every week we publish more episodes, inspirational videos and interviews so if you have you done?
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