Love Island Winner Nathan Massey Reacts to the Death of Caroline Flack | Good Morning Britain
just a honey lancaster James who was an adviser on
love
island
we've got to form alove
island
contestant andwinner
Nathan
Massey
and Richard Arnold's back as well butNathan
let's let's start with you thanks for coming out about anything um we all know in this business there are certain presenters of television shows which involve members of the public who once the cameras click off say I'll be in my trailer and that's it and they're off and you don't seehardness she was totally the opposite yes she was
good
as gold we had a laugh on and off camera she was always bubblygood
laugh and like I said we was at an award ceremony I was ready to go home she was that way you go now if I said I'm going I'm I've had so many beers and she said now come out come out with us or take your Groucho's being a young lad off of a building site to get to go to Groucho's and she made me feel welcome you know yes and I've not capsulized knowshe was always there with a hair flick and a hug exactly that's very much part of the phone a hundred percent and like I said on and off when when the cameras weren't rolling which was an absolute laughing I would imagine that because she was she didn't want you to have any negative experiences at all both during the recording of the program and afterwards when she took you out to Groucho's and stuff she would have hidden any of her anxieties and no no no she was just a bubbly
fantastic yeah diamond to be around an absolute yea great person that's how we should remember her really kind of course this
morning
there are so many questions and we've all got to look at ourselves and how we behave what we click on what we care about why do we do you know there are lots of questions thismorning
who's to blame a me know have family and our management very angry in up there is a lot of anger others there is a lot of anger from people who Nero you heard from LaurelWhitmer there but Richard it me you knew you never seen picture something like if you guys together let's have a moment to really rebel and celebrate
Caroline
Flack
I mean I knew her professionally you know and obviously it followed her career which is of course my job and so I met her many many times on the red carpet that particular summer's day we were at a festival in London she just popped over in between filming scenes forlove
Ireland and the picture says it all there shedoesn't just sizzle she absolutely you know in company she was extraordinary like that she was she had that x-factor you know and you know whenever she sort of walked into a room I know it's it's said of many people but with her was definitely her USP you know there was that sort of free song she had such energy you know incredible spirit like that those vulnerabilities of course in that fragile nature she was so relatable I mean you like you to build oh you come on to this show and
it was a few years ago so what was she what was it about
Caroline
that sort of was so appealing to you as a host at the show and then somebody that you got to know just someone like I said when the cameras were off she would be like one of theIsland
ers you know I mean having a laugh of us we just all have agood
laugh from around there she wasn't starry she wasn't snow you got that thing that people associate with people in the public and sometimes very correctly I mean we all know themthere are they're out there some of them come to you we spoke to you earlier can I just repeat a question and for the benefit of people who enough to see this um you're a psychologist if you'd had access to her and you didn't because Joe she wasn't doing the show when you were adviser to it if you'd have accessed her in the last few months do you think you could have stopped this happening do you think she could have been protected from the demons that were pursuing her
and specifically the ones on social media and tabloid media do you think you could have helped her it's a very difficult question because I think whenever someone dies in such tragic circumstances there is a tendency for us to all sort of think could I have done something is there something that could have made a difference we'll never know the answer to that but what I can say is that the people who I work with regularly who are in the public eye you know the social media landscape is
so unpleasant to deal with it's I think relatively in its infancy still it's unregulated all the tools to deal in a psychological sense I mean yes I am getting very depressed by what I'm reading about myself on Twitter yeah would you tell me so one of the things I would say is first of all understand that the way your brain works is that actually we do tend to focus even if you have ninety-nine percent of your messages are wonderful riches you're wonderful you get that one
percent that's really horrible unpleasant and you hone in on it and you focus on it now the brain does that tetchy because we are social beings and it's looking for signs of social rejection discipline
Nathan
's not in there I mean you then got ya into public eye you know and you met your partner and you're still together aren't you so you sort of have this sort of Fame life how have you found it and and can you identify with some of what we now understand and Carolina talkedabout it you know in these her anxieties she'd said to him you know somebody had asked her how how she thought that people most misunderstood her and she replied that I think higher of myself than I do maybe a bit yes but you can't shout I'm not as confident as you think I am and actually people in the public eye aren't anything and go yeah well I have had grief in the past on socials and so as my mrs. their mama sees really takes it to heart you know it's all she has is one
bad comment just about the way she looks and think whatever yeah I've been built up on a boat building site so I haven't called names and document exactly but when it's weird for my wife she takes it to heart and I'm there picking up the pieces and these people are giving us telling a telling her she looks like whatever so you would have your pardis is hardwired to focus on the one negative so what that would help you to understand that the impact of it try not to take that too
much to heart but then the other thing is there are some practical things you can do so one of the tendencies when we get a really negative comment like your wife might have done is that we will tend to sort of sometimes out them on in on the internet we might say look at this horrible comment I got but actually that can sometimes add fuel to the fire so I suggest you mean it validates them invalidate they think oh they notice me I got to them yes so one of the things I always say is it's a
good
idea to have like a little private group maybe a private whatsapp group or something with your friends and family and by all means share it in there so that you get some comfort and so people can say oh my gosh that's awful what they've said to you so you get that validated but you're not a social currency and can we just say with sort of your happiest memories of thelove
lyCaroline
what would you you know if you're when you think of her what comes to mind just when when wewas on set you know we on in
love
island
go coming through the doors and me like oh so we knew someone was going but so it was like a bit of sweet but someone's going it was a bittersweet moment you know a wonderful safe pair of hands yeah exactly she was yes she wore alove
ly smile she was alove
ly pair well god bless her yeah may she rest in peace yes we should point out here I might've ear been in touch with this program and asked her to make it clear that contrary to some reportsthey were actually constantly in touch with with