Love Island Winner Nathan Massey Reacts to the Death of Caroline Flack | Good Morning Britain

just a honey lancaster James who was an adviser on

love

island

we've got to form a

love

island

contestant and

winner

Nathan

Massey

and Richard Arnold's back as well but

Nathan

let's let's start with you thanks for coming out about anything um we all know in this business there are certain presenters of television shows which involve members of the public who once the cameras click off say I'll be in my trailer and that's it and they're off and you don't see

hardness she was totally the opposite yes she was

good

as gold we had a laugh on and off camera she was always bubbly

good

laugh and like I said we was at an award ceremony I was ready to go home she was that way you go now if I said I'm going I'm I've had so many beers and she said now come out come out with us or take your Groucho's being a young lad off of a building site to get to go to Groucho's and she made me feel welcome you know yes and I've not capsulized know

she was always there with a hair flick and a hug exactly that's very much part of the phone a hundred percent and like I said on and off when when the cameras weren't rolling which was an absolute laughing I would imagine that because she was she didn't want you to have any negative experiences at all both during the recording of the program and afterwards when she took you out to Groucho's and stuff she would have hidden any of her anxieties and no no no she was just a bubbly

fantastic yeah diamond to be around an absolute yea great person that's how we should remember her really kind of course this

morning

there are so many questions and we've all got to look at ourselves and how we behave what we click on what we care about why do we do you know there are lots of questions this

morning

who's to blame a me know have family and our management very angry in up there is a lot of anger others there is a lot of anger from people who Nero you heard from Laurel

Whitmer there but Richard it me you knew you never seen picture something like if you guys together let's have a moment to really rebel and celebrate

Caroline

Flack

I mean I knew her professionally you know and obviously it followed her career which is of course my job and so I met her many many times on the red carpet that particular summer's day we were at a festival in London she just popped over in between filming scenes for

love

Ireland and the picture says it all there she

doesn't just sizzle she absolutely you know in company she was extraordinary like that she was she had that x-factor you know and you know whenever she sort of walked into a room I know it's it's said of many people but with her was definitely her USP you know there was that sort of free song she had such energy you know incredible spirit like that those vulnerabilities of course in that fragile nature she was so relatable I mean you like you to build oh you come on to this show and

it was a few years ago so what was she what was it about

Caroline

that sort of was so appealing to you as a host at the show and then somebody that you got to know just someone like I said when the cameras were off she would be like one of the

Island

ers you know I mean having a laugh of us we just all have a

good

laugh from around there she wasn't starry she wasn't snow you got that thing that people associate with people in the public and sometimes very correctly I mean we all know them

there are they're out there some of them come to you we spoke to you earlier can I just repeat a question and for the benefit of people who enough to see this um you're a psychologist if you'd had access to her and you didn't because Joe she wasn't doing the show when you were adviser to it if you'd have accessed her in the last few months do you think you could have stopped this happening do you think she could have been protected from the demons that were pursuing her

and specifically the ones on social media and tabloid media do you think you could have helped her it's a very difficult question because I think whenever someone dies in such tragic circumstances there is a tendency for us to all sort of think could I have done something is there something that could have made a difference we'll never know the answer to that but what I can say is that the people who I work with regularly who are in the public eye you know the social media landscape is

so unpleasant to deal with it's I think relatively in its infancy still it's unregulated all the tools to deal in a psychological sense I mean yes I am getting very depressed by what I'm reading about myself on Twitter yeah would you tell me so one of the things I would say is first of all understand that the way your brain works is that actually we do tend to focus even if you have ninety-nine percent of your messages are wonderful riches you're wonderful you get that one

percent that's really horrible unpleasant and you hone in on it and you focus on it now the brain does that tetchy because we are social beings and it's looking for signs of social rejection discipline

Nathan

's not in there I mean you then got ya into public eye you know and you met your partner and you're still together aren't you so you sort of have this sort of Fame life how have you found it and and can you identify with some of what we now understand and Carolina talked

about it you know in these her anxieties she'd said to him you know somebody had asked her how how she thought that people most misunderstood her and she replied that I think higher of myself than I do maybe a bit yes but you can't shout I'm not as confident as you think I am and actually people in the public eye aren't anything and go yeah well I have had grief in the past on socials and so as my mrs. their mama sees really takes it to heart you know it's all she has is one

bad comment just about the way she looks and think whatever yeah I've been built up on a boat building site so I haven't called names and document exactly but when it's weird for my wife she takes it to heart and I'm there picking up the pieces and these people are giving us telling a telling her she looks like whatever so you would have your pardis is hardwired to focus on the one negative so what that would help you to understand that the impact of it try not to take that too

much to heart but then the other thing is there are some practical things you can do so one of the tendencies when we get a really negative comment like your wife might have done is that we will tend to sort of sometimes out them on in on the internet we might say look at this horrible comment I got but actually that can sometimes add fuel to the fire so I suggest you mean it validates them invalidate they think oh they notice me I got to them yes so one of the things I always say is it's a

good

idea to have like a little private group maybe a private whatsapp group or something with your friends and family and by all means share it in there so that you get some comfort and so people can say oh my gosh that's awful what they've said to you so you get that validated but you're not a social currency and can we just say with sort of your happiest memories of the

love

ly

Caroline

what would you you know if you're when you think of her what comes to mind just when when we

was on set you know we on in

love

island

go coming through the doors and me like oh so we knew someone was going but so it was like a bit of sweet but someone's going it was a bittersweet moment you know a wonderful safe pair of hands yeah exactly she was yes she wore a

love

ly smile she was a

love

ly pair well god bless her yeah may she rest in peace yes we should point out here I might've ear been in touch with this program and asked her to make it clear that contrary to some reports

they were actually constantly in touch with with

Caroline

after this incident and were regularly offering her assistance and help and support so it's important to put that on the record yeah and also if you or someone you know has been affected by any of the sorts of things that been talking about here the details of organisations that can offer advice and support are on art websites itv.com /jm be please go pay if you need it you