S02 Ep16- Do you Choose from [Avoiding] The Heaviness? | Curious Universe:Cassy Summers

thank you my name is Cassie Summers welcome to the Curious Universe podcast ok hi how are you doing today? If no one has asked you yet, I ask how you are doing today, how are you doing? uh, that's been in my knowledge for the last week is where some people

choose

based on

avoiding

or leaving or getting rid of the

heaviness

instead of choosing what they like. I thought that interestingly we could explore that a little bit today and see in your Universe how you make decisions and what you are aware of in this area. When I first came here I learned the tools of access to consciousness, which is what we do in this program, we are always talking about access to consciousness stuff, one of the main tools that I have learned is that what is true for you will give you a feeling of lightness and what is not true for you could be some truth, but there is a lie there you will have a heavy feeling ok so i thought this was one of the most amazing tools i felt like i had the lie detector i always wanted in my life i could tell if someone was telling me something if it was getting heavy i could tell if they were lying or there was just a lie there for me or am i connected to a lie.

I just felt so empowered by this tool and started to

choose

between what is light in my world and therefore when you choose between lightness what you are actually doing. it's that every choice you make creates more lightness, okay, so maybe you have an idea of ​​how you'd like your life to be two years from now, okay, I hope it's lighter than it is now, I hope it always we're expanding into more lightness more space more possibility and then you get the feeling of oh i'd love for you to know maybe travel more or have more adventures with my body or more time with my partner or hat get a partner i mean whatever to you then you have a sense of lightness which just means it's true for you this is what you really want in your life it doesn't mean it's right it just means it's true for you fine then if you have a sense of life that you would like to have and you are continually presented every day with a multitude of options just as you follow the lightness even if it seems like how this choice could be connected to you Knowing more space for myself More time with my body although it could be like picking up a new project and you are like that you don't have no meaning if you choose what is light you're going to create a lighter and lighter future you generate this in your life and your whole life gets lighter and lighter now what i see other people do is say oh that's heavy so that I'm not going to choose it, this is what I want to talk about today and if you are one of those people, you may be pushing some of your buttons and I'm doing it out of sheer kindness and in the hope that you'll be willing to consider another possibility now. ok i won't personally take offense at eating it and we all need to know how to choose what life is for us so now the

heaviness

factor so if you choose to avoid what is heavy ok see the difference so i'm going a choose this because it's light this is the lightest of all the options maybe i have 25 options right now and this is the lightest I'm going to choose the lightest now let's say you have like two options I mean if we ever really have two options but sometimes it feels like we have to stay in this relationship leave this relationship stay in this job leave this job okay we feel like we often have two choices so now if you're okay if I stay in this job it's really heavy I'm going to leaving this job, there is a

universe

of information that you are missing by choosing to avoid what you have decided heavy heavy doesn't mean it's bad heavy doesn't mean you don't choose it heavy no I don't mean the stop sign is heavy it means that there's Hawaii there and so if you're willing to be

curious

and ask the question what's the heaviness, spoken or not, what's the heaviness here, what's the line here, what am I aware of here? it is actually the awareness of this vast amount of junk that we will have to go through that will lead us to a greater sense of lightness once you get through it, there is a beauty and a gift in going through that heaviness if in in case you this being the case, heaviness could mean a million things, heaviness could mean, oh my gosh, if I make this trip my plane will crash, but if you're not willing to ask the question, you won't actually get clarity. you are choosing based on heaviness which means you are giving heaviness more value which means you are attracting more of what you are attracting more into your life that is correct if you are choosing based on lightness you would you choose not to take that trip because it's lighter to stay at home it's lighter to take a different trip it's lighter to do this it's fine and if you understand this here are some questions you can explore in the heaviness so one question that I love is one of my favorite is asking if this is the change i've been looking for showing up in a totally different way yeah so you get all this heaviness and you think maybe you don't want to go maybe you don't want to do it maybe you're like Ugh is this the one change that I've been asking for to show up in a totally different way and for me if I get a yes on that I don't care how heavy it is I'll go head-on into that heaviness and find it and be present with it and get over it because I'm here for the change i'm here for the chance and i'm not going to let a little heaviness hold me back from all this life could have so what questions yeah what other questions could you ask when you look at this light and heavy?

It doesn't mean right or wrong. it means there is something that is not true for you the heaviness could actually be a point of view you bought about someone let's take the relationship let's just say well it's heavy to stay with my partner ok maybe it's because you're stuck in a fixed point of view about them that they will never change or that they will never accept you or that they never are never are never if you clarify all those presumed realities that you have about your partner and suddenly you ask the question wow you know how heavy it is here It's like the mud we'll have to work through, but the possibility beyond the mud is greater than I ever imagined possible and so you still have options, you can still be like you know what I'm sensing, but I'm done.

I'm going to choose what would be the lightest possibility for me and then you go and choose the lightest possibility for yourself which is choosing between lightness and not choosing against heaviness. Do you see what I am doing what I am putting here, so where have you been choosing against or

avoiding

the heaviness instead of the awareness of the choice of possibility? Lightness will take you, will take you to the greatest possibility, but that is not so. It does not mean that we avoid heaviness. It doesn't mean you run away if something seems heavy. I have had some of the most dynamic and life changing classes I have ever been to.

It was very heavy when I took advantage of that. class like i want to pass out or throw up, what do i do with that? All this awareness started flowing and I was like wow. because the heaviness is the LIE of the lack of self esteem that I've been functioning with so once I'm clear on that and the lightest thing I can do is go ahead with the heavy, sometimes the lightest for what you have to to do is get right into the heavy because that's the change yeah it doesn't always work that way sometimes you think ok i would deal with everything in an easier way and then you get a feeling of something that's lighter and it suits you, well, I could choose.

I have all these options available. I'm only going to pick the lightest one, so this is the lightest one. I'm going. There is an easier way to make this change. there's an easier way and sometimes you're going to get a no sometimes you have to be present with what you don't want to be present to have the change you're asking for sometimes there's a bit of a drag along the way so let's be

curious

to get an idea of your

universe

with all this how you make decisions you calculate you do the math you do pros and cons you avoid other people's judgment they see that this is what kids avoid that sometimes they're going to it's like you're not choosing something because literally you're just avoiding the judgment of your partner, your parents, your friends, the world, well, if you live your life avoiding judgment, you will have to live in a cave.

Somewhere judgment doesn't really have any power overview unless you let it have a power view anyway, so what if you change that, what if you change that, what if you were willing to tackle the heaviness again? like oh whoa hey that's pretty heavy what is that there is no conclusion on what it means heavy again heavy doesn't mean bad heavy doesn't mean stop heavy doesn't mean danger oh what is that hmm what is that heaviness and just be present with them see the awareness you get from it see what starts to show up and you may not make that decision yet it doesn't matter but what matters is you are now starting to live your life from action not from the avoidance reaction so if you have a reaction to heavy then you are operating from Total Awareness you are operating from awareness you are operating from the reaction that takes you out of awareness takes you out of possibility I notice especially lately when I'm like I'm reacting to something not I let myself have it for a minute, you know, I'm like, oh, it's so gross, you know, and then I stop and say okay, so what is that actually? what's that? what's that?

I call it icky I just call it icky energy what is that oh ok great that's what I am to me personally when I start to choose between action what is going to create the most for me now and for the future . I felt so empowered. probably for the first time and what I used to do is choose between I like to live in reaction all the time I was reacting to my husband's manipulation I was reacting to my parents I was reacting to my friends that the world was reacting to like everything was on a reaction and I was constantly in fight or flight and trying to avoid pain trying to avoid suffering and trying to avoid heaviness essentially and not recognizing how much power I was giving to All That by my avoidance Madness and when I realized that I could be really present and not be afraid and not avoid and just be like oh, that's really heavy, what is that? and that's okay that's great that awareness is beautiful and empowering how you choose what you've been choosing between avoiding instead of moving into lightness so i actually had this um uh uh you could call him a colleague a former business associate actually and every Every time I would make a video or post something, I would feel a lot of contraction and judgment and fear of how I was going to use this against me and who I was going to show this to and probably make fun of me. someone and i started going into total avoidance like avoiding well if i could avoid being seen because being seen was heavy because then there was the right judgment and all judgments are lies so judgments will always be happy so it's a lot of power and its giving you so much power over my life over my business if i cant show up in my business then how can i have a business?

I just wanted to curl up and hide for a while now I can look into that and boy oh well that's interesting and yeah she'll probably do those things and if someone is willing to hang out with her and sit there and make fun of me then why am I giving that power over the gift that came here for? get over that person who might watch that video and change something in your life like im making your pettiness more valuable than conscience thats seeing but thats what i did to avoid heaviness more important than choose lightness , so if I had a video and it was so light to post and then I go in like oh but I want to avoid the heaviness.

I can't even feel that lightness to post and I've had people contact me more times than I can even count saying oh my gosh thank you for that video thank you for that Facebook live thank you for that podcast you changed my life that's it what is more valuable to me than any judgment I will receive, that is true now, was it always true? but my priority is lightness now it's not avoiding the heavy i can handle the heavy i'm empowered to handle the heavy and i know you can too so it can be uncomfortable to watch it be uncomfortable because if we're used to avoiding if we That's our reactionary reality and you stop avoiding it.

It might be awkward for a moment, but for the most part it seems nice. Instead, it's more awkward for me to avoid something now because it's like I'm pretending I'm avoiding it, but I can't really help it, so it's like I have something like whisper into my ear and it's really annoying so I'm like okay I'm here I'll be around I'll watch this what is this I hope this episode helped you and I hope you can see this a little bit in your own universe and wonder how often you choose between oh that it's very light how often do you choose between oh that's heavy? many options it's rarely just A or B sometimes you want to narrow down your options and you can too be willing to ask the question well what other options do we have available here where is the lightness and what if you were able to get through any tough situation if you were to bring something biggerI'm not saying go for the drudgery I'm definitely not saying that but if you get the feeling that if you go through it you're going to have a breakthrough you're going to have a transformation like me going to that class and having one of the most dynamic changes in me life if i hadn't asked that question omg i would have missed so much yeah what if you can go through all the required drudgery and ask the questions? to create more lightness, the funny thing is that if you're willing to go through the heaviness and your priority is lightness more and more, the lightness comes along and you rarely have the heaviness in your world, it's kind of like Contrary to what you would think but thanks again for being here.

I am very grateful for these episodes and for exploring this conscious world with all of you. I would really love to show this to the world. Thank you, thank you for exploring the Curious Universe with me. Your curiosity is important.