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Manipulative Kids Treat Mom as a Doormat | The Clause Family Full Episode | Supernanny

May 29, 2021
the discipline that Kayla had just received I mean this mom just undermined everything we just accomplished you went in there why did you feel guilty and why did you feel guilty because I saw her sad listen to what comes out of your mouth you feel guilty because I asked her your eight-year-old daughter to do what I get three-year-olds to do. So do you think she'll stay sad for the rest of the day? Do you think she'll grow up seriously hating you? If you think you want to solve this, you better take it seriously with me because I came here 100% ready to help you and I want you on board, aren't we here for your

kids

to teach and feel empowered? as a mother, so let me do that, okay, Lori is absolutely petrified that she's not going to have a good relationship with her own daughter and that's what's stopping her from disciplining her own daughter.
manipulative kids treat mom as a doormat the clause family full episode supernanny
It was truly a revelation to see the observation. from other people about how they see me, you know, I realize that mom feels very guilty when she has to say no to her children, so I wanted to get her out of the house so she could release some of this emotional baggage and let her felt good. and not guilty for saying no to her children, let's go for a walk, you have a backpack

full

of weight, you're going to carry what mom didn't realize was that the weight of the backpack is

full

of rocks that have words associated with the past that she needs to leave behind to be a better mother we like it when she's miserable it's such a small smile this is what catch joe is about she's pushing me to go up the hill and go faster and she threw a rock at me here take this one hurry up take it this one, do you want to continue?
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Actually, no, actually, you better make another one that doesn't sound like a no and I'm looking at this woman thinking you need to find her. the courage to say no because if she can face me and say no, then she will have the strength to be able to do it with her own children. Smile, it's okay, I'm smiling, but I don't feel very happy. This heavy backpack on my back and I realize that this is my life every day and I have to make a decision. Do you want to do it again? Do you want to know what's in your backpack?
manipulative kids treat mom as a doormat the clause family full episode supernanny
Yes, I finally know. She says no. Like thank God, you got it, read it and expose it lack of responsibility tone of voice latent mentality there you start exposing what the rocks say, it hits you, you realize you've been holding on to problems holding on to all this is dragging you down down and it's dragging everyone else down, you can pick up these rocks and you can continue carrying them or you can close them there and make the decision to get rid of them forever so you can move on and I don't want to keep carrying all this paint I want letting it go I have to make a decision to get rid of this weight Blame disorganization to control needs Acceptance This is probably the most eye-opening experience of my life Getting out all that anger and frustration and emotion I don't need to be a person who carries so much negative weight maybe once in my life I can finally be free a rainbow that rainbow must have risen for you a new beginning it's a sight seeing the rainbow was very symbolic for mom because it showed her that the storm clouds were dissipating just as The weight of his problems and seeing that rainbow allowed him to realize that he could receive sunshine and happiness in his life.
manipulative kids treat mom as a doormat the clause family full episode supernanny
Thank you Joe took the time in the rain to care and Nobody has ever done that for me in my life so I will never forget this day as long as I live, won't I now? My backpack weighs more than yours. Sometimes I make rules in our house first, but after working with Laurie and giving her the time she needed, I knew she would come back the next day and then set the rules, so the next thing we need to do is work on house rules. the house when Joe recommended that we make house rules and work together as a

family

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I think Brandon and Kayla were really surprised because we've never done anything like this before so we're going to do this on the computer okay so let's take a look at there are no rules for Jojo King the house rules are going to follow . It's going to be for all of you because we haven't been setting a good example, ultimately it's going to be the parents who set what those house rules are. Do mom and dad swear that sometimes we do it sometimes? It will be good to set a good example here with the established rules it is our job as parents to follow them there are four people who live here these are house rules for all of us I anticipate a lot of kicking, a lot of screaming, a lot of name calling and again if Ken and I are not consistent This It's not going to work so it's good because what we have set up now as a desktop I think the challenge will be to comply with the new rules and not go back to yelling and screaming like things were before, so what?
Here we have deprivilege strips. What I have for all of you is a list of things we like to do. Take a look. Rules don't work unless they are enforced. That's why when these

kids

misbehave, we take them. taking away their privileges movies biking dance classes handball or sounds familiar these are the things you love to do and these are the things you can do However, now we have house rules and if those house rules are broken, So what's going to happen is that the consequences of that will be that you will lose those privileges and one of these strips will be removed and placed in your personalized basket.
Well, I think the removal of privileges for both Brandon and Kayla will be huge. we have never followed any kind of discipline like that, it's ever pretty simple, don't really break the rules, keep your privileges, I'm afraid of missing dance class, I don't want to do it with a discipline system in place, the next step is to throw who is away from his computer that he works on at home so he can spend more quality time with Brandon, so I'm glad you two are sitting here talking because it's important for us to continue to encourage Brandon to do the same. things that he is interested in doing and it is also very important for you, as a male role model in this house, to be an inspiring father figure so that he can look up to you and know that you were there to support him in doing it.
Today what we're going to do is get in my taxi and take you to a gym so we're ready to go I'm ready yeah okay you're ready we're going perfect that was a 10. Hello Lake Dwaya post. Well that was better, it is important for Ken to do activities with Brandon because he will allow them to connect which in retrospect will develop their relationship so they get along better. Oh, good job, I could see on his face that he was very happy about that. He had been affirmed as a person again and with things that he likes to do, yeah, you know, it was great to see Ken doing something that Brandon loves to do.
I mean, what's better for a child's self-esteem to really raise the bar and have his father do it? something he loves to do himself you want to teach him brandon, show him how to do it oh show me how I get up on my back first and what you do when the coach had brandon come over and say, hey, why did you show dad? how to do it that was great I just love doing things in Brandon what I do well I'm going back yeah Brandon's face lit up and that's been few and far between but he wasn't enjoying his dad listening to him hey yeah If he likes to challenge you, uh, it's like that.
I did it well. Brandon really loves the gym and I feel like Dad learned that he needs to get away from that computer once in a while and encourage Brandon to keep going, Brandon, do you have any? funny, I'm doing this today yeah, how would it make you feel good? yes, would you like to come back here? yeah, well, I think we'll make that happen, what do you say, okay, let's do it, so it was time for me to go. For a few days, leaving Mom and Dad alone will be eye-opening, but keep your attention on the bigger picture.
It's okay, trust each other. Work together. Keep going. Communicate. Okay, this is about empowering your own

family

and that's a priority. Now I know. Joe has been gone for a few days and I'm afraid that Joe won't be there and that the kids will take advantage of the situation with Joe leaving for a couple of days. I'm anxious but excited. I worry that things will be old again. bad habits, I think it's a little natural to start a new process, but I think both Laurie and I are determined to make it happen. A big hug, okay, strength, shrimp strength, take care of yourself, you're welcome, this process has been extremely exhausting, I think Brandon and Kayla are definitely going to test me and it will be a lot of work on all of our parts, enjoy and I'll see you When I get back, okay, thank you, bye, bye, I left the Garras family with a lot of homework to do.
Do it, I'm pretty anxious to see if they've taken a step forward, so let's take a look at this footage, how are you feeling nervous? nervous, okay, let's take a look, it's too heavy for me too, no, no, yes, we can't. eat it kayla I don't want to carry it you understand she's in oh I'm not going to be in control that's not acceptable and you know now you lost a privilege okay this is what I saw I saw a woman who invented She thought she wouldn't be anymore the donkey of the draft horse and that he wasn't going to carry the bags, okay, and you did very well, then I saw a piece of truck that said oh, I don't know, I don't know, go Go back to how you normally are because all this it's a little scary and she started to go you carry the bags and she did this to put your arm on it and you said who's in control who's in control you really go oh my god who's in control here ?
I feel like I don't have control. I don't know what to do next when that happens and you feel like I want you to tell yourself that I'm in control. I don't control who I am, it's okay, you stopped and when you stopped this is what happened because you know what you got white, the house rules apply even outside the house you're breaking my mug, you know what I've had, this It's not your coat and I didn't ask you to rip it off, that's what she wants from you, okay, when you sat for a minute, what she was telling you verbally she realized wasn't working, so now she had to.
Getting physical with you now that we have You fell into old behavior patterns as soon as she hit you. Once, you should turn around quietly and say to him: "Don't hit me." That is your warning about that behavior and you will be losing a privilege. Get up and walk away, don't let yourself be the punching bag, okay, let's keep walking, I've been so patient with you, you've taken advantage of me for so many years, you did it, high five, stop it, your last serious privileges, okay, right? what's going on? The most important thing is that you continue doing what you are doing because then you will establish the path of stability and normality for her and she will recognize it well.
That's how it is. I'm very happy with that, although Laurie really thought about it. They were going to beat me up for that, very, very happy, okay, very happy, okay, well, let's look at the next piece here, no, you can't watch TV, so you don't even have any ideas, leave me alone, the television is. part of every time maybe when you didn't lose a privilege now if you keep up the good work today then I'll take out the TV come on you can't take it off all day. I can't, no, you can't, it's not fair that I can watch TV.
When do you think now? Because it's free time. Yes, let me talk to dad. Oh come on, what did you do there? In a way you understand it. I wouldn't say you undermined him. You gave him hope. It was an opportunity, he could follow his path instead of just being firm and saying no, the resolution is not watching TV for today and that's it, it doesn't matter who we talk to yes, no, it's 5:30 and you're not done with your homework, you were up until midnight you missed the whole game I'm sorry you just wasted perfect time leave me alone I'm not going to be able to do this I'm not strong enough I'm not going to be able to do it because they won You don't respect me, it's only good if everyone is in it, but they won't, they are winning the battle, we have two kids who are winning, so what's the point, they may have won the battle, but you certainly haven't lost the war.
I don't know why you gave up at that point in the beginning, you have to toe the line, just like Joe was saying, I mean, you have to stick with what works, even if it seems like things are coming, you have to stick with it. What works is these things and not letting them drag you any further in this rubber band direction, so what we're going to do is work very, very hard to step up what needs to be done here with respect to privileges with respect to homework. making sure that we can stay positive that I'm in control and making sure that we modify anything during my time with you today as we go along as it happens well and together we'll continue to do everything well, great, okay.
Let's get started, I saw progress watching this DVD and I really want to use that momentum to push this family to address the biggest problem: they have homework. The other thing I want to show everyone now is the homework base that I have. We've set up shop in the laundry room, okay, because we're going to have a system where we file homework and organize it. Homework is a constant battle, it is never done on time, it is always late to wake up, everyone istired, this has been the plague of our family. It's the new system for homework, okay everyone listen up because this is crucial to creating a system that will make it completely easier than it was before.
Okay, when you get home from school, take out your homework and put your books in your trays. I think the homework station can be very exciting for Brandon and Kayla. I think it gives them ownership, control and independence to work in their space and feel. proud and feel organized, everyone has a file here with their names in it, there are daily folders here, okay, so they can see when the task is due, so if there is a job that is due on Tuesday but it is Monday, then it is their responsibility file it in the Tuesday category and it's our job, Ken and I, to write it in the box that we know there's a project due on Tuesday and make sure we're on top of it.
For them, it's a practical help to just create some organization so that we're on track, we have the visual reminder with the school schedule, we have the files and then we have a place to put the books so that everything is in order, backpacks, books. visual files that's good the homework filing station is really a great idea for the kids it gives them a place to organize their paperwork i think it's a really great benefit so look listen guys this is what i thought we would do let's do our homework and So why don't we go out and have fun?
I certainly didn't want to leave this family until I was convinced they could do their homework without their kids causing a fuss, so mom, good energy, enthusiasm, okay, so we can. do the task, look for it, do it again where it belongs and then we will have fun. Motivating children to do homework is crucial, especially if you have problems, so do homework by making sure we have enough tools and then enthusiasm. with that remember it's going to go off keep it focused so let's focus on those three things remember abstract looks better yes it looks great I'm going to have to get that package right stay focused on one task at a time To cheer up the kids to do the task, you have to be calm, you have to be patient and offer them a lot of encouragement.
Alright, Joe did good things, so once the kids finished their homework, we went out and played basketball. Girls against boys. Girls vs. Guys, I know homework went very well today. Joe has had a huge impact on our house and she is going to slam the whole process with Joe of sitting down to do homework and then having the reward of the kids being able to go out and have their free time. time that was very valuable and I think it was great for the kids to see that the program was really paying off. It's time for me to go home right now.
Yes, the task went very well and I knew it was time to put down the clutches. Family, don't get me wrong, this family still has a lot of work to do, however, I know they have learned enough to continue the progress they have been making. Great that's me thanks Brandon I'm seeing real change in my family it's still going to take work but I'm seeing change in real life you never know oh you touched my heart this is a life changing experience and this is a new beginning and then this is my life now I want a big group heart from all of you I think jojo really helped my mom bye joe thank you bye you're welcome bye wow that was amazing sorry

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