Top 10 Mistakes Intelligent Men Make With Women | James Social Coach | Full Length HD

Hey guys, we're at the 21 dot-com convention again Melbourne Australia I always want to say Florida, which is like the worst city in Florida anyway, we're here with James from the past

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trainer, one of the highest rated instructors in charisma. arts, the company that I think we're all familiar with, I know, is the one started by the famous juggler Swain Wayne, as well as working directly with the social

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and learn how to be real social. present yourself as a man here we are James, my pleasure, thank you very much, great, great.

I've been doing this for six and a half years and one of the biggest epiphanies I had was when I was coaching a guy and he was finishing his childhood accounting exams and um, he had social skills, he was probably better than average, he was Well dressed and he was a really interesting guy, but my problem with training him was that every time I asked him to do something, he wasn't quite sure how to do it. do, he was paralyzed and you know he does step one, two, three great, then he doesn't know step four, he says yes and he freaks out and then I realized, it hit me so hard, the kind of Western education system.

We go to school and try to pass tests and what do you want to get on a test? You only get a 100 percent You don't want to

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, how do you think you're going to do it? You're going to die, die, die and probably number one, so at the beginning of my journey, the number one thing that I came across was I realized. oh my god I'm supposed to fail when I fail I actually learn something and if I don't learn anything I'm never going to get better so what you'll find when you start getting better with women and start dating you meet more and more beautiful women every time more interesting women smarter women and I dare say you start seeing two or three girls at the same time and possibly possibly even do threesomes you fail more you fail a lot more and because women see You have more confidence that they test you harder and you know that you start to fail a lot more.

Does that make sense to you? Some of you who are a little further along in this journey may have heard things like you're on a date with a girl, you really like her and she just comes and declares, listen, there's no way to know we're going to have sex tonight. or maybe it's the third day and you took her out and you really started to like her and it's like, listen, James, you're a really nice guy I really enjoy spending time with you but I don't know if I'm sexually attracted to you you're too old you're too young you're too short you're too bald You're too smart for something and then some guys would go with me for most of my life, but we have such a good thing, you know, we've been together, we have so much fun, we have such great conversations and guess what happens.

At my last appointment with them I got a little better at this and unfortunately for me it wasn't until I was in my 30s that I realized that what you do then is say oh okay, it's a bit disappointing so I talk myself out of it. that new Pilates. class you started, how is that going? and you will see the girl's eyes go and guess what happens half an hour later you are inside her do you know why? because you passed their woman test and that is probably the real secret to you knowing the abundance of beautiful women and amazing relationships with women in your life who pass their tests and that is very very difficult and you are going to fail repeatedly so on most From my points tonight I will try to give you practical things that you can go out and do. to improve your life because you can sit here and listen and be inspired and go out tonight and approach twenty girls, but you really have to keep going, it's the guys that implement a program and follow this. for a couple of months, if not a year, who became superstars, so what I want you to do is get on Google and Google the Michael Jordan Nike Fowler commercial.

Can everyone remember that? And what you will see is possibly the best athlete. of my life talking about how I failed over and over again in my life, you know, 50 times I've been interested in taking the winning shot that I missed or less, I've lost everything, that's the best and that's the mentality you have to have with women, the idea that you can eliminate your approach anxiety forever and all women will love you. I don't know who's selling that, but that's not the way I found it and I want you to see that movie. that short commercial lasts about 30 seconds I want you to watch it ten times if you're serious watch it twenty times before you leave next time who's going to do that raise your hand what's your TV commercial it's like three six minutes of your life and when you go out, decide to yourself that you are going to approach three women, just do whatever you do now, however you approach women now, do it if you walk up and say hello, great if you use some lines, great, do that. but walk up to three really beautiful women and see what happens and one thing you'll discover is that failure doesn't really hurt that much and I think you'll find that really beautiful women tend to be very sweet if men approach them with a desire. genuine to meet them because they often talk to guides who try to flirt and if you are rude to each of them it will not be a very good life because eventually some guys will become quite bad, so An ex-girlfriend of mine is six feet tall, she can, you can Go up to her and talk to you.

Hey, how are you? Stewart, it was a pleasure meeting you. She will let you talk for 10 seconds. Ah, I'm with my friends. now but it's nice to meet you she could talk to you later and turn her back on you and she has made you feel great and rejected you in just a few minutes so often beautiful girls don't reject you as hard as I do . I'm done today. I've given a completely new speech, so forgive me if I'm not particularly fluent. I was reading Napoleon Hills Think and Grow Rich. Has anyone heard of that zuman?

He read it, gosh, most people knew him or like him younger than me. I wish I had worn that 20 years ago, go ahead and read it, no wonder it has sold 80 million copies and one of the things it does is it talks about the 24 years and 20 ways people fail at leadership and I reviewed that list. and you know, I pretty much failed at 15 of them, I was pretty bad at two or three of them, I was actually pretty good at it and I was good in that area, but there were two or three things that I absolutely sucked at and the fact that I was failing . in those two or three areas it's essentially costing me more damage than anything else, so that's my theory with women.

I think most men fail with women because they go out and make one or two mistakes over and over again, can you relate? To that, I've made a list of ten of the mistakes I've seen guys make consistently during my six and a half years of coaching and I want you two to hope

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y write down everything I say and then choose which one or which ones you think They're really hurting you, so just focus most of your attention on that, don't worry about all the other things, just focus on the one or two that are really holding you back, okay, if I can introduce you to my head.

Coach Rebecca she, um, she's the head of a team of eight coaches that come in and you go to them over and over again and I do boot camps and they teach you social skills. You could sit down for a second. I try not to say too many bad words. but you still have to let a girl know that you want her, you have to let a girl know that you want her, sometimes women don't know that you want to have sex with them, especially for a pretty desirable guy and even if they do , 95% of women don't want to use the S word, so you have to let the girl know that you want to have sex with her.

The Brazilian and French guys don't have a problem with us, they do it. in the first few minutes, english speaking guys, especially the more polite ones, whistle they are too afraid to do it so this is how you do it, he is sitting on a date, the conversations are going well, she laughs at your bad jokes , you know they are bad. but she's still laughing and what I'd like you to do is start holding eye contact for a lot longer than usual I contact eye contact eye contact eye contact and contact contact contact contact if the conversations are going really well you should probably have your hands on her, you know almost all the time, a great tip when you touch a woman is like petting a baby duck or something, they are so delicate that you barely touch them and they are so soft that you touch them in such a way. so that they can feel the connection of your energy with theirs, but they barely know that you are touching them.

Actually, it sounds geeky, but everyone practices with the guy next to her, just touch, touch the person next to her hand and touch her as gently as possible. You can't possibly do anything like a little bit of audience interaction, this is a vitally important skill because a lot of people tell you to go out and play, but if you go up like I own it, Damien, if I see Damien in a bar, I'm Hey, he's like a boxer bodybuilder, he doesn't even care if I go up and do it to Rebecca, she's not that into it and I was probably just as aggressive with Damien, man with fantastic shoulders, as I was with Rebecca, so yeah .

You touch women again very, very delicately. I always think about petting a duckling and once you learn that skill you can keep your hand on them for centuries and years. I'm moving on here, but one of my favorite quotes about how to be successful in dating. comes from a great philosopher from the 80's called Mike Tyson and he looked at the camera and I'm not going to do a Mike Tyson impression and he said boxing is not about strength, speed and skill, he says boxing is about spirituality , hit me. I like what and his claim, and I'm not going to argue with him, was that he won the fight in the showdown, he never lost a showdown until later in his career and if you look at the greatest boxer of all time, Muhammad Ali, I mean which is you know one of my spiritual people, I know her celebrities, so anyway, you're on a date with a girl and then you're touching her, touching her or touching her, now the big trick, I think, is when you look at her the eyes. and shut up, I'm going to do this in front of 40 guys and that will probably be really good or try and then lower your eyes to his lips for like five seconds and then back up to his eyes, do you get that? that so eyes 10 seconds without speaking slowly up to her lips and when you are doing this don't think man I want her to think oh my god she is so beautiful and there will be some kind of spiritual energy connection that will happen in the girl she will feel that and If you have done it, you can explain to the guys what a woman feels in that situation, if a guy does it correctly and the message is that you want to sleep, you want the girl, that's the message. yeah, I get up to her lips, okay, can everyone, if you're watching at home, do this for the person next to her?

Can you all intertwine your fingers with your next door neighbor so it will please give you more sex? I promise now, how awkward is that? Feel now if a girl isn't drunk and isn't a crazy party girl if she lets you cross your fingers like that. I mean, this could be my kiss test, it's not a guaranteed absolute certainty, but yeah, there's a good chance you're doing it right because it's just not comfortable, you don't want to do this with a girl you're not intimate with. . I did some salsa at one point and there were some attractive girls there, but I had to intertwine fingers with the girls.

It didn't appeal to me. and it wasn't very fun, so it's quite a thing to intertwine your fingers like that and probably another of the best lessons I received in my entire life as a child. It was an ashram in India and I met these girls and they taught me one of the simplest lessons of my life, one of the most powerful and brother, Rebecca, let me teach you how to hug, so I might actually make you turn around, Please stay here, hug a girl and hold her gently and with a smaller back and breathe when she breathes. tell him this if you want just inhale and exhale at the same time.

I don't know, we both started to relax doing this right after a few minutes and you know, in the seduction community there are all these amazing ways to get UM. a girl in bed that's the best it's so good I can tell you story after story after story of how I met a girl in a bookstore and had her in bed with fifty in 50 minutes and that's why I'm going to teach you this thing I learned in India and I do it and it produces something I don't even know, you call it a spiritual connection, some chemistry that could take three or four dates and that's not all, you should see what first night sex is like. this world because there is chemistry between you as if you have already been together three or four times, so yes, you have to let a girl know that you love her, it is very, very important, it is not just that you have more sex, but that you saves a lot of time.

How many of you have been on four or five dates with a girl and then it went nowhere? How long does that take?How many of you know that on that girl's first two dates she probably really wanted to sleep with you? and she decided before the date that she was going to sleep with you, but you just didn't take any action. I told her that maybe she had been attracted to you initially, she saves you a lot of time in your life so let a girl know that. you have a sexual interest in herUse the three methods that I have shown you and see what happens next time you are in a bar and have a good conversation with a girl for five ten minutes, try what I just showed you, look into her eyes and maintain eye contact.

She goes down to the lips and looks back into the eyes try that and see what happens. I've done that many times. I haven't done anything else. You know, I touched the girl's arm and did it. that thing and a lot of times the girl starts trying to initiate sex or herself, which is wonderful and if you guys go on a date in the next few weeks, swear to God you will practice within the first half hour as soon as the conversation turns in good practice. and look what happens this is actually very powerful remember what the great philosopher Mike Tyson said quoting Mike Tyson getting better with women getting to know them getting close to them dating them sleeping with them so they remember you for the rest of their lives it's about spirituality It's about um an exchange of energy.

I really love to annoy English-speaking white men a lot because we are so pitiful, especially the very

intelligent

ones. Some of the best lessons I've had in my life were guys from Brazil or France. I've traveled with guys and met backpacker guys who will literally sleep with more beautiful, interesting,

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, you know, American girls, Australian girls, Canadian girls on their 3 month summer vacation. Many of our kids are making a living. Can anyone tell me why this? I don't care, sorry, they move things forward. You know, a lot of the Brazilian men I've dated with their philosophy with women.

I have a penis, therefore women will be attracted to me. Do any of you like that philosophy? If you know, you wouldn't be here if you followed the philosophy of most English-speaking men, especially very intelligent ones. I need to do very well in school. I need to get into engineering, medicine, commerce or something in a good school. just study very hard and be one of the best graduates to be able to get a great first job. I need to get work experience. A good company. I need to do graduate school while working and essentially work 50 hours a week and then do some.

Time to study another 20 or 30 hours a week. I need to take advantage of Hill to get a good car, put in a good zip code. I need to go to the gym and develop a lot of big muscles, and when I do all that, I will be really attractive to women, so while the Brazilian boy when he is 14 years old is sitting with his friends studying to become a master in management, piece of fruit Hey, how did you do that with that girl? Yes, yes, she came as a man. Hey, so stupid. English speaking white men and I dare say many Asian men become engineers, doctors and MBAs so you can be the master in management and get all these things when you are 13 and 14 or you can become in an MBA and maybe, if you're lucky, get it when you're 34 and you have your second degree, you'll make less than 50 grand and you'll have your German sports sedan and the Swiss watch and the Italian genes and all that, so if I had a bar here again then the third one is fine, the first thing was the English speaking guys, we are afraid of making mistakes, the second thing is that we don't let a girl know that we want. sleep with her and the third and third thing we do is not lead, so this is a house for the camera.

I'm standing here with my friend and I see an attractive girl and she looks at me and looks away. I look back, this is what you need to do, very few of us know that this is a guest approach, it's not a cold approach, so you know it's your job to reach out and shake a hand, it's your job to touch the site on the side arm in arm it's your job to get to know her friend and make a good impression on her friend there's no way to know who will approach you if you don't get approval from friends it's your job to start a good conversation it's your job to figure out what hobbies and interests it's your job to find out how they know each other how they got there it's your job this is absolute gold please write this down and touch a woman on the lower back like I showed you before women feel like being led and again there is a energy exchange many times they don't even know you're doing it if you do it correctly duotex in the lower back it's your job to find out what it's like a week where she lives in relation to you if she's drinking she's a friend drinking how she's going to get there home what are her plans for tomorrow is she just a girl who is probably going home with a guy tonight or is she going to church tomorrow and you'll be lucky to catch her on the fifth date after meeting her parents.

You couldn't know all these things. It is your job to make a good impression on the friend so that maybe you can attract the girl. Walk away and pull a friend away so you're back to back so you can build rapport with her while the friend looks at what's going on with you, what's going on with him, and it's basically your job to go on a date. and it's your job to plan the date, as I'll talk about later and it's your job to do all these things and it's your job to play the chess game of trying to get a woman into bed, see that guys?, and if I can do a proper job thank you for just a few of these things, yeah, and you're a guy who speaks English and you only have one or two things going for you, your life with women is going to go crazy because most guys just don't do it. anything so what do most English speaking men do about my guy who went to primary school and was an excellent student and Alison became whatever she became an engineer or a doctor or something like that or businessman?

The guy we're talking about now is 30 years old. and this very sexy girl walks into the office and she's like this and she's like 10, 10 years younger than him and man, she's sexy and he talks to her a little bit when she goes out to lunch and then at the office Christmas party, something like that. It happens and he sleeps with her and she's the sexiest girl he's ever slept with and they keep dating and you know, for the first two or three months it's good and then everything starts going downhill, she starts nagging him, bother him, but he's really working.

It's hard because he's still finishing graduate school, so he keeps dating because she's hot and he wants someone to have sex with and this kind of thing goes on and on and their relationship deteriorates. I shouldn't say this in many cases. It's not the girl's fault it's the Fox boys he was never a man and he went out and talked to a lot of girls and met one he really had a great relationship with so they are dating and dating and dating and about three four years. then she starts scolding him, let's get married, let's get married, let's get married because you remember when you met her she was 24 years old and she smoked, now she's a little older and most of her friends are getting married, oh, I better I'm going before I'm gone. 30 otherwise she's starting to nag and nag and nag and nag and he's so busy and he's so stressed and she's nagging so much that a couple of her mates are getting married and they're going to weddings every time he says ah, what the hell? whatever, so she gets married and everything goes well and she has a lovely honeymoon, it gets a little better and then as soon as she gets married it just disintegrates, you know, the sex practically dries up, she nags a lot more , he just hides in the corner and then, lo and behold, a damn kid shows up and he's kind of happy because he has a kid, yeah, he was still working really hard and when he comes home from his fifty-hour-a-week job, his lovely wife comes over and scolds him again. often it's not the UM, the woman's fault is because the man was never a man to begin with, he thought that if he had enough things, two degrees, he would be attractive to women, she is nagging, nagging and nagging, then Another kid shows up and she says we need a bigger house so he goes and borrows another million dollars and now he's basically chained to his job and his computer for the rest of his life and he's starting to get a little depressed.

He has these lovely little children but he can barely enjoy himself. them because he is stressed from work, then she comes home and scolds him, he has no energy left, so what does he do? He's sorry, some of them do it and it costs them a lot of money. In many cases, some of them cheat and do this too. Well, they take a favorite drink in this part of the world, I think it's VB or Crown Lager and they pick a local football team, Collinwood for example, and then they find a mate with many titles who is in the same situation and they sit down together. and they say, yeah, they go to the parties, they go to the private investigators, we're in Chicago Sugar Bulls or whatever or Manchester United, whatever your team is and whatever your poison is.

By the way, I love this stuff because it's better than brewing a German beer, but it's poisoned by the way, so anyway, every Saturday the highlight of your week is turning on your big screen TV with your friend, the girls They go shopping, I'm having a coffee or something and he cheers in the bars, yes, yes, this is the happiest. I have been since the last time I cheered for Pies, but they lost and that's the highlight of his life. He has so much debt and worked so hard that he's just trapped and lost and he turns 40 and has never seen the Eiffel Tower.

Tower he's never a French girl he's never seen the Grand Canyon he's never been to South America he's never had a threesome he's never a whitewater guy after diving she's never owned a $100,000 German taxi he's never actually been in it in our what did you do? Call it a go-kart, which is way more fun. He really he's never done anything and he starts to go bald and fat and anyway life is over, so what you learned from that story is that you have to be a man and go out into the world. world and get your own women and this is not disrespectful to women at all and it's probably the most important thing I'll tell you tonight.

Women don't respect men who can't go out and seduce other women of their caliber. Do you understand that this is so important? I'm a little older than most of you and I've seen my peers who work in finance go through this. If they can get an attractive woman because they make good money or are good. -Pretendence or having social status may be great for a while but in most cases she will destroy you and it's not necessarily because she's bad or like some of them are tits just because you weren't a man and she could have been the best offer you received and you just married the sexiest girl that fate put in your path and I have sincerely believed that the work that James and Damien are doing is that you will have a profoundly beautiful impact on the world, particularly the world.

English speaking world because go sit here toric go to toric or the Upper East Side or you know the best parts of Los Angeles that's the story of so many men who are smart and you know they're successful anyway where were we? I got carried away With my story, the next time a girl looks at you at a bar again, this is an invited approach. You know, if a girl looks at you in a bar for more than a second, unless you have snot hanging out of your nose or something, it's very possible. because she's excited, she wants to talk to you, so the next time that happens I want you to repeat this mantra it's a gentleman's job to try it with a woman it's a gentleman's job to try it with a woman and most women just don't want to be responsible for sex, they want a real man who will surprise them in the moment.

They watch almost all romantic movies, except one starring Hugh Grant. Every romance novel is about a handsome guy, possibly a guy she's slept with a lot. other women who make her lose her mind so they don't want to you have to take action you are going to take action why the hell didn't they teach us these things in school I hear you ask quickly I tell you why not taught in school do you think corporations and Does the government society want us to go out and be very confident and successful with women? I reviewed Wikipedia on Thursday listening to guests the three richest countries in the world if you exclude countries with populations less than 10 million Australia logical is the mining boom of Canada and the United States and that is possibly because we are the ones with the most women .

You don't see Ukraine, Colombia or Venezuela among the first countries because many have sex and get attractive girls regardless of whether they really need them. work for it, so since we were little I putthese Victoria's Secret models in front of us and you know, pretty girls everywhere and I related it to a German car that had a picture of a Lamborghini or a Ferrari with a girl in it growing up, how's that for associative conditioning genius genius absolute you get that car that possibly cost more at your parents house a few years ago you're going to get that girl or see what her name is Donald Trump Puff Daddy obviously Hugh Hefner? who is 80 years old or even a nice guy Richard Branson most of the time you see them photographed what do you see next to them hot girls maybe Richard Branson sleeping with them but yet we have been told since we were little kids you get the car you get the life you get the job you get are attractive girls so it's okay to be successful with women you have to learn a set of skills it's like if you want to be successful at golf surfing or running a business there are a set of skills that you should learn if you If you have this set of skills, you will be successful with women.

Yes, I mean, you can have great success with women, if you don't have this skill set you will never have it. Be successful with women and even if because of who you are or what you do you get a good woman, she will probably love you. It will make you so miserable that your wish will never be and I have many clients there. 42 Think this is what success with women is like, it's a set of skills. Confidence, which is what women want most, comes from knowing what to do. Confidence comes from knowing what to do and this set of skills involves things like: I was showing them in Rebecca, it's touch, it's eye contact, it's how to start and sustain. good conversation is how to plan a date so that it's fun and gets you into bed, something I'll get to in a second because of all the things I've talked about tonight, it's very easy once you learn these skills and apply them . to beat the vast majority of other men in the US, Australia, Canada and the UK because most of us don't approach women, even if a girl looks at us and stares at us like in waves, we still don't We approach women, if we ever do.

We are drunk and many of us, compared to European men, don't dress as well. Many of us are simply obsessed with work. It's very easy if you just take a few steps to get really well. At this point, the number five lacks energy. Does anyone have an idea why people who are rock singers and surfers do quite well with women, sometimes incredibly well, and you know, a lot of computer engineers and accountants at Shard can't figure out why that's conversations and more, sorry, yes. Can anyone tell me why great and what the other guys are doing?

Sorry, well, I guess, well, I guess so, yeah, okay, some great guesses. My belief and maybe I've spent too much time meditating in India, but my belief is when someone you know is the lead singer of a rock band, you have all these guys supporting you and you have all these people cheering you on, you're picking up a little bit. of all their energy, if you do a good job, you're picking up a lot of surfers, they're not. stuck in cities surrounded by gasoline fumes, cars and toxic people huddled in front of a computer watching TV without ever going near a tree or the ocean, they are surfing with friends, they are capturing the massive, almost endless energy of the ocean and, in particularly, of the waves.

So I think what most people really want in life is to have more and more energy, that's why I love you and I want attractive women, because when you walk around with an attractive woman and everyone thinks you're cool and you they watch. and they give you energy, that's why rich people buy houses with great views, so I think it's a lot about energy, in my opinion success with women comes down to two things: having the skills to be good with women touching eye contact. and it's having enough energy you need how much energy you need to approach a woman in a bar mountains mountains just start even to approach from a bookstore you need a little bit how much energy you need to make to start a good conversation how much energy you need to get through, you know, awkward moments , which is a big part of being successful with women, how much energy do you need when you first take her back to your house and to your bedroom, you're going to be, you're going to be absolutely throwing energy at her like crazy, so in Every stage of getting better with women, it's really about energy.

How many of you have a partner with a big smile and lots of energy who isn't very good looking? It's not very bright. There is not much. Who gets a lot of women? Yeah, while you have an IQ of 120 and you had everything in front of a computer and you have wet sex while you're on the computer. I was pretty sad anyway. I must say he was worse than anyone. He was the greatest when it came to women on the planet and I'll take you. I was essentially a virgin until I was 31. I had three minutes of sex when I was 27 and that was like a mercy because the girl had the option to choose between sleeping on the floor and being the third wheel with a friend of mine who slept with her friend or coming to my queen size bed in a nice apartment and sleep with me.

I think the third night I was so scared the first time. If I had made it, I managed to get up for about three minutes and what I mean is, I mean something like that, it wasn't impressive at all and I think I only touched her nipples when I came, so that was my first sexual experience in 27 and It took another four years until I had a second one, so ironically, you know, I wasn't a superstar, but I had a great job with a good income, I manipulated muscles, I was good at sports, I'm very thin, but I had big muscles. and then I saw that I had some things going for me, but I deeply liked certain social skills, like if someone left me alone in a bar by myself for five minutes, I myself would know that I thought I smoked back then, which I was.

It's not that I really liked chain smoking and I changed tracks. I just couldn't stand being alone in a bar, which was so much fun and there were so many very, very simple things about women that I just didn't understand. So to get better with women, you need to have a certain understanding of women and I was so bad socially that, you know, I was good at public speaking, so it was part of my job. I could make a presentation to learn about some cases. over a thousand people on a topic I knew and I really wouldn't be nervous at all, but before the presentation started, if I had to go around and meet people before the presentation, guess what I would do?

I would run to the bathroom and hide. I would sit in the bathroom hoping no one would come looking for me to talk to people. I had no problem going out to give a presentation, just walking up to someone and saying hello. I was terrified that so many of you were watching me. You don't believe me, but I promise you it's true. Solex Energy. Can anyone guess what I think is the number one cause of approach anxiety? Without a doubt, for most of my clients. Very good. The assumptions aren't that big; you need to know what.

If you do the opposite, you'll probably get rejected a lot, but if you don't know what to do and just walk up and say hello, I'm whatever your name is, with a little energy, you'd be surprised how many girls will actually talk to you. they tickle you if you dress well I think the number one cause of approach anxiety is computers, can anyone relate to that? I have a pretty good story about that. I worked for krismo arts for four years and traveled all over the world. I know how many 15 cities I did training camps in a new city every week.

I had two or three nervous students who, like me, I gave a quick lecture to. I took him to bars, I mean they were almost dying, these James and Damien can tell you when you're with students in the no, it's like their energy is killing you because they're so nervous, yeah, I'm going to that. I would do a couple of approaches, well, you see that, to see that, yeah. You do that and then I have them approach the women. I do, it's one new city after another and I had slept with God knows how many girls and I was doing that and several models and two girls at a boot camp and this kind of thing.

I got threesomes and it wasn't really much of a hassle, it was a bit difficult on Friday but I got over it now I'm trying to run my own business. I sit in front of the computer 30 40 hours a week. Man, when I do a bootcamp on Friday I have to warm up for about two and a half hours. I'm jumping like it's actually one of my favorite exercises. I hide the microphone a little. This is what I call semi raw sound. Yes, I learned this from yoga and sometimes I do it on the street, but if you do it a couple of times, I'm serious, how many times have I done that?

Yes, I'm an absolute idiot. I'm singing The Taxi Driver's Bohemian Rhapsody out loud right before I give this speech. I'm not ashamed to admit it. I took off my shirt and ran up and down the park because I was hunched over a computer again, you know. week and I stay in a horrible hobbit hotel room you have to warm up you have to warm up if you walk into a bar from a computer and talk to hot girls I don't think you will It's very difficult if you leave a sparring ring dumb or stop doing surfing, you'll go from playing with your rock band and going to talking to girls, yeah, you could do it pretty well, you'd probably do it pretty well if you know. what you're doing you have to separate computer time from approach time and socializing time, and few really smart guys who are engineers and doctors and stuff to get together in front of a computer for a long time, man, yeah I If I were you, I probably wouldn't even push. put pressure on yourself to be so sociable and on Friday I would work your five day week and if you want to go out and on Friday just go with your friends and have a few beers and you know if there are opportunities and you feel like I take advantage of them but don't beat yourself up after working a week in a computer if you can't get close to girls because I can there's no way I can oh I mean maybe I can.

I would really find it difficult, however, if I take said day off and do something fun and athletic and particularly getting into nature it's pretty easy for me, so yeah, don't try to mix computers and left brain thinking with socialization and seduction because you find it very, very difficult in terms of what to do. I've already mentioned quite a few of them, many clients are stockbrokers working in Palo Alto. I said buy an old Nokia. You are prohibited from accessing your shiny new iPhone 5 on Saturdays. I do not want you to do it. I don't want to.

You can't touch any screen over the weekend, not TV, not computers, not your iPhone, and in many cases it doesn't have as much electromagnetic energy, but since you concentrate your energy in such a small space, it's probably worse to socialize. You know, iPhones. well, so stay away from your iPhone. These are for guys who are struggling, if you're not struggling you know how to do whatever, but if you're struggling I highly recommend that I'm actually close to buying an old one. school phone for that same reason deep analytical thinking keep that away from socialization. Oh, by the way, how many guys do you know that are really smart or really good with women like no other?

As disadvantaged as one is, maybe it's okay, really smart guys tend to suck with women. and if you want to do better with women you'll have to get a lobotomy, it's just that even very intelligent women feel that I once dated a very beautiful girl who had an IQ of 155, you know, women feel that men think and really smart men think everything. moment then you are at the opposite end of the spectrum of what is attractive to women. I mean, these Brazilians come here, they can barely speak a word of English, they have no money in their pockets and they are getting so many girls can't speak and it's not because of their intelligence, it's because they take action, we have a lot of energy.

I'm going to be careful with this if you have toxic friends, get rid of them or minimize your exposure to them because I know who dated, approached girls with a negative guy who talks about games all the time. How well are you doing? You might as well go home. Forget it. You have to hang out with positive people, so stay away from them because I can participate if I have a training camp with four or six students and one of them has a lot of negative energy. I don't want to say I'm nervous, that's something I deal with all the time, but I really like the negative. energy is not a good person, he doesn't like the world, oh man that just kills me, it absolutely kills me, where are they all good people?

It's a lot easier, so get rid of um Dara, such toxic friends, improv classes, that was one of the best things. The only thing I have done in my life is a week of improvisation and that transformed my conversation skills and a lot with women, also salsa. I have notused a lot myself, but I highly recommend it's great, the other thing is they are afraid of beautiful women 0.6 this is very good evolutionary biological reasons why we are afraid of beautiful women basically, if you get a really attractive woman, you are afraid that someone in society is much more powerful than you in the village times you know, the village chief or the village warrior, usually the most attractive women of the other possession, the football players or corporate executives, so we are scared of the village life brain or the ancestral brain that when we get an attractive woman, someone leaves. come with their companions, their sticks and their killers, so there are real reasons why you are afraid of that.

I don't think that's going to happen much in Sydney, let alone Surry Hills. I can tell you that someone could send a really serious tweet about you or something that's the worst thing that's going to happen, the second thing is in the small town life it's about. Oh, has anyone here visited a town in the third world and lived there for a few nights? It's one of the best things I've ever experienced. I have done it once in my life. I highly recommend you check out Thailand, Indonesia. You can get one nearby, especially if it is a Buddhist country.

Anyway, village life you are in a village of fifty people and you know there may be two hot girls of childbearing age. age, if you go up to one of them and do a lousy job, guess what happens James Coe, he's a dog, he's an idiot, he came up to me and tried this, I wanted it so bad, but he was so desperate, that's the reality of what happens, so our brains have been processed if I make a bad approach I won't be small, any little Jamie will run around the world sometime I will be wiped out, so there are very good reasons why you are afraid of women and, to a certain extent, your battle is to overcome them. but what is the population of Melbourne?

Three and a half million doesn't apply at all. I mean, it's not even important. Ok, if you are afraid of beautiful women, I highly recommend it. I used to say that if you want to have sex with dozens. first wherever you start the date of six, then the data of seven and a and a and a line and the data of ten approximately now what I say is make friends with a ten, it's almost close, unless she is very close to your social group, it is almost impossible for him to attend as your girlfriend, unless you really understand women, maybe for a cocaine dealer, but he probably really understands women, it's almost impossible, so you have to find the fastest way to get that knowledge and you know men can certainly help you, but just be friends with a really beautiful woman and you'll learn a lot because they grow breasts when they're fourteen and I'm just walking down this red carpet, it's the strangest thing ever and they all these wonderful things happen to them and to you.

I know they could succeed in, you know, studies, law or sports, but no one cares because they are just attractive, so it must be very difficult for beautiful women because it is a very strange life, all these things are given to you for No There's no reason if you're a professional athlete or something you know you worked really hard before you got to that red carpet or when she grew breasts in the summer and suddenly, yes, the psychology of a beautiful woman is absolutely fascinating, but still friends with a beautiful woman, okay, a lot of guys go out and go to bars and plan exactly what they're going to say to women.

I'm not a big fan of that, what I am a fan of is planning your dates. If you want to get it, if you are already pretty good, you will only improve dramatically with women, the first thing you can do is plan your dates, what I would call logistics. Anyone want to pick a city? You can choose New York, Sydney, Thailand. India Melbourne New York I was living in New York for a while and I had an apartment, a dorm on the Lower East Side and one time I was performing there, another time I was there with 12, two other times zero charisma arts. and I met quite a few girls through boot camps and this kind of stuff and all the girls I met I took to the same place, it was a really funky cafe where everyone had piercings and tattoos and I walked in there with a Ralph Lauren polish.

I was completely out of water. I was very nice to the staff. I tipped them well and made these girls think. He was some kind of low-level yuppie and he would take them to this cafe. And there, what is he doing here? And then I would walk them across the street to this park and I knew there was a little patch of grass that was like a mound, so I would sit them on it and bring them a towel. and then I would sit with them, you know, maybe for half an hour or an hour, two hours, we would really have a lot of fun, maybe a friend would go for a walk and at some point I would lie down and look at the stars and there were very few things in The world is better than New York and spring and sometimes the girls come and sleep on me.

Sometimes I pull them down and just sit with them like I showed you earlier in the hugging demonstration with Rebecca. Just hug. We would hold them and hold them sometimes for like 40 minutes or an hour, we wouldn't even talk and I would be sneaky and time the breathing so that everyone would be attracted to me and um and then I just said something completely stupid like You really feel like a old gray t-shirt or do you want to go back and see my travel photos or do you want to see my balcony, which was spectacular, it was on the first floor overlooking the street, but yeah, and you couldn't even step on it because it was so thin but I said some lame excuse and I took him back and oh one thing I forgot when I took him out of the cafe as soon as we crossed the avenue I took their hands some of them resisted and you know I let them go if the resistance was too much I would take their hands right away and like I demonstrated to Rebecca, I was touching them while we were sitting in the park, so anyway we leave the park and go back to have a cup of tea or see my spectacular view and I take them to the bedroom and sit them on the bed and let them take the piece next to the wall and we just talk and talk and talk and talk and keep eye contact.

I make no effort to do anything and in most cases. The girls tried to kiss me. Do any of you see anything strange in my story so far? Yes, specifically, what haven't I done? What does the girl expect me to do with a nice date like that? Very good, no chocolates to give to people yet. with her, so she met me, we have spent these lovely 2 3 4 5 hours or an hour together and she obviously likes me, by the way, she is going on a date with me, if a girl goes on a date with you, she likes you, it's okay, write that .

Underline it even if she wants free dinner, she probably won't put up with you for an hour and a half and, awkwardly, she'll only get some free food, so I've been with her this entire trip and, um, I haven't kissed her as much. What goes through a girl's mind in this situation? When is she going to kiss me? When Xena kisses me. When is she going to kiss me? Why did she kiss me? ​​Doesn't my breath smell bad? I dont like him? Do you think I'm ugly? Did I do my makeup pretty well shouldn't I have won such a low-cut top do you think I'm a just all this crap goes through their mind and it really confuses them, which is great, so I take her back to my bed and brag that I am holding a hundred percent icon