¿Existe la fórmula de la FELICIDAD? Con Mario Alonso Puig | Las tres puertas

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for happiness, good question, Maria, simple, happiness, well, I believe there is in these times, I believe that to begin with, self should be the law, but to begin with, having health and for me happiness, well, I have to tell you that for me These are fairly everyday situations. I don't know how to see my mother spending a little time with my girl, getting home, the cats being there, arriving at the office, and my friends being clowning around, which I really like and it amuses me. Can you imagine? If we were able to solve this equation, it is because they give us at least the Nobel Prize.

I don't know why there should be a Nobel Prize for who discovers something that humanity has spent centuries searching for, where is happiness, what is the fo

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? I would tell you that look, sometimes when I think about something I am passionate about light but I cannot see the light I can see illuminated surfaces I am passionate about life but I have seen life walking I have already seen the expression of life and this is it Ask where happiness is if I have been doing it for a long time and in the end maybe because of my profession as a doctor maybe because it gets me a search engine because first they look for the body for example hey I would ask you what you feel in your body when you are happy well I feel like I can breathe even better, look like this, it's probably interesting to breathe and it's like when you were a girl with diaphragmatic - thoracic breathing than the breathing of anxiety and what do you think your cells and tissues go through, you think the cells and tissues ask you greater of this man than you believe that your tissue cells respond the same to happiness as to the absence of happiness well no because above all the physical part when I am bad I am bad and the cream is the cream of course yes of course you look for example in the field biology what a beautiful thing has been seen possibly the most important hormone in happiness is oxytocin through oxytocin which is the hormone of encounter the hormone that makes our barriers dissolve your way of thinking is not an obstacle to that I approach you and listen to you that your way of feeling, even if it is different from mine, is not a reason for separation either.

Look how beautiful it is that oxytocin protects the heart from curiosity, oxytocin protects against infections and makes the cells They can express genes that they would not otherwise express, then in some way even though we cannot say what happiness is, our body recognizes it. Today, I must be full of oxytocin, but he said yes, well, because a prestigious doctor like you, there is a day that says and who thinks that their life has to change, get out of that comfort zone that is sometimes so difficult, and discover that the word, precisely communication, is what you want to do.

I believe that in life things do not happen by chance and that books You don't find them, books find you. When I entered medical school, it was a career that I was passionate about. Being a doctor was all about alleviating human suffering. It was my vocation, but I felt about it because of a career that takes into account that in my family there are no doctors there was no tradition no but no one creates an area for you well believe me if I tell the truth in this if we are in the three doors in other things I can deceive you I can lie to myself against the shipping company 18 initial rule in your house but but I had a very profound experience with human suffering and I decided that I would dedicate my life to reducing human suffering and here life helps me because it put it in front of my nose because otherwise I would not have seen it, it put a book that was the relationship between a sick doctor and that book transformed my life because in some way it explained that 2,500 years ago Greek doctors had discovered that they could be cured with the word, I must have thought that the word is stupid, the word cures, well, the word cures and they said that diseases that seemed impossible were cured.

So I fell in love with that. You know this when I'm sure that intuition is something that is part of your life. The intuition that tells you tells you what to do but it says because that's who during that time I didn't pay attention to and the truth is that It doesn't fail, you have to listen to it a little more, at least you have to listen to it and I felt that intuition that there was something profound, unfortunately in most of the medical school faculty, it's not there, there's no art teaching, it's worth education where I could do it.

I worked as best I could on my own patients, they began to tell me that the conversations I had with them are good, it is life-changing, and surgery is because I am a surgeon, the operation is not, it is not the operation, well, doctor, but it is the conversation, it is the purchase, you have to extending this has extending empathy, empathy can be worked on or that is one of the things that you have, you have it and if it doesn't work, then look, there are many studies in that sense, we have the circuits for empathy, we all have them to see except for certain situations.

In this case, they are not too relevant either, what happens is that we can have those circuits closed, for example, when I feel an interest in things going well, an interest in understanding what is happening to you, to see if I can help you with something, if I can help you. life easier those circuits of empathy begin to work and my disposition leads to the function if by chance or by being decided that I am not interested that what interests me is to tell my things and go see mine I know that Where it is slow, almost as if invisible, then I lack the disposition that closes the circuits, the circuits are there, but in order for me to activate them, I have to have a willingness to meet the other person and not empathy, which is very important and curious, and also the plan for the day precisely releases even hormonal oxytocin and has extraordinary effects look how far the impact of empathy can go we are going to talk about another extraordinary woman one I have in front of my eyes and another is doctor lisa from blackburn she did win the nobel prize for medicine in 2009 and some things that he demonstrated is that empathy means that you feel heard by another person who is understood even though they may not agree with you but if there is that will and that real intimate connection, look at what I am going to tell you. on the board because she demonstrated that telomeres telomeres a structures at the ends chromosomes that maintain the stability of DNA lengthen measure life lengthens love is a factor capable of lengthening life there is no longer a doubt that the most subtle, I would say that even the most beautiful of

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nce is totally connected with the physical dimension, look at the white blood cells of the lymphocyte 4 of 8 a lot of strange names but they are our defense system of course they are sensitive to love a person who feels surrounded Of dear people, it activates what is called the parasympathetic nervous system, which encourages the immune system to act where it should act and not where it should not act.

I have white blood cells as centers. I have to ask you something because if words heal, I understand that They can also generate the opposite effect, that is, tension, the verbal violence that results in our body, well, look, I'm going to give you a situation that obviously occurred in the United States in the confusion of a word, using an abbreviation in the United States, which uses abbreviations a lot and They used the word s, which means tricuspid stenosis, stenosis of the tricuspid valve, which is what the professor of medicine and professor of cardiology said, but the lady understood that this term meant the center of terminal syndrome and this woman who was quite well just passed through visit this doctor suddenly he started to feel very bad and they didn't understand what was happening it didn't have to happen sir if you are fine yes but it is normal that you are sick because because I have an illness in the Aussies scene I have in front of me my brother it is not it is a This isn't tricuspid, no, you're saying this to calm me down.

They looked for the doctor and he doesn't believe it. The man died. They couldn't find him because there was another place for local things. That is to say, words have enormous power, enormous power to heal and a enormous power to get sick, that's why we have to talk to each other with cordiality and affection, even in the most difficult moments and in the clearest order. The truth is, look at what one of the greatest psychologists the world has known, the American William James, said, it's you with The way you talk about when you fall is what determines whether you are in a pothole or in a grave.

You are going to tell yourself how many times when you have made a mistake you are going to call yourself a failure or you are going to say hey, I tried, I can do it for you. to lose what a time we have had to, we have had to deal with a race of people, yes, look, there have also been very difficult times, there have been people who have gone through tremendous times, there have also been people who have had many many challenges, many difficulties, we have also had a very big challenge. At other times in history, in other times, history has also had its little things, a complicated time in which I also don't know that many people have felt alone all this time.

I know that unchosen solitude is very harmful to health. Now it has also happened. There have been so many people who have sought to generate that company that help. I believe that the more we focus on the beautiful things, the not so beautiful things will be reduced. This is how to eliminate darkness, we do not have to fight in the darkness, we have to allow it to enter. a little light, no, so I think we have seen everything, but unchosen loneliness is something that we have to prevent from existing. We all have to feel accompanied. You are one of those who thought we were going to come out of all this as better people.

No, it's not Those who thought about them are those who think about it, that is, they think about it and I will die, think because I know because I know why because I know that thought has the surprising ability to make what you think come true, so that is why it is a way focusing my attention is a way of talking to myself, that is, I have dreamed so much about a program so in the end I have achieved it because I am sure that it has been assured that if the final reality improves many of the dreams, many times I know why, also, and once I read something It is beautiful that it is not so much that you achieve the dream but the person in whom you have to share yourself to achieve it.

You have not achieved the best, but after becoming a person who has a way of being and being, much prettier, much kinder, much more cordial, then every eight hours a dose of affection of love a good past that tells us why every eight hours as a physical biological your weight every eight hours I believe it is a way of living and it is a way of living it is a way there is something more beautiful than being Next to a happy person, Maria, it is clear that it is the best gift that can be given. What they are not.

I water this person because they are very affectionate. Hey, and that other person, although she is not so affectionate, needs your smile less. What is not is that you smile because you You choose to live seeing life. I think that moment is normal. That is a natural part of your sister. The issue is not that we go around smiling like the joker all day. If she wins, no one believes it. Of course, now, well, there is that. willingness to recover it and if it cannot be a smile outward because we do not have the strength, at least a faint smile inward until that smile action within begins to find its expression in the eyes in the look in the tone of voice bad times or the masks to that is true that we lose half of the face in my case it has been gained in my case it has been gained which from the aesthetic point of view I am delighted you know that looking for me we have to understand that looking for an excuse for a sweater something from now on the look appreciative the smile through the eyes that doesn't stop a mask or anything at all I what I missed about the hug the sea and well of course of course of course of course because look at the contact the skin is the nervous system turned upside down the system nervous and the skin come from the same embryonic sheet of electro dermo so of course caressing has an enormous impact on maturation this has been seen not only with babies and has been seen for example with experimental animals what is called good mothers in the sense that the less their offspring than their way of feeling and those who don't and the development is completely different the human being is a being of contact these are the things that sometimes cost more because I don't notice that that person Whether you think that I think we are going too far, oh, there are ways of playing that are full of love, full of affection, and human beings need that.

When I remember, my mother died at my age, but when my father died, they have been around for longer. of 50 years married she never forgot the hug of my son Joaquín I never forget it 20 years she has been more than 50 years and my father passed away I am about to erase the happiness and put the formula of love so that it lasts as long as I am going to put it And if the formula for unhappiness, of course, is the formula for happiness, it is learning to love that fabric, I bought that one. I liked it a lot.

Maybe that's what the best thing is for you. The formula for happiness is learning to love, and it's so hard for us to be happy because we don't. We know how to love that one. I like it a lot. It has certainly forced affection on me and you said it. That fine city moves the world in its many facets. Its being is channeled between co-workers, friends, couples, creators, you are all a whole, we are and notice that there is a biological dimension of course in this case represented by oxytocin and others and other hormones and a psychic dimension is when I see you different but I don't see distant so that sense of recovering unity is also living truly because then what is going to separate us? way of thinking our way of voting please I meet a human beingLike me, she wants to be happy, she wants to generate hope, she wants to be healthy, she wants to have friends for the same reason that she fucks up her internal struggles, deaths, videos, well, just like that, and that she doesn't know about races or ideologies, it's like the waves stop fighting each other. yes let's see what the way is