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How to Read Female Body Language and Decode Women

How to Read Female Body Language and Decode Women
welcome back to am Northwest our first guest is an expert at

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ing

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and says we can learn a lot about people by picking up on their nonverbal cues our focus today is on

women

and we welcome back the author of the human lie detection of

body

language

101 Vanessa van Edwards good to see you again Vanessa I just think your segments are always so much fun and and sometimes we think we al

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y know some of this and in fact some of it is it kind of innate isn't it then we almost naturally deal without even thinking about it some of it is intuitive you know you're like oh that makes total sense right some things are a little bit surprising I hope I can surprise you today well let's talk about flirting because you say there are certain cues and this is for the male audience out there and actually for the

female

that's the case they want to flirt and don't know how to exactly he's one of the first things you say is

women

need to look up and to the side of the man so this is the come-hither look okay right and we naturally do this when we're trying to entice a male it's when we tilt our head to the side and show the roundness of our face and we kind of look up at a man that's a come-hither look and the reason is because it releases pheromones for men so when we tilt our neck up that's why men love the sort of neck area it's delicious for a man yeah that's why so here's here's a great picture of a woman she's...
how to read female body language and decode women
tilting her neck up and that's very attractive to man because it also shows the roundness of our face which is why we're photos estrogen does the hand hand on the neck indicate anything right so touching our neck or flipping our hair is sort of another flirting move and this is because it releases pheromones it also draws a man's attention to our neck and this is a soft area of our

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the estrogen of our neck they love seeing that roundness of our face because men don't have that right right exactly okay so the tossing of the harrods oh yes I did not know that was a flirty wave I just thought that was a habit it you know it actually is it becomes a habit because it's a attractive move and so it releases pheromones but it also shows the shine of hair men love into it in from an innate perspective we love the shiny hair because it shows that a woman is very fertile oh harrassing okay so you say tossing hair rubbing their neck

women

raise their eyebrows that lower their lids to entice a man yes so this is a very enticing pose that sort of looks like a woman in pleasure so that's why we do this you'll see Marilyn Monroe one of her favorite moves say that sounds like a Marilyn Monroe photo and that is why she does it it was literally to cue a man that pleasure part of a man's brain okay you say when it comes to power now when

women

want power you say

women

pluck their eyebrows to look helpless and raise a man's sister exactly so let's...
how to read female body language and decode women
first talk about the things that take away power

women

tend to like to look submissive because it meant makes a man's testosterone raise so there's a reason why we pluck our eyebrows under here it's a terrible experience I mean every woman knows how awful that is the reason we do that is because it makes us look helpless and then for a man that raises their testosterone to take care of us so that was really why we pluck our eyebrows so high up and we drop me redraw our eyebrows hyper forehead I had no clue that is why I thought it was just so we did he look so hairy make it look more more vulnerable yeah that and also

women

expose their wrists to show their vulnerable you notice men smoke like this woman's look like this yes there's a reason for that is because exposing our wrists shows I'm vulnerable I'm submissive which unfortunately in our culture means feminine all right and then the limp wrist kind of thing right but you share doing I know you write this you'll see this with

women

yeah it's also a show of I'm feminine or I'm submissive so men

women

are acting like

women

you notice they always go right that's why it's just a sign of submission you say

women

can claim territory to show assertiveness so claiming our space sp

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ing our arms out and then also when we're standing to actually claim our space firmly plant our feet a little shoulder-width apart that is a very that's a way to take back power if you want...
how to read female body language and decode women
to show that you're powerful and you're feeling confident that's way to go now how do you do that on airplanes because I tell you what getting stuck in the middle seat on an airplane I just never do you men just sp

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out and like you're stuck like this and I and I'm

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y to do this right I'm and then I don't want to because I'm worried about how I was gonna make him feel because a man that way that's hidden claiming his territory you want that elbow room you take it just take it take it because that is actually a sign of the earth controlling your space you're claiming your territory yeah that's just a gotcha socializing so use one of the things you say about

women

we

women

don't like to be approached from behind right so I think no

body

would like to be approached men don't mind it

women

whenever you're looking behind their cortisol levels shoot up it's a stress hormone men they don't mind it so if you're a man you're approaching them in a networking event always make sure you try to come in her from the side or lightly tap her her shoulder has a much better way to start off the conversation right otherwise she'll be on edge if you come up shake from behind her that makes a lot of sense also use likeable

body

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yes so if you're a woman talking to other

women

or you're a men talking to a woman likeable

body

language

this is very important for

women

an expressive face showing your...
hands and leaving your arms uncrossed that's the way to sort of build rapport with other

women

if you're trying to just be friendly show that you're likeable that's how you do it show your hands leave your hands loose and smile the

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when you talk about especially

women

flirting is so powerful I can tell you from experience I've had a roommate who was really not that attractive if you were just to look at her but she did all of those cues that you're talking about the hair tossing the neck thing the looking down that sometimes I see an AK know this the movie cmus Abby's dad and the men loved it that is because for a man

female

attractiveness has everything to do with cues of openness there's nothing to do with the actual shape of the face so men view

women

who are more open and willing as more attractive subconsciously when I want to ask you about

women

's walk because sometimes it seems to me like

women

can really walk in a way that attracts a man versus another way that doesn't yes so the swishing of the hips men actually cannot do that their their hips are too wide set where they cannot swish their hips like that so when

women

do that is literally saying look how much estrogen I have that is literally why we do it same with um swimsuit pictures if you look at Sports Illustrated right the way that

women

pose is it is a way that men cannot do because their hips are to set straight whereas

women

have the curved tips so...
let's say you're at a bar and you want to attract a man across the way I'm doing this for our single producers there's only one okay so you know just her if you're let's say you're out of place and you see a guy you're attracted to what should she do so men miss on average of three courtship courtship signals men so you have to at least three times do either a hair toss you want to look up to the side raise your eyes I am so yeah yeah and then you can look away and you have to do it at least three times because on average but look at him do you have a stare down no no you want to look up to the side right and show the roundness of your face perhaps toss your hair back and then look back so it's the side look that really has that come hither look from an evolutionary perspective and then so doing it three times we at least three times these three times and then wait so he comes over to ask for your number exactly and mate and if you're the man make sure you don't approach from the front very good but I say you're so good appreciate that well again the title of the book is human lie detection and

body

language

thank you again always good to see you