Pediatricians Debunk 16 Myths About Kids

parents should not fight in front of their children good luck sitting near the TV will damage children's vision sitting near the TV does not damage vision strict parents raise well-behaved children strict parents possibly raise children who appear to be well behaved with parents but he actually misbehaved more than any other child. Hello, I'm Dr. ELISA Pressman I'm a developmental psychologist and co-founder of the Mount Sinai Parenting Center and I'm Dr. Blair Hammond, the other co-founder of the Mount Sinai Parenting Center and a general pediatrician at Mount Sinai Hospital, you may have told us heard before when we talked about common problems with babies, today we are going to talk about older children, let's start with the terrible. they're both really terrible, that's a myth, although you may feel like they're terrible and so it's also personal, it's not that they're both terrible, it's having developmentally appropriate expectations of what a two year old He is able to recognize his need and label. and name those feelings for them because they are struggling to understand what is happening and what is bothering them so much and at the same time be there to set appropriate boundaries, so if you can really consider this age as a time when children learn to control their emotions, but it is not yet well developed, it gives you a whole new perspective on staying calm and what can be stressful times when they are really upset, a slap on the butt never hurt anyone, miss, you might think well , I got spanked here and there as my son and I turned out okay, you're probably not hurting your child forever with the occasional spanking, it's just that when you spank you're more likely to up the ante and spank harder and harder since your discipline strategy is not working the way you want.

It's being the person they go to and if they're afraid of you, if they do something wrong, they'll lie to you about it. Parents might think that by hitting they will get a child who behaves better than them. What I'm doing is getting a kid who's very good at hiding his bad behavior, but take that moment and think about what I'm trying to teach you is not to swing a bat in a house at a lamp, like how do I do that and how do I do that? ? I set it up and it's actually a great possible learning experience for your child to see you get angry, calm down, and then address it in a more long-term productive way by the time strict parents raise well-behaved children mm-hmm common myth When you think I'm just going to be an overbearing parent who just says because I said so, what you get is a very rigid child who is terrified of you and doesn't want to break any rules, or a child who is set They become incredibly rebellious and have problems opposition because they can't feel seen or heard, it's absolutely fine to have boundaries that really make your child feel safe, but you can do it in a sensitive way, where you know it's more about discussions and exchanges.

Direct interactions that show that you are responding to your child and that you value his or her feedback. This is how you get a person to want to open up and tell you about their mistakes because we all make mistakes and you want to be there to help them. through that, saying yes equals failure, this is a common myth my mom used to have this phrase that you would say yes means I'm lazy, it doesn't mean I care, saying yes equals failure probably comes from the idea that you just don't have limits for your

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, but saying yes, you want to go to that party and I won't let you, and I know that's really hard, that helps your child's brain go into an open state, if you say that no, you are not going anywhere and You are not allowed to put your child into a defensive state and they will end up potentially arguing with you by not hearing you go into what is called fight, flight or freeze, give your child the ability to know That you understand is a good thing, but not having boundaries and saying yes to any question they have and saying yes, they can do any behavior because you'd rather they were happy all the time, that's a failure after the first three years, the Your child's brain is prepared for life, so this is a myth. which comes from the idea of ​​the power of those early years, in fact, 1 million or more neural connections are built per second in those early years.

It's notable, it's not a myth that your baby's brain grows dramatically and maximally in those early years, but it is a myth that your baby's brain settles down. In those first three years, children become hyperactive on sugar, this I hear it all the time and my son got a cold from the cold

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don't get cold calls they get colds from people With the cold, there are now studies that show that it's actually parents' perception that sugar makes them will become hyperactive and if the parents think that they will be hyperactive during the tour, the child will actually be almost like a self-actualized self. -fulfilling the prophecy, certainly, if your child is hungry and hasn't eaten for a while, some children may not behave as well, so you need to make sure your child has good nutrition throughout the day and, Certainly, sugar from a health perspective you don't want.

Let your child have a lot of sugar because it is not good for her body, but it has not actually been linked to hyperactivity, it is better to protect children from loss. This is a difficult question because, of course, if you could prevent the loss of children and not cause them to struggle. Horrible traumatic experiences that would be wonderful, but if you pretend those experiences haven't happened or shield children from information about the loss, they will inevitably learn that what you are doing is preventing them from developing the resilience they are experiencing. We need to build on experiencing the loss and then support and love to help them get through it, so it is very important to get back to being simple in a sensitive and loving way and explain the loss to your child so they don't fantasize. that something will change because a child who hears that their dog ran away instead of their dog died, their bodies are functioning and they are not coming back, could spend days, weeks, if not years, obsessing over waiting for that moment to come, sitting with them through difficult experiences. so they know they can overcome it is a much more powerful lesson for their future than any way all children are picky eaters this is a myth not all children are picky eaters many children, especially when they try new foods, spit it out, they don't like it Yes You have to reintroduce the food several times, they say 10 to 15 times, sometimes for a food that your child initially didn't seem to like, so if you can make it seem like less of a battle, it will be less of a battle for your child to eat. try. to win, the other thing is that parents can influence the demand by adapting to the demand, so over the years, if every time your child doesn't want something, you panic because they will starve or they won't be able to go to school because they aren't there, you know, unless you give them sugary cereal instead of a healthy breakfast and accommodate their demands, you will end up again creating a self-fulfilling prophecy of a picky child, children should be First of all, that's a complicated thing because you've made the decision to raise a child and be their person, who will take into account their health and well-being.

That being said, if you sacrifice yourself and your mental health for your child, you are actually taking away your Think about child development on a plane when they say put on your oxygen mask first, you can't take care of another person. without taking care of yourself and you are also showing your child through modeling that you can have self-compassion and self-care and still love others. people and actually thrive on loving other people because you've taken that time, daytime and nighttime potty training should happen at the same time, that's enough, that's a myth, there are some kids who you potty trained them and they were basically done and they also do it during the night but for most kids actually daytime potty training happens before nighttime potty training but there are a lot of kids that still use pull -oops and they have night accidents until they are five years old and, in fact, that is completely normal.

Don't fight in front of your children. Good luck starting a fight. So at least show your kids how to resolve a fight so they don't have to sit with the discomfort of wondering what happens behind closed doors and, of course, yes. You can regulate yourself in such a way that you can have a wonderful, open dialogue like a disagreement, that's even better, but never try to fight in front of your children, but have that tension where you say, let's take this to the other room. where they look at each other is something that your children will realize that sitting close to the TV will damage the children's vision.

This is a common myth, sitting close to the TV does not harm your vision, however, it is something everyone should keep in mind when watching. and fixing your eyes on one place for a long period of time, especially if it is close to you, can affect your eyes. I want you to look into the distance to help with what we now call eye strain if you notice your child sitting nearby. watching television because you think they can't see that will be something you would like to discuss with your pediatrician praising children makes them smarter. This is fun because getting praised for the process but not the result, getting an A on your work is always going to promote a higher growth mindset, a fixed mindset can come from being praised for the result, so if you get grades all the time in English, you will avoid the other subjects that might be more challenging because you have been praised. for the A's and not how you're taking on the challenge of doing a new subject that's a little harder for you, and on the other hand, if you feel like you could really use a little more support, go ahead and praise them. just make sure it's a support that you believe in them and that with effort and strategies they are becoming smarter rather than telling them they are the brightest person in the world.

Children need protection 24/7 because the world is a dangerous place, children cannot have protection 24/7 and the world is a dangerous place, those are two separate things, although we are aware that there are some really scary things going on in the world and although your children might be giving you a feeling that, in general, they will be pretty safe if they follow basic guidelines on how to be smart in the world. street and take care of their bodies, and developmentally appropriate freedom is much better for them because children who don't know how to cross the street looking both ways because their parents take them to the other side of the street are actually in more danger because they don't know how to protect themselves what they should do is at an age-appropriate time slowly but surely learn to live a more independent life by making the good decisions that I have taught them to make that you will end up being a parent like your parents, both myth and truth, depending of your awareness about it, if your parents were authoritarian and used fear-based parenting, if you didn't take note of that and think about how you want to raise your child, he can return to what feels like home;

However, if you accept and think about the pain or difficulty of what you experienced in your childhood that you wouldn't want and think about the positive parts. of your childhood that you want to repeat as you raise your children, then you can consciously raise them the way you want so that you can then thrive as a parent. Fatherhood is something natural. This is a myth. It's very easy to see how. People would think this is true because having children seems like a natural process. What can happen is that you may feel like you should know all this.

I'm the father. What you know best is that your child is born at the same time as you. baby as a parent, right, you weren't a parent until they were born, so you are growing and developing together throughout your child's life and as you grow and develop as a parent, you can find those strengths and improve on them. I hear a lot of

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as a parent, one of everyone's favorite things to do is tell a parent how to be a better parent. You are doing great simply by the fact that you sought out information about parenting and your child's development.

When you feel like he is struggling, don't hesitate to reach out for support and resources you can rely on.