PART TWO: Why Black Women Are Least Likely to Marry Outside Their Race

was Scott Wong's killer long answer never felt that pressure any longer yes my daughter encouraged me I know when I brought James into my life I didn't choose James on purpose I know it was done for compatibility and that's what I'm telling many of my sisters I want to talk to my sisters because she is here because of mass incarceration there are many um you know there are some people that this is not available and I am tired of seeing my sisters alone you are a good woman and you deserve to be happy that We're trying to walk on eggshells.

Why do you feel like you can't get out of your career without someone? I'm sorry, uh, I'm sorry about what they said. I feel like it would be turning against them right that's what I'm saying and I'm glad there are people who actually criticize you for that and that's the reality yeah I knew how much criticism I would get once I introduced my boyfriend to the world because In my lifestyle at home everyone was very welcoming, but the moment I went to the Billboard Awards I will never forget, it was the first time this American bride experienced so much hate and I didn't understand it, I didn't understand it. so I'm very happy that we're talking about this and that's the beautiful thing about God and I hope that means heaven, the thing is we're going to have all different types, yeah, I applaud you for taking advantage of that moment, it was a fight for You know what with an open skirt but no body has like a truth serum, yes, but we are all from one culture and you may not take the moment to think behind, why haven't you ventured out if you don't and if you prefer, don't you?

That's fine, but just wondering if there's anything holding you back from stigmas or old ideologies like yeah, but I have a very public opinion, everything is so public, right, yeah, so at this point I'm just afraid of men in general, yes, real, yes. I'm scared like when I found my sister, she loves me for me, you know, finding someone who loves me for me is a little, you know, there's a person out there, say something to be honest when you go outside your culture. and it is not. In your culture there will be differences. I try to keep up with James.

I just can't keep you real. More adventurous and fun. No, that's what I mean. You don't have to see it in a negative way. You could be like me. many know that it is an attractive opening like he is different, his culture is different from mine, but when we get together, we know about compatibility. Rachel must be interresponsible, it is your responsibility if I hate another person from her culture, to know her back. Her heritage, her traditions, not all cultures are all the same, Mr. Wang may not have it with Miss My and then we may have different cultures that we know in different ways, but the most important thing is to venture outside of your safe zone because there is something more out there than you could learn and really learn.

Benefit from a question for Ronny like what's one of those things you really enjoyed learning about him that was really different. What's different about him is that it's not about him being better, he's still a man, yes, but it's the loyalty I have. As you know, I mean, it's like he can let go of the way he treats you, the way he talks to him. I have a friend. He was talking to her and it was a podcast and you know her very well and she's like, you know you don't. I don't need a man or a medium, yes, yes, and I thought that girls don't do it and that's why I'm so excited because a lot of our sisters feel so alone, yes, and they don't want to admit it and everything they have to do .

It's just taking a chance, so I don't want you to live your life without fighting with someone like when I go out on the road and I come back, it's so nice to have someone greet me or pick me up at the airport or you know. I'll tell you I miss being in a man's arms, yes that's real, I do, that's really one of the things, it's like I just want to lay my head on a man's chest. I miss that, I do and that's what you deserve. You know that doesn't make you a weak woman no, I did it like I knew or wanted to, so sometimes as

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we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be independent and strong and I don't need anyone and it's actually It's comforting to hear you say that I missed it, yeah I know, growing up in the projects, my mom always said, you know, you just get your education, stay away from kids, graduate and get a good job, and I did all that, but she didn't.

He told me I'll get you a good man too and I'll try to see that the first person you date is going to work out eating me I see you sister I see you know you keep doing it okay don't give up like everyone else because we are suffering as a nation and a lot of the things that you see, how we are divided, how we are, is because we don't have the love that we need and you need to go out and find that person, yeah, yeah, that consonant that you can turn to when you're having a bad day and You don't have to turn to your friends and your mom, someone you turn to that person who understands and looks you in the eyes, that's the one you keep it I don't care what it covers well let's take a break