Simon Sinek's Advice Will Leave You SPEECHLESS (MUST WATCH)

Working hard for something we don't care about is called stress. Working hard for something we love is called passion. I think one of the mistakes people make is thinking that purpose comes from their work. I've been whatever for so many years and when I then lose my job or retire, now I don't have a sense of purpose because I've so closely associated my self-worth with the work I did, I knew what my job was, I had a sense of purpose and You wonder if those things go together well, that is, I had a sense of purpose for my job and then when I didn't have the job, I suddenly feel like I woke up in the morning not knowing what to do with the purpose.

It's not your purpose Your purpose is not You are a gunner Your purpose is not the work you wake up to do every day Your purpose is something bigger I have five little rules you can follow as you find your spark and bring your spark to life , the first thing is to go after the things you want, let me tell you a story, so a friend of mine and I went running in Central Park, the road runner organization, on the weekends they organize races and it is very common. at the end of the race they

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give away some apples or bagels or something like that and on this particular day when we got to the end of the race there were some free bagels and they had picnic tables set up and lit.

On one side there was a group of volunteers, on the table there were boxes of bagels and on the other side there was a long line of runners waiting to receive their free bagel, so I said to my friend, let's go buy a bagel and he looked at me and He said: ah. the line is too long and I said free bagel and he said I don't want to wait in line and I said like free bagel and he said no we're going to be too long and that's when I realized there are two ways to see the world for some people. he sees what they want and some people see what's stopping them from getting what they want I could only see the bagels he could only see the line because the rule is you can go after whatever you want, but you can't deny anyone others can go go after whatever they want you don't have to do it like everyone else has done it you can do it your way you can break the rules you just can't stand in the way of someone else getting what they want rule number two in the 18th century there was something that was It spread throughout Europe and finally reached America.

Port fever also known as the black death of childbirth. Basically what was happening is that women were giving birth and dying within 48 hours of giving birth. The black death of childbirth was a havoc in Europe and it got worse and worse for more than a century and these doctors and men of science wanted to study and try to find the reason for this black death of childbirth and so they got to work studying and they studied the corpses of the women who had died and in the morning they performed autopsies and then in the afternoon they went to deliver the babies and finished their rounds and it wasn't until the middle of the 19th century. that oliver wendell holmes noticed that all these doctors performed autopsies in the morning they didn't wash their hands before delivering babies in the afternoon and he pointed it out and said guys you're the problem and you ignored it and it They called crazy. for 30 years until finally someone realized that if they just washed their hands it would go away and that's exactly what happened when they started sterilizing their instruments and washing their hands.

The black plague of childbirth disappeared. The lesson here is that sometimes the problem is you. Responsibility for your actions You can take all the credit in the world for the things you do well, as long as you also take responsibility for the things you do wrong, it

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be a balanced equation, it doesn't come one way and not the other. another, you can take credit when you also take responsibility lesson three, take care of each other, the United States Navy Seals are perhaps the most elite warriors in the world and one of the Seals was asked who makes it through the selection process, who is capable of doing it. become a seal and his response was: I can't tell you the type of person who becomes a seal.

I can't tell you the type of person who manages to survive through outbreaks, but I can tell you the type of people who don't convert. seals, he says, the guys who show up with huge bulging muscles covered in tattoos who want to show the world how tough they are, none of them make it, he said, the preening leaders who like to delegate all their responsibility and never do anything for themselves. of them make it, he says some of the guys who make it are skinny and skinny, he said some of the guys who make it you'll see shaking with fear, he says, however, all the guys who make it when they find it themselves are physically exhausted emotionally exhausted when they have nothing left to give physically or emotionally they are somehow able to find the energy to dig deep within themselves to find the energy to help the boy next to them they become seals he said that you want to be an elite warrior it's not about how tough you are it's not about how smart you are it's not about how fast you are if you want to be an elite warrior you better be really good at helping the person to your left and helping the person on your right because that's how people move forward in the world, the world is too dangerous and the world is too difficult for you to think that you can do these things only if you find your spark, I congratulate you now who you go to to ask for help and when you are going to accept help when it is offered learn that skill learn by practicing helping each other will be the most valuable thing you will learn in your entire life accepting help when it is offered and asking for it when you know you can't do it.

The amazing thing is that when you learn to ask for help, you will discover that there are people around you who always wanted to help you, they just didn't think you needed it because you kept pretending that you had everything under control and the moment you say I don't know what I'm doing , I'm stuck, I'm scared, I don't think I can do this, you will find out that a lot of people love you. They will rush to take care of you, but that will only happen if you learn to take care of them, first lesson four.

Nelson Mandela is a particularly special case study in the world of leadership because he is universally considered a great leader. You can take others. personalities and depending on the nation you go to we have different opinions on other personalities but Nelson Mandela around the world is universally regarded as a great leader and one day he was asked how you learned to be a great leader and he replied that he would . He goes with his father to tribal meetings and remembers two things when his father met with other elders: one, they always sat in a circle and two, his father was always the last to speak.

Your whole life they will tell you that you need to learn. To listen, I would say that you have to learn to be the last to speak. I see it in boardrooms every day of the week, even people who consider themselves good leaders and can actually be decent leaders walk into a room and say, "here's the problem." what I think but I'm interested in your opinion let's go around the room it's too late the ability to keep your opinions to yourself until everyone has spoken two things ago one gives everyone else the feeling that they've been heard it gives everyone others the ability to feel like they have contributed and two, you get the benefit of hearing what everyone else has to think before giving your opinion, keep your opinions to yourself, if you agree with someone, don't nod your head If you don't agree with someone, don't do it.

I don't know, just sit there, take it all in and all you can do is ask questions so you can understand what they mean and why they have the opinion they do. You

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understand where they speak from and why. I am of the opinion that not only do they mean what they say, they practice being the last to speak one afternoon I went to buy a cup of coffee and there was a barista called Noah who was serving me, Noah was fantastic, he was friendly and funny and he was interacting with me and I had a lot of fun buying a cup of coffee.

In fact, I think I tipped him 100, right, he was wonderful, so as is my nature, I asked Noah if you like your job and without missing a beat, Noah says I love my job, so I went ahead and I said what the four seasons do that would make you tell me I love my job, and without missing a beat, Noah said that all day long managers would walk by me and ask me how I'm doing. doing if there is anything I need to do my job better he said not just my manager any manager and then he said something magical he says I also work at caesar's palace and caesar's at caesar's palace the managers are trying to make sure we are doing everything Well, we get caught when we do things wrong, he says, when I go to work there, I like to keep my head under the radar and just get through the day so I can get my paycheck, he says, here at the Four Seasons, I feel like I can . be myself, so we in leadership are always criticizing people, we always say we have to get the right people on the bus, I have to fill my wrong team, I have to get the right people, but the reality is that It's not the people, it's the leadership if we create the right environment we will have people like Noah in the four seasons if we create the wrong environment we will have people like Noah in Caesar's palace there was a former undersecretary of defense who was invited to give a speech at a big lecture before a thousand people and he was standing on stage with his coffee cup and his Styrofoam cup and he took a sip of his coffee and he smiled and he looked at the coffee and then he went off script and I said, you know, last year I spoke at exactly this same conference last year I was still the undersecretary and when I spoke here last year they flew me here in business class and when I got to the airport there was someone waiting to take me to my hotel and they took me to my hotel and I was already They had checked me in and they just took me to my room and the next morning I came down and there was someone waiting in the lobby to greet me and they took me right here. place and he handed me a cup of coffee in a beautiful ceramic mug.

He says I am no longer the undersecretary. I flew here by coach. I took a taxi to my hotel and checked in when I came down to the lobby this morning. I took another taxi. to this place and when I asked someone if he had coffee, he pointed to the coffee machine in the corner and I poured myself a cup of coffee in this Styrofoam cup. He says the lesson is that the ceramic mug was never made for me, that's how it was. destined for the position I held, I deserved a Styrofoam cup, remember this as you gain fame as you gain fortune as you gain position and seniority people will treat you better they will open doors for you they will bring you a cup of tea and coffee without even If you ask, none of that is for you, that is for the position you hold, it is for the level you have reached of leader or success or whatever you want to call it, but you will always deserve a Styrofoam cup, remember. that lesson in humility and gratitude you can accept all the free things you can accept all the benefits absolutely you can enjoy them but just be grateful for them and you know that they are not for you and that is why I continue to meet these wonderful, fantastic, tough idealists.

They work smart kids they just graduated from school they're in their starting job I sit with them when I go how they're doing I think I'm going to quit I ask them why they're like me not making an impact I'm like you've been here eight months it's like they're standing at the bottom of a mountain and they have this abstract concept called impact that they want to have in the world, which is the summit of what they don't. I don't see the mountain, I don't care if you climb the mountain fast or slowly, but there's still a mountain and what this young generation needs to learn is patience and some things that really matter like love or job satisfaction, joy, love. of life self-confidence a set of skills any of these things all of these things take time sometimes you can speed up parts of it but the overall journey is arduous, long and difficult all you need to do is have the will and the desire of wanting to make him understand what drives and inspires you