Mary Paz Banquells I La vida después de Adame

welcome home, you're welcome, I'm very happy that you continue to accompany us, that you continue to receive us, that you give us comments and above all, well, it catches my attention that you put so much interest in the interviews that you laugh or get angry or or really know the truth from the voice of the same celebrities who do us the favor of visiting us here at Mara's house today I am fortunate to have a partner that I have known for many years from the artistic family and she is also the daughter of two people that I loved very much in fact from a great film theater producer, a great good actor, a man who I think was the last one who interviewed me for the last time, Don Rafael Banquells and his wife Dina de Marco, who in addition to being an extraordinary actress and also a charming woman, a couple but Well, they are already with God, we will catch up with them later, but here I have their daughter, I have Maripaz Bankers, whom I am very happy to welcome.

My house is delighted to be with you, as you say, so many years of knowing each other, in fact, you were the last one to interview my father. and I still have that interview and they still tell me the great things there, in love with my father like no other, as I say, the last interview allows us to go home, you were doing soap operas, to the theater and all this, what it's like to grow up in an artistic family in a family with a a name as important as Don Rafael and as great a lady as Doña Worthy of Marco, well, look, it was incredible for us because if we lived in the dressing rooms of the theaters when it was Channel 8, we were there, well, the film forums, if we lived there, but my parents They also tried to make us live a completely normal life, my dad said from the doorway to the inside, we are an ordinary family, so if there were the scoldings, the punishments, the food, as you will remember, my dad, my parents, they were both, they loved food and getting to the house, everyone I meet tells me that arriving at your house and from the moment they opened the door, the smell of the kitchen, entering the kitchen and seeing those hams hanging from the sausages, everything was spectacular and then it was wonderful and the sit at the table because for my dad the most important thing was that we were all together at the table so it was to sit down to eat at the table and discuss each of his problems what we talked about and as a director and producer he was a very strict man he was a Man, if he corrected us and scolded us, I remember a lot about one time when we were rehearsing that was my first thoughts in a play and I did something wrong and he scolded me and he scolded me.

You don't know how he made me cry there in front of the room when I came out, I didn't speak to him and he told me what's wrong with you, this very ugly man is scolding me, you made me cry in front of everyone, wait, here you are my daughter and I love you and I adore you but up there you are my actress and if you do something badly I have to correct and scold you just like all the other actors so don't stop talking to me because here is another relationship so I was a very strict man my mother was always correcting us she was teaching us class she was always taking us to school dance class to singing class always worried about us, a very united family, it is true that because of what you mentioned about food, you suffered from anorexia and bulimia, yes because in fact when I was going to start working, my dad told me if you don't get off weight no no I'm not going to leave you but once as a child I was chubby the way I was I was very chubby so my son you have to lose weight because I don't want them to make fun of you and you have to lose weight so I went on a diet and I eat I needed to lose weight quickly, I stopped eating when my parents realized that I wasn't eating, they made me eat and then I went to the bathroom, you know, but fortunately for me it's glorious, madina, they discovered me and also when I said, I'm already at the weight I want, I'm no longer I need to lose more and I started to control myself and that was when I started to exercise and control my diet to this day to this day until now it is dew your sister I have an older brother who disconnected he hates the artistic medium never He liked him, he was the one who now is the little black sheep and he went to live in the United States.

He is my brother Pepe José Manuel and he has lived in the USA for 45 years. He is married to his wife who is Mexican from Guadalajara and they live here and there. and there their children were born there and there they are very happy and then we are Rocío, the one in the middle is me, well we start with Silvita because Silvia is the eldest and after marriage, my parents are the 5 of us, Rocío, then I continue with Ariadne and Rafael Well, in the end, your relationship is very good, very good, Silvia. Silvia has always been part of the family.

My parents never mentioned the word half sister to us. For us, she has always been our sister and she has always come to the house and always. She has always been present, we have always had a very good relationship with her and then well, Mari, to be pieces, you stop working in 1977, rather you started working in 1977, you fall in love with houses, which is your first and only marriage, so it's a test, give me and I'll tell you. You dedicate yourself entirely to your family and your home, suddenly an episode comes that you never imagined, what it's like to resume your artistic career, what it's like to start over, what's it like, this work part, now the personal part, but this work part, look, it's been difficult because I I completely distanced myself from the artistic environment, I avoided it, I accompanied Alfredo at times but generally he avoids being in what the artistic environment was.

I wanted my children to lead a quiet and normal life and for them to have their careers and I dedicated myself completely to that so after 27 years you return it is another world it is another medium that I left many producers that I worked with on television have already died so totally disconnected the very different media the press is very different from what I left and also You have the Internet media that you have to learn to use because my son also told me, my son who is a marketer told me, Mom, you have to be on social networks, anyone who doesn't have networks is nobody and I, well, let's see, teach me. and he is the one who is teaching me how to carry my networks and manage all this because I was totally disconnected, start knocking on doors until trying to do castings, it has been very difficult but I am really looking forward to it, I came in on the right foot, I can tell you why.

Rocío was in Made in Mexico and she had to leave the work so Sergio Gabriel, the producer whom I never loved, had seen me and told Rossi today and your brother won't want to, he won't want to come into your role, Rocío spoke to me, I am, he says Sergio, if you are interested, as you can see, but this was on Saturday night, on Sunday I went to see the play, they gave me the script and on Friday I was making my debut. I mean, imagine four days because you also lose even your memory. memory zar, my children sat there.

Let's see, Mom, the one I came to see, Mom, was studying with me, so in four days I learned the play and I entered on the right foot, sheltered by Juan Ferrara, Socorro Bonilla, and Alejandro Suárez, and in a play like Made in Mexico, so that was like wow. The world opened up for me to be back on stage, to hear the applause, the lights, to be in the dressing room, it was like being reborn. Now, your children live with you, that's how we children actually have more trust with the mother than with the father, even if we are women or Men, in any case, we have more trust with the mother.

How was your son's approach to you to let you know what for many was a scandal that is a very common issue today in our country and in the world in the world I I think that today it is an issue that should no longer scare or frighten and on the contrary I think that people should understand a little how many people's traumas are due to rejection, no fortunately my children have me they have had me All the trust in the world has always approached me to tell me all their problems, their joys, everything, then I did begin to see different things in him and it caught my attention that there was a friend who did not want to introduce me to him and who did not want to take him.

I didn't like that at home because they have always taken me to their friends. I have always had a very good relationship with my children's friends. This sea and this sea. So I told him why don't you bring me because you don't want to introduce me to your friend. So He already sat down and told me, Mom, I want to tell you that I'm already defined, I'm gay, you don't have it in your mind, it's not something that you don't think could happen to you, so, and I told her, you just have to give us a chance to adapt to it. this part but the relationship has been so normal that it has been flowing and how wonderful this talk was when you let your children know that you are going to get divorced well it was a very hard moment for them I was crying and if I told them you decided to get divorced I asked them for forgiveness, I told them, I can't do it anymore, I've tried by every means to save my marriage, our family, but I can't do it anymore, and I've come to this point and I think that your dad and I already have to take this different paths, so I told them.

Obviously they were frozen because they never imagined it but they told me mom we are with you whatever you decide we are always going to support you and it is there they are supporting me giving me their love their protection they take care of me a lot and fighting because it has also been a learning experience for them because they were very pampered, very spoiled children and now they have found that they have to get rid of stones and they have to get ahead so they are learning and they are becoming good men. It was my goal in life that was for my children to be good men it is honest workers, gentlemen and I have achieved it.

I am seeing it now with my children of 27, 25 and 20 years old and they all work, the two youngest ones, Álex, 25, and Sebastián Demente, are still studying Diego already has a degree in marketing, he has two jobs, he is managing school events at the Tecnologia de Monterrey and he has his own business with his colleagues, which is this marketing for SMEs and it is doing very well and they are having butterflies because I heard that no, the monthly payment had not been left or I don't know, I'll say how week that in those things but my children in one way and three help me this one we thought of putting up a boarding house for dogs it is called chiquitas house we are on facebook instagram we come we pick them up we also have the transportation service if you don't need we pick up your pet and We take him to the house, he is with us, there are no cages, they are inside the house, they sleep with each one of us, we take him out for a walk, we live in a bright subdivision.

You moved house, yes, we moved house and this one, we live in a subdivision with a lot of security. and we take the puppies for a walk, all the needs and we have to give them medicines, the special food because each dad has different things. If he got under my control, there are others, Goliath told them, what's wrong with you, seeing your little bed, I'm sorry I heard that I had done very badly, I spent the whole night because that's how I was used to it, and after 15 days he was with me, he was already sleeping. there and my feet and then we pamper him a lot because the four of us are also adoring dog lovers and so we feel a lot and we have that pension that we divide this when one is at school the other takes him out and between the four of us we are always attentive Of those with the puppies, then also Rubén Cerda and Tere, his wife, gave me the opportunity by helping me become a distributor of their genes.

Oh, how good it was until we found her because Rubén and his wife didn't promise her that they were going to send us some gels, otherwise they sent us Nothing Maripaz At first I was in real estate because I didn't see myself because I have to get ahead and my children Diego supports me who is the one who works Alexa on vacation works in a restaurant and also on TV she likes he is an artist conceptual art he wants make comics then he makes drawings he sells them and with that he supports me and sebastián well he wants to be a chef so he sells cakes he sells jellies and they also support me so in the four of us we have moved forward the other day diego told me mom we are already two years old Precisely because after the accident we lived with Russia for a few months, my sister gave us rehabilitation, she took care of us, she took care of us, so when the four of us returned to the house, we just completed two years of filling in the house and we have already been dating for two years. move forward alone and that is a pride for us then well yes because yes tight whatever you want but we have moved forward so it has also been a good learning for the four of us how not to harm the minds of the children like you butt who is a woman is a good person, I know that you are incapable of speaking badly about your ex-husband with your children, how can you make that distinction when there was so much pain, because it is a total thing and that is something that I will never take away for myself.

My father is very important, my parents, but my father, a father figure, has been very important in my life, so I am an enemy of using children as tools to harm children. They have to know that it is their father and mother who could no longer be together but they will never stop being their parents, so they are the ones who have to know that their father is not going to stop loving us because their mother no longer loves them or that their mother no longer loves them because they are the fruit of love and that is something that we will never take away so whatever we say about the other person's bond, they are fruits of love.

You cannot hurt and want to hurt the other person with your children, they are not tools, they are beings.They feel and it hurts them both on one side and the other, so I have tried to ensure that my children respect and love their father all their lives and this will continue to be the case now that Diego has certain differences with his father. I continue to insist on him. I have hope at some point will lose their pride and they will be able to talk and tell each other what they want because love is ready and will always be at the level of a woman mari peace like where do you get strength from where do you get all these things that a woman needs when she is in through a divorce and when you divorce a person who has been the only husband, not and it has been very strong, it has been a very very long and very strong process because if I also ended up destroyed in all aspects emotionally, my self-esteem was on the floor.

I even went so far as to deny to myself that a person would recognize me and I would say no, it's not me, you're confusing me, I look alike but it's not me and when I was in real estate I used to give myself my mother's last name, I took off my bankers to prevent them from They recognized me or told me that I felt singled out. I felt very, very bad. My self-esteem was on the floor and it has been a process. They have walked with me. My children have not allowed me to see myself in bed crying, but here you get up and You put in the batteries and then give it to my children and my family who have brought me forward and truly something that I am proud of and now in myself is that I always have so much love and right now I am reaping that love because I have the people It tells you that you can't count your friends on more than the fingers of one hand.

I can tell you that I have more than the fingers of four limbs of friends who have been there supporting me, who have been with me in the very good times and who have been with me in the bad times. bad in every way so this is what has gotten me ahead that I have reaped I am still reaping a lot of love and then when you receive so much love so much support that people believe in you that they believe that you will be able to, well you can't afford to to say no, I can't, but if I can, I am and I'm worth it and I'm going to move forward and searching for peace I began to find peace by forgiving myself because we are human beings we all make mistakes I can't tell you ah I'm a saint and we did not make mistakes if we made mistakes and of which I also asked my children for forgiveness, to forgive myself and that was when I began to find tranquility, peace and find forgiveness for the person who was the person with whom I I married the person who was to this day the love of my life and the person with whom I wanted to end my days, so finding that peace with that person has been part of what has kept me going, so they talk to each other.

They have communication, no no no, we don't have any simple euros of quarrels, but I'm already staying completely away. I hope that at some point, the day I asked him for a divorce, I told him, "We're going to try to make this the best possible because we have three children in common, we are going to see each other, we are missing many things with our children, weddings, this birth of grandchildren, graduations, so come on, it couldn't be finished quietly, it couldn't be finished in the best way, but I hope that at some point we can meet if we have a grandchild and be able to receive that grandson like his grandparents, we are without quarrels and without resentment and the love grows up, yes yes yes yes I really like love I love life from the start I love life I saw my parents so in love always always doing what is mine mom always in all the photos my mom appears almost with the drool from outside seeing my dad I grew up with that love so the truth is I do believe in love and I like to love and I like to be loved and I love puppies I love my children my family I love people I love life so yes of course I do believe in love and I would like to return you fall in love yes yes yes yes I believe that yes yes everyone has to have a new opportunity to feel that they love you that they want you to cuddle that kiss of course yes of course and I want to give myself the opportunity to love again and what would you say to the butterfly women who are seeing you about this this process that fortunately not all of them live it but this process or for The ladies who are going through it or because they are going to make the decision, anyway, what would you say to them, Maripa, look, I would tell them that, first of all, women in Mexico, culturally, if we put our children first, if we put them first, we have many fears.

What is going to happen to me that is not the same 27 years ago in age and in everything so you have to have that security and that peace of mind that you are worth it, that you can, that you are brave and that all the problems that come your way things are going to be resolved, things happen when they should happen and for some reason then you have to overcome that moment and tell yourself I am worth it I am I can I have the strength the fortitude to move forward I can face life with its downturns but my dad I trained for that my dad always told us life is a fortune sometimes you are up and sometimes you are down my dad came out of a war in Spain he went to France and he got the second world war he had to flee he came to America between that he was losing and being reborn and rebuilding his life then everyone can rebuild our life having confidence in ourselves and loving ourselves because we devalue ourselves there comes a time when self-esteem is so low that you yourself lose your value you say I am nothing I'm not worth anything I'm already ugly I'm already old Not everyone is beautiful anymore If we transmit it from within, beauty is more inside than on the outside and as the years go by I feel that people are transmitting it, it may have been beautiful and they get older but because they don't have what is beautiful on the inside, so when you are a person like that on the inside, I think it begins to reflect on your face and that is what is worth it.

We women have to value ourselves and have the strength and security that We can get ahead, in addition to being nice and good, well, what's going to come for you, Maripaz, where are we going to see you work? Are you going to follow the medium in Mexico? They are in payments right now we are on pause in Made in Mexico and while it is there we are going to start rehearsing one. short play that they offered me that is beautiful because it also makes it clear that it is me, it is called the law of life and it is the law of life that is already beginning, I am already starting to fall on the 20th that at some point my children will They are going to go and live their lives and notice that the day I was reading to him I was alone in the house, my children each had their activities and I was reading it and it happened to me on the 20th but I also put myself in the role of daughter The moment came when I decided to make my life and I left and now in the role of mother you say my children are going to make their life and they are going to leave and then there is a parliament that says I feel so big in the house right now that I'm alone and at that moment I was alone I say I feel the house is so big and I have to activate myself because the law of life is that they are going to make their life no so very nice work and I think I am the character so I have him We are very excited about this work and we are also organizing to hold conferences for the many many ladies who have written to me and told me that they admire me and how I have done it to get the courage and to get ahead and to see myself whole, so I think there is There is a great need for women who have gone through those things, for those problems, for that pain, to tell them that we all can, yes, it is going to hurt, but you have to be strong and overcome the moment, so we are preparing conferences for women who have that need and start driving I also want to try driving I called around and I already have some dates so I'm really looking forward to it and I really want to rediscover my career and renew myself in all aspects so I love life and I want to live happily and peacefully, you don't know what a pleasure it gives me to see you, see you well, listen to you well, feel good and above all, very focused and very mature and to see that smile that I haven't seen in a long time as a person and that I love and that all of us women are here to support you, thank you very much, delighted to see you again because you know that affection has always varied, whatever you want to add, nothing happens, thank you very much, I am happy to be at the massage house, I hope you like it and I hope that I can support someone at some point, even if it is to flee because there are times when people need us to listen to it and I am here to listen to the one that is offered with all affection thank you very much Maripaz ends to you and thank you very much for having accompanied us expresses says see you later morita digital also also until the next thank you walking