Life Is Not FAIR | Mathew McConaughey | Let's Become Successful

My hero is the one I chased when I was 15. A very important person in my

life

came to me and told me who your hero is and I said: I don't know, I have to think about it, give me a couple of weeks and I'll come back. two weeks later this person shows up and says who's your hero I said I thought about it you know who he is I said it's me in ten years so I turned 25 10 years later that same person comes along Mingo so you're a hero and I was like I'm not even close no , no, she said why I said because my heroes are found at 35, so you see every day, every week, every month, every year of my

life

, my heroes are always ten years away.

I will never be my hero. I'm not going to achieve that, I know I won't and that's okay with me because that keeps me with someone to keep chasing. I'm going to talk to you about some things I've learned on my journey, most of them from experience, some of them. I heard and passed many of them. I'm still practicing, but I believe they are all true. Life is not easy, it is not, don't try to do it that way. Life is not

fair

, it never was, it is now and it will be so. You will never be, don't fall into the trap, the trap of entitlement of feeling like a victim, you don't get over it and move on and yes, most things are more rewarding when you sweat for them.

Happiness is an emotional response. to a result if I win I will be happy if I don't I won't and I say that if what you are looking for is happiness then you will be disappointed frequently and you will be unhappy much of your time joy, although joy is a different thing, it is something else, Joey is not a choice, it is not a response to some outcome, it is a constant joy, it is the feeling we get from doing what we are designed to do, no matter the outcome, now, personally, as an actor, I started. enjoy my work and literally be happier to find success for yourself, but check this out.

I'm in south New Orleans. A few years ago I went to a voodoo shop and they had this wooden partition against the wall of these columns and in these columns, while these vials of these magic potions are fine and the headings above each potion defining what they would give you were things like fertility, health, family, legal health, energy, forgiveness, money, guess which column was empty, money, let's admit money is interested today is what makes the job work. makes the world go round it is success the more we have the more

successful

we are now I would say that our cultural values ​​have even

become

financialized financialized humility is no longer in fashion it is too passive to get rich quick on the Internet Rich's 15 minutes from the world of fame we live in and we see it every day but we all want to be

successful

so the question we need to ask ourselves is what is success for us, what is success for you, is it more money, maybe is it a healthy family , maybe it's a happy marriage maybe it's to help others

become

famous be spiritually healthy leave the world a little better place than you found it keep asking yourself that question now your answer may change over time and that's okay, but do yourself this favor however your answer is don't choose anything that puts you in danger, prioritize who you are, who you want to be and don't spend time with anything that antagonizes your character, don't drink the kool-aid, it tastes sweet, but you cavities will appear.

Tomorrow, okay, life is not a popularity contest, be brave, take the hill, but first answer that question, what is my hill? So first we have to define success for ourselves and then we have to work hard to maintain it, take that daily tally and take care of our guard. keeping the things that are important to us in good condition where you are not is as important as where you are defining ourselves by what we are not is the first step that leads us to really know who we are, you know that group of friends that Hang out with that person may not really bring out the best in you.

You know they gossip too much or are a little shady. They really won't be there for you in a pinch. How about that bar we keep going to? We always seem to have the worst hangover from that computer screen, just the computer screen that keeps giving us an excuse to not leave the house and engage with the world and have real human interaction, how about that food I would keep eating these things ? the taste so good it makes us feel like shit the next week we feel lethargic and keep gaining weight, well those people, those places, those things stop giving them your time and energy, just don't go there, I mean, put them down and when you do this, when you let them, when you let it come in, you stop giving them your time, without realizing it you find yourself spending more time and in more places that are healthy for you and that bring you more joy, why? because you just eliminated the whos.

Where is? What is there in the winds that prevented you from your identity? There are too many options. I promise you, too many choices will turn us all into tyrants. Some I will get rid of the excess. The time lost will decrease your options if you do so. This you will accidentally put almost innocently in front of you what is important to you I process elimination knowing who we are it is difficult it is difficult give yourself a break eliminate who you are not first and you will find yourself where you need to be don't leave crumbs and the beauty of delayed gratification So what are crumbs?

Or the crumbs I'm talking about are the decisions we make that cause us to have to look over our shoulders in the future. You didn't pay that guy back. money you owed tonight you saw it three rows behind you you slept with your spouse and you just found out that tomorrow she and the lady you're having an af

fair

with will be at the same PTA meeting again you drank too much last night you have too much hangover to take your son to his Saturday morning baseball practice at 8 a.m. these are the crumbs that come in the form of regret guilt and remorse you leave crumbs today they will cause you more stress tomorrow and they don't allow you to create a personalized future where you don't have to look over your shoulder so swipe the dash instead To create results that take away from us, let's create more results that give us back, fill us up, keep your fire burning, turn yourself on to the maximum. of time in your future these are the options I'm talking about and this is the beauty of delayed gratification aarti do yourself a favor make the decisions you buy today they hey you come back tomorrow waste my business we call it mailbox money I do my job is fine today and that movie will still be playing on TV five years from now.

I'll get checks in the mailbox, it's a great deal, whether I'm making the coffee pot the night before, all you have to do is hit the button in the morning or get ready early for the job interview so you don't have to study all night above or choose not to hook up with that married woman because you know you'll feel terrible about it tomorrow and your husband carries a gun or pay your debts on time so that when you see that guy three rows back tonight you don't have to crouch in your seat waiting Don't let him see you, you'll get some return on investment.

You know what return on investment is. Your investment. You personalize your future. Don't leave crumbs. Make voluntary obligations. Since we were little, my mom and dad teach us things as children. Teachers. Mentors. Government laws. Everyone. They give us guidelines in which to navigate is life rules to follow in the name of accounting I am not talking about those obligations, I am talking about those we make with ourselves, with our God, with our own conscience, I am talking about obligations of you against you that we have to have now again, these are not social laws, expectations that we have.

Recognize and empower anyone other than ourselves. These are faith-based obligations that we undertake on our own. These are not the reduced insurance rates for a good driving record. It will not be right for you to be imprisoned if you do not comply with these obligations. No one else covers them except you, they are your secrets with yourself, your own personal protocols, and while no one throws you a party when you follow them, no one will arrest you when you break them except yourself or some cops. I have to disturb the call for peace at 2:30 in the morning because you were playing bongos, your birthday suit, yes that was me, an honest man's pillow is his peace of mind and when you lie on that pillow at night It doesn't matter who's in your bed We all sleep alone These are your personal Jiminy crickets and there aren't enough police in the whole world to police them It's up to you It's up to you A roof is a man-made thing This can cut a little through bone from geography but I think we were all there and we will all remember where we were, but January 3, 1993 was the NFL playoffs and your Houston Oilers played the Buffalo Bills.

The seniors were up 28-3 at halftime, 35-3 at the start of the game. third Frank Reich and the Bills come back to win 41-38 and overtime for one of the greatest comebacks in NFL history. They have the Bills they want but they didn't really beat the others. The others lost that game. They defeated themselves. Why am I happy? to beat themselves how because at halftime they put a ceiling, a ceiling, a limit to their belief in themselves, aka preventing defense or maybe they started thinking about the next opponent in the playoffs at halftime, I want That is to say, they were on top and they came out and played in their The Heels lost the mental advantage throughout the second half and that's it, they lost in just two quarters.

Defensive coordinator Jim Eddie went from being called the defensive coordinator of the year and the man first in line to be a tall head coach next year to a man without a job in the NFL, have you ever drowned, no one has drowned . I got you, you know, talking about goal-line clumsiness, sucking your foot in your mouth once you got to the microphone, having a brain freeze on the test you were fully prepared for. You forgot the punchline. a joke in front of 4,000 graduate students at the University of Houston graduation or maybe you've had that feeling of "OMG, life can't get any better than this moment", ask yourself if I deserve this now, what happens when we have that feeling tense.

Up above we have this kind of outer body experience where we literally see ourselves in third person and we realize that the moment just got bigger than we ever felt that way and it's because we've created a ceiling fictitious, a ceiling to our expectations of ourselves we limit ourselves where we think it is too good to be true but it is not and it is not our right to say it or believe it we should not create these restrictions on ourselves a blue ribbon a statue a score a great idea the love of our life our euphoric joy, who are we to think that we do not deserve or have not earned these gifts when we receive them?

It is not right, but if we remain well in the process within ourselves, with the joy of doing it, we will never drown before the finish line because because we are not thinking about the finish line because we are not looking at the clock we are not watching ourselves on the jumbotron performing the same act we're in the middle of no, we're in the process the approach is the destination and we're never done Bo Jackson, what are you doing? He used to run over the goal line through the end zone and down the tunnel. The best snipers and marksmen in the world.

They don't aim at the target, they aim at the other. goal side we do the best we can when our destinations are beyond measure when our reach continually exceeds our reach and when we have immortal finish lines and when we do this the race never ends the journey has no port the adventure never ends because it always they're on their way, so do this, do this and let them let someone else come up and tap you on the shoulder and say, hey, you scored, let them run and touch you on the show and say you might want to, let them come to tell you Now I can go home, let them say "I love you too", let them say thank you, take the lid off the artificial roots we put above ourselves and always play like an underdog, the late, great football coach would say from the University of Texas, Darrell Royal.

Everyone remembers him, he won the national championship in '69, he won a couple of national championships. Hi Darryl, oh he was a friend of mine, a good friend to a lot of people. Now many people admired this man. One of you admired him. a musician named Larry now at this point in his life Larry was in the prime of his career in country music, he had number one hits and his life was going and he had gotten into the bad habit of snorting the white stuff somewhere moment. and at one particular party, after going to the bathroom, Larry confidently approached his mentor, uh, and started telling her a story.

Coach Roy listened as he always had and when Larry finished his story and was about to leave, Coach Royal put a gentle hand on him. on his shoulder and very discreetly said: Hey, Larry, you've got something on your nose, buddy, Larry immediately rushed to the bathroom near where he saw some of the white powder that hadn't been wiped off of your nose, he was embarrassed,he was ashamed. Both because he felt very disrespectful to Coach Royal and because he had obviously become too comfortable with the drug to hide it as well as he should have. The next day, Larry went to the coach's house, rang the doorbell and the coach answered and said.

Coach, I need to talk to you Darrell said, sure, go ahead, Larry confessed that he purged his sins to coach, told him how ashamed he was and how he had gotten lost in the midst of all this fame and fortune and by the end of an hour Larry who was crying he asked the coach he said coach what do you think I should do my coach being a man of few words he just looked at him and calmly said Larry I have never had a problem turning the page in the book of my life Larry got sober that day.

He has been sober for the last 40 years. If you ever get stuck in a rut, you know, talking about it's scary, you're stuck on the merry-go-round of a bad habit that I have, but we're going to make mistakes, you've got to own them, then you've got to make money, and then you've got to move forward with guilt and regret. Kill a lot of men before their time, so turn the page, get off the ride, you're the author of the book of your life, turn that page, give credit to your obstacles, you know, those t-shirts, uh, fearless, that were Outside, I don't know you.

I used to use them ten years ago without fear, you may remember that's just me. I saw it everywhere. Okay, I don't understand them and I never did. I mean, I try to scare myself at least once a day. I mean, I have butterflies every day. Tomorrow before going to work he was nervous before getting here to talk tonight. I think fear is a good thing now because it increases our need to overcome that fear. Okay, say your obstacle is the fear of rejection. Okay, you want to ask her out. or you want to ask him or her out but you're afraid he or she will say no, okay, you want to ask your boss for that promotion, but you're afraid he or she will think you're overstepping your boundaries instead of denying those fears. declare say the fear out loud admit it give them the credit they deserve don't get sexist and act like they're no big deal and don't stay paralyzed denying that they exist and therefore abandoning your need to overcome them I mean I would even subscribe to the belief that we are all destined to have to do what we fear most at some point, so give credit to your obstacles and you will find the courage to overcome them or you will see more.

It is clear that they are not really worth prevailing over, so be brave, have courage and when you do, you will become stronger, you will become more aware, you will become more respectful of yourself and what you fear.