My Boyfriend Is An ADULT BABY - Revealing Your Secrets Ep. 13

Does

your

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know you're doing this interview? no so i'm actually watching his live location because he works on the block hi welcome to spill

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the podcast i'm alex weiss but i wasn't always alex weiss i found out he came out this weekend i know he had another name before from being alex well my sister is pregnant and i went home for her

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shower in rhode island where i'm from and they've been calling the

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in the womb igor and i've been slightly i've been slightly pushing my sister so that dont name your baby igor no offense to anyone named igor it just doesnt feel like the move anyway i found out its like a rite of passage in my family than before while i was in the womb and my three other sisters were all named igor ,so what a fun fact wow you can call me igor if you want i'll start i think it's kinda cute igor it works it suits you i think so yeah. that's a fun fact amanda how was your weekend igor weiss you're wise cute i had a fun weekend i dated a baby a bit too you dated a baby inside a womb you hung out with one of the outsiders del tummy that's good yes my niece she is so beautiful huh yes her name is iggy iggy valentine i know i thought about that i was like she waits she is with her sister and i am with my sister you know you were thinking about that this week i thought that amanda you were thinking about that i always think about you amanda i think about you too you're no good actually you know what i write gratitude lists almost every day and you're usually on my list oh my god that's so sweet and also wow , that's such a great idea cheers because it should be me you know I go in and out of writing a gratitude list but it's a great tool it's nice to get in the habit of yeah totally cool talking about babies today I love it talk.

As babies I'm not really into babies but today we're going to talk to the girlfriend of someone who is a grown baby which should be a very interesting conversation because she doesn't share that interest herself so I'm intrigued how their relationship works and you like it , regardless of whether you like babies, I think you're in a conversation with a grown baby, oh, completely, yeah, well, we're not going to talk to a grown baby, no, I mean, oh sure yeah, you know you're in a conversation with a grown baby's girlfriend yes i want to know if she changes diapers that's just what i want that's an important question i'll remember to ask someone before we start filming. why we weren't talking to the grown baby and amanda said they were having a nap.

I just had to share that joke because she made me laugh, okay let's get on the show. i watch porn for the plot and i dont get turned on like you know how people sit and masturbate to it i just sit and watch the plot and no i dont skip the sexual parts i just watch it without any reaction like someone watching a episode of something normal, I don't know why it's funny, there is an infinite amount of content on the internet, like exponential growth per minute, thousands of streaming platforms, why would you watch porn for entertainment?

I don't understand maybe it's that you know when you see something because it's so bad it's good like the bachelor yes I love I love this person too so to the point I respect them it's almost the opposite of what they say they do well oh my gosh it's so it's funny to think of someone watching porn for plot like plot is so bad on the couch eating popcorn watching porn for plot also porn for plot is it sounds so bad for the plot is alliteration i think that's a band name that's a band name i agree on a previous episode we suggest the audience maybe watch tractor porn and let us know how it goes and now i'm curious to give homework I'm tempted to ask you that I can't ask you to bring up porn on set again, but I want to watch porn to see the plot and see how it goes.

I skip the plot entirely if I'm watching porn. no plot no no plot definitely no one has time for it i don't want to encourage people to watch porn because i mean and i don't want to embarrass him either but i don't think it's necessarily the best thing in the world but if you want to watch porn for the plot and get back to us, Leave a comment below and tell us about your experience. I want to know, what was the plot? Was there character development? general themes, it also raises the question of if there are writers, they like who does like they never thought of it, but I guess there's a producer, I guess it's a full production, the same way anything else is correct as someone if there was a hard thought. script or if it's difficult I paused because I knew you were going to comment on that or if it's more improvised because I mean there has to be some kind of story like someone created a story anyway I'm interested in the audience if If you want, I'm not encouraging it, but if you feel compelled to watch porn because of the plot, I really want you to come back here and write a little essay for us, just let us know what your conclusions are, do you think that's it? was it scripted or improvised how he did it reminded you of anyone i don't know i don't even know what to ask because i've never watched porn for the plot but let us know what you think i hate my

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's kids my boyfriend is significantly older than me and he has two children from a previous relationship his children are not too far from me in age one is three years younger than me and the other is five years younger than me we are all

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s i really love my boyfriend we have been together for almost five years and i can see each other getting married in the future but i just cant stand their kids when they visit i almost fear being in the same house they both act so immature for their age think back to their early years of high school even though the youngest is about to graduate from college, they stay up all night playing and partying only to sleep all day so they can do it again, they can be extremely rude to their father, how to respond. saying patronizing things and they don't really do their best around the house when they stay I feel like when I'm there I do more around the house and we both don't live together but we spend a lot of time in My parents always raised me to clean up after me, especially at someone else's house, so I always put away my dishes.

I usually take out the trash if I am the one who fills it up. Replace toilet paper if you use the last one. of the roll, etc. their children do none of that. I don't mind doing things to help around my boyfriend's house, especially since he works some crazy hours due to the nature of his job and I know he appreciates the help. his kids don't do the same and may treat him and his mom like the disrespect for his parents and their homes just makes him not want to visit them when they're around which I hate since there's a chance they'll become my family I feel like everyone dislikes one member at least one member of a significant other's family this is how part of being in a relationship is some of your family not liking you amanda did you dislike couples family members um am I putting myself out there i didn't exactly like it i had that experience but i have had the experience of having a stepmom who is a jerk so i don't know i mean there could be other things here like maybe this person is not happy that their partner already have kids but for me too the biggest like in my mind what's flashing is like hot take hot take your man didn't teach them i know i was thinking that too if i were in your place i would wonder well, there are many factors. to what it does what it does to people who are right but parents are important so if there are shit kids right maybe take a look at who raised them or maybe can your partner have a conversation with them and ask them to do? more and see what happens, have we ever had a conversation?

Do we just like to be resentful and don't want to properly bring it up as if it's a red flag that maybe they're being raised to be that way and then we don't take responsibility for having something important? conversations about fair behavior there's a room full of people back there i can't be the only one who doesn't like family members of a significantly common thing i just like it personally i don't have that experience someone here has that yes yes yes yes you know what yes yes people here have had that experience true it's normal it's common it's hard because I'm generally an advocate of talking and sharing whatever you're thinking with your partner but that's something you can really only Don't share as if you just had to shut up unless i'm having issues with the same person in which case you can agree but you can never add more to the conversation but i think it's also like these are teenagers or whatever and they're like true, I mean she said they were

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s or they said they were in college right but she's still a very young person and I feel like that age range is like a more annoying stage in life when you're more selfish and more knowing just not you're thinking both like it's not the same as like i don't like my partner's mother you know she's a completely grown up person it's different i think there's still room for improvement like i haven't lost all hope in my mind i think this person maybe he just needs to talk to his partner and you know not to be rude, but just say "hey, I like that, I don't like even that." I could have a conversation with them and I think it's better coming from your partner than you because they probably won't respect you on the same level as if they don't know you that well if I'm coming from someone who has a step mom and you know you want to have a good relationship with them, you don't want to be that, you know the whole wicked stepmom trope so i don't think i should wait amanda do you have a wicked stepmom?

I mean, I don't know if today is the day to get into that, but okay, maybe another day, maybe another day, but I'll just say it like for me, I feel like I would really love to be with someone who has kids because I would have the opportunity to love those children. the way my stepmother didn't love me or my brother, you know, the way I really love them like my own children and I think a lot of times people come from this place like, oh, those are their sons but you know open your heart that's amanda's advice open your heart and mouth and have a conversation good luck before you book any brunch you pour lists and lists of reviews so why not do the same when you are booking a doctor's appointment with zocdoc you?

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and download the zocdoc app for free then start your search for a top rated doctor today many are available within 24 hours that's secrets zocdoc .com dot com secrets im about to say something i have never told anyone please dont judge im trying to get better ok sorry for not being pushy but heres the secret basically during my teenage years I am now 20 years old.

I had a compulsion to film videos of men. feet discreetly in public or even roommates on summer camping trips etc. yeah i have a fetish i know it's weird but at the end of the day i was born this way it's very weird because i would find this kind of fetish funny from the outside if i didn't have it like it was right in my brand of humor but I have literally been attracted to men's feet specifically from a very young age, long before I knew what sex was. Anyway, back to the main point of the secret.

I could look at photos. I can look at photos in private and masturbate to them, but I usually always delete them right after due to post-crazy clarity. I know it's weird and a total invasion of privacy and I don't know why I have so little self-control in this aspect of my life when I usually seem like a has-it-things-together type of person I've made a name for myself in my town I can't say a lot but people would never guess this about me but let me tell you i am weighing down so much of my sexuality revolves around thisfetish and i hate that i can't be just normal and this creepy behavior of lack of self control is eating away at my conscience even more.

Since i can't accept myself because of the fetish, i fall into it completely and lose self control, it's what embarrasses me the most in my life and it makes me feel like I'm literally a creep walking through society even though I know people like much worse things for some reason. I always feel like the most corrupt mind in the room. It can be related to a bright note. I haven't filmed anyone in months and I plan to never do it again. I'll say as I write this. out has helped me build perspective on the subject, so at least have to love your videos, it's very interesting that people get excited about things that I don't even remotely find sexual, since I don't even know if they would bother me. if someone stood up because I can't even comprehend the sexual nature of my own feet, if that makes sense, it's so beyond my realm of comprehension, but actually, I've thought about wanting to be barefoot on the podcast and I intentionally didn't i've done it because i know people like it so maybe i'll understand anyway i have some advice i feel like it's your embarrassment on the subject that makes this so hard so many people have foot fetishes i feel that you can't get rid of foot fetish so you should have it, let your loved ones know, tell the people in your life. you behave in ways that further perpetuate shame, like you're so embarrassed that you're going to do things that later make you more embarrassed, I feel like you wouldn't be taking creepy pictures if you were really honoring and owning the fact that you loved feet, you know i feel like you should take a step in the right direction stop amanda is inspired by you and try to honor this fetish thats what i would do if i was in your shoes toe the line of self acceptance oh my god amanda i love you oh omg i feel like i'm not done i feel like a new uh a new journey is a foot for this person i feel like this is the beginning of a great healing oh my god oh my god i love him so much wow this is my fetish this is my fetish also yeah i get it sorry we are both excited right now super excited alright alright we have something else cool that sucks alright luck hey alex this secret comes from a few months ago and im nervous to share it so i was in the middle of doing the writing with this guy who was a regular connection of mine, I don't know how much we were doing but my mind had wandered and I wasn't interested anymore.

I tried to keep going and was done because whatever it was would probably be over soon, but it went on for a few more minutes and at that point I just wanted it to be over. I feel bad remembering because I never said no or to stop. I just stood there awkwardly with tears in my eyes. It got to the point where I made her stop, but instead of acknowledging that she was clearly uncomfortable and moving off of me, she continued. he lay down on top of me and rubbed his cock on my thigh and stomach, i gave myself a minute to recover, wiped my eyes and talked myself into going for a few more minutes but i couldn't do it so i made a halfhearted excuse and went back to my house.

I wish I had told him it wasn't okay when I wanted him to stop, but part of me feels like he knew he was uncomfortable and just wanted to finish himself and see how long he could last. This makes me really sad because I mean I've had experiences where I feel like the person I'm with is really treating my body like a warm vessel and I feel like it's not uncommon for women in general to have this experience like I've talked to friends who have also had experiences where it doesn't seem like the consideration of their human experience is also in the bedroom amanda i feel like we've talked about this personally as well oh yeah i've had you but i had as one a specific one in which this makes me wonder if you would like to share it's not okay that's valid i feel like there are two parts to this where you have the person on the other end not really considering your feelings but i also think it's really hard for a lot of people to defend themselves and articulate and express what they want in the bedroom, especially when it comes to setting a boundary because we're not really taught how to do that and women especially are taught that we're supposed to be very passive and put yourself in a very vulnerable position .

You're naked in bed with someone, and sometimes it's easier to shut down than it is to muster the energy to express what you really need in that moment. fallen into that especially if you've had a history of sexual trauma you know you can easily resort to hoping it's okay once the moment is over which is really sad and I hope we can all learn to be more expressive and not maybe not sleeping with people we have a hard time expressing ourselves to and i also want to say that there's not much we can do for people who have no respect for other people that's annoying or maybe it's like getting to know people better before they You don't sleep with them, that's true, but that's a lesson you learned through experience.

I learned it with experience. Although I remember this guy, he's not exactly the same, but he reminds me that I was dating someone for a while and hey. I'm like half of me is like don't tell this story but I'm already halfway there so it was her birthday and she was in a really bad place and we were in a really bad place and they were like uh so I said I didn't want to have sex and they said but it's my birthday like I owed them something for that it's that energy but but like can you let me put my dick in your guy? the energy is really very disturbing so my point is i thought i knew this person and was shocked when that came out of his mouth so i think sometimes horniness just gets the best of people i'll give this guy too that you know well yeah and if you don't talk you're going to move on I know but you would like someone to be receptive to your tastes even if it's subtle you would want that but that's not reality sadly yes people it is very selfish. especially when it comes to these things that's true that's true that's why you would hope to be with someone that you know you know a little better or have some kind of connection to so they care a little more but I think a lot of times people it just doesn't and that's a sad reality.

I wish I had a fun little tip on how to express yourself in bed, but I'm still learning. I think it's just a matter of self esteem. i'm like you too you have to accept that they may not be happy but at the end of the day you are responsible for yourself yes you have to put yourself above someone else's pleasure it's like you are not happy or they are are. i'm not happy i know i've definitely struggled in my life with putting other people's comfort above my own in all areas so i think that can easily show up in the bedroom i feel like it's a pretty common problem i sorry that happened good luck to you and everyone else on the voicemails alex um i guess i just want to start by saying i love the podcast i love the series i've been following it since it was like only on youtube and stuff so um yeah i guess my secret um is that every time i masturbate i still think about my ex boyfriend um that sucks for one because i don't know i feel bad for sexualizing him still like um it's been over half a year since we broke up and he He's got a new girlfriend and everything, um, but like I don't know, he's like the only guy I've ever been with, um, and I like him, it feels like every time I masturbate, no. no matter what all the roads hit, you know, I guess the other reason this sucks is because all my friends have spent the last few months, you know, helping me, trying to get over it and all because, um, it didn't. . really a mutual breakup like i'm the one who broke up with him just because i knew he didn't want to be in the relationship anymore which sucked um and like he was pretty mean to me um towards the end like saying that like my hobbies were kind of disgusting and stuff, like he's not a nice person to me and like he doesn't know, it hurts me to know that other people know how hurt I am and everything, but like I still think about him. when i orgasm like this it shouldn't happen ok i don't know if you have any advice to get over that please and thank you i feel like this is normal you have a point of reference when you're horny to the last person you had sex with or to this person the only person he had sex with is like duh you gonna think of them that makes sense actually i think its a good sign you are masturbating to your ex because hear me out if youre still upset about the breakup you couldnt i think i couldnt get turned on thinking about them sexually it would just make me sad so actually i think its really cool and amazing that you can get turned on by them because now they are just a distant memory you know a picture they should add this to the 6th stage of grief , master masturbates to your lost loved one obviously im not talking about death pain break up pain if it was a death situation i would. be maybe the most alarming alarm you know i feel like i've thought sexually about someone but never while i was heartbroken for them because that would get me out of it am i right or am i right amanda you know what you are true yeah so that's a good point , that's a good point, you know what I just thought, you're going to love it so much, the sixth stage of pain is that it's in your grass, I'm sorry, I had to do it, I don't know, it just pops up in my head, wait , I didn't understand, it's in your grass, bait, it's in your past, yes, so it's okay. grass bait yea yea yea well it took me a minute glad you walked me through it yea it's you yea yea you're over your baby I love that you definitely 100 percent masturbated and when you did you were all over that person am right yeah I know that's a good point it's a good point yeah yeah I mean because regardless of the person I mean the person might suck but the experience could still have been interesting yeah and even if it wasn't amazing it's still just you know in your library of sex related experiences and strangely certain experiences just show up more than others you know they are only when you collect experiences I feel like for me I definitely have some that are kind of the front and the center, oh great you want to tell us about it oh you know not today but maybe I love it just keep going I keep asking you to share it in a very personal way. one you're not giving us much today amanda i'm not that's fine i'm kidding you're masturbating you're not when i say you're giving us a lot i mean your personal life but you don't owe us that's what i mean i don't know if i really want to get in with you i don't have details about i think i just like to push people into um but be vulnerable i have i have a couple i mean and also it's just that people are so different like maybe you had an experience with a person you've never had again i definitely have had that where i'm like even though i'm not i'm not you know that person and then already that was the time that that happened and it hasn't happened again so i'm thinking about it girl we just wanna say you're in the right way, you're doing all the right things, keep it up, keep jerking off, we're rooting for you, keep being a passerby, i got one.

I thought more about this secret, which is that she said that her ex said that her hobbies were disgusting and I think what hobbies can be considered disgusting. I thought about that too, she made me think about our public guest who was the campaign. yeah because her boyfriend said i doubt this girl was a girl no i know but that was the only hobby that like me was like what could be gross regular hobbies are gross i just cant figure out what I know that. hobbies can be gross, can you keep up? Please in the comments let us know please follow up let us know which hobbies are gross or if you're just not this girl let us know if you come up with something yeah what? it would even be a disgusting pastime.

I can't really even think of one as a normal one, like collecting trash that's gross, oh, like we've gotten submissions about people collecting mold, you know, moldy cups that are kind of gross. oh writing porn scripts yeah oh watching porn plot for weed yeah it's a filthy hobby yeah you're right ok there are filthy hobbies yeah but I'm really curious what yours is like this than leave a comment and let us know, okay, I don't. I even know how to get started on this, but thank you so much for listening if you're listening I appreciate it.

I want to start this with that. I was very sheltered in high school so when I got to college my freshman year was like as far as drinking and stuff like that I had no prior knowledge of anything about keeping up just nothing so my first literal day or my first weekend of college everyone was there there was a party i had no idea what someone was doing just kept handing me a bottle um i kept pulling it and passed out seriously drunk um and there were some things that preceded this, some situations oralthough when i upload this it will no longer be your his birthday is always his birthday yes birthday birthdays last a while i think its always a moment its always a birthday in my heart igor well good job im proud of all of us, i'm in a good mood, thank you all for listening.

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