Relationship Discernment | Bishop Marvin Sapp | 7 Feb 2023

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He has a plan to try to set us back from our commitment to God. He has a plan to make you want to give up and throw in the towel. city, but he looks at someone and says: I'm not afraid of his plan. They interviewed him because the Lord is my life and he is my salvation. Who will I fear? If I have some people here who had courage, he opens his mouth and screams. right there tell me who has the last word and it doesn't matter what people say and it doesn't matter what the doctor says there is no reason not to say it is please the lord is me the lord is the strength of my life challenge come on ask that question everyone who comes, everyone, someone receives praise once again abroad until I feel good.

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I am Bishop Marvin L Sapp and I want to welcome you. to another edition of Tuesday Night Live. In fact, I'm excited to have this opportunity to come to your house. You know, I'm relaxing here in my podcast studio. You know, I wanted to go to church today. Why do you know. I have been away for a little while and I just returned from vacation and I want to be able to share from our Sanctuary but it is raining, it is raining outside and this is one of the benefits, thank you Jesus, of living in this post-pandemic.

In this time we give the opportunity to be a hybrid ministry, which means we do ministry from the sanctuary, but we can also do it remotely and I am very excited that God has given us the opportunity to be able to share this capacity while you can sit at home with your family at the kitchen table or wherever you are sitting and have the opportunity to enjoy the word of the Lord being taught, encouraged, edified, fortified and strengthened with prayer, hopeful, through what is shared throughout the world. Airway, so I'm excited to have this moment right now to be able to reach out to all of you in this way and this way there's so much going on.

I want to challenge you all to make sure you are with us this next Sunday be with us next Sunday, without a doubt, there was a word from the Lord last Sunday. I just arrived and the service was amazing. We had the opportunity to bless our children and offer them back to the Lord. We had a wonderful service of worship and adoration. the god of our Salvation um there are so many positive things that are happening in the chosen vessel church and you need to be a part of it you need to be a part of it uh your physical being needs to be in the sanctuary we are growing we are growing the family of Faith in the chosen vessel we are growing growing growing um people ask me, you know, because you know now we are almost full in the sanctuary every Sunday and people have been saying, well,

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, are we going to do another service they have not authorized me to do that I have not been authorized to make an announcement about another service um right now we are just going to focus on the lemon clock praise the Lord we are only going to focus on the 11 o'clock clock um but we are growing and I am very grateful that God is adding to the family in the chosen Basque Church weekly, people come from here and then from all the places they visit and I'm having an amazing time, they can literally ask people questions when they visit the church.

I know sometimes it may seem like it takes a long time, but the truth of the matter is that people are enjoying it, people are enjoying it, they are enjoying that connectivity. that they get with the main pastor of the church and also with all of you. I have received testimonies about you, you know, when people come to church, how you greet them, that people feel that this is a place where that love resides. uh you know we still have some things we need to break um but even though there are some things we need to break and we're going to address them you know we're going to address them on our way.

In our fourth year as pastor, uh, you know, I'm excited to see where our ministry is growing. Everyone will realize I said it will grow, not that I'm going to. I'm excited about where our ministry is growing and so you all should be excited too, absolutely all of you should be excited too, now let's get this party started. I asked you a question and that question is: do you know what time? I said: do you know what time it is? It's time to see. at home and as always there are a multiplicity of ways in which we can plant seeds in the kingdom of God, but here specifically in the Chosen Vessel Church there are four ways electronically and one way if you are in person in which you can see it and still that information is at the bottom of the screen that is in the lower thirds is at the bottom of the screen you can give me through gibblify you can give me a cash app you can give me through Paypal you can text the word give to the number that is at the bottom of the screen you can mail a check mail a check to 4650 Campus Drive in the city of Fort Worth Texas you can make it payable to tcdc mail it and see this and I want to search Google for the zip code.

I know people always ask me why you have to Google the zip code. The reason is because I want you to do your due diligence when it comes to our ministry. Because? Because all the grounding assets went to the family. It is not good for planting, so you have to do your due diligence to determine if it is a suitable and good soil for planting and I firmly believe that after you do your due diligence, after reviewing us, you will realize that this is a great piece of land. to plant simply because this is the house that favors construction.

Favor is building this house every day. There are so many things happening constantly. Our bathrooms are being completely and completely remodeled, every last one of them. We are adding two new bathrooms to our church. We just finished redoing our gym floor, which I'm really excited about when it comes to that. We have many other projects that will be carried out. Family we will meet with. with Grant Riders and we are having conversations about a lot of different things that are going to happen in the elected Basque Church this year, so you have to be a part of it, you have to be a part of it and me telling you that your association is absolutely important, it is important and, Without a doubt, it is necessary and it is necessary, how do we partner with you, Bishop Marvel?

Well, you can join us tonight, as always, I always challenge 400 people, 400 people, to plant a twenty dollar seed every Tuesday night I ask 400 people to plant a twenty dollar seed. Now twenty dollars is not a lot of money, but what it is is a seed that will help us achieve what God is calling us to do. in this last little day trying to make sure that we do all the things necessary to improve our ministry and make our ministry attractive to all walks of life, that is the goal of making our ministry attractive to all walks of life.

In life, people can come from here and everywhere and feel part of something that is transformative because that is the goal, the goal is to transform ourselves, we are not supposed to conform to the world we live in. We are supposed to be transformed by the renewing of our minds and that is indeed our goal as a master preacher pastor that God has established in this season in Fort Worth in the chosen vessel church, so I need you to see, I need you to sow. I need you to plant right now those 400 individuals plant those 20 seeds I'm going to pray and then we're going to go directly to our teaching for the night father God we thank you we honor you for this moment we praise you for this this time we thank you for all the people who are sitting and sowing as we speak God, I pray that you will bless them, make them a blessing, encourage them and, Lord God, strengthen them in every area and aspect of their lives now God as we strive if you are going to get through this teaching time fellowship and intimacy we pray that Lord God you get all the glory you get all the honor you get all the praise because what is about to happen shared and said is not a ringing herb or a symbol of frolicking, but a symbol encouraging and motivating for each and every one of you here.

I thank you in advance because I declare and decree and decree and declare that it is done in the name of Jesus, let us pray, amen, now. I'm going to do something a little different tonight because normally what I do is I start with some foundational writing and after I start with the foundational writing, I started doing our specific teaching. Today I'm going to do something different because what I'm going to do is give you the title of our teaching tonight and then we're going to begin the teaching process and then we're going to infuse the Scriptures into what our topic is.

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in the comments section. I started Sunday addressing this whole concept and aspect of toxic attractions and even started talking about beloved brothers and sisters, like February. It is the month in which we deal with love and relationships simply because of Valentine's Day.Valentine, which is next Tuesday, as I understand it, so I wanted to make sure, family, that we covered some things in this particular month, I don't know if. I'm going to be on them all month, but I want to address a few things this month in particular.

I firmly believe that as individuals we need to observe, not just observe, but also practically. principles that we also need to apply to our everyday lives, whether we are in romantic relationships or whether we are in platonic relationships, friendship relationships, it's amazing to me. , family, that there are so many people on social media who are relationship experts without any experience, which means that if you ever did due diligence on their particular lives, a lot of the things they are teaching, a lot of the things they are sharing, a lot of the things that they're saying, um, these are not principles that they've applied. in their lives um so it has become a scandal for me I'm not that's the wrong word to use uh a means to uh acquire finances um it's it's not coming to me this is my perception in my opinion um that sometimes Some of the Things that are shared do not come from a place of trying to ensure growth.

I think sometimes some of the things are shared to make sure they can take care of and/or these things. a means of financial security and that is all well and good, but I firmly believe, beloved brothers and sisters, that if we are to be what God has called us to be, when it comes to healthy relationships, I firmly believe that the foundation of a healthy relationship only begins with God because God is the author, look at this and the builder of what relationships are supposed to be and what they are supposed to look like, so if I could tonight, I just want to talk to all of you from this . particular topic and this particular thought I want to speak from the discernment of the relationship of thought.

Now understand, beloved brothers and sisters, that throughout history families, employers, and communities have asked what skills and competencies are needed to fit into mainstream society and how best to cultivate those same skills. Our current role and the changes ahead require that the education of our dear brothers and sisters prepare us for a world of rapid change and technology, increasing interconnectedness and new forms of employment. No longer, dear brothers and sisters, is the focus on master sufficient content knowledge at the time. For Google to thrive in the rapidly changing world requires a variety of skills rooted in academic competence, such as literacy, numeracy and science, but also including things like teamwork, critical thinking, communication, perseverance and creativity.

In short, I know I said a lot, but in short. Dear brothers and sisters, the fact of the matter is that the world is constantly changing before our eyes, but recognizing the nature of these changes is key to examining the current context in which we live and the major changes that will occur. What is expected in our future beloved brothers and sisters according to the Scriptures, the ability to do this, the ability to do this, is called understanding or discerning the times again. Recognizing the nature of these changes is key to examining the current context in which we live and the most important changes that are expected. in our future scripturally, as I told you just a moment ago, the ability to examine or recognize the nature of these changes is literally called understanding or Discerning the times.

The Bible says something extremely profound in First Chronicles, chapter number 12 and verse number 32, not what it says. It says of the sons of Ishakar who understood the times to know what Israel should do, their leaders were 200 and all their brothers were at their command. The reason this particular passage of Scripture is so important is because you know what the text says. It says that the sons of Issachar understood the times and when David was King and when he was gathering the army in Hebron he distinguished, if you will, the sons of Ishakar from the ranks because notice this of their unusual gift of Discerning the times and As Christians Dear brothers and sisters, we are called to seek and use discernment again.

It is a gift that we are called to seek, but we are not only called to seek but we are also called to use this gift. We are called beloved brothers and sisters. look at the good world that God created and seek his goodness and seek his mercy that is indeed our calling that is indeed our responsibility we are not called to this world see this born into this world do our thing the way we want to do it the way way we want to do it and fulfill our personal Destinies and our personal desires that do not align with the desires that God has for us and the destiny that God has called us to walk towards us beloved brothers. and the sisters are called to look at the good world that God created and pursue his goodness and his godliness, no, what the Bible declares, the Bible says something extremely outlined in Proverbs, chapter number 17, verse number 24, and it says this in the English Standard Version of the Scriptures, no one. says says the Discerning sets his face toward wisdom but the eyes of the fool are at the ends of the Earth God is saying that for those of us who desire to walk in the freely given gift of discernment beloved brothers the reason The reason why we seek that's for the simple fact that we as individuals desire wisdom, but he also says, but the eyes of the fool are to the ends of the Earth, so many of you may be asking the question tonight and I love it answer them. questions but many of all may be asking the question tonight Bishop Marvin what is discernment what is discernment I am very glad you asked because discernment is the ability to decipher what is true and what is false, what is good or bad or what is useful or not useful again, discernment is the ability to decipher what is true and what is false, what is good or bad or what is useful or not, then the reason why you need discernment is because it gives you the ability to decipher whether something is useful or not.

Being told is true or false whether something that is shared with you is good or bad or something you are supposed to do is going to be helpful or not. It will be helpful to see people who have discernment from those who seem to have a special ability to quickly identify the heart of the problem, which is why you need it, because God is saying that while you are on this Earth, dear brother or sister, your responsibility is to make sure that you catch a cold and that they are useful to you. individuals in their now and in their future, specifically in their own personal life as well and the reason why this is so important is because the goal of the enemy in each and every one of our lives is to bring distractions for the purpose of stopping us from purpose of stopping us. for the purpose of tripping us up as we move forward in this thing called life, so that as you navigate through this thing called life, discernment is the compass that is necessary and necessary to get you from point A to point B.

I wish I had. some help in this place I see that you need to understand that only through the knowledge and application of the word of God through the power of the holy spirit can we improve our discernment so it is a gift that God has given to each and every one of us but although it is a gift that God has given to each and every one of us, it is a gift that must be cultivated and cannot be cultivated outside of the word of God and outside of you being guided by the spirit you listen to what I I say it, it cannot happen outside of the word of God and you are guided by the holy spirit because these are the two things that improve your discernment.

Let's look, let's look at Hebrews, look at Hebrews quickly chapter number five verse number 14. Hebrews chapter 5 verse number 14. now you know what it says, although by this clock, by this moment, by this moment, you should already be a teacher and you need someone to teach you. teach again the basic principles or the Oracles of God, he said, you don't need milk. solid food for everyone who lives on milk is unskilled in the word of righteousness from childhood but solid food is for the mature for those who have seen this the faculties of discernment trained by consistent practices or practice to distinguish good and evil the reason The reason some of you struggle in the area of ​​discernment is for the simple fact that you have still been instilled with milk when you need meat;

In other words, this is the season for each and every one of you to make a decision that I'm going to grow up. God help me, why don't you put that in the comments section? Put that in the comments section. I need you to put it in the comments section. This is my season to grow. I need you to put it in the comments section write it in the comments section write it in the comments section right now this is my season of growth I'm growing spiritually I'm not just going to grow and put together a a ah if you want a vision board for everyone the things I want to acquire, but some of you need to put together a vision board for your spiritual walk.

This will be the year I grow in the area of ​​my faith. This will be the year I grow up. I am going to read more books that will make me a stronger believer. This is the season when I will spend more time in prayer than on social media. I'm going to spend more time fasting than on social media. cell phone this is going to be the season in which I decide that I am going to grow because if I stay with milk I am going to be left dealing with basic principles and the Oracles of God but when I start it is going to be with solid and clean foods, so To say it, the flesh of the word of God will give me the power of discernment and will train me through constant practices to distinguish good from evil.

See, the flesh of the word gives me what I need to be. able to distinguish what is good, what is bad, what is right, what is wrong, what is for me and what is against me, from this passage of Scripture, beloved brothers, sisters, We see that there is a distinct and direct link between discernment and the word of God, in other words, beloved. Brothers and sisters, the word of God is that barometer that is needed and necessary so that you can make correct decisions. Oh, the reason why some of you can't make right decisions is because you don't have enough information inside you, because you don't have enough words inside you, you can't distinguish what you should and shouldn't do and when you shouldn't.

You can tell what you're shooting at, what you shouldn't. Do you start to rely on your own understanding and the Bible makes it emphatically clear that that's not what she was meant to do? It says that you should trust in the Lord with all your heart and not rely on your own understanding. The problem is that we're too busy relying on our own understanding and then when we stumble and when we make mistakes or when we fall short, you know, because even though we're going to fall short on some things, we shouldn't fail. In short, if we apply the wisdom of God, which is the word of God, to our lives, there are certain things that we should not fall short of, we should be able to achieve the goals we set out to achieve as long as they align. above with the word of God, beloved brothers and sisters, the scripture that I just read lets us know in Hebrews chapter 5 and verse number 14, it lets us know with clarity that there is a direct link between a discernment and the word of God and if that is the and let me put it this way and that's a covenant that I think actually that's the main reason why God has given us the gift of discernment, he's given us the gift of discernment as a premise and purpose of showing. how we are supposed to deal with interpersonal relationships, the gift of discernment has been given to us as individuals so that we know how to deal with each other and understand how to deal with the everyday problems of the world that we as individuals face again I find that the reason The main reason why God has given us the gift of discernment which must be cultivated in other words it just doesn't happen we have to work at it for it to grow is for interpersonal relationships relationships, whether platonic or romantic, he has given us discernment so that we can understand how to deal with each other discernment so that we, as individuals, do not get caught up again and again in the same problems, isms and schisms because we have the gift placed within us to be able to decide and decipher what is within us favor and what is against us, so again I believe that the main reason why God has given us the gift of discernment is for interpersonal relationships, when it comes to relationships. discernment, which is our thought for today, what we really need is the power of the Holy Spirit to help us apply the word of God to our relationship decisions.

In other words, let me make this emphatically clear: there is no biblical way to view relationships. and a practical way of looking at relationships whenever I hear people say those things it bothers me and the reason is because relationships were never practically established God created relationships God created them andRelationships are spiritual no matter how you try to divide them. No matter how you try to separate it, I don't know why they try to make relationships so spiritual. You know, let's take out the outdated church and then you can't take it out, you can't take God out of anything.

What we need to understand dear brothers and sisters is that relationships are ordained by God and I mean relationships with platonic or romantic people, they are ordained by God, you know, God said that it is not good for us to be alone, so he established a relationship when we are in the beginning when God saw that there was nothing in creation that was created, if you want, God help me, this is good, that was created, if you want, for Adam to cohabit with it for Adam to connect with him for Adam to relate to him said it is not good for him to be alone and created a relationship at that particular moment, stop trying to take God out of relationships because he is the founder and builder of what they are and are the relationships, then what we really need is the power of the Holy Spirit to help us apply the word of God to our relationship decisions, every decision you make as it relates to your connectivity with whoever you are.

Trying to connect with that must be filtered through the Holy Spirit and the word of God, how do they fit into God's plan for my life? That should be the question you asked, how do they fit together? I'm not just talking about your thing. I'm not just talking about your man, your woman, I'm also talking about friendships, how does this individual fit into my life? Will they help me get to where God has called me to be or will they go? be an obstacle to getting to where God is supposed to know I'm supposed to be in God look when you can make decisions in relationships that are aligned with the word of God look at this and then you will discern I'm going to say that again, when you make decisions of relationship around decisions and relationships that are aligned with the word of God, then you discern, you see the tuition, the intuition and all this kind of stuff and I had a feeling and all this kind of that's okay, okay, I'm I don't hate your feelings, I don't hate your intuition, but what I'm telling you is that when making decisions when it comes to relationships, they must be aligned with the word of God, so my question to each and everyone. of all of you who are looking at me even as I speak and yes, I will take more time tonight.

I'm going to take more time tonight. My question to all of you is: are you using the word of God to align the connections of your relationships between you and him, I don't know if that makes sense, let me say it again, are you using the word of God as the barometer that it is? necessary and necessary to make sure that you are in perfect alignment with him and connected with them because If you are not, you are not. Discerning what you are doing is that you are simply making the decision to move forward and move forward because you like them.

There are many people I like that I can't have. in my interpersonal space for the simple fact that your lifestyle may conflict with my destiny, so you must ask yourself these questions dear brothers and sisters again when we make decisions in relationships that are aligned with the word of God, then you will discern this It is not an easy skill to develop, however, discernment is not an easy skill to develop, we must train ourselves and consistently return to the Bible for God to sharpen our discernment. I see that many people think that the gift of discernment is only for people who flow in the prophetic. or that they function in the apostolic but I want you to understand family that the gift of discernment is available to all believers it is available they are supposed to have it it is a literal command from God that those of us who name the name of Christ that we possess the ability to discern the problem is that we do not want to invest in its development because it is not easy, we have to develop it, we must train ourselves and we have to return to the word of God consistently to be able to sharpen it now some of you may be saying well, I am a good judge of a character or that my intuition is always active and that's okay if you know it, you know it for those of you who function in that area.

I'm not talking to you because you're already clear, but for those of you who aren't sure, here are some signs to look for that may indicate you lack discernment in relationships. some keys some things that I think you, as an individual, need to examine if you want this relationship to be right, discernment, peace, because aren't you tired, aren't you tired of going through the same old thing and ending up in the same position? In the same place, aren't you tired of having people in your life who are only in your life because they want to get things from you but never want to give them to you and you keep wondering after the relationship starts to fail or has already faded?

You wonder why in the world I keep attracting the same kind of people into my life and end up in the same kind of emotional turmoil. Why am I here all the time? It's because you haven't learned to discern yet. for those of you who are deficient for those of you who are unsure here are some signs to look for that may indicate that you may be lacking in the number one relationship department, you are lacking relationship discernment if you justify someone's bad behavior by assuming that has a good reason black relationship discernment if you justify someone's bad behavior by assuming they have a good reason let me tell you that most Christians know that it is a sin to judge the motives of others First Corinthians chapter number four verses four and five says my My conscience is clear but that does not make me innocent.

It is the Lord who judges me, so do not judge anything before the appointed time. Wait until the Lord comes. Look at what He says. He will bring to light what is hidden in the darkness and expose the evils. motives of the heart at that moment each one will receive his praise from God. When we think about this sinful judgment, we often imagine the scenario where we might be assuming that something bad is happening in the heart of another while judging the inner motives of others. and assuming they are sinful is wrong look at this, it is also not biblical to positively judge someone's inner motives, so let me say this many times when we judge, we do so based on the fact that we assume that individual is wrong.

And if they do something wrong and we say something about them doing something wrong, the first thing they say is good, don't judge me, don't judge me, don't judge me, that's the first thing they do, what they don't do, judge me, but judgment doesn't only work when someone is wrong. It means that we should not judge people even though we may think they are right. The Bible says that people cannot judge the hearts of others, as stated in first Samuel chapter 16 and verse number seven. We are not capable of judging the hearts of others. period if you think you can search someone's heart and see the good or see the bad you are wrong only God can do that dear Christian brothers and sisters therefore we are obliged to pay attention. this to people's actions because that's all we can really evaluate, so look at this.

I'm not judging you if your actions say something you're contradicting. I'm not judging you if you tell me you saved a rank sinner, your actions are what I. I am evaluating your actions I am not judging your life I am evaluating your responses if you want discernment in relationships you need to know beloved brothers sisters what the word of God says and then judge the external will of people to live their lives according to the will of God. Yes, listen to me, I said judge your outer lives. Look, I can't judge your heart, but I can't judge your outside life.

Okay, some of you say you can't judge here. The Bible said, "Judge, don't be looked at, look." I know what the Bible says, what, but the Bible also says something else in First Corinthians chapter 5, verse 12, 13. Look what it says, what is it for me to judge those who are outside the church? Don't you look at this? do not judge those within, God will judge those without and then says to cast out the evil person from among you. Let me pause here for a minute. The writer was saying: write a Paul is making the nymphatic declare that I should not judge those who are.

On the outside God got them but if you in the church and your fruit says something that you are not if your fruit says something that you are not listen to me if you profess one thing and your fruit says something else I am evaluating your fruit and I have the right to judge it because you are in the house of God, that's what Paul tells us, what a matter of mind to judge those outside the church. I don't have time to sit here talking, my people in the world, the people in the world, you know, they're going to hell in the basket.

I have nothing to do with that, that's him and some of you will be angry because I say that. Look, look, I'm him. I am not responsible as a pastor for those. in the world they live the type of lifestyle that they choose to live that's their lifestyle they love they love to travel in go to hell first class that's how I see it if you're going to go first class don't go to hell coach, How are you going to go to hell from the church? That's the craziest thing you can do on the planet. If you go, you will go to hell doing all the things you can do, don't go to hell from here, you know what?

I say it, but here are the facts, the reason the church is supposed to judge itself is because the purpose of judgment within the church is to correct, it's not something to make you angry, it's not to make you feel evil. It's not your place to look back to point the finger at me say yes, you know I did this, but you, you, you, you did this and that and then and you can't judge me, I can, but my judgment is not based on putting you on heaven or hell my judgment is based on correcting you if I can't correct you I'm wasting my time if someone in your ear you can't have a friend in your life who can't tell you the truth if I can't tell you the truth I'm not your friend and if I cannot correct you, you come to our church but I am not your pastor, look because the responsibility of the pastor is a rod and a staff, the staff is what I use, the hook is what I use to get you out of the thicket, the rod is what I use to correct you, that is the responsibility of the pastor and what I'm trying to tell you is that judgment within the church because Paul says look expel the evil person from among you Paul said get them out of the church get rid of them if they don't want to follow the rules throw them out excommunicate do whatever you want be necessary why because their fruit that they are displaying could be toxic and could contaminate the rest of the garden oh God is calm oh my God I'm trying to finish this I'm trying to finish it so look at this so don't overlook the sin assuming that someone's heart is in the right place if you're doing something that's wrong in the direction they deserve it wait a minute you said you were this but all I see is there's something wrong with it because what you're saying and the way you live don't align, they aren't. in alignment, get it, thank you very much number two, you lack discernment in relationships if you ignore someone's constant self-contradiction, another sign dear brothers sisters that you lack discernment in relationships is when you are not willing to criticize people for their constant self-contradiction now, certainly, all of us Many of us contradict ourselves at times, but if we love someone it is a living contradiction, but you keep overlooking this red flag because you want this relationship to work out so badly, this is not good.

I am in a space and a place in my life after 56 years. I don't have time to overlook my own constant contradictions, you don't have time, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, I have to tell you, I have to tell you, if I hear it, It's like it's right on the tip of my I have to tell you it's on the tip of my tongue I have to tell you I have to let you know if I'm looking at you and every time you tell me something and you're a constant walking contradiction that's not just a red flag which is a red Chinese balloon floating all over the country that you should see from miles away I get it but brother sister that's not good when they say one thing and do another when they say one thing today and another thing tomorrow when they say one thing in around this group of people and something else around another group of people these are warning signs that you cannot ignore this is a relationship that is dangerous it is a dangerous relationship new beloved brother or sister you must make a decision in your mind I cannot and I You will not ignore that red flag, if you ignore this contradiction in someone's life, it means that you are not only in a relationship, you have discernment, you are not walking in wisdom, and if you are not walking in wisdom, what will end up happening?

The reason is that that contradiction in the relationship that is a walking contradiction in your life is so dangerous that it could end up hurting you in some way because you start and you are so busy trying to stay connected that God is showing you. you need to disconnect from the number three and I am close, lastly you lack discernment in relationships if you believe that you can try the same thing with the same person and get a different result you lack discernment in relationships if you believethat you can try the same thing with the same person and get a different result wisdom look this is when you have the ability to apply your knowledge some people can be very intelligent but they can't apply what they know to their lives therefore all those people Intelligent people would not be considered wise.

In the same way, people often know that they should stop trying to solve the problem with someone with whom they continually have the same problem, but they cannot apply this knowledge. Look, with discernment you will be able to know which problem can be solved versus a recurring problem that you should move away from. I'm closing with this. I'm closing with this because herein lies the challenge. I said something on Sunday. I said the reason people stay toxic or stay connected to Toxic Attractions is because look at this. The familiar seems safe. I'll say it one more time.

The reason people stay connected to toxic attractions is because the familiar seems safe. That's what's happening. The reality here is that the reason people stay connected to people. The reason you stay connected to themThe reason you stay connected is because that family member has become safe because you have learned to navigate that space, but the reality, beloved brothers and sisters, is that if it continues to happen, if it is a recurring problem, they should stay away from it because If you are left in the middle of a recurring problem here are facts, you can't blame them for what you accept.

I'm going to let this simmer. I'll pause it right here if it's recurring and keeps happening over and over again. and over and over again and they say I'm going to change I'm going to change and nothing changes and you stay you can't blame them you can't because what you just decided is that even though you can be angry even though you can be angry even though they argued even though They had made promises, if these things keep happening and you stay, that literally means you have accepted that behavior which is right and you need to think more about yourself.

I've invested too much time. I've invested too, but all the time I've invested, okay, you've invested time, maybe this was a life lesson, maybe God was trying to teach you something, maybe God was trying to show you something you needed to learn in this season. So for you to not respond or act this way in your next season, maybe God allows this group of friends to do the things they needed to do in your life because He knew you were going to mature to the place you were going. come into contact with a new group of friends you needed to leave some things in the past maybe God knew this romantic relationship had to happen so you would learn the things not to do in the next relationship, no don't watch this.

Don't punish the next relationship for what the last relationship did because that's what a lot of you do. I will never do it. I won't do it. You shouldn't have said that to them, not to him. here not her there you should have told them that back then no, no, no, no, don't abuse them here so when you passed by them there, everyone listens to me, this has been fun. I'm done with family, there are certain things you need to remember as relationship insight is preserved and things you need to apply to your life to make sure you don't make a mistake in the future.

I'm just trying to help a woman of God I'm just trying to help a man of God I'm trying to help myself I'm living and I'm learning at the same time listen I'm done let's pray father I thank you I give you glory I praise you for this interview moment , pour out and share God, I pray that as I have shared the best I can, these your people are encouraged by what they have heard and that they are strengthened and ready to grow because of it God. There are some things we have to do We have to fix ourselves We have to get together Some of us We are just two dogs Oh, going through the same old thing over and over and over again God, we are going to learn, we are going to discern We are going to apply the principles that teaches the Bible as well as infusing the Holy Spirit so that we can be better mm-hmm that is the goal in the name of Jesus we pray amen amen now listen I'm done finished and finished now if you don't have a relationship with the Lord and tell Jesus Christ I need to pray this prayer with me just pray say Lord Jesus I am a sinner who needs a savior I confess with my mouth I believe in my heart that you are my Lord and that you are my savior save me now in the name of Jesus I pray amen now listen if you prayed that prayer If you prayed that prayer I need you to do me a favor I need you to text the chosen word to the number at the bottom of the screen text the chosen word to the number at the bottom screen it is possible that you are hearing him say Bishop Martin listen sir I am looking for a Christ centered ministry I have been looking for a long time and I like what you I like your flow you know I like your booty rubbing me like your booty so you can be a member from our church, whether virtually or you could be a member of our church locally, yes we We are one Church, two locations, we have our virtual cyber members, but we also have our local members, come hang out with us here in Fort Worth, your city, yes, I would love to have you and come be with us, but if you want to join the church, you are I don't have to wait until Sunday, join now, how do I join the church?

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