Classic Divorce Court: The Family Man

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today, a big city comedian embraces a new life in the country Terrell says no, his new wife Trisha convinced him to give up his playing life for a

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home in the suburbs that he says, is ending his career Terrell Tate and Tracey McCoy have taken their dispute before Judge Lynn Toler to resolve testimony in

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that begins now, mr. Tate, I understand your main complaint is that once you became a

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man, your baby moved to the suburbs and that ruined your comedy career or at least put a damper on it, why don't you tell me how the Has life in the suburbs ruined your entertainment? career well first I want to start off by saying I actually TiVo your show every day because it's like a part of our relationship on everyone that's on there so I like that you tell me what's up so basically you know I had this. life beforehand you know we're not single next mu Vaughn my own word I do self-sufficient comedy in my own life I know Miss McCoy here we get along well next thing you know we have a baby and now the change comes to where I move further away about you, you know my comfort zone where it was on the outskirts of the city 30 minutes from everyone, let me ask you something, did you want to make the change or did you feel pressured to do so?

I wanted to make the move for my family and for fun because you had a little one, you have a little 17 month old son, so you did it partly because it was the best thing for him, it was the best thing for us, I think the best thing was the first thing that I knew I was more of a maneuverable piece, it was easier for me to uproot my life because I didn't do anything, you know, take him to his side, okay, so how does that affect your comedy? I mean, isn't it so much fun in the suburbs?

Yeah yeah, it's a lot quieter where I met in St. Louis area is a lot smaller so being a 30 minute drive from St. Louis is forever and they won't come visit you if you stay somewhere place more than 15-20 minutes, so moving there isolated me, which technically seemed weird to us, in Illinois it's right on the other side of the bridge, but it's like 25-30 minutes. away, couldn't you drive 30 minutes to st. Louis and put on a show, we object to wanting them to come to the Bird witzy, on top of that, I work 45 minutes, oh wait, so every day on my commute I'm 45 minutes there, 45 minutes back and sometimes, a little exhausted after work.

I'm a retail manager, so I'm on my feet all the time. You know I move. You know there's a lot going on. Can I say this, Mr. Tate, yes please, you have a career going, you are trying to be an artist, you started a family, you have a son and you did everything you could to make him well, you are moving to the suburbs, that It was difficult for you, you work in retail. every day and we tell it things and I just want to say thank you, talk to me, just hum, do you appreciate it?

Oh, every day, I appreciate it, you appreciate it, but don't let it fool you, okay, so, then what am I reading wrong? um I think it's more because he makes it seem like there's a lot of pressure on the drive and getting to a show and thinking again, yeah, it's a little push, but if it's something you want to do, take the time for it and do it. mm- Hmm, that being said, I feel like you know if it's a show, do it, go to your show, do what you have to do, come home, we both knew they would be in the area we moved to, it was a better . terrarium one that is completely and now with him saying oh there's so much pressure and so much to do this and so much to do that and go home with woe is me.

I've been driving 45 minutes and you know, but you get home like this. 45 out of 45 minutes for a homemade meal every day, so the gentleman is home. Tate, I will say this if you really want something, a 45 minute drive and an hour drive is not going to stop you. Do you see what I'm saying? It's like I know people who, you know, do gymnastics and have to drive two hours. going to the gym staying for hours and driving two hours back a lot of people do the same thing a lot of people do and I had to get a new transmission for that because they constantly every day so you don't really think your moving to the suburb has affected negatively your career because it somehow affects my mentality in some way because I'm a little more isolated, I'm more, but I'm a sociable person, I like to be around my family friends people you know so you have more material about the city because you can see things with water and every time I'm home it's not like she's feeding me the laughing tube, you know, it's not like she laughs, you know, the encounter breaks out where you know, I like my family to come and they're really worried about taking that trip, and you know, that's what makes me tense because I don't feel funny and if I don't feel funny. and okay, you two have very different parenting styles, why don't you tell me what the problem is with that?

I think more about when it comes to our son, he is 17 years old, once he has the problem of still being breastfed. he's healthy, he's a great kid, he's never been sick and these are important things because he was breastfed, his dad on hand thinks it's too long for him to continue being breastfed so he makes little jokes about it, well that's it is something. It's funny that you can take my name when he was breastfeeding our son, he made a joke about what your name was, the Jews. The best thing was that you were born because she was so open with it that it was like you knew it could be a crowd of people and she was just, you know, I just brought it out, I just called her boo, that's all you like these days.

If I want to say oh, I need you, so I didn't come in openly and all that kind of stuff that we're not, you know, that's it. What's new, Mr. Tape, is that we are breastfeeding again because we discovered that the colostrum that comes out first is very good for the baby and that it is something healthy and we are trying to support that and it is also cheaper. then formula, I get it, but she doesn't tell me how exhausting breastfeeding is because what happens because of that is my son needs to be with her, where she can't really leave overnight on a weekend, go to his grandparents' house and stage, that is.

What I would like a little more is for my parents to be able to see it or say that at night she would stay with her grandparents for the weekend. He should be able to do the following. Trish's pregnancy was actually a setup to force Tyrell into a committed relationship. divorce is not easy if you need help with your breakup call toll free 1-800-22 or visit our website at divorcecourt.com become a fan on facebook.com slash divorce court divorce court real relationships raw emotion testimony continue now let me begin with this: Her family from the beginning was worried about Mrs.

McCoy because she has a history of ensnaring men. Why doesn't she tell me what she was told and why would I choose my words very carefully because she wouldn't use them? that word, the T word, well you absolutely wrote it, what happened is it was unexpected to me, that's all and I guess that started part of the beginning. I won't even say confusion, are you aware of what her family was saying? He who should use you because you trap men. Were you aware of that? No, never, because I don't feel like I catch anyone. I have always been independent.

Do you get along with his family? Yeah, oh, no problem. I don't know what it was now that you say now that you say you would like to know yes, what about when was it? I guess when we were after the baby was conceived and after the baby was born, um, my parents still loved him. baptize the baby, which hasn't happened yet because my father is a reverend and that just started, which caused some of the initial problems, but like I mean, up to this point, the whole relationship is much better, I mean, It's especially his relationship with my parents.

I mean it's much better mr. Tate, you say he has a dominant personality that has caused you some concern and all the laughter in your house has stopped telling me about a dominant person, sometimes you know I wake up every day and I'm happy, you know I'm alive. I have a good job. I look better every day, you know? In general, I am happy alone every day, every day. I generally wake up happy and sometimes her personality can seem a lot stronger if she's not happy so let's say if she's in a bad mood dream what is she doing I mean is she's loud she's angry all the time she's walking around depressed which sometimes can be a mix we can be in a normal environment and we were all laughing having a good time, you know, joy, she could be laughing and then all of a sudden it just changes and now it's like, oh my god, with which It was the triggering event that caused it now and I won't know, I don't understand what. he's talking so maybe you can help me yeah, are you in a bad mood?

Yes, because it doesn't have to be something certain that triggers me, you can be. In fact, I can think of something I have to do at home that hasn't been done and has nothing to do with him per se and he's just worried or worried about all these worries, well, they've both said things that indicate they have a very basic problem that many married people made him say she doesn't let you lead and be the man of the house and you say he wants a passive woman who does what he tells you so I'll start with you give me an example of something that said or did that guided you. believe that he wants you to be passive and not stubborn and to just let him be in charge and big.

I don't think we have enough time on this day, but I guess some of the things that might be a topic and we're discussing it don't have to be anything in particular or if we're passing by a store or something like that and I might say for something we say that I know and I experienced it, he could turn around and say well, no, that's not supposed to be like that, that's how it's supposed to be and it's like one of those lines of well, wait a minute, I got an opinion, let's both do it when the divorce court continues.

Is this the couple so careful when discussing that nothing is resolved? and they just stay mad at each other Tyrell is a comedian Do you think Tricia was right to expect a life full of laughter with him? Call 1-800-1991 to vote now and see if America agrees with your opinion. He also receive some valuable offers, call now if you want your case to be heard in divorce court, call us toll-free at one eighty-seven seven three one one twenty-two twenty-two or log on to our website at divorcecourt.com and join the Twitter conversation in divorce divorce court continues so you are basically saying that he doesn't respect your opinion.

Yes, I can tell a story that I recently had a birthday party, my birthday party, and we were coming home and going back and I was explaining to him about a particular person. he's a coworker and how she got the job and he changed his field was because I said he wasn't, it was more of a connection not versus his skills mm-hmm he says, well that's not right, you need it sir , shouldn't You don't say that and you shouldn't do that and it's like okay, sir. Tate, why don't you tell me why you say he won't let you be the man?

She doesn't really trust me. Could it mean the dogs of death? That's how we started, so it was like I was the single guy that we were dating and I knew it, but I still had other things to do and while you were dating her you still had other women that you were dealing with too, so they were helpful with her about it. Oh, not at that time, but we got her in. glory back then and we talked about this, yeah, we did and that was a big that was a big that was a big explosion and you know and you stopped and I absolutely one hundred percent that's not even the topic we brought up infidelity she Still I have those trust issues and when it came to the story she was telling, the word used was minority hiring and that's what I had a problem with because as a manager of a very popular retail store, a customer told me that once.

Hi, so she's already there, yeah, it's like no, I don't know. I don't think companies are just in the process of hiring people, they're just not qualified and just putting them in a management position, that's not happening. I've been a manager and you have to be overqualified, yes I tend to agree with him but that's okay you guys don't seem very good. I also have to go home, so I have to choose my words absolutely right, you know? I really want us to have come here to get help and I want to choose my words wisely because I know this will have an effect.

I can't help you if I don't know what's wrong until now. I mean, I don't listen. He is dominant and he wants you to be passive. I don't hear that she won't let you lead. I don't hear any of that. I feel like he's an intern because I don't have a ring on my finger. I'm not married, so I cook, I clean, I do everything a wife should do well, we haven't made this deal, so that's where my problem comes in, because okay, so you're here talking about listening, I'm going to pick up the slack. camp if you don't.

You don't show up with that ring someone does judge lynn toler ruling next divorce court judge lynn toler ruling right now first of all I have to sayI don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing but I've been doing this show for a long time and the more I do it the more people who come here make up an argument about some money but you could come here and talk to me and I understand that you never wanted to do. finish, you don't want to leave, you just want me to ask him to call you, ask you a question and then we'll come back now, let me ask you a question, is there a reason you moved to the suburbs, you made all these sacrifices, you had a baby together and you don't want to get married.

The attitude is that that will be my biggest concern. I don't really gravitate towards attitude because I'm a more cheerful person, give me an example. There are people who come here talking about his wife jumping on the hood of the car. I got people jumping and they slashed the tires. They came out through the neck and all that. I don't understand anything about that man McCoy, let me tell you something, people get married when they are ready, not before, your job is not to put yourself in a position where you have to beg someone to marry you, your power is partly In your independence, your power is partly in the ability to say that you can't have, you can't touch.

I certainly will not procreate with you, so I would like you to exercise your power, which is like things that have to come and get now. he said that numb oh I'm telling you this if you love her if you want the family thing not only don't get married because you don't have to decide what you want and don't keep her if you never want to get married I think you're good people I think you're good people You look okay so the baby has to be beautiful with nice big gums so you can't just okay you wanted five hundred dollars or something but she didn't really want it you just had the reason to be here you are here I said what I had to say and now I'm going home this matter is a trip Tyrell and Trisha agree with the judge's ruling and are working to honestly resolve their issues post a comment or file your case at divorcecourt.com or call toll-free