How To Do The Work And Get Out Of Your Own Way | Dr. Nicole LePera on Women of Impact

I think many of us live disconnected from our true inner source of wisdom and the longer we stay up there, we often become unable to make decisions because we can make a court case for and against the same thing and get stuck, right? ? I think thinking simply is a form of sabotage or distraction, betrayal. I am betraying my inner knowing that has the answers by keeping myself stuck in that stagnation. Thank you so much Lisa for inviting me back to be welcome girl, you know, I adore you. Self sabotage is very interesting to me, it's something I hear very common once I started looking, that's the first step, what does it really mean?

So I Googled it, looked up the definition, and said, “Okay, that makes sense.” intellectually, but what about all the little things that we don't realize we're doing on a day-to-day basis that lead us to be 40, 50, or 60 years old and look back on our lives and say what the hell happened? I truly believe that if we can address self-sabotage from the smallest version to the largest version, we can start living our lives and be the hero of our own lives, so talk to Miguel about self-sabotage, where does it come from, how does it come from? ? absolutely identify it, I talk a lot about the language that I use, for any of my followers listening you've probably heard me say self-betrayal, it's a very interchangeable concept and I think it's a pretty universal experience and I'm talking about a reason, a reason for self-betrayal or self-sabotage that It lives in a part of our mind in the subconscious part of our mind because there is a universal reality that most humans share and that all humans share, which is that change is a difficult period, we are very inhabited creatures.

We tend to repeat the patterns we live day after day and every time we try to make the decision to go against it and do something different, we run into that part of our subconscious that likes to keep us in those familiar places so that we can find ourselves. with acts of self-sabotage in many contexts outside of self-harm, as you described wonderfully, we can face acts of self-sabotage when we don't make that new choice, you know, for a nutrition, a new thing that we want to eat or stop eating, you know. , or showing up differently in the world every time we essentially have the intention to make a change and we fight to maintain that intention, in my opinion, that intention generally falls into the category, in my opinion, of that concept of self-sabotage or self-betrayal and lives again. in the subconscious that is actually driven to keep us in those familiar patterns, so that any choice outside of that familiarity may seem like a threat, it may signal our subconscious again to make change universally difficult and cause us to engage in them or increase the chances that we are. we're going to engage in those pretty self-sabotaging decisions and then how do you go from that to then ignoring that thought that's trying to keep you safe?

Yes absolutely. The first thing I want to say is that something we have to recognize is that we have thoughts in our minds. Throughout the day, most of us have a very debilitating relationship with our thinking mind. What I mean by thinking mind is really just the thoughts, the endless litany of you know, considerations, narratives, essentially, whatever is chattering in my head, it usually happens all day long and we're Surveying the world, most of we experience the world through the thoughts in our head and the more we can create space so that we can access much of the language that listeners may have heard used is consciousness or consciousness becomes the observer. of our thoughts, create a space where what I am and that I can observe these thoughts is separate from these thoughts.

This takes practice. We have to create that space. We have to learn to be present in the thoughts that are happening and also to empower ourselves. To divert our attention from them, many of us get caught up in the endless reasons not to do something the more I sit on this couch and think of all the reasons why I shouldn't do that five-minute yoga practice. Probably most likely I'm not going to do that, so the longer I pay attention to my thoughts, that can create enough resistance to not do it, so attention can be a powerful tool, smooth, I see that first thought there , Oh no.

Don't do yoga now, you have something else to do if I am able to see the thought and take my attention away from it, maybe I put it on my breathing, what is happening or the current environment, what is here right now and what it's not. in my mind what I can pay attention to, if I can take my attention away, it might increase the likelihood that I will do that and many of us tend to focus our attention on our thoughts, allow them to spiral, and then we become incapacitated. to make those decisions wow, okay, but if this is super interesting, then you said: give

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self the space, which I interpreted to mean think about this, but you're actually saying don't think about it, so explain to me what we want. to learn how to release a thought, so I do guided meditations often, especially for the healers in my virtual membership and I often use a metaphor that maybe other people have also heard in guided meditations, but I think it really resonates with a lot. of people and it's the visualization of when you have a thought, start visualizing the thought as a leaf coming down a nice stream, so learn to have that relationship with

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thoughts where your thoughts become leaves, we can't let me repeat this because many times I think many of us are misinformed about this relationship with thoughts.

We have the idea that we can go to a place where we have no thoughts. That is not the case. We are not trying to turn off our thoughts. Actually we can't. we want to develop a relationship with our thoughts as if they were the leaves in that stream where they happen. I can notice them, maybe you're even noticing the cyclical nature up there. I know a couple of mine. There's my to-do list. I thought, oh. there is my worst case scenario thought and then, like the leaves in that stream, I allow my attention to release and that thought, no matter how much it has arisen, will disappear, so we are not thinking and many of us do , we have the I thought, sure, that other thing I should do, so now I'm thinking about four things on the to-do list and now I'm down the rabbit hole of the to-do list thinking, so one thought quickly turned into several and most of us.

We are doing that outside of our awareness, we don't realize it until we are at the bottom of the well, so to speak, as long as you are not going to evolve to a place where you consider yourself free, you will retrain the way your brain operates in the thinking mind and that hamster wheel will gradually start to diminish over time, so now there are times when I exist in presence where the thought is not necessarily there, that doesn't mean it won't come back. happens in my environment, another thought comes and then I have the opportunity to choose what I do with it.

Is this a productive thought? Is this a useful thought? Is this a thought I want to consider a little more or do something about? This is not productive thinking. Is this a thought I can put back on that sheet to continue its journey? So what does it really look like? You have a thought that comes, pick a thought, any thought, yes, any thought you were going to have. Say you know what thought came up. One of my common thoughts that I like to think is that they don't think highly of me, so you have the thought that they don't think well of me.

How do you take it and say exactly what you said? Is this thought useful? Help me? I don't like how you actually process that and then how you make it be the sheet and go through you absolutely so that the thoughts are neurons firing in the brain? They couldn't be more objective just when a fire occurs. our brain forms a concept there it is that is something objective what we do outside of our consciousness as humans our brain is what is known as a meaning creator we do not like things to be simply the way they are to us I like to create meanings and there are rich storytelling traditions that have been passed down through the centuries in which we make sense of the world around us through these meanings, a gift of our big brains that we have, yet meaning is what causes the emotional consequences. when I assign the meaning of correct they don't consider me so while I use that as an example let me back up a minute what was the actual thought oh a text message wasn't returned so my actual thought was oh it's been an hour and no I have heard from my partner that is the thought the meaning I later assigned to it now I am not considered I do not feel considered I can feel openly hostile I can feel hurt I could do all the things I do when I do not do it when We have that feeling and this is where again we're very patterned, so what we really want to do is take it back and understand the bigger question or the understanding that we want to gain for ourselves is what meaning did I assign to that thought and when. we understand the meaning, we can understand why we are having the emotional reaction that we have, but that becomes a point of intervention, now we can question the meaning, so I think a lot of people are talking about that concept and it has a lot of value. in this because you have an objective entity, a neuron that is activating and that has now been overlaid with a meaning that can be where we can create change and change.

Wow, but even questioning the meaning sometimes scares people, it really does, so how do we do it? Yeah,

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, I mean, I think, but let's say you're really scared, because the moment you have to take a hard look at yourself, like the moment you start to question your meaning, it could almost be like a question of identity, yeah , Yeah. um, which is really scary, so let's say I'm listening, I'm hearing it right, I have to do the

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, it's there as a little first step, which is like, for example, people, if you want me to go to the gym, just tell me. to get my ass to the gym and I'll go, but for other people it's like hey, just put your shoes on by your bed, yeah, just put your shoes on, don't even go to the gym, just put your shoes on, that's the first step , so almost what.

That first small step would be yes? What I wanted to know is that the work itself is difficult. This change and questioning can cause a lot of discomfort, and many of the reasons we are so stuck in our patterns are protective. For me too, you know, living a life away from my physical body and my emotions meant that I could at least believe that I was keeping a distance from the discomfort, so I began to heal and reconnect with my physical body and my emotional body. There were a lot of things in my body that really weren't comfortable, so I'd like to reiterate that healing work is uncomfortable and it ties into this conversation about self-betrayal because change is hard and like I said, change can come to the surface. .

There are so many more deeply rooted feelings that we definitely don't want to overwhelm ourselves, we don't want to overwhelm that subconscious that can't consider doing anything different let alone five things, so most of us do ourselves a disservice when we overload our subconscious. There are actually two ways: the first is when we try to do too many new things, which is completely understandable, especially if my life feels so intolerable right now. Usually, I probably feel very uncomfortable, maybe downright miserable, it's really understandable to have the idea that if I do five. new things tomorrow instead of one, right?

I can make my recovery faster and feel better sooner, that's really all we want, so while I wholeheartedly understand the impulse to simply turn your life upside down tomorrow, I also know that it overwhelms the subconscious. , so at that point you'll hear me talk about a small daily promise concept where literally, to speak your beautiful truth, I actually urge you to choose something that's really small, don't dive into that heart, you know if you are someone. who knows that exercising is almost impossible, you probably don't set it even when your intention you know, maybe your intention is, this may seem silly, it's to walk to your mailbox to perform a single movement action, sure, I walk towards me mailbox, maybe it's 10 feet away, that may seem silly, walk to your mailbox for the next 10 days and then maybe walk around your block and then maybe four months from now six months from now maybe then you're finally doing your first small five-minute workout.

ThePromises can help us create or help us overcome the resistance that will be there. Otherwise, we become overwhelmed as we try to immerse ourselves in two deep emotions. We try to flood ourselves. You know, it's not about remembering that really difficult thing that happened to you, no matter how many there are. years ago just to feel it and get over it, that could easily overwhelm the subconscious, so we really want to build structural foundations of security in place when we do the work, confidence in where I can keep the smallest daily promises that I keep. not even about what the promise is that I share and in my book those of you who buy it will read about the story of a very inspiring self-healer whose transformation and real healing of MS symptoms began with a glass of water and so what?

What I'm saying is that it wasn't the right to water that brought enough options together, it was the human right, so this human ally is your name in the process of creating, maintaining and noticing the next step. Notice when you hold those little ones. daily promises, each and every one in the process, the ally was confident that she developed a sense that she can keep those promises and that over time it expands into what at least I believe is empowerment, so those of you who listen, it's not about the smallness of the promise, it's not even about the promise, when we talk about healing from self-sabotage and self-betrayal, it's just the act of observingShow up yourself, God, I love it, what is it?

I don't want to interrupt you, but what is the difference for you between self-sabotage and self-betrayal? I think the two are pretty interchangeable. I mean, I just use the term me. -betrayal I think there are many ways um because I talk about the ways that we betray our needs often um and I think collectively when we think about self-sabotage we think about actions that I know are not doing me any favors, I think we can betray. ourselves or even sabotage ourselves, if we wish, by not recognizing my needs at a given moment or putting someone else's needs if I do it constantly, yes, because I will receive questions.

Well, I am a selfless human being, I want to present myself to others, of course. I'm not talking, I'm talking about patterns here, if you always present yourself to others and not yourself, maybe that is a pattern that you want to explore and in that way it could define you, you write yourself betraying those needs because you are constantly saying to yourself The same as anything else is more important than your own needs and I was that person who probably we are not even aware of our needs let alone have that moment in which we decide.

I remember a very crucial moment in my own life earlier. I took action on it. I was probably in my twenties and I was complaining to a friend about all the obligations I felt were being placed on me by my family, my partner and his family and this person over there, and you know, I was. Going off the litany of all these requests, you know I thought they were giving them to me, so my friend, very calmly, looked at me and said, what do you want to do? Do you know about the circumstances I have had?

I was stunned. At least I had no idea that I had never made it a habit or even a habit. I never stopped to wonder, so many times we simply live in that betrayal because we overstep the self-control that we don't. Don't take the moment and say, "Okay," my phone is ringing and it's great. Where I am now? Am I available to so-and-so? I'd like to talk about it in that broader way, because I imagine a lot of listeners are probably having those moments and it could be just not stopping to ask, so you're not even giving yourself a chance to know if you had a different need in that moment, how do you do it?

Because I guess you can't do that every moment of every day, so what would you suggest there for people to evaluate overall so that when you get there? Caught in that moment where you might not have time to stop and go, oh how do I feel? Are there things they can do? Is it a list of your needs? What does that look like? Yes, and the more consistent I believe that you are, the more continuous your conversation with your inner self is on a daily basis because you are right in these moments, especially if our emotional system is activated, especially if an older wound is being activated, you will not. to do in real time, at least now still.

You're still not going to be able to intervene in yourself, I mean, that's what we're really doing, the work here, the work is showing up in consciousness when the old habit, you know, could have been my reaction keeping me powerless and helpless. . and now I can recognize my power and say no right now from my conscious being. I'm going to do this new thing so that the more ongoing that conversation is, the more we can set ourselves up to be successful in those moments, for many of us it's probably uh uh, I'm speechless when you review a sports game after a play, you know, a post, a post-game analysis, I bet you don't like it, it's like you know for a lot of us it's going to happen after the fact, like, oh right, I came home and I really didn't want to do that and I realized now that I didn't want it when my perhaps emotional brain is not as enlightened, however, the more just we are in communication with ourselves our physical self, our emotional and spiritual self, the better we will be able and you could be someone who listens, you could be someone like you and you might find your revealers.

I also have a couple of towels when I know I'm stressed when I catch you. I hold my breath myself or I catch myself tensing that thing that I've known for a while now that I'm consciously tuning in just a little bit more to my body and my breath a little bit more and harnessing the power of my breath to hold my breath. calming of the nervous system I still notice it especially when I'm stressed about work or with things going on in my head somewhere else I will inhibit my breathing so like you when I say oh I'm holding my breath right now

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is on something you mind, where you are, you're stressed about something, so listeners will probably find their markers right, what they say, that's what we're working on right now, it's hard and it starts with just those little daily promises to rebuild the connection with oneself. and then the more in communication we are with ourselves, the more we can notice our needs, our desires, our desires, in real time.

I love that one of my favorite quotes, actually from Bruce Lee, and he says, "Don't think." kick just kick and then it's like yours, you've practiced so much that he doesn't think about it anymore, he literally just kicks, so while you were talking I was like, oh yeah, I guess it's okay to try to make the list by reevaluating at the end. of the day, we like the football analogy that you gave, like reviewing your day and then, over time, improving and shortening that period of time in which something happened and you are acknowledging your feelings, yes, absolutely, because it is another reality with which humans fight.

I include it, we do, we are not variable creatures, yes, so even if you memorized your needs now you know I just turned 38 when I am 48, my needs will probably change and change a little based on my lived experience based on my changing bodies , so that's why I mean that inner empowerment because I believe that our goal is to empower ourselves as individuals so that we can walk into the future of tomorrow that is unknown to all of us and I know with confidence that we can navigate that with our needs included because our needs They're constantly changing, so even you know what's the best, the best plan now that we come up with, you know, and I feel like I do more or less a good job of keeping the promises I made to myself to take care of my emotional self now, my spiritual self and my physical self, although I am also aware that my needs will likely change as I continue to evolve on my journey.

The hard truth, I'm getting comfortable with it. variability with that uncertainty of tomorrow and I think the best way to do that is to strengthen ourselves with the confidence and security that I have tomorrow, it could be shit, maybe I wish it wasn't the way it was and I will. deal with it when I get there, but I have a deep sense of being okay. Wow, I love it so much that I like it beyond measure because I always want to evolve, I always want to change and at least grow, the phrase that remained oh, you're changing. like it was a bad thing um and then I used to think that if I was growing and evolving I was betraying other people, I was actually letting other people down going back to self-sabotage.

I think I was sabotaging myself by not changing. because I was so afraid of the people I love and I'm about to say oh, you're changing, but then I realized, well, wait a minute, isn't that what we should all strive to grow and evolve and change? To me, that's the thrill of damn life. Who I was when you were first on this couch is no longer like I'm not the same person today and none of you are right and it's beautiful to see how we've evolved over time. Let's say I'm saying to Tom, my partner, hey honey, these are my needs, this is what I'm looking for, but in two years I'm going to change and I'm going to need different things from you, how do you address that? um, because the evolution of It's so interesting that we haven't talked about that before, it's really complicated and I think a lot of times this applies to our longest relationships, our family, our oldest friends, those that we've had for years. decades, I mean, at least naturally.

You know, with our core family units, our caregivers like that we're going to mature and develop, so naturally they're going to see different versions of them and we of them, and I think what most people fear is when we fear change and we care. That other people are different, what we are really concerned about is the effect that change could have on me through the dynamics of the relationship. Possibly there is another issue here, the meaning I am assigning now to what I perceive you to be doing or being in front of me. well, all lines, many lines, most roads usually lead back to well, how does this make me feel right now and the reality for many of us?

I have had this experience with the vast majority of my long-term relationships with my Family change changes the dynamic as you begin to embody your needs, possibly embody your highest self and show up differently in your relationships. There are changes that are spreading. I mean, that's why I do individual empowerment work, because I think that affects far beyond the individual to relationships, communities, systems, structures, etc., so I'm not going to say that change it doesn't affect a system and can complicate those relationships, especially long-term ones, which can be really helpful. Is the communication correct? It's just verbalizing because when we don't, when we don't tell someone directly, you know when you're not going to your partner, Tom or your friend, not even and when you're not describing them, you know.

I'm on a journey, I'm, you know, going through some things, I might start showing up differently, maybe I need a little more space now, you're letting them in, you're allowing them, at least you're giving them. a version or meaning they might choose to accept the next time you realize that the next time you're not available for Sunday brunch, oh right, Lisa told me she's not going to lunch, you know, go on a new diet , I don't. I don't know, but it's okay, that's why Lisa isn't here, that might relieve that person instead of you not saying anything and just walking away or becoming more distant, not that I'm saying the conversation is easy to have, of course, although instead of just acting like you feel my estrangement and when I'm not at brunch, if I didn't tell you why, now your mind will, all of our minds will figure out the reason, so now you We're letting that person imagine their own reasons for what they're probably going to feel is happening, so I think that's one of the best things we can do, although it's not easy to do, which is why some of these conversations are very difficult.

I had to have very difficult conversations with my family in particular when I started setting boundaries. I had to start telling my sister directly, my mom, things that I was willing to do and that I wasn't willing to do anymore, and that was difficult. Although it was difficult, at least I gave them my side of the story so that next time Once I wasn't available to them the way I said I wouldn't be, they could hear why and for those of us who love them, you know. For the many around us who love us over time, you can begin to accept that hopefully it is difficult because, as I have said many times, it means they will change, it means they will experience you differently, it might mean they won't have that role they used to play.

They no longer performed and they may need to find another place to meet that need, that doesn't mean it's a bad thing, yes God, and maybe not accepting you, thatIt would be difficult, but a lot, I mean, every time we start. to show, shed the conditioned layers and show more and more aspects of our true selves and especially those of us who experience rejection or abandonment. I mean, that's the number one fear of not liking what you see, so I can say don't get carried away. the face I'm going to be this new person and then lisa when I show up as this new person I feel very vulnerable because there is always the possibility that you will reject this new thing that you are singing, that I am doing, saying or being Yeah, yeah, that's incredibly complicated, but I definitely think we can't let that affect how we show up because then it just goes back to how we started, the self-sabotage of holding on to something that it will come back to. actually means and feels good, you're holding on to maybe a feeling or a meaning that you had with this person, whether it's your partner or a friend or something, and I think sometimes we hold onto it so much that we don't let it out later. we make. act according to our goals, our dreams, the person we want to be, yes, more or less, I mean you are summarizing the options, my research point for the options, I would analyze everything I was going to say or do personally and professionally through the lens of What effect will this have on the recipient?

And I got so good at it that before I knew it, like I was saying before, there was no stopping, well, what do I want to say and what effect would this have on me not saying it? This way I didn't even consider that that was a step because I was, so I trained myself in my right environment, which resulted in my training to only worry about receiving and I'm not saying I'm insensitive, I'm always listening, especially in the networks social like you and I were talking about earlier. I am always listening watching my messages come in hoping to modify my language to change the way I send the message or speak it to allow it to be received however reality is.

On the receiving end we're all playing, we're all having those we're subjective, we're all filtering it through our past experiences, right? and we could really set ourselves up to do a lot of disservice around needs and need expression if we constantly worry about how this is going to land a lot of times. we are going to surprise ourselves or the person all the things we imagined they were going to say or do when we express ourselves in this new way many times it never happens that is really interesting the process of overthinking sometimes is essentially sabotage in itself I think thinking too much is sabotage.

I believe that humans and our thinking brain have prepared themselves so much that our school system trains us to solve all problems from up here. I think many of us live disconnected from our true inner source of wisdom and the In addition, we stay up there and often become unable to make decisions because we can make a court case for and against the same thing and become paralyzed. I think thinking quite simply is a form of sabotage or distraction, betrayal. I am betraying my inner knowing that has the answers by keeping me stuck in that stagnation wow yeah how can you if you are stuck in the stagnation or not?

I guess I'm giving meaning to something I haven't really done, delving into the meaning actually. So this is quite surprising to me, but I'm very interested in how we can cultivate meaning or something that really serves us, yes, absolutely, and I think being connected to that inner source of whatever it is, whatever word you use for it. , purpose of passion. You know my why or whatever. I feel like that's the life force and it's also a question I get asked quite often: How do I find my meaning? My purpose. I will speak from my own personal life experience.

He would have talked to me and there was a really shocking moment where my partner and I read a lot of the same books and it was years ago before I really embarked on healing and I read a book by Dr. Wayne Dyer. I don't know if you've read any of his work. He was a psychologist. He somehow changed and began to make more spiritual efforts. Anyway, long story short, we both read the same book and I read the book and it spoke volumes. a lot about him rekindling his purpose and his meaning and finding it and following his path and about a decade ago or maybe a little less when I read that, I read it along with lolly and lolly like he was my spirit animal, this is me and I I say, oh, I didn't understand this meaning, chip, this purpose, chip genetically, I don't have this, throw aside, move forward, I don't know much, resonates with dr.

Dyer and he says a little. Wow, you know, I really understand what you're saying, but I share it because I get asked that question a lot because a lot of people are like me, they're not connected enough to their inner self to think like me. I didn't get that chip genetically, the purpose, you know, the gene jumped out at me because I didn't resonate with it, I didn't resonate with this kind of concept of inner drive or meaning that I heard at the time a lot of people talk about and it just wasn't like that, no. it aligned with my experience so far and I understand it now because of my body and the trauma and I was living in survival mode and I talk again about Maslow when you're in survival mode and your core.

If the needs are not met, you are not able to evolve up the pyramid until you reach the top of self-actualization, which is essentially, in my opinion, the self-expression of the meaning of the creation that you put into the world, whether Whether or not it's just the energy that I'm diffusing to myself because I'm in this way of being or a tangible creation a teaching or whatever business you're in that you're doing well, that's what self-realization is the expression of that, this is how I understand the meaning, this is how I am conceptualizing it, I believe we find our way back when we find our way back to ourselves, when we balance the often dysregulated body that our self is housed in, when we understand our energy systems and how they speak to us and when we discover. that inner self, then we will receive the guidance and we will be able to find the very individualized meaning that life has for each of us, so the more connected I am, the more I can express from that place and now I feel. very meaningful about what I do and can see, although you know more options that take me out of that alignment and I end up right where I started, which is deregulated, disconnected and meaningless, then you find yourself swinging and coming back I mean, I think it all depends on what I'm doing, what my options are, the more I don't take care of myself, the less I keep those promises to keep my system balanced, the more time passes.

Yes, in general I feel more disconnected. I don't string together too many more of those days where I allow myself to sway because I'll start to feel a little bad, you know, a couple of days without moving my body. the energy stagnates, my mind stagnates, and then I make the decision to re-engage, so I know I'm responding to this a little differently. No, I realize that when I am in balance, I am connected and I can express the most of the balance I come from or I allow myself to be influenced by not making the decisions that keep me in balance the most disconnected I feel from my meaning yeah, I mean, look, That's very important to me because when if someone asked me about that? executing a business strategy I would talk about my cognitive level, you know what I do to boost my brain, I will talk about sleep now, why are you talking about sleeping well?

Because it is incredibly important, it is the foundation that allows me to get here. So the way you broke it down to evaluate and come back to your meaning is very important because the reason I really wanted to dig into the meaning is that for me it becomes an anchor because I always think there will be many. Reasons why you are going to self-sabotage You are going to have a million, right? We talked about excuses in the last episode. It's like there are so many reasons. The excuses you can give did not achieve your goal. achieve your dream whatever is right I want to go to the gym I want to read the book from beginning to end whatever it is you will always have a reason and by sharing how you can go back and get your meaning Be true to yourself again as if that were the damn juice right there, so yeah, I also love that idea of ​​you know, using it as an anchor, using it as a checkpoint, almost reverse engineering and I think there's a lot of aspects to it, honestly, Lisa, you're about something and saying that healing thing that has that kind of reverse engineering aspect of the things that I'm sharing with you, there are many actions that I took against my core beliefs when I started this, I didn't believe myself capable I didn't believe myself capable of making the changes.

I felt like my body was very limited in many ways. I didn't believe that certain emotions were at least sustainable in my life, and yet I acted correctly otherwise. I made the little daily promise and kept walking in that direction, so there are a lot of things we can start doing and choices we can, on some level, almost start implementing before we actually change them, internalize them and make them our inside. Because? Do you know another way we can approach this? um if you have the end point or an idea of ​​the end point in mind or at least a direction that you know, sometimes it can start with what you don't want, right?

I don't want a life that feels so stressful on a day to day basis as this life is fine so I don't want to walk in this direction so by proxy I am walking in this right direction and as I walk maybe I can get it . God, it's getting clearer, I love it so much, where can people find your book? Girl, you have a book coming out, where can people find it? Yes, absolutely, I have a book coming out and so serendipitously, speaking of our conversation today, it's called how. do the work, how to heal from your past and create a new future, so talk about correct healing from self-sabotage, healing from self-betrayal, creating a future that is different and not more groundhog day, so it's the comprehensive procedure, um, it's It's coming out in March, March 9th to be exact, it's on pre-sale right now, so there will be a link, an Amazon link, a couple of international links, all the links will be available.

Please know that if you place the order, thank you. Thank you and also the book will be out on March 9th, it will live in the world and I hope that we give you the toolset to understand a little more about this conversation about self-betrayal and the tools. The practical tools to start creating an incredible new future, where can people find you online? Absolutely the holistic point psychologist. You can find me daily talking about healing, doing the healing thing, and of course connecting with the amazing community of self-healing guys. Guys, look at everything this woman does, it's incredibly amazing.

Do the work and also subscribe and click that link and follow me on lisa billy and until next time guys be the hero of your own life. In peace, guys, thank you very much for watching this video. If you want another dose of bad or arterial, be sure to check out this video here or this one here because I know you'll like them, but hey, while you're here guys, you might as well hit that subscribe button. There so you don't miss any future episodes and until next time be the hero of your own life.